Love between people from different religions

@UK_Shree (3605)
November 24, 2008 3:23pm CST
Do you think that love between people from two different religions can work? I don't mean short-term love, more long-term i.e a life partner? Do you think it depends on which two religions the couple belong to - if so, which do you think would be the most conflicting and which two do you thinkk would cause the least problems? Are any of you in this sort of relationship? Has it worked or not?
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• Australia
25 Nov 08
My first wife was from a moderate Jewish family, with a brother-in-law who was a rabbi and a brother studying to be a rabbi. I come from an anglo-Christian background, with a grandfather who was a Christian missionary. A pretty clear mixed marriage. Now even allowing for the fact that we were both very immature, the rleigious element definitely played a major role in the failure of the marriage. Or arther, I should say, the cultural differences of which the different religions were a major part. So, to answer your question I need to pose a question or two: Are the couple from the same cultural background? If so, perhaps the religious difference won't matter, unless they are from antagonistic religions, like Muslim and Jew, in which case it takes two pretty extraordinary people to make it work, and apparently it sometimes does. In the final analysis, it probably comes down more to the two people, their levels of maturity, and the depth of their connection (not just love, but friendship too) than the religious differences. Lash
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@UK_Shree (3605)
25 Nov 08
Hi there, I also think that cultural background plays an important part, but do you think that it is enough for it to be long-lasting?
• Australia
26 Nov 08
I did say "perhaps" lol. I really think that it takes pretty strong people to overcome large cultural differences, religious or otherwise. I suppose it can also depend on how seriously each takes his/her religion. Lash
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• Philippines
26 Nov 08
you are right lash. that it come of the two people maturity. im married in a different region different culture and religion. I strongly belive in GOD and my husband don't believe in GOD. but we have respect our own opinion about what we believe. may i ask a question. 1.would it be a couse of problem between me and my husband? (religion)
24 Nov 08
People have different views in life specially when it comes to religions. I had experienced on this kind of situation, I was engaged with a man before we didn't have the same beliefs and religion. I thought it works if we just have to understand each other, each of us went to different church on different days. Later on we had a debate about it because it seems like we don't have the harmony as a couple and we ended breaking up. So for me it doesn't work.
@UK_Shree (3605)
5 Dec 08
Thanks for sharing your personal experience on a sensitive topic
5 Dec 08
Hi, thanks for marking my response as best, it made me very happy! It's nice to see that people appreciates a personal opinion and experience, it's precious and that's why I am enjoying mylot because we can interact with differenct people all over the world. Share thoughts and each others point of views. Hope you are having a good day and in mylot too.
@murderistic (2280)
• United States
25 Nov 08
It can definitely work! I am a devout Mennonite Christian who grew up in the US and my husband is a devout Sunni Muslim who grew up in Morocco. Two totally different backgrounds and yet we have a great and strong marriage. We chose to marry each other despite our religious differences not only because of love, because love is not the only element of a marriage (love often fades and comes back through different phases of marriage) but because of trust in one another that we will both do everything possible to respect each others beliefs and make our marriage work. Neither of us believe that divorce is an option unless there is cheating or abuse, and neither of us could live with ourselves if we cheated or abused one another. The key to an interfaith relationship is trust and respect. Don't go into it hoping that you can change your partner. You can't. That is the number one mistake people make in interfaith relationships, they have this hope that they are going to convert their partner. If you or your partner go into the relationship with that hope your relationship will surely fail. Also, be sure that the two families have time to get used to the idea and make peace with each other. That was one mistake that I made and I really regret it, but my family did grow to love my husband and look past the fact that he is not Christian. They don't understand why I married a Muslim but that was my decision and I think it was a great one.
@UK_Shree (3605)
25 Nov 08
Really happy to hear your story! All the best. X
2 Feb 11
My boyfriend is from France, and Catholic for sure. But i am not. It does no difference i think
• India
2 Feb 11
Why should it not?Love is between two persons, two bodies. All religion believe on some super power, call by different names only. So no fight, no differentiation in name of religion. Thanks for sharing Cheers. God bless you, have a nice day ahead. Professor ‘Bhuwan’. .
