Sad?

@p1kef1sh (45647)
November 24, 2008 2:46pm CST
Do you ever feel just sad? For no particular reason? Just an overall sense of misery? I do sometimes and I always attribute it to my depression. I was wondering what do other people do to cheer themselves up when life inexplicably gets them feeling low?
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43 responses
24 Nov 08
yes l do feel very sad sometimes l find that throwing my self in to work or doing some thing that will take your mind of feeling sad althought this may sound a bit silly but l find that it really dose work some years ago l had depression and the best way l found was as l have said also what you said it dose sound that it is depression just keep busy if it is any worse you should go and see your doctor. but from what you are saying it sounds as though it is a mild so just your mind occupied and you should fell better
@p1kef1sh (45647)
24 Nov 08
I am clinically depressed Coatsworth; to the point where I had to give up work. However, things are much improved and I am job hunting again. I agree that keeping your mind occupied is good, but sometimes the despair takes over all ability to smother it with activity.
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24 Nov 08
my heart goes out to you. have you ever tried to do gardening l find that you have to get your mind on what you are doing so there is no room for anything but l do know that it will not work for every one. sometimes l think that it is the been out doors and the work in the garden that help you should try it but do not wait until it gets a hold go out in the garden and do anything to keep you self busy.
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@34momma (13918)
• United States
24 Nov 08
i think we all get like that everyonce in a while. the key is not to allow it to take over you. and living in the moment is a great way not to allow that sadness or even depression take over your moments, hours and days. I was very depressed as a child, teenager and young adult. through life experinces and research, i have learned to only allow those moments to be just that moments. it takes practice to get out of that state of mind. but yeah i think we all have those moments of sadness. that just makes us all human my wonderful friend
@p1kef1sh (45647)
24 Nov 08
I think that you are right to say not to allow it to take you over. When that happens it is all to easy to sink into the quagmire of despair. Thanks Momma.
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@34momma (13918)
• United States
24 Nov 08
man oh man you are so right! and once you get down that bottomless pit it is so very hard to get out. trust me, it took me years and years to crawl my way back to the light of life. so i know. and that's how i learned about what i don't want so now i focus more on what i do want, and i don't even get next to that pit any more
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@nannacroc (4049)
24 Nov 08
I usually have a reason for feeling sad, mainly Mr Croc. He often has times when he doesn't know why he's sad and it's very difficult to know how to cheer him up. He usually goes to his computer and plays games or he sleeps. There are times I wish I could get into is head and turn off the depression. If you feel sad you can always avoid me.
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@p1kef1sh (45647)
24 Nov 08
I usually do try to annoy you. But I fail spectacularly. Oh, you said "avoid". As if I would.
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@nannacroc (4049)
24 Nov 08
Whichever makes you feel better is fine by me. Now look I've started being nice it must be bed time.
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@gemini_rose (16194)
25 Nov 08
Yes I do and I get this quite a lot, I often think that really I need to pay a visit to the doctor but I am not one for going to them I like to deal with things myself. I find it hard to get myself out of it when I am in one so I do not really have anything that I do to get myself out of it. I just wait for it to go on its own!
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@p1kef1sh (45647)
25 Nov 08
If you get it a lot then you really should go and see the doctor Gemini. Is there something that triggers it or do you just feel down. Either way it's worth having it checked out
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@pumpkinjam (5557)
• United Kingdom
25 Nov 08
I think everyone gets like that at least occasionally. I usually just try to think of good things. I am fortunate to have my babies so I will cuddle them or, if they are not here, I will look at the beautiful pictures of them. The big one knows if I am sad so he will just come straight over and give me a cuddle. Otherwise I go for walks and things. Although that sometimes makes me more sad if I am by myself!
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@p1kef1sh (45647)
25 Nov 08
Sometimes I want to be immersed with people Pumpkin, and sometimes not. Solitary walks can be good for putting things into perspective though. Cuddles are absolutely the best.
