Is there someone you wish to make peace with?

@AmbiePam (48191)
United States
December 24, 2008 4:30am CST
I get the Purpose Driven Life devotional in my e-mail. This week I read one that talked about peace, and that Christmas was a good time to make peace with those we have a rift with. Not expecting for everyhing to be fixed, but as a step in the right direction. It is just a time of the year where we could try to mend fences and begin anew. I was wondering if there is anyone you all would like to make peace with? Perhaps it is someone whom you feel needs to take the first step because you have already tried? Do you feel your efforts are ignored? And do you really wish that peace could be between you and that person once again?
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@stephcjh (32328)
• United States
15 Jan 09
I have already made my peace. It was with my mom. I am glad we are talking and being together again now.
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@AmbiePam (48191)
• United States
15 Jan 09
That is good to know.
• Regina, Saskatchewan
27 Dec 08
I have made my peace, offered peace, been denied peace and been surprised at the peace offered to me. So I'd say I'm pretty well covered. lol Life's too short to carry a grudge - especially when the people involved are people you care about. So my New Year's resolution is to move forward in love and laughter, leave the past behind but keep the lessons learned, and always hope for the best. The only person that I will never have peace with, is my ex. But then, I'm told it's rather unnatural to be friends with your ex! ROFL Hugs to you AmbiePam and all the best for a peaceful New Year.
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@AmbiePam (48191)
• United States
28 Dec 08
Same to you. : )
@ellie333 (21029)
26 Dec 08
Hi AmbiePam, I have no unresolved issues with anyone that I wish to make peace with however I have chosen to forgive but not forget re a certain person but do not want them in my life again at all. I am a peace lovong person really and tend not to fall out with people. I will make a first move to reconcillation though whether o not I feel it was me in the right or wrong for peace sake. Life is too short to live arguing. Huggles. Ellie :D
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@AmbiePam (48191)
• United States
27 Dec 08
I went through something similar. I forgave this person so many times. One day I realized forgiving was fine, but I should get a clue and cut this person out of my life. She was very destructive, so while I forgave her, it just isn't good for me to be in contact with her.
@Opal26 (17691)
• United States
25 Dec 08
Hi ambie! Merry Christmas my very dear friend! I hope you have a wonderful holiday! Well, there are two people that I am not speaking to and I really don't think that I want to mend my relationship with either one of them. I know that this is the time to do it if I plan to, but I think I want to keep them both out of my life for very good reasons! They both deserve what they have gotten and I don't feel that I want them in my life and have given it careful thought. So I am going to stick to my decisions and leave things the way that they are. I don't like to be that way, but in both cases these two people have pushed me beyond my limit.
@AmbiePam (48191)
• United States
26 Dec 08
I had a friend like that. I can't even begin to say all the messes she would bring down on my head, but at times she was a good friend, and she was really funny. But after twenty years she did something that actually affected my job. After that I realized I needed to cut her out of my life. It didn't mean I wished her harm, I just knew what was best for me. And sometimes we all have to do what is best for ourselves.
@cynthiann (18619)
• Jamaica
24 Dec 08
Yes, ambiepam, I feel quite awful that a friend of 31 years will not take my calls. I cannot go and see her as she lives in Boston and I am not in the USA. We were so close for all of this time, writing to each other weekly before I could get a phone on the farm. so very close. Just over a year ago she told me that her bi racial daughter is marrying someone from my adopted country. Her husband came from my country. Her youngest daughter was 30 and I feel that she was old enough to choose whom she wanted to marry. But the first daughter had married a white American and this suited mny friend fine. I told her that her daughter had the right to choose who she wanted to marry and she should be glad that she was so happy. It is all because she herself does not care for her husband anymore, so she doesn't want her youngest child to marry someone from his country. she wil stay with her husband but it is awful when I visit as they live totally seperate lives. I felt that after a 30 year friendship then I could lovingly tell her that she must accept her daughter's choice. Well, she blew up and hasn't talked to me since. I call her but she won't take my calls. I feel so upset over this as I valued the friendship and find it hard ot believe that I couldn't tell her honestly what I thought. She did ask for my opinion and so I gave it in a loving way. I hope tha things will be alright between us but I now her to be stubborn and once she has finished with someone then that is that. she will not meet me half way. That's my story. Christmas Blessings
@AmbiePam (48191)
• United States
24 Dec 08
People just aren't prepared for honest answers when they ask opinions. After all that time, you of all people should be the one she could trust to be open with her as you were. I bet she misses you, but her pride is in the way of making peace with you.
