what do you do when you can't get yourself jumpstarted?

@Opal26 (17690)
United States
September 16, 2008 9:01am CST
Ok Mylot Friends, I have been gotten myself into this rut. I have things to do and I just can't seem to get myself jumpstarted. I keep putting everything off and nothing is getting done! I have run out of excuses. I need a push in the right direction. Can you help me find a reason to get out of this funk and get myself started on doing the things that need to be done like finishing re-decorating my apartment for one! Pep talks, anything, something! Help!
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22 responses
@GardenGerty (100502)
• United States
16 Sep 08
I am very much that way as well. I would rather be here on myLot than doing anything else. I would say to you, and to me, pick one thing you need to do. Just a little thing, and get it done. Then give yourself permission to be lazy again. Same thing tomorrow. When you get in this habit, pretty soon you will not want to stop the things that you had been putting off, and will be very pleased with yourself for what you have accomplished. You could go a step further and either start a discussion about each thing completed, or choose a buddy and just report to that person. You could also just make a log of what you get done. I do not like to do lists, they make me feel like a failure. I do like "have done it" lists, because they show me my successes.
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
16 Sep 08
That's some really good advice gerty, Once I get started I'm usually ok. It's that getting started thing that kinda trips me up!
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@BarBaraPrz (20147)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
16 Sep 08
I used to make lists for things I wanted to accomplish the next day... I would pad it with easy things, such as: get up, have breakfast, get dressed, wash my hair, get the mail, have lunch...
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@webeishere (36353)
• United States
30 Oct 08
As I am my fathers caregiver I tend to jump from thing to thing each day to keep busy and away from dad as much as possible. I run all arouind the house and or yard doing minor things often. I come back to the computer then run around more. Little things at a time for me as well. I do not make lists either. I hate them. Makes it feel like a job then. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
@myklj999 (15098)
16 Sep 08
You started a discussion!!! I never see them from you. Now all I gotta do is figure how to stick my foot through this screen and down the line and out of your screen so I can give you that kick in the butt you need.
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@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
16 Sep 08
Thank you myklj-someones got to pick up the slack since you decided to take the week off! Besides can't let everyone else make all the big pennies!!!
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@Rosekitty (19441)
• San Marcos, Texas
17 Sep 08
here's a kick from me too and one for those people who aren't giving you that hernia operation yet!
@mands61123 (2098)
16 Sep 08
You could do a ist of small things initially and then tick them off bit by bit as you get them done this always gets me going because the further down the list i go the happier i feel with myself that i've achieved something and with that comes the enthusiasm to tackle bigger and better tasks. With regards to decorating rope a friend in then you can chat and stuff while you're getting on with it kills 2 brds with one stone. have a look in some mags or on the internet and think how nice yours will look once it's done. nothing better than a newlwy decorated room to come home to and feel all frsh and new. Good luck
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
16 Sep 08
I have already bought some new odds and ends like a new slipcover & pillows for the couch, some new things for the bathroom, I've re-stained 2 bookcase and have some other painting jobs to do on some furniture that needs a bit of a facelift so I have started some things, but then I just stopped and can't seem to get started again. So once I get the jumpstart I need I hope to get moving and get it finished and I know I will be thrilled!
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• India
16 Sep 08
I guess we are in the same boat. I think we need to sit down relax and think about what we are doing with our lives and try to rectify the areas where we think we are lagging behind. I have started practicing guitar daily for at least half an hour. I have also started concentrating on my writing and am thinking of diligently writing my novel. Another thing you need to do is set your priorities and last but not the least try to find work for something which you love doing. For example since I love writing I am looking for a freelance writer job.
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@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
16 Sep 08
Hi snowy, I have no problem sitting and thinking about what I want to do, it's getting myself up and doing is where the real problem comes in!
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
16 Sep 08
Hello Opal... I hope I take my own advice too. I guess, it would be a good idea to give a limit to the time spent in myLot everyday. Then maybe go out for a long walk, get some fresh air while you figure out what it is you need to do and why. As much as I want to say try doing it for other people but I think for now, it should be doing so for ourselves. So play your favorite music out loud and look around your apartment and pick one thing up and put it some place where you want it. Make a list and just try to do at least 3 of them and hopefully as the week goes by, you find yourself crossing off more items in your list.
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
16 Sep 08
Oh anne, if only it were that easy! It's just the starting point that gets me! I have to really push myself to pick a place to get started. Once I do that I'm good to go.
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@peaceful (3301)
• United States
16 Sep 08
I think that you will need to take a look at how to get stuff done over at Expert Village: http://www.expertvillage.com Psst- Here's something that you might not know about Libra-- We are usually the folks who are the Inspiring Spirits and Motivators... Most of the time, we forget this fact when it comes to our selves! :) I'm going to send you some stuff via PM that's guaranteed to put you in a happier mood, but you'd better not be eating popcorn or drinking soda while you are sitting at your computer!