@dawnald (83991)
• Shingle Springs, California
26 Nov 08
My father is Jewish, my mom Methodist, they were married 47 years before my mom passed away. But I have to admit neither one was particularly religious, maybe that's why it worked.
@sharra1 (6344)
• Australia
26 Nov 08
It can work but it definitely depends on the couple. I was dating a catholic boy when I was very young and that had no chance of survival because both families were against it and there were arguments over which religion the children would follow and we were not even officially engaged yet. In the end his mother made sure that he broke it off with me and married a good catholic girl. Probably just as well looking back on it. I was adamant that I did not want any children I had being catholic and he insisted that if we married any children we had must be catholic. So it was a stalemate.
@cbreeze (1209)
• United States
25 Nov 08
I think if people truly love each other they can survive the differences in religion. I feel the same way about political views because both can be very volital situations. But as long as both parties respect their partner's differences then they should be able to get passed them. I would strongly advise that they agree ahead of time how to handle raising children when it comes to different religions. That's probably where it gets complicated.
@patweber (78)
• United States
25 Nov 08
My husband is agnostic and I am a Christian. We were each raised in a different Christian denomination growing up. Somewhere along the timeline we each changed. I do believe that people of different religious beliefs can stay in love and it isn't always easy. We've been married for 38 years so long term - yes; I believe this can work long term. Where it is often difficult is in spiritual discussions with two strong personalities. We usually try to avoid discussions of this nature because I tend to get quite verbal and then end up saying little because I don't want to say anything from a negative feeling state. Other problems are with children; I've seen that in other couples. We were both on the same page when my son was a young child so I can't speak from my own experience with this.
@anirc750310 (3424)
• Romania
25 Nov 08
Hi I am not in this situation but my belief is that no matter what religion you and your partner are, the most important thing is how they feel about it. the most important thing -love is the one who doesn't let us argue on things like that. My sister -in-law is married with a guy which is different cult of christian from her but they don't have any problem on this issue. So love and ' being open minded' unit us more then any religion dogmas or principle does.
@Volkus (202)
• Romania
25 Nov 08
Of course it can! My grandmother is the living proof of that! She is christian and my grandpa is jew. :) Things went great, maybe because grandpa wasn't so addicted to his national cause. He was truly in love with my grandmother, if he decided to mve :)
• Malaysia
25 Nov 08
we don't have to worry or care what others think about yourself. As long you and your partner are appreciating each other And willing to sacrifice in the relation Just go on for the relation. Diffeerent religions doesn't mean that can't be together. As long as yo find your LOVE. You can't be being with a same religion partner but he/she doesn't loyal in love. So is useless to being with this kind of people. As a malaysian, Malaysia have many different religions too.. And they are love occurs in different religion. ^^
@Galena (9124)
25 Nov 08
I am Pagan and my partner is an open minded spiritual sort. I have every confidence we'll last not only this life, but lives to come.
@adeeb747 (100)
24 Nov 08
Yes can be my couson musllim and his wife is crstin kids like both i think thy good together
@MrsFrick (17)
• United States
24 Nov 08
I think that a long term relationship between two people of very different religions can work out great. It all depends on the ppl, if one (or both) are very closed minded and try to convert their partner constantly, it is NOT going to work at all. But if they are open-minded and can accept that everyone believes differently, they won't have too many problems also, they need to respect each other religious views. My husband and I have been married for 4 1/2 years (together almost 8), he was raised Lutheran and is Baptist & I really don't know how to explain my beliefs, close to Pagan I think. Neither of us have a problem with each others religious beliefs, really when you break down religion in general, almost all of them are insanely similar. We both accept that each person is going to think & believe differently. So yes, 2 people who have drastically different religious views/beliefs can have a wonderful & LONG-term relationship if they can abstain from attempting to convert their significant other constantly and just accept each other how they are and how they believe.
• United States
24 Nov 08
I believe so. I am not religious whatsoever and my girlfriend of 3 years has been fine with it. I think if they are religious zealots then you may have some problems. The two most conflicting religions would probably be christianity and islam. I think zen buddhism and atheistic beliefs would probably get along the best.