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@_sketch_ (5711)
• United States
25 Nov 08
I do a lot. I have depression, but I hate taking pills for it, so I just have to deal with it and so whenever it hits me I just try to get out of the house and keep busy. If you are in front of a lot of people you probably wont want them to see that you are sad (at least Idont) and so you will act happy ie. smiling, laughing, etc. and doing these things will actually help make you happy. Another thing that I do is yoga. I absolutely love yoga. It helps relieve the physical symptoms of depression and stress and also helps to relax you. I also like to write whenever I am feeling down, especially poetry. It really helps to write what you are feeling because it kinda lets you get it off your chest and puts things into perspective. Anyways, I hope that this helps.
@p1kef1sh (45647)
25 Nov 08
I have thought about yoga myself. But that's all so far - thought about it. It does seem very relaxing though.
@Volkus (202)
• Romania
25 Nov 08
Yes, yoga is very relaxing, i recommand you to practice the Kundalini exercises. It's a great tool for spiritual power.
@_sketch_ (5711)
• United States
26 Nov 08
What is the kundalini exercises?
@someonesmom (5768)
• Canada
24 Nov 08
Wow. I'm very sorry to hear of your depression, p1kef1sh. I'm not sure if what happens to me at times is 'true depression,' or just the result of all of the daily stress I experience. Unfortunately, this 'stress' is continuing to mount. I've just found out something this afternoon, that has added to it. When I'm feeling extremely low, I'll sometimes connect with my wonderful online friends, and this is a great pick me up. Other times, I feel it necessary to step away from the computer, and kick back with a favourite movie or tv show. The addition of some good old fashioned comfort food, doesn't hurt either. Then there's always the hope that I can connect with a friend or family member via phone, and in doing so will be cheered up. Take care.
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@p1kef1sh (45647)
24 Nov 08
Worry not Mom, I'm much better than I was although I am sorry to hear that things are tough for you right now. The shoulder's there if you need to lean on it anytime. In fact I attribute my improvement to myLot in some odd way. I found my way here and was very fortunate to find a few very good people who befriended me and took me to their hearts. Most of these people are no longer here. Although I talk to them offline, I do sometimes wish that they would come back occasionally. Usually a chat with one of them is enough to snap me out of it. It's like having a bunch of big sisters. They love me to a point; then they give me a healthy slapping! LOL.
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• Canada
24 Nov 08
Thanks so much for your kind words. I'll keep this in mind. I found this site through an online business I was attempting, over two years ago. This turned out to be the only thing of value, in the entire package. There are some really terrific people here, and some great friendships to be made.
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@p1kef1sh (45647)
24 Nov 08
There are some very good people here. I'm not going to get started as I invariably shed a few tears when I think about some of them and how much they have gone out of their way to help me. But let's just say that there are some here that put in way more than they take out.
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@sid556 (31018)
• United States
25 Nov 08
ya, I do sometimes. I don't know where it comes from...I just get sad...really sad. It doesn't happen often. I am normally a pretty postive upbeat person but I will admit that I have had those feelings. It is horrible. I usually stumble thru the day and go to bed as soon as I can. Sleep usually erases it for me, thankfully. It makes me very sympathetic to those who are chronically depressed. If I woke up and still felt that same way with no explanation day in and day out, well, I don't know what I'd do to cope. The sort of depression you describe here is very different from being depressed or stressed for a real reason that you can pinpoint. What you describe is very difficult to pull out from. I had an episode of it this summer that came on so sudden and for no apparent reason. I was walking with my friend and chatting. I don't know if it was something she said or what but all of a sudden I was overcome with this horrible feeling of doom & helplessness. I kept it to myself and got thru but as soon as my daughter went down...so did I. Even then I tossed and turned a bit. Next day...I was good as new. It's not happened too often...just enough to give me a bit of empathy.
@p1kef1sh (45647)
25 Nov 08
Sid what you say is so familiar. I am clinically depressed, although much much better than I was. But someone only has to say something and I can sink faster than an elephant in quicksand. Sleep does help, as does trying to think positively.
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@p1kef1sh (45647)
25 Nov 08
My humour comes from discovering that there are so many people worse off then me Sid. We each have our own burden but I like to lighten mine with a laugh every now and again. There are some (on here even) who love to be miserable. I can't be doing with that and that's why whenever I start to get maudlin or sounding self pitying, I like someone to tell me. I have the most spanked legs on myLot!!