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
16 Sep 08
Thanks peaceful! I'm great at giving advice, just not good at doing what I say! And thanks, will take a look at all the good stuff you sent!
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17 Sep 08
Hi Opal26. Right my girl, first thing when you get up in the morning write down a list of what you are going to do and then one thing at a time get started on them and make it routine and that way its easier, I do every to routine and when I finish everything I sit down to Mylotting. Tamara
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@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
17 Sep 08
Hi...just had to add something...are you a list maker too? I do that all the time too, but I find it's better to make the list out of things to do the night before of what one wants to do the next day...that way I don't have to toss and turn trying to sleep thinking of all the things I need to do the next day...it's all on the list already
@BarBaraPrz (20147)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
16 Sep 08
Join the club! For it seems, there are a lot of us with the same problem. I tend to make endless cups of tea instead of actually getting on with it (what "it" is). And right now, I just have to make another cuppa. Good luck to us all. I did get a bit of work done yesterday, though.
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@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
16 Sep 08
I guess you're right barbara, we all tend to put stuff off by any and all means possible! Just another cuppa, just another post on mylot, just another day, just another....
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@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
17 Sep 08
Believe me Opal it's not just you. I'm actually a very highly neurotic motivated person...LOL...But I tend to go through phases myself where it's not lack of motivation but just plain not in the mood. First, what I do is I have three listings...at the end of each month I make a generalized list of what I want to accomplish overall that month...then I break it down weekly...on a Sunday night I list the things I want to do that week...then each night I make a list of what I want to do the next day...now I don't beat myself up if I don't get everything accomplished...as sometimes if I'm working on a project it takes longer than I expected...I just carry what I did do that day into the next and make it my priority. I often find that if you actually write a listing of what you want to do it really helps. Also...sometimes the best thing???? JUST DO IT. Whatever you know you have to do, just get those buns moving and start...I sometimes surprise myself when I just get my buns moving and doing something. Like when I got my new bed that I knew I had to assemble...crap do you really think I wanted to do that? No sirree...I knew what a hard job that was going to be... not only that but all the other work involved ...like dismantling the old bed, taking it out of the bedroom, cleaning up...while I didn't make a list I visualized exactly how I wanted to get things done...and did it. And I didn't do it all in one day but did take my time about it--I had come to a realization I wasn't trying to do a marathon...as long as it got done, who cared how long it took. Like right now..I know I should be writing more articles for instance...but right now, I'm just catching up on my MyLotting and responding to the discussions I've started...almost done too...uh, I think...LOL Tomorrow though I do plan to go back to my writing.. I also want to have more time to do some reading....uh, like a book we both have in common....LOL
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@PearlGrace (3172)
• United States
16 Sep 08
Hello Opal26. Haven't we all been in this rut where you are now? We're just never there at the same time, thank heavens. Well, here's what I do--get out a spiral notebook or pad of paper and make a list of everything I want to do, in no particular order. I skip a line between them. It might be 50 items, or just 4 or 5. Then, in the evening while I'm watching TV, I review the list. If I'm off work the next day, I pick 2 items on the list and circle them as the tasks I will do the next day. I lay the open notebook with the items circled in the middle of the dining table so it's the first thing I see when I arise in the a.m. Next morning, I get up, have breakfast, and get going on one of the tasks. There's no more thinking to it. The decision was made the night before. Now it's "go time." If it is a "huge" task, you may want to "chunk" it up by using a timer and setting it for 30 minutes to 1 hour. Work on the task for that amount of time. When the timer goes off, if you want to stop, then do. If you want to continue on, set the timer again. If you decide to stop, be sure to use the timer daily with that task until you've completed it. Next, rest for an hour (or 2), have lunch, then go on to the second task, using the timer if you need to. Working from a list always makes me more productive. That way, I don't keep thinking about the tasks, obsessing, and worrying about them. I know that, if it's on the list, I'll get to it. Take care and good luck.
@Bluepatch (2480)
• Trinidad And Tobago
16 Sep 08
Pick the most difficult thing that you have to do, stop thinking, and then do it. I do this sometimes on weekends. When all you want to do is relax and there are these necessary duties, I pick the most difficult one and, without thinking, just do it. Everything else becomes a lot easier after that.
• United States
19 Sep 08
You won't get a pep talk from me! That is because I have decided that if I am not inspired to do then I am simply not going to do it. Therefore I have spent the last few months not doing much of anything. I finally got sick and tired of doing nothing and now I'm doing something... but nothing that I don't WANT to do. I used to try to motivate myself to do stuff I didn't want to do and when that failed I would force myself to do it anyway. I was gut churningly miserable all the time, nothing was any fun, not even the stuff that would have been fun if I had waited till I was in the mood... and more than half the time when I forced myself in the end it turned out that it wasn't even necessary... some unforeseen thing arose that made the whole effort a waste and I would have been better off waiting for the inspiration. Nope, I am taking my sweet time with everything I do, and enjoying every minute of it!
