Should a parent who allows child abuse retain custody rights of the child?

United States
November 18, 2008 6:58pm CST
I was watching a program about a child who was abused and isolated for 13 years. She is called "Genie", and she was so deprived of human contact that she could not speak. Her mother, who was practically blind, claimed that she was also a victim of the abuse so her daughter's severe isolation, physical abuse, and malnourishment were not her fault. Upon Genie's release, she worked with neuroscientist and linguists to find the extent of her speech capabilities, and to try to teach her language and communication skills. She was a ward of the state, and often was foster parented by the researchers who worked with her on her language skills. Genie's mother had the charges of abuse against her dropped, as she claims she was also a victim of her husband. She very briefly took Genie in again, but could not handle the demands of such a special needs child, and Genie again became a ward of the state. But then Genie's mother SUED the researchers who were helping Genie learn to speak! [i]"In 1979, Wiley filed a lawsuit against the hospital and her daughter's individual caregivers, alleging they used Genie for "prestige and profit." The suit was settled in 1984, but the rancor deepened. Curtiss, who had continued to work with Genie on a volunteer basis, was banned from visiting her. Meanwhile, the Riglers reconnected with Irene Wiley." [/i] I found this incredibly disgusting. There may be an argument that the researchers were only helping Genie because of the huge opportunity to study language and neurofunctions, but what kind of say can her mother really have in it? And ultimately, her lawsuit cut off Genie from the people who were helping her, regardless of their intentions. There is more information about this particular case here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Genie_(feral_child) I know this is an extreme case, but what stance do you take on this TYPE of situation? If a parent allows their child to be abused and mistreated, even if they are not the abuser, should they retain rights regarding the child's well-being?
4 responses
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
30 Nov 08
I'm going to direct my response to this particular part of your post: "I know this is an extreme case, but what stance do you take on this TYPE of situation? If a parent allows their child to be abused and mistreated, even if they are not the abuser, should they retain rights regarding the child's well-being?" I will not go into specifics but I do know from my travels through life, and it is also a widely held belief by the medical profession, that a parent who allows a child to be abused is, more times than not, also a victim in some form. Abuse takes on many forms, not all of them physical, and not everyone is able to overcome the obstacles necessary in order to save the child and themselves. Abusers will isolate their victims, disassociate them from family, friends and any other support system, destroy their self esteem, take control over their lives and make it very difficult, if not impossible for them to get help. Situations like these are not black and white, there are many shades of gray.
• United States
30 Nov 08
That's a great response. While intellectually I have always understood that these matters are often gray, I have always been too harshly judgmental of women / mothers being abused. As I get older, and I've had contact with the population of women that are being abused, I have softened. But I don't know I'll ever fully be able to understand a woman who can watch her child be abused without taking action, regardless of what is happening with her. I think that (but I can't KNOW, and hopefully never will!) in the same position I would kill the abuser, with no regard to my own welfare or consequences. Great response, thanks!
@efarmer (184)
20 Nov 08
They certainly shouldnot be given these rights. A person is entitled to have rights only if he is performing his duties and if the parent doesnot perform his basic duty of protecting their own child then what can they expect? and more than that in this case if the child was being helped be it for any reason whatsoever, at least she was being helped then the mother had no right to do this to her. it is so sad to hear about such unfortunate children really.
• United States
21 Nov 08
Thanks for the response! I was hoping to get some people who take the other position, but I guess I picked too clear a case of poor parenting!
@Pigglies (9329)
• United States
19 Nov 08
That is crazy! I'd have to say that unless the mom was held in a cage or something where there was no way she could have gotten out, she is just as bad as the father for allowing such abuse.
• United States
19 Nov 08
I can't even fathom being of sound enough mind to be re-awarded custody, and NOT being able to find a way out for your child in that situation. I can't imagine what the judges were thinking!
@dodo19 (47118)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
19 Nov 08
It's really sad what happened to this girl. I don't want to try to seem like I would take away Genie's mother's right away from her, but I don't really think that Genie's mom shouldn't have been able to take her back. After all, it would seem that she let abuse towards her daughter continue for thirteen years. By staying with her husband for that long, she put not only her life in danger, but her children' lives as well.
• United States
20 Nov 08
I fully agree. I also think its sad that she sued the company and reached a financial settlement, who can really know that her motives were in the best interest of her daughter?