Left Alone and Unattended...

Alone... - Alone...
@twoey68 (13651)
United States
November 22, 2008 10:31am CST
Not long ago I was at my brothers house visiting and he decided he needed to run to the neighbor’s house around the corner. He told me I could stay there while he was gone. I was surprised that he’d just go off and leave someone (even if it was me) in his house alone. He was gone almost an hour. I couldn’t do it. I don’t like leaving ppl alone in my home. It’s not that I don’t trust anyone but more that it’s my private space and I don’t like ppl in it without me there. Have you ever went off and left someone alone in your house? Have you ever had any problems with doing this? What would you do if you came home and found your partner or child left someone alone in your home? [b]~~IN SEARCH OF PEACE WITHIN~~ **AGAINST THE STORMS, I WILL STAND STRONG** [/b]
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@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
23 Nov 08
When I have invited family or friends over, there is no way that I'd leave them alone for any length of time. It's not a matter of trust, because I trust most of them. It's more a matter of etiquette. Why invite some one over, then abandon them? You didn't say in your discussion, but did your brother invite you over? Or did you appear unannounced? If you just showed up, perhaps your brother had plans already? If he invited you, he should at least have given you the choice of going with him.
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@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
23 Nov 08
No, he invited me over. I was visiting and doing some pc work for him and he decided he needed to run to the neighbors for a minute. I don't think he intended to be gone that long but he's never done it before so it's not something he does regularly. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG AND TRUST IN GOD**[/b]
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@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
23 Nov 08
LOL..sounds like your brother has a neighbor like mine then. My neighbors husband should have been a salesman or a politician. He talks non-stop, and if he happens to be home if I stop by for a minute, it's frequently hard to leave. I'm sure your brother was comfortable that you were in his home, but probably felt bad that he was gone so long.
@walijo2008 (4648)
• United States
23 Nov 08
I know what you mean, I don't like leaving anyone alone at my house, its not that I don't trust them or anything, its just that it makes me feel like I'm not a very good hostess, to leave them there by themselves, even if I just have to run to the store real quick, I would ask them if they want to go with me instead. We have a friend, that comes over alot, and there have been times, when I've come home and found him sitting in the living room watching tv, apparently my husband told him to go on in and make himself at home. I don't mind, because I know him, but it still feels weird.
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@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
23 Nov 08
LOL I would wig out to find that, both at the guest and my Hubby. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG AND TRUST IN GOD**[/b]
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
25 Nov 08
I don't usually just leave my company,however i don't care if they are in my home alone...I have given my house keys to a few friends before when i was going to be away so they could come & feed my cat or bird or pick up my mail...The friends i felt was trust worthy was fine.I did not feel as though they were going to go through my things or steal anything...I am not so picky about such things.....I have never had a problem with this at all....
• United States
25 Nov 08
All my family members respect my private space so I would leave them alone in my home. But anyone else , I wouldn't.
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@cjgrooms (4456)
• United States
24 Nov 08
If it is family i have no problem with them being in my house. If it is someone one of my kids have dragged home that i don't know then i have a problem.
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@eVoLi89 (161)
• Belgium
23 Nov 08
I usually don't let my guests alone, I'm only a student so I've only got one room and our shared kitchen, but still... It's not that I don't trust them, or that I've got secrets, I also think it's not kind to leave your guests unattended, certainly not for such a long time. It's a difficult situation for your visitors as well, at least I never know what to do when someone's gone away, even if it's for only a short while say going to get drinks, to the bathroom, someone at the door,... most people just don't dare moving even, don't know where to look,... Well, that is when you're somewhere the first time, if I've been there a few times I can walk around and stuff, that's less awkward. My parents and brothers aren't bothered if I leave them alone to get something, neither are good friends.
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
23 Nov 08
DId it all the Time when the kids were younger they always had friend staying with us and I wouldnt mind leaving my brother in my house alone. Or any of my kin folk.
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@oldboy46 (2132)
• Australia
23 Nov 08
It really is a matter of trust whether a person is happy to leave someone else alone in their own home. We leave our children and their partners alone in our home and they do not live with s but we can hardly tell them they cannot be inside when we have work to do on the farm. A couple of them would probably snoop through our private as well as business papers if they got the chance. We remove that opportunit for that to happen by making sure all those important things are kept locked away. Also all our business records on the computer are password protected for the very same reason. We also leave my partner's mother, one of my my brothers, sister-ion-law and their son alone in the house because we trust them. In fact a few times we have had to go away for something for a few days and they have actually moved in and looked after our home for us. Your brother has paid you a compliment really as it is obvious he trusts you to look after his home and not snoop in his private and personal things when he is not there.
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@Nhey16 (2519)
• Philippines
23 Nov 08
when my hubby and i had to go to a retreat for 3 days and 2 nights, i did ask for my brother's help, to look after our kids, so he stayed in our home for those days... i never thought of him going through our things, coz i do trust my brother. and there are also times, when my sisters would need my help, they have to run to their errands and i would be left in their home, i never go through their things when they were out. a lot of people would not do that, even if it is their brother or sister but to us, we do trust our sisters and brothers and we know that no one among us would take anything from our things...
