Do you still say "i'm not busy" when you actually are?

I was like that when I was young, I just didn't know how to say no or reject others. But now, I'll just tell I am busy. If the person really wants me to help out, then I'll see if I really can spend some time for him or her, even though I am really busy. Sometimes at work, even though you are busy, you still need to help out others.

I have to say that sometimes I am guilty of this. I do not really like to say no if someone wanted to come over for a visit. Even if I were busy, I would say that I was not, so they could come over. I would then try to rearrange my schedule so I could fit everything in that I needed to get done. I know I should get better at saying no when I am busy, but what can I say, thats just the way I am. I would also want my friend to be available if I wanted to come over for a visit, so I try to do the same for them.

I am guilty of saying "I'm not busy" when in reality I was swamped with work. I say the words only to certain people. My siblings and I live in different parts of the country. So whenever one of them comes to visit it is only natural for me to spend some time with them. It is the same thing for friends who I rarely meet. As for the rest when I am busy I say so to them. I used to find it hard to do so. After realising that most of the time all they wanted was idle chat I decided to put my foot down. all the best, rosdimy

I really do follow this and I already "trained" most of my contacts to really believe me what I write to them. Like, when I say "Downtown for shopping" and when I'd come home I would have like bajillion of people tried to contact me with messages like "you there???????????????" The problem is not being honest to yourself, the problem is other people recognize that.

Actually, it is hard to pretend to someone that you are not busy even if you are.Here in Philippines, we Filipinos are known for being hospitable. Once a visitor came over in our house, even we have so much stuffs to do, we entertain them.We want to give comfort to them by having a lively discussion and entertain them the best that we can.We want them to feel that our home is their home also.Aside from that, we are just thinking that it is not everytime they will have the chance to visit us, so once they made a visit we want it to be very memorable.Household chores is a never ending task. The dishes and the laundry is always there everyday, but a visitor will just visit once, so we make it a point for them to feel special. However, in my case, when I am dealing with my friends such as chatting them over phone or internet, I keep it to be honest with them when I am busy. For example I am doing some stuffs on the internet and then a friend comes online, I still greet him or her. But even if I am so busy, I still tell them that we can chat. I can still chat but it will be a slow chat since I am doing something also. I think it is a good thing to be honest to people. I can say that there is nothing bad telling them that you are busy. Anyway, I think so that they experienced same situation, and I can say that they also understand it.

you are corect i am a person like that. i can't just say i am busy. it's tough to be good.

hi modstar...unfortunately im not like that..when im busy i will tell the other line that i cant talk to them longer than expected since im busy and need to rush some things...and they understand eventually..although others think that its just an alibi..then its out my control anymore...

it seem thes days iam always busy doing something one thing after another.i don,t chat on line but i do be on the phone a lot though.i have so much family in town these days visiting.i don,t think i will be getting any rest to soon.merry christmas to you and your family

I tend to tell people I'm busy or working when i am and when i have time I let them know I'm not busy and open to chatting or visiting.

As many people before have confessed,I usually say I'm busy when I'm not:) Not all the time(I still have some conscience) but mostly at work-can't stand talking on the cell at work. My boss doesn't even mind when I use my phone at work-she knows I hate it and it'll be over soon.

I used to all the time but not anymore. As my friends and family would always come over and have coffee or eat go on my comp. and I got sick of my house not staying clean. I hope you have a good day. Your friend onlydia

i am the kind of person that wants to please everybody..so i dont want to disappoint a person if he/she wants to talk to me or visit me..

Nope. I am quick to let someone know that I am busy and rush them right off the phone.

i'm actually the opposite. i always say i'm busy. but that's true most of the time. i just can't seem to stay away from work

Yes, I actually say "Im not busy" when I really am busy because I want to be more busy. Sometimes, If I'm not at the mood maybe ill just say that I'm busy or DND :)