Do you seek revenge when someone has wronged you?

@msedge (4012)
United States
September 30, 2008 3:03am CST
When someone wrongs you, it's easy to go to that place in your mind and conjure up ways to get back at them. Our lives are in a constant state of change, and yet our hearts hold on to hurtful memories with a tight grip. Truly, the idea of revenge is bittersweet and foolish. Don't waste your time and energy stewing. Inevitably you will come across someone who is flat out mean and inconsiderate, but the best approach it to simply let it go and move on. Focus on the positive things about yourself or rethink the person's motivations. Maybe he is the one who is hurt or insecure, trying to deflect his own bad experiences onto someone else. Try your best to forget about it.
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@jheLaichie (4439)
• Philippines
3 May 09
many tims i always think that way., how i wish i could really get back on those people who have wronged and hurt me... but, being a christian aint like that.. thats what my dad always told me., yes., we aint perfect... we always have bad thoughts on things and people alike... but yes youre right my friend., try to forget about it and continue with your life... and make those hurt and pains as a lesson of life that...yes...cant be forgotten but atleast tried to renew for a better you.
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@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
12 Apr 09
i am not the kind of person that seeks revenge on people who has done me wrong. i am always the kind of person who fights back in a battle... face to face battle... but if someone has done me wrong behind my back, i will just defend myself and if there is nothing else to do, i will just leave his/her fate to karma. i always believe that karma and nature balances everything in this world, for every action, there is an equal and an opposite reaction.
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@vanonas (950)
• United States
20 Dec 08
I do. I try to find ways to make them mad because they made me mad. Treat others the way you want to be treated. Someone egged my car about a year ago. I never found out who it was, but if I did.. I'd egg their face. LOL
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• United States
20 Dec 08
I try not to seek revenge. I think that trying to get revenge is a childish and usely act. In the end, I think that an act of revenge can come back and have a terrible outcome for the person who sought to get revenge. I think that the best idea is to let go of the hurt, forgive the person who hurt you and move on with your life.
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@hiddenwing (3721)
• China
1 Oct 08
There is a saying here. Hate begets hate, which will never end. But some hateful people really drive us mad. It is not so easy to forget.
• China
1 Oct 08
Here is what I know. If u are willing to take the chance, the view from the other side is spectacular.
@msedge (4012)
• United States
20 Dec 08
We are just human we get mad when someone hurt us.I had been totally hurt when someone made up things againts me.There were times that i thought of taking a revenge but i am glad God always there to guide me.I had decided to move on and trying to forget everything.I know she will never be happy until she will feel the pain she had caused me and God will let her feel that one day.
@underdogtoo (9599)
• Philippines
5 Oct 08
It is very easy to think of revenge when you have been wronged. I have thought of these things many times in my life but the best thought that always comes to my rescue is the thought that they will have their comeuppance one day. I believe in the law of causation where every action will have a reaction. Cheers!!
@msedge (4012)
• United States
20 Dec 08
You are right!You have the point!
@nanajanet (4436)
• United States
1 Oct 08
I've considered it but never followed through. I imagine all the horrible things that I would LIKE to do but never do it because I know it's lowering myself to their position and I won't do it. But I think, just by imagining it, it helps me deal with it.
@msedge (4012)
• United States
20 Dec 08
Got yah!
@poohgal (6848)
• Singapore
1 Oct 08
When someone wrongs me, I never want to see that person again. I just want to quickly move on and live my life happily. I wouldn't want such a person to ruin my life. If I were to take revenge, he might be bitter and take revenge back on me. There's no end to revenge. I believe God is looking at us all the time. God will know what to do to those people in due time.
@msedge (4012)
• United States
20 Dec 08
Right
• United States
1 Oct 08
I always remember "Vengeance is mine said the Lord" and what goes aound comes around. Both of these methods of revenge have always worked for me BUT I have spent many a satisfying and cathartic amount of time just imagining all the worst things I could to the person who has wronged me.!!
@msedge (4012)
• United States
20 Dec 08
Yeah!I know the Lord will do it for us.And i am waiting for that time for a person that hurt me so bad
@dong1970 (1573)
• Philippines
1 Oct 08
Making revenge for someone who have done wrong with me is not my attitude,but i will weigh it first if how heavy is the damaged that has done to me.If did not made move for that person,i know that anybody can make revenge for me.I'll just keep on praying that this person somehow realize for the mistake has done to me.GOD is there to guide me always.
@msedge (4012)
• United States
20 Dec 08
Yes,the important thing is we know that evil act will never succeed.