@sweetie1026 (1724)
• Philippines
25 Nov 08
I do, right at this moment that i am posting my response to your discussion. There was a time that i always get depress. There is this void inside me that makes me feel sad without warning. In a snap i just feel sad especially during the Christmas season. But now, maybe it is because Christmas is so near and i miss my eldest daughter who is working abroad. She has been away for 2 years now, i opened my YM and she some offlines for me saying that she loves me and misses me and i was so moved that i can't help but cry.
• Philippines
25 Nov 08
I just cry it out and let it pass, then i am ok again. it just happens for a few moment, i don't let it overcome me and make me sad all day.
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@p1kef1sh (45647)
25 Nov 08
Missing someone that you love can hurt so much. But how lovely that she sent you that message. She's clearly thinking of you.
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• Philippines
25 Nov 08
I am thinking of her too. It is so difficult of her not being here with us but she wants to spread her wings and there is nothing i can do about that except to support her. Thank you, my friend!
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@guybrush (4662)
• Australia
25 Nov 08
Yes, I often feel sad. Usually I blame it on the weather - if it's been overcast for a few days, I tend to get a bit miserable. I think I need Vitamin D from the sun. Sometimes I feel sad because I'm worried about one or other of the children. Sometimes I get fixated on how little time I have left on this earth - and then I start wondering why I'm bothering to do anything, and what it's all about. Usually a nice, brisk walk in the sunshine helps. If not, I just have a good old cry.
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@p1kef1sh (45647)
25 Nov 08
Sunshine? What's that Guy! Sometimes we just can't get our grip and the only thing to do is slide to the bottom and make a proper attempt at getting out. If that makes sense. Exercise helps as does, for me at least, a good chat and a hug. I do cry sometimes too, but that's usually self pity, which irritates the life out of me!
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@guybrush (4662)
• Australia
26 Nov 08
Sunshine and exercise certainly help. But it doesn't hurt to be a bit self-indulgent sometimes. Often it clears the cobwebs away! I don't mind hugging myself if there's nobody else around ... and I don't mind feeding myself chocolate, either.
@unagie (122)
• India
25 Nov 08
i think life is too small to waste time on being sad..... so njoi guys.. god bless
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@p1kef1sh (45647)
25 Nov 08
I hope that you manage to keep that view Unagie. Thanks and welcome to myLot.
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@unagie (122)
• India
25 Nov 08
thnx... will try....
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@Margarit (3677)
• Philippines
25 Nov 08
Yes i feel sad sometimes specially when i am alone, i dont know why do i feel that way, i guess i worried so much of the future. But i have some remedy for myself to take away the sadness i feel. 1st. I pray to God to take away this sad feeling i have 2nd. I read inspirational books and the bible 3rd. I listen to praise and worship song that i like most. 4th. I will keep myself busy so that i will forget that sad moments i have. And the last but not the least is i go to a crowded places like shopping malls or amusement park so that i can only see happy faces that makes me happy too.
@p1kef1sh (45647)
25 Nov 08
That sounds like a good number of methods to me. One must work! LOL. Thank you.
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@querwai (23)
• China
25 Nov 08
It is said that there is a specail period time when you would not have the same santation as usual, which means during this time one would get depressio with no reason. I think it just like a machine when working after along time do it need some rest, so then if you ask it to work continusly ,it would make you not satisfactry. As being we are to some extent a machine, plaese spare some time to make a rest for youself. And if you have no mood to do things during this perind, you can walk out of your work sircle and to try something new and changing athe surroudings can release your misery off. I wait for your good news here.
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@p1kef1sh (45647)
25 Nov 08
Thank you Querwai. I am fine, I'm just enquiring how people combat their sad moments. Welcome to myLot.
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@MizzLadyB08 (1175)
• United States
25 Nov 08
I do feel sad sometimes and when I do I will pull out a good book or maybe even my bible to read. You people do tend to have a sad moment that come around every now and then.
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@p1kef1sh (45647)
25 Nov 08
We all have different ways to combat these things. Thank you.
