Do your parents know how you feel about them?

mom and dad - parents
@sameroad (3180)
United States
September 16, 2008 9:29pm CST
Do your parents know how you feel about them? Do you hate them or do you love them? I really don't think my parents know just how much i love them and how much they mean to me. I am not good at expressing how i feel or saying whats on my mind. My mom has told me things that my dad has said.. like, he thinks he's a horrible father and has asked my mom, if she thinks "us kids" love him! and it's just crazy to me that he would think those things because i don't think that of him at all. I think hes a great dad.. sure, hes made mistakes but so has my mom, so have i, my brothers have too, we all do! it bothers me that my parents don't know what they mean to me. that they might think i don't love them as much as i do because i love them more then life, i would DIE for my parents and I don't think you can love someone anymore deeper then that... so I have decided to write them a letter telling them just how i feel about them. because i don't want to regret them not knowing. So what about you? have you ever wrote your parents a letter telling them how much they mean to you?
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@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
17 Sep 08
I always tell them whenever I can. Life can be cut off in a millisecond and I want nothing left unsaid. I'm so glad you're making sure your parents know how you feel. A letter is great, they can take it out and look at it whenever they like. Another thing you can do is write down memories on slips of paper and put them in a jar. Every day they can take out one and read it. It makes a great present, I did that for my dad and he said that's the best present he ever had, aside from the births of us kids.
@sameroad (3180)
• United States
18 Sep 08
That is a good idea, I have thought about doing something like that for them for Christmas before.. maybe i will do it this year!
@arcidy (5016)
• United States
17 Sep 08
Yeah im pretty sure that my parents know that I love them very much and know how annoying they are to me lol which most parents are to there kids. And if they didnt know I would be shocked I wouldnt be angry though just shocked that they dont know how I feel about them.
@sameroad (3180)
• United States
18 Sep 08
yes, parents are annoying and they know the are, my mom will bug me all the time and then say "you do it to me!" lol its funny though i know my parents know i love them but i dont think they know how deep i love them.
@izathewzia (5142)
• Philippines
18 Sep 08
Yes they very well know. Because I am always with them. Everyday they see me and are able to talk to me. I mingle with them always. So even I don't speak at all, they know how I feel towards them. My actions does shows.
@Muelitz (1592)
• Canada
18 Sep 08
I really love my parents. They have given me everything I need, supported me in all the things I do and loved me always. I have always been a good son to them and by doing so I do hope they feel my love and respect for them
• United States
17 Sep 08
hi friend I'm very happy to discuss this topic because i like my parents very much in this world.They know the feelings of ours and they also know how much we love them, because we will discuss every thing in open with out any secrets.My parents use to say everything with me and at the same time i use to be open with my parents too. No need of any letter, we use to express ourselves openely
• Philippines
17 Sep 08
Yes, my parents knows that i love them by heart. Because we are not expressing our feelings thru words alone. I do really love my parents second to God. But frankly speaking i never ever told them "I love you" unlike other children. Because our Parents didn't let us grow in a kind of way which their children is expressive with their feelings. I grow with a super protected Father and a super caring mother. And i promised to myself that there will be a time that i will gonna express my feelings to them, maybe thru letters.
• India
17 Sep 08
Oh no friend love is not expressed in letters and emotions are expressed from the face it self. I think your father love you to much and convey it through your mother because of the psycho fear that He think that due to his rigidity the children does not dare to face him. Your father's this attitude has weakened his inner soul and now he want express his affections for all of you. I am a father of a daughter and I know what are the emotions of a daughter for her father and the affections of a father for the daughter. Your Father is really great and you also are a really very great daughter having so much love and emotions for your father. I love my daughter too much what I can not explain to write and my daughter has to much for me and my wife both. She is very caring and daring also. How you see it, please comment and have a nice day loving your father all the time to come.
@LittleMel (14055)
• Canada
17 Sep 08
I am sure they do, but honestly I have never asked. I am pretty much an open book for them evn if I try to hide my feelings they will know someday. I never wrote a letter about my feelings for them, I usually just talk to them. I probably don't love them as much as they love me, but if I were to choose who to be born to, I wouldn't pick other people to be my parents. I had pretty rough childhood and teenage years, I trained myself not to carry my heart on my sleeves. I don't say I love you to anybody as often as they say it to me, but when I do say it, it will be intense because I want them to remember it for I may not be able to say it again. I know my parents know I care for them, my late dad especially because I was close to him. I moved here after I got married and always call my mom whenever i can to see how she is doing and how is the money because she doesn't have enough education to get a job she is always a house wife. I know she knows how I feel for her, like I said, they read me like a book.
@lingli_78 (12844)
• Australia
17 Sep 08
i think so... i think they definitely know how much i love them without me having to say it... for me, actions speak louder than words... there is no point in saying i love them but my actions doesn't support it... take care and have a nice day...
• China
17 Sep 08
hi, to be honest ,i feel my parents do not know what i thought about them and how important they are in my life. because i am a chinese and we often talked less with parents than western childrden .of course i have made my mind to share my ideas and thought with them ,but the fact prove it is impossible.
@BinaryKat (738)
• United States
17 Sep 08
I never wrote a letter to my parents but do little things to show I love them very much.I would get my mom her favorite mag like the Farmer's Almanac just because I know that's one of her favorite things to read each year or get my dad his favorite candy bar. I would knit or crochet things that I know they would absolutely love. One christmas I made my dad a small teddy bear to sit with his other trinkets at work and he told me that every time he looks at his bear, he would grab it and hug it. I also made him a small pillow with his U of I college colors blue and orange and it sits by him next to his bed. The same with my mom. She loves this cat I crocheted for her and she told me she has it next to her in bed. I thought it was soo cool. I always to try to make sure I say I love you to them and give them a hug and kiss. I love my parents and feel very blessed. Life is short and I know my parents are not going to be around forever so I try to make everything count while they are still here in this life.
@eve301345 (658)
• Philippines
17 Sep 08
I grow up alone but I love my parents. They knew I love theme but I dont think they knew what I feel about theme. I even think they dont know much about. I left my family when I was just 9 but still have communication with theme. Now I feel like they just want to see me because of my money and I dont knew, people says my family love me but I dont see it and I dont feel it. So I would say my parents doesnt know at all of what I feel about theme because I dont talk to theme about it. I am not comfortable talking to theme because I feel like they are different from me. I sometimes even feel I am not part of that family but I still love theme.
@lazeebee (5468)
• Malaysia
17 Sep 08
Yup, my parents know our feelings about them. I have 2 other siblings and we love our parents very much. My parents know that too; and though they complain that we fuss too much over them; I gather that they like our fussing! We worry about my dad wanting to do housework, or going out in the rain; about mum eating too many ice-creams. They would grumble about all these - yet they are pleased that we are concerned about them (they are both already in their 70-80s)
@Latrivia (2889)
• United States
17 Sep 08
If I wrote my mother telling her how I felt about her, she'd probably break into tears and never speak to me again. I wouldn't say I hate my mother, but she's got some serious problems and instead of getting help, she just sort of unleashed it all on her family. I'll never forgive her for it, of course, but I can push it to the back of my mind and forget about it until the next time I see her. Oddly enough I care more for my mother when I'm not around her, then when I'm near her. My father on the other hand would probably be flattered if I wrote him and told him how I feel about him. I've always been kind of proud he's my dad - a lot of that pride comes from him being able to deal with my mother for 20+ years. I could barely manage 17. I have never written my parents a letter explaining how I feel about them, and I don't think I ever will. The fact that I still go visit them, even if I don't need anything is proof enough I care about them at least a little.