@djoyce71 (2512)
• Philippines
1 Oct 08
I agree with you. The best approach is to let it go and move on because it will not do you any good. We should try to be optimistic. "There is no revenge so complete as forgiveness." -This is by Josh Billings Good day msedge!
@msedge (4012)
• United States
20 Dec 08
Thanks for sharing!
@clocks123 (1228)
• United States
1 Oct 08
what goes around comes around isn't that the truth? i hurt myself more when i use revenge i never forget it but i go on and try not to waste my precious time brewing over those individuals
@msedge (4012)
• United States
19 Dec 08
I agree with you...
@kenzie45230 (3560)
• United States
1 Oct 08
Nah. God wants us to forgive - 70 times 7 isn't it? So that's what we have to do. He also tells us that vengence it His and I'm certain that God can come up with revenge or punishment much more effective than anything I could cook up.
@msedge (4012)
• United States
19 Dec 08
Yeah, you are right!
@SHAMRACK (8384)
• India
1 Oct 08
Dear friend, Forgiving the most is my policy. Forgive,forgive, forgive... still if some is punching or doing any unbearable to me again and again no way to the maximum I avoid revenge and rarely I take revenge. May be I would take revenge for the survival of myself may be for the self defence of myself or may be for the survival and self defence of my family. I do believe the most God is there watching all these and if needed God will is sure to give a punishment for those cruelties. Hence I just avoid revenges to the maximum.
@msedge (4012)
• United States
19 Dec 08
Got yah!Let us let our Lord do the punishment for them because i know He is watching us and He knows who made mistakes or not.
@enialal (19)
• Philippines
1 Oct 08
I imagine on what will happen if I have some kind of powers and he messes with me then I do evil things to him. But only IMAGINE. I don't really like having revenge. It's not good. I just forgive and forget. Revenge will not do any good to me.
@msedge (4012)
• United States
19 Dec 08
Right.The Lord will handle it for us.
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
1 Oct 08
I can't say I've never "thought" about revenge...it's your first reaction when someone hurts you ...lash back. Do I seek it? NO!! That would put me on their level or maybe even lower...I just won't go there. I figure that I made a poor judgement in character in letting this person into my life and I suck it up and move on....easy?no! I just hold on to every urge to lash out and eventually it does subside. In the end, well, I sleep well at night, knowing that I did absolutely NOTHING to this person. I talked to an ex quite a bit back who'd been very, very abusive. I had moved on and had never retaliated. I had made peace with it somehow. He had not....He told me that he still was having nightmares of it all. It was a bit weird because he always blamed me for the abuse and I did believe at the time that I was that bad. Took a bit of councelling for me to conclude that I wasn't that bad but I still never looked at him as the entire problem. I think when you wrong someone...on some level whether you admit it or not....in your heart you know it and it will play on your emotions.
@msedge (4012)
• United States
19 Dec 08
Yes i agree with you.No matter how you denied that you made mistake but deep in your heart you know you were wrong.Someone had hurt me so much that until i can never forget.Yes i was thought of thinking any revenge but i am glad i never was.I just move on and let the Lord get it back to her.
• United States
1 Oct 08
I used to be the type that would seek revenge but as i got older and had kids I grop out of it an relize that its just a big waste of time.I think if they wronged you show them your better then them by not careing or showing that what they did bother you so really just move on.
@msedge (4012)
• United States
18 Dec 08
Right!.Maybe proving ourselves that they are wrong to judge us would make us feel better.
@celticeagle (118255)
• Boise, Idaho
1 Oct 08
I am revengefu. i come from a long line of revengeful people. I am a Scorpio and Irish. What more can I say? Both have underlying revenge in their DNA.
@msedge (4012)
• United States
18 Dec 08
Thats what you are and i should respect you!
• Nigeria
30 Sep 08
well, a christian i beleive that when i am being wrong by someone it usually pain me but i train as much as posible tosettle it amicably. cause the bible say if your brother wrong do not allow the sun fall without it being settle.
@msedge (4012)
• United States
18 Dec 08
@lynnemg (4539)
• United States
30 Sep 08
I agree with you. I also think it is best to "turn the other cheek" when someone has done you wrong. I try my best to do this. Although I do not plot revenge, I will shut them out of my life. I figure that if they feel remorse for what they did, they will eventually contact me and say so. There are enough things for us all to deal with in our own day to day lives and activities, we should not let someone bother us that much. We are the only ones who can contol our own actions. We cannot control someone else's. Why try? I think it is just best to be the "bigger person" when we are wronged.
@msedge (4012)
• United States
18 Dec 08
Right!Who are they to ruin our day.Lets ignore them and continue to live happily.