When did you grow up?

United States
October 10, 2008 3:22am CST
When did you grow up and start acting like an adult? When I was in my twenties I was very immature and acted like money grew on trees and would be easily replaced once spent. Not so! When I became a mother, I had to grow up and start acting like an adult. I had to start accepting responsibility for my choices and actions. Only after having my child, did I realize that fiscal responsibility was the key to a happy and prosperous life. And, I'm a lot smarter than I was before. I stopped taking chances or risks with my money and dug my feet in to make things work. I'm not in the best financial shape of my life. But, I am more secure now financially than before when I had my head in the clouds. What event made you realize that you needed to stop playing around and grow up?
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@super_jj (1416)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
I'm 25 now but i guess i still have not grown up. Well, in some aspects, i did. When i started working, i learned the value of money, so i'm very careful with my finances. But i'm one of those that work hard and play hard. I usually reward myself for working hard. But in other areas, i think i still need to grow up. I still look for the "fun" in everything. But i do try my best to learn things as i go.
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@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
10 Oct 08
super you can never grow up because you will out grow your little blue suit...
• United States
10 Oct 08
Nothing wrong with keeping the whimsy of youth. Speaking as someone who gave that up, trust me, you'll miss it, when it's gone!
@super_jj (1416)
• Philippines
11 Oct 08
Hi,lilac! Heehee! True! But i'll buy other blue suits that'll fit me
• United States
10 Oct 08
When I was 12 because I had always been really mature and took care of my sister's kids because she is a sorry mom
• United States
10 Oct 08
Taking care of kids is a fast way to maturity. They require constant supervision and guidance. Good for you! I'm sure your nieces or nephews are better having been under your care. Thanks for your comments.
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
10 Oct 08
I think I grew up the day my father passed away, I have always been a little young in the mind so to speak, personally I don't feel any older than my twenties and that was quite a few years ago now, and I was always my fathers little girl and when he passed away I had to look after my mother with Alzheimers, I really grew up fast I can tell you...
• United States
10 Oct 08
Grieving always has that effect.
@carlaabt (3504)
• United States
10 Oct 08
I've always been pretty responsible with money. When I was little (about 10), I wouldn't spend my allowance, until I had more money. Even then I wanted to have some money for "just in case." I'm not sure what I needed that just in case money for, but I always had it. As an adult, I have gotten myself into some debt that I didn't really need, but never too much. When I got married, I was 22, and didn't have any debt, except two student loans, and my car, which had a super low interest rate, and was cheap anyway. The payments on it were less than $225 per month. My husband had a credit card with about $500 on it, but it was from coming home for our wedding. He also had a loan on his truck. Shortly after I stopped working to stay at home with my son, we ran into a couple of minor financial issues, and used a credit card a few times, but it was all taken care of fairly quickly, and we are in decent shape now. Once we get the last student loan paid off, things will be fine!
• United States
10 Oct 08
Sounds like a dream to me! We've always had some serious debts, and sadly it's not even loans or credit cards. Granted we had his student loan that is now finally paid off, yay. Much of ours is old medical bills and other bills we couldn't pay that eventually went to court and was awarded a judgement. Last we figured we had about $50,000 worth of debt, and our income only covers our current bills and necessities so we're making no head way on it.
@samijo719 (1052)
• United States
15 Oct 08
I grew up and matrued pretty young. I got a job at 16 and that really taught me reponsibilty and maturity. I moved out of my parents at 18. My mom moved across country and I had my friends and such here so I moved in with my boyfriend and his father(who was never home because he traveled for work) shortly after I was 18. I have been working and taking care of myself since then. I haven't missed anythign in life or anything because of it. I still go out and do stuff any young person does but I've worked very hard. I got an office job as an administrator at 18 and have been working my butt off and such every since then.
@xy1229 (18)
• China
11 Oct 08
i love this question,this is the situation we all have to face at and think about. when a person experiences some setbacks in his or her life and that makes hime or her painful and unforgettable,after this the boy or the girl realizes this is fate and some things they cannot change through efforts.then they understand they have to grow up to face the stress. iam 20 now,when i was 17 my father got myocardial infarct and there's no symptoms before that.one day,when my father drank a bottle of cold water after that,he suddenly clasped his heart and lied down on the bed,i was scared cuz i have never met such a situation and i cried ,then i called my mother to let her back from work,my mum told me to call the ambulance.my father was quickly sent to the nearest hospital .i just cried and didnot know what to do.after a whole night's rescure,my father was saved.i was blamed by muself and felt guilty of quarrelIng with my dad so many times.maybe my parents r too tired and do so much to me,i should be appreciated. i suddenly realize iam not a kid any more,i should have the responsibility to do more things for my family.i began to be crazy on my study and on my major--piano,after such hard work,i went to the conservatory i eagered for. perhaps this is life...we all have to face a lot and be stronger... be blessed~
@parthieie (418)
• India
11 Oct 08
now i am 21 and i think i have grown up 80% and achieved the maturity. some maturity will be gained only when that age comes. i was also very immature three years back. but not like you have thought like money grew on trees and would be easily replaced once spent. i mean the maturity in the other sense.now i want to become lot more samrter than i am.