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@mtata23 (354)
• India
23 Nov 08
Well I would not leave any outsider in my house even if something urgent comes. But my parents or siblings is ok. i daily go to work, my kid to school, my wife to shopping, my mother stays all alone in the house for 2-3 hours. she reads some book or newspaper in the meantime.
@pumpkinjam (5774)
• United Kingdom
23 Nov 08
He obviously trusts you to leave you there. Some people are more sensitive as regards to private space as others. I would leave close family members alone in my house as I would trust them but I wouldn't let anyone else.
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
23 Nov 08
Well, if my coming is unexpected and the owner of the house I'm going to visit has set an appointment prior to my coming, I would also understand when he would be away when I arrived. If he has a very important appointment, it is really hard for him to cancel that because he had visitor. Maybe if you are not related, he will not allow you also to stay in his house and wait for him while he is away? Well, because you are brothers, he has trust that you will never do bad things in his house. Yes, We can consider it rude if we will be left alone by the person we've visiting but for me, if the reason is very legit, I would understand it.
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
23 Nov 08
HI twoey! I wouldn't want to leave someone in my home if I wasn't going to be there. I know that my boyfriend would have a fit! In fact my girlfriend is having her apartment painted on Monday and she asked me if she could spend the day at my apartment and I told her I have to go out in the afternoon to an appointment. I didn't know how to tell her that she couldn't stay while I was gone. I am not comfortable leaving anyone in my home any more and my boyfriend definitely does't want anyone in the house with neither one of us here. But, if it was a relative I don't think I would mind as much. I'm sure your brother trusted you alone in his home.
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@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
23 Nov 08
I don't like leaving people alone in my house neither does my mom. She gets paranoid if she has to. There are very few that I would leave in my house unintended. My brother leaves me at his house alone so does my older sister and mother. They know I won't touch their stuff or be nosy and go threw their things. I am not that way. I hate when I see someone pilfering though my things when they are in my home it is disrespectful and invading that persons person stuff. So sometimes I don't even like leaving them in my living room or computer room alone since I have alot of stuff in my computer room/office. I know that is paranoia but I have had people take from me and also pick my diary up and read it since I laid it down to answer the door.
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@halynn (1809)
• United States
23 Nov 08
I wouldn't be able to do that either. I'm a private person & would feel uncomfortable doing that. I mean most ppl are nosey- it's human nature. I think it'd be nice to be that care free though lol.
• China
23 Nov 08
well,but from you, I begin to know about something people hate. maybe sometimes i just do as your brother did, without knowing people might not be treated like that. for me, I leave someone alone in house because I think they can make it just as at his own home, i trust them. well, maybe i was wrong. thak you for telling me that. BUT, why do not you tell your brother what you think about that? he is not aware of that ,maybe!
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@mengrufa (239)
• China
23 Nov 08
It seems that your brother trust you very much, what you think is not what he thinks. I think your brother is a outgoing type, and never value his personal privacy too much, or else he really trust you, because you are his brother too. Another is that if it is not you but others, he won't do the same as he did to you. Most of us value very much our privacy, and if it were me, i will not do the same as your brother, because i do think that i have privacy that never want others to know it.
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@littleowl (7157)
23 Nov 08
Hi twoey fortunatley I don't have that problem the only ones I have to worry about is my dogs but I have a friend who is only too willing to look after them for me..but if I was in your situation I would feel the same and panic would set in..hugs littleowl
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• United States
30 Nov 08
Well, unlike you, I wouldn't mind leaving someone in my house if it was someone that I trusted. There are some friends that I would trust in my house while I stepped out, and some family that I wouldn't trust. It all would depend on the person. If I were to come home and someone was left in the house, first I would have to size up the person and think if I would have trusted them by themselves if it were me. If I wouldn't, I would bring this to the attention of the person who left them in the house, and let them know not to do it again. Then I would check certain places in my house to make sure that nothing was missing.
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
1 Dec 08
I actually have a very good friend that a couple of years agok found herself homeless due to circumstances. it was the holidays and she was depressed about celebrating in the shelter. I was going away for the holiday and let her and her family take ofer my place for the holiday.
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• United States
1 Dec 08
That is very nice of you. I know that you brought some cheer to her heart by doing so. And how lucky of you to have a friend that you can trust like that as well.
@camomom (7536)
• United States
22 Nov 08
I could and have left my family members alone in my home. I trust them 100%. My home is their home. I would have a problem if my kids or fiance left someone unattended in my house though. I guess if it were my fiances family members it would be ok but no one else.
@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
23 Nov 08
Some of my family I might be ok with...my Mom, my Nephew...but others I know would poke around and look through things. Some of the family members would ransack the place and take everything. As for Hubby's family well...let's just say they don't even come to visit. We don't get along. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG AND TRUST IN GOD**[/b]
@camomom (7536)
• United States
23 Nov 08
My family wouldn't even snoop. His might, I'm not really sure. No one would take anything though.