Any complaints about your upbringing?

i dont think this page is big enough to type my story but i will give you a glimpse my mom was the nagger and still is and my dad did nothing he is the opposite of my mom he is loving ans compassion my mom used to beat me a lot and talked down to me all the time she has gone as far to say that my brother his wife and kids are her only family and she wishes i never existed but all is not lost i am still a great person and my strength and hope and life is in jesus!!!!!

Hi Sheepie, It doesen't matter what your mother is ranting and raving about because we have all done that but the main thing is they have brought you up to be very bright and mature sweet girl and they both loves you very much, you can never thank them enough for what they done for and they will carry on doing things for you for the rest of their life, treasure them, they are priceless. Hugs. Tamara

i am brought up with values that's one thing i am very thankful about. i know how to respect othhr people and i trust. ia m brought up in a poor family... really, but i have no complains with it.. i dont blame my parents why we are not affluent. instead i work hard to be able to live a better life. i have no complains with my upbringing. instead, i am thankful because of what i have been through and because of the values inculcated in me while growing up, i am me..

Thats hard question to answer but here goes I would raise my kids the best way I know how I don't agree with mom complaining a short fuse is no good the father would have to step in and do his share of everything to in helping be there for boys or girls so should mother ..they should work together.. cd

Maybe my only complaint is, my parents never allowed me to play outside the house with the neighboring kids. Now, I am completely introverted and have difficulty conversing or maintaining a conversation with people. I hate it.

What ever she does or say does not matter. She is your mom. We find different types of people in our lives. Evevry one have their own weaknesses. No body's perfect. For me I wouldn't race my kids just as my parents did, but I would learn something of their mistakes and try my best to avoid those when raising my kids.

I'm not a teenager anymore, but my parents- of course, whose don't- had short comings. My mom is way to into money and wanting it to the expense of her own (and by virtue other folks she associates with) happiness. It's not like she needs as much money as she has. She just likes stuff. I don't like acting that way and don't want my kids into that ideology. I also plan to support my kids in whatever career choices. If they want to be artists, I'll support them. I'll just make sure that they know they won't have lots of money. My mom doesn't do this for me as a writer and it makes me angry.

I think everybody has his strength and weakness including our parents. This does not mean that they are bad parents. I believe that we tend to become like them when we grow up so we must respect them despite hating their "weaknesses"

I grew up hating my father so much to the point that I became hostile. He beats us up when we commit even just a very simple mistake. I felt like I was raised as a soldier not as a daughter. I was so scared of him. Worst of all I never felt that he had loved me. I grew up with a grudge on him. The fear turned into so much hatred until I reached 23 years old. That's the time I learned to forgive him. I told myself that if ever I have to raise my own kids, I will try the best that I can balance everything up. Not too strict but not too lenient. I don't want my kids to hate me the way I hated my father before.

I'm sure as a teenager I would have had a few complaints about how my mother was raising me. But, as someone that has now raised five (four boys, one girl) I can see where I would have been very wrong. You are in pretty good shape mentally my friend, so I have to assume that they are doing an excellent job with you When I raised the four boys (first marriage) they were all shocked when I told them that the only thing I truly had to teach them was to have common sense. Everything else is up to them

It is like that, that we have this bad habit of complaining about others. If you think from their part, won't be doing so. With your mum have many household things to do, and may nobody in house helping her; won't she get anger often? Well, about she gossiping, better to tell her about this bad habit. you could change her, if you have the heart.

There are your parents, there only human. There's no perfect parent hood but youhave parents, it's better than having none.

When I was growing up I felt my parents were horrible. In many ways I still feel that way but they really did the best they could. I always said my parenting would be different from what I had experienced. I did try to never favor one child over another. I was always honest with my children and never took a belt to them. Yet in some ways I did use some of the parenting skills that my parents had passed one. I taught my children the benefits or truthfulness, loyalty, responsibility and love. Those things I did learn from my parents even if I did not agree with the way they taught me them.

although my family is not exactly perfect, i can find no reason to complain about it. i live in a poor country and I've seen some family that are really messed up so I'm quite content with what i have

I had many issues at your age. now also all are not eliminated. i feel sometimes that i miss something that should have been there. May eb i was not well provided in terms of education.Otherwise i could have been more succcessful

I raised my kids the same as I was raised. Of course, I didn't have my first till I was 33 and had time to see a lot of life and realize how wise my parents were. Even though they divorced when I was 14, they presented a united front prior to that and taught me right from wrong, responsibility and how to make good decisions--and they loved me so much, I always knew that. My children have turned out very well so far! But if I'd had a child in my early 20's, I'd have raised them differently, probably, so I'm glad I had them when I was older and wiser.

I had a very happy upbringing, but my parents were/are very insular, so we weren't encouraged to have friends at home. Because of this, I was the same with my children, as I was used to having a peaceful house. I think we all tend to look at our parents and not want to make the same mistakes - my eldest daughter is horrified to find she is starting to act like me, and I am the same when I see my own mother's traits in myself. You just wait, Sheepie ... sooner or later you will look at yourself and say, 'I sound just like my Mum!'

I don't think anyone "raised" me, at all. There are 5 more kids after me and I'm the oldest girl and always remember having to watch the younger kids when I wasn't in school. I could and did cook complete meals at 9 years of age and do this with a sibling on my hip. The one thing I know that my parents did wrong was to move us around too much. That made it where I never bonded with a close friend. A stable life in one place allows bonds for children. So, I made sure mine stayed in the same school.

Growing up, I have always thought my mom was weird in some ways. I was the eldest and I always felt that she treated me differently but as I grew up I realized that parents are not perfect people. They just happened to be my parents because my mom gave birth to me. They are as vulnerable and as prone to making mistakes as anyone else. When I got to college, I finally realized that I just need to learn to overlook some of their shortcomings and we will be fine. Eleven years later, it has actually worked for me. I like how I turned out as a person (I know how Narcissistic) and I really believe my mom has a lot to do with this since my dad was away most of the time for work. She is an amazing woman, I now realize, and to be just half the woman and half the mother that she is would be something to be really proud of. I am now mighty scared of becoming a mom. I understand what a difficult task it is to bring up a person into this world that is difficult to trust.

I don't think that there is a single person in the world who would not complain about some aspect of their upbringing. Now all in all I think my parents did a pretty good job with my siblings and myself. We are all respectful, mostly kindhearted people who try to do the right thing in every situation. In my particular situation, my dad didn't do a lot of parenting. Don't get me wrong he was around and he was a loving father, but mostly he wanted the house quiet when he got home from work and he left the discipline and pretty much everything else to my mom. Again I love my dad very much but my mom was the real parent in our house. Honestly I try to do everything I can to emulate my mom's parenting style. We didn't get on so great when I was younger but I grew out of it. Here's the thing about kids and parents. It is completely unreasonable to judge your parents and the kind of job they did with you until you are a parent yourself and can see exactly what it's like. You'll be amazed to find yourself falling into the same patterns as your parents. As to your mom gossiping and judging and all her other bad aspects, who doesn't have faults. Again it's not very fair to judge other people without taking into account your own faults. I guess I sound a little preachy, sorry about that. I just recently had a similar discussion with my sister who is 15. Good luck dealing with your parents and remember as you get older it gets easier to accept and love and spend time with your parents in spite of their faults.