• United States
10 Oct 08
I'm not sure there was an event or anything that made me grow up. I know in highschool I still did have some growing up to do even though I was still a lot smarter than 99% of my peers. I think when I got into college and started looking at what was going on around me and what people around me were doing, I started realizing that I had to be smart about money and about my life. A lot of things change when you get into college. It's like living on your own but not and I think that really kicks a lot of people into getting their lives together.
@bfarrier1 (2082)
• United States
11 Oct 08
I cant say there was any event that made me realize because I have had responsibilties most of my life,having acholic parents I pretty muched raised myself,learned to cook when I was around six,started doing the laundry around seven along with some other chores,so now that I am a adult I do take responsibilty quite seriously and as my girls say a little bit to much at times.Have a great night.
@ganda8831 (816)
• Philippines
11 Oct 08
I think it's natural that when you grow older, you get more matured about alot of things and that includes financial matters. When i was in my twenties i used to shop alot and i didnt really care about how much money i spend on useless things. But now i no longer buy stuff that i dont need. I only buy the necessities. I'd rather save more than spend more.
@my2boys (821)
• United States
10 Oct 08
I was forced to grow up pretty young. I had my first child at 18 and that is when i grew up.
@belk89 (1103)
• Philippines
11 Oct 08
I grow up at the age of 18. I know life is hard at that time and i need to stand on my own two feet to reach my dreams. I study hard and work part time. I already have ambitions in life at that time. I am determine to achieved my goals no matter what consequences will come. I have learn to be strong at times when my family is in a big problem. I have learn to be strong and never shed tears at times when i saw my mom cried almost giving up because of the problem we have to go through in life. Now that i will become a mother i have been more mature and strong not just for my family but for my baby.
@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
10 Oct 08
I have always said that I grew up very young, around 16, but to be completely honest about it, and really evaluate myself, I would have to say that I really grew up when I was 20. This is when I had my first child and had someone else's life in my hands. Up until that point, I was pretty responsible, but the day I found out I was pregnant, I realized that my son would be looking at me to take care of his needs, and keep him safe. I still have a few financial struggles, my buget it reallt tight, but I am doing much better than I was even a year ago, and I am continually looking forward towards my goals for my family.
• China
11 Oct 08
I am sigle.when I enter into college,I realized I must grow up.I come from poor family.My parents alway tell me the important of money.I eat poor ,wear poor and live poor.I know I must be frugality.I must work hard and succeed in my life.I want my family live a happy life.
@SViswan (12051)
• India
10 Oct 08
I 'grew up' in my early twenties. I went off to college and had to live in a hostel and manage all my stuff alone and I'm not talking about the daily things...I had to do everything alone. My parents were in a different country and I was totally responsible for myself. I learnt the hard way....but I did learn...especially coming from a life of luxury to having to live alone and having to budget and no one to turn to even when I was ill...that made me learn a lot of hard truths about life.
@katsmeow1213 (28717)
• United States
10 Oct 08
I'm still working on growing up. Not sure if I'll ever get there, but that's the beauty of life. We're always learning and always changing. I could say I grew up when I was 16, but I was immature in many other ways. I could say I grew up when I was 21, but I was still making some bad choices. I've even done a lot of changing over the last 6 months.. but a few years from now I know I'll make even more changes and I'll look back at me now and say I was still immature in some aspect, probably the way I view and handle problems. I'm not sure if we ever really grow up, but we can work on it a little at a time.
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
i dont know when i started to grow up. actually, i dont think i have really grown up. im still 20 years old i still dont hve total control of my life. i want to grow up but i know i have to eventually. i miss the having no responsibilities. ::D
• India
10 Oct 08
I feel growing up mentally doesn't have much relevance to age factors. Sometimes kids behave maturedly and old people act in a weird fashion. I feel you tend to grow up mentally and become stronger when you start facing problems and learn to face them boldly. Those experiences will just give you mental strength and maturity. Have faced many such problems right from my childhood due to my family situtaions. Now I feel i'm matured and trust worthy. Those pains and experiences have moulded me like this.. Take care!! Keep smiling
@tuyakiki (3016)
• India
10 Oct 08
At the beginning of my college days I was a very immature person,used to do childish acts every now and then. But later on I realized,and become a mature person,as I am now.I am a bit sensitive,economical and honest.
10 Oct 08
I don't think i will ever grow up becasue there will be always a kid in my heart.