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@munhozmib (3730)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
25 Nov 08
Hello, p1kef1sh. Sometimes I do get sad. It is not hard. But it usually has some explanation, like for when I fail at conquering my objectives. Might be hard to cheer myself up, but now I'm finding that, if I do not worry too much when I start to get sad, I will soon be happy. Do not get used to being sad. Fight your way to change it. When you are sad, think: "How can I change it? What can I do to turn this around?". If you try to do something, you will just be too sad. It's not the exterior world that is getting you down. It is a kind of personal problem with yourself. Tell yourself how great you are. Tell yourself how many things you have been through and all your conquests in life. And then you will start to feel cheered up. Respectfully, Munhozmib.
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@p1kef1sh (45647)
25 Nov 08
That's some good positive thinking. Thank you.
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@sharra1 (6344)
• Australia
25 Nov 08
Yes lots of times, in fact several times a day. Life sucks sometimes but we get over it we pull our socks up get our act into fear and we get with life. Hey life can be a b1stard sometimes but we can cope with that. Well yes I suppose and then we kill or beat up the person who caused this trouble. How is he? I want to punish him, severely!!!!Oh ok things go wrong we get over them and we get on with life. Well some of us do the rest collapse in misery and cry. Such is life.
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@p1kef1sh (45647)
25 Nov 08
I find that by thinking positively I do get some relief. But there are times when I have to work to make myself feel like that. Today I was down doing my stint at the Cathedral and everything suddenly just seemed "good". Maybe doing something different makes the difference.
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• India
25 Nov 08
Pay no attention to such feelings. Don't ever make the mistake of dwelling on them and thinking over "why" you feel that way. Of course, I don't deny that there may be strong reasons for it, but we can't function if we feel that way. I simply tell myself sternly to "snap out of it" and get along with my work. I used this method for a few months, and now I am no longer plagued by these "sudden moments of melancholy." Cheers and happy mylotting
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@p1kef1sh (45647)
25 Nov 08
Been there and done that Positive. It works sometimes but not always. However, positive thinking really does help. But not everybody can think that way easily. When you are in the depths of depression and you don't even know what day it is, or what time; It is very hard to think about anything.
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@bhanusb (5709)
• India
25 Nov 08
Yes some time I feel sad and depression.I don't know the exact cause.Our hopes are unlimited.But materialised very little.This may be a cause of being sad.Humanbeing is by nature imaginative.When come back from dream to reality some pesons can't cope with the existing situation.Then they become depressed.Without any reason feel sadness is nothing but psychological matter.
@p1kef1sh (45647)
25 Nov 08
But it can be just as damaging as any physical illness Bhansub. More so, because it doesn't "just get better" always.
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@riyasam (16582)
• India
25 Nov 08
i do get that at times and my dear hubby attributes it to my pms.boy,do i get mad at him??i try to go out for long walks or sometimes i do go to visit my friends.both these cheers me up.
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@p1kef1sh (45647)
25 Nov 08
The important thing is that we have coping strategies Riyasam. To that extent the cause is not so important.
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@Opal26 (17694)
• United States
25 Nov 08
Hi pikey! Are you really sad? I have no real answer for this. I am clinically depressed so for me I have no clue what the answer is. They give me little pills to help but the don't really work to well. At least not so far. They are playing with new combinations to see what they can come up with. That really is much fun. When I'm depressed I just don't want to do much of anything and that is really bad. I don't want to go out or do anything except mylot. So mylot has really saved me from becoming completely miserable. It cheers me up to get into discussions and it makes me laugh or smile and kind of forget my depression! So it is my escape! That is why I am on here till all hours of the morning because my insomnia won't let me sleep and this gives me something to do. In other words I am a mental mess! But, with the help of my new therapist and shrink maybe we will figure it out someday!
@p1kef1sh (45647)
25 Nov 08
I was a little sad but I am out of it now. I'm off the tablets and don't see my psychologist any more. myLot helped me enormously. I sleep well too. But even myLot helps me there. A friend actually sends me to bed. When she says it's time, I go. Sounds crazy, but it works and I feel so much better for it. (The fact that she terrifies me helps!)
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