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
13 Oct 08
But, sometimes there are things that just have to be done! So then what? That's my problem! I can procrastinate on anything forever. If it was up to me, nothing would ever get done if I truly wait till the inspiration comes. So in a sense, I do have to push myself to be motiviated sometimes. You have a point though, it is better to wait then to truly make yourself do something because then not only will you be unhappy, but it won't come out right anyway! So, I am doing, but very slowly!
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• United States
13 Oct 08
If I have 15 things that I would like to do, and one thing that I HAVE to do, then I spend plenty of time the day before gearing myself up for the one thing, I picture myself doing it and I decide on the best mental attitude that I can approach it with, and then even if I don't 'feel' it when it comes time to do the thing, I pretend that I do and that works well too. Other times it is just somebody else's opinion that I should be doing something and I just ignore that. I never even mowed the lawn around here until I decided I wanted the clippings for my compost piles. The neighbors got pretty riled about that, but that is their business, and what I do with my grass is my business. What kinds of things are you talking about having to do that you are not inspired to do?
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
30 Oct 08
Hey zigzag! That's what I mean! I like the attitude! I have some furniture re-painting to do. I have to find places to put things away. I then have to finish up the re-decorating. I just get so overwhelmed when I look at the mess that I end up doing nothing! But I have set a time limit and I intend to keep it!
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@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
30 Oct 08
Just start with a small spot and work to the next small spot. Give yourself a time limit...then take a little break and then back to work. I end up with the same problem and that usually helps me. Sometimes seeing a big pile of work just makes us not want to do anything. [b]~~IN SEARCH OF PEACE WITHIN~~ **AGAINST THE STORMS, I WILL STAND STRONG** [/b]
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
30 Oct 08
That's it exactly! Seeing the whole mess just freaks me out and I just end up walking away and not getting anything done! But I am almost ready to tackle it!
@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
30 Oct 08
There you go!! Just set a goal to do one small spot, when you finish it, then set a goal for the next small spot. Keep going and before you know it you'll have a whole section done. I tend to reward myself...like if I have a bunch of laundry, I'll say ok when this loads washed, dried, and put away I get a 15 minute break and a granola bar. That way I get a treat, a rest and the sense of accomplishment. [b]~~IN SEARCH OF PEACE WITHIN~~ **AGAINST THE STORMS, I WILL STAND STRONG** [/b]
@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
7 Oct 08
[i]That happens to me also...Maybe the thing is just to do it and motivate ourselves to just put it on top priorities! LOL! This time, I need to focus and study the manual for driving so that I can take the test and get a permit but here I am, postponing it each day! LOL![/i]
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
30 Oct 08
Hi checapricorn! I have tried the self motivation so many times! It would help if I would listen to myself more often! I hope you are better at it then I am! Did you get your permit yet?lol
@drannhh (15229)
• United States
2 Oct 08
Hah, hah, hah, I call myself in need of a long nap and I take one. Then I ignore all the mess and go out and do something a bit different...go some little place I've never been before, shop (whether I buy anything or not) in a different store, walk somewhere I have gone before or walk the same place but in the opposite direction. I'd make sure to eat only healthy foods for a few days and drink lots of fresh filtered water, and sit down and make a list with each thing I think I should do and a little explanation of why I think I should do it and what would happen if I didn't (like would the sky fall in?) and then tackle it one item at a time. Just say no to ruts! *smiles* *waves*
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
30 Oct 08
Hi drannhh! I like your way of thinking too! I try to talk to myself and rationalize why and what I should be doing! Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't! I don't always listen to what I say!
@hiddenwing (3721)
• China
2 Oct 08
I was about to do something. After I finish reading your discussion, I totally forget it. Oh.. what is it? Once you start something, u will find it more easy than u think. There is a saying. The eyes are more lazy than the hands.
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
30 Oct 08
Hi hiddenwing! I like that saying very much! And it is true and I have some very lazy eyes!
@secretbear (19466)
• Philippines
27 Sep 08
hi opal! sometimes, when i feel that way, all i have to do is take a bath to get me going. probably because it refreshes me making me feel ready and prepared to do tasks. of course those tasks wouldn't include cleaning the house or some dirty work. ^__^;; for those kinds of getting-dirty works, i just need to eat breakfast to get me started.
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
30 Oct 08
Hey secretbear! I wish it were that easy for me! Your way would only make me lazier!
@balasri (26554)
• India
1 Nov 08
If I don't get the drive I just lie down and try to be lazy any time of the day and let the conscience pricck me hard.When it's voice become unbearable I always get down and attend to the jobs waiting according to the priorities presto.
@webeishere (36353)
• United States
30 Oct 08
I kick back and relax and or meditate to get a jump start. I usually don't have that problem though being my fathers caregiver. I get so tired tending to him, doing anything else is a release of stress for me. So I jump right in head first and go at it. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
@hiddenwing (3721)
• China
30 Oct 08
The discussion was started a month ago. Now, I guess you must have already made it. Wish u all the best for your work or something