@jillhill (37384)
• United States
24 Dec 08
Not for me.......but for my son and his wife. The situation between them is so bad I think they are headed for a divorce....and that makes me very sad. I don't think at this point they can recover the love that they had when they first got married. It's like a power struggle everyday and it's affecting my little granddaughter. So say a prayer please...that there at least can be some resolution to their marriage.....I love them both in different ways...he because he is my son and she because I feel sorry for her. The things someone normally gets from their mom..she has been getting from me. And though I try hard to be the replacement I will never be her mom....the one she really needs. I will support my son in whatever becomes of the situation..but it's hard not to be there for her too as she really doesn't have anyone to turn to. SHe doesn't talk to her dad and her mom wasn't born with real parenting skills or love..it's a very sad situation.
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@AmbiePam (48191)
• United States
24 Dec 08
And when someone grows up in an unhappy home like your DIL, I guess she doesn't really see how to deal with conflict in a healthy way. I don't know her of course, and that may not have anything to do with it. But I'll be saying a prayer, I really will. I hope they can renew their committment to each other and find that love that they once shared.
@vicki2876 (5640)
• Canada
24 Dec 08
Actually it would have been two people in my family. We haven't spoken for 6 years. I have tried to make efforts to reconnect but basically the efforts bore no fruit. I was hearing that they wanted to connect and everything but when I did there wasn't anything returned so I figured it really isn't wanted but they don't want to look bad and make it look like I am the one who is not wanting the relationship. The parting had to do with my falling out with another family member who has since past away and they picked her side over me. Which I understood they needed to do. I also had family members who went on my side for support. So there is a total rift in the family now and I can't make up with the original person. Nor would I want to because she was ill and a danger to my children. I hope for them that when they do have children they will understand why I needed to go to protect my children from her and that she was ill. But as for a reconnection between us I have recently accepted that at this point our lives have gone to the point that we are strangers and that they aren't really interested in being in my life and that is okay. I have a loving family and strong supportive community and friends that do care about me.
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@AmbiePam (48191)
• United States
24 Dec 08
I just wish people would realize they would feel so much better if they could see the other person's side. So perhaps you are right, when they have their own children they will understand and hopefully make it up to you.
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• China
29 Jan 09
Dear AmbiePam, I am now in the period of the Chinese New Year ,It has already pasted four days ,Tomorrow is the time we will visit my grandmother ,haha,a kind of happiness filled in my heart. Yeah,I do have that kind of person who I want to make peace with ,maybe this new year is the best time for us since we have more family and friends reunions .I will try my best to mend the rifts we have no matter whose fault really is ,but if this doesn't work and that person do not want to improve our relationship I will give up .There are so many things worth us concentrating our mind rather than that and of course so many people deserve our attention ......... Hope you are doing well;-) Molly~~~~~
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• Philippines
28 Jan 09
yes i really want to make peace with my bestfriend of 13 years. though we are still friends but its been a year that i havent communicate with him. for some reasons i know it hurts but i still have my pride. i make efforts but i guess its still the same old issue that we try to work thing out. i hope that time would heal all the wounds.
• United States
25 Dec 08
People that I might have done wrong to or that may have done wrong to me. I never mean to hurt anyone, and so I would like to make things right with anyone that I have ever hurt.
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• United States
24 Dec 08
I would like to make peace with my older sister. She harbors grudges against me from when we were kids. If you heard the reasons she is so mad at me still you would laugh, but she doesn't see it that way. Growing up she practically raised me, because both my parents worked and she is the one who watched me. The only thing I have against her is how she treats me now. But I'm ready to be the bigger one and not get drawn into an argument with her. I rarely see her or her kids, but when I do it is a tense situation and I wish it wouldn't be.
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@winterose (39922)
• Canada
24 Dec 08
no not really I am not at odds with anyone except one person and that person I choose not to have in my life, for several reasons and that is it,
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• Philippines
24 Dec 08
I don't know, coz everytime I get to interact with people, i don't look at them as someone I hate or despise. I always try to focus on the good side of the interaction. So if ever there was a conflict between me and the other person, I don't really see it as a conflict... but an opportunity to be able to help. In that we, we build bridges to harmony and peace on a daily basis and.. unconsciously.
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@nanajanet (4436)
• United States
24 Dec 08
Yes, and not because I did anything wrong but they think that I did or at least will not take credit for what they did wrong so it is better to blame me. I will always let bygones be bygones as I do not hold grudges. I never feel that life should be wasted holding grudges. I will try, for a while, and if there is no improvement in the situation, will put it in God's hands and leave it up to them.
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@dropofrain (1168)
• India
28 Jan 09
Inner peace for any individual is as unique as the design of a snowflake. Everyone is raised imperfectly, and has a complex of demons all their own, usually built out of their instincts gone awry (needs for food, love, shelter and possessions,) so that "calming the beast" has a specific direction (balance) and a unique route (individual course corrections.
@LittleMel (14055)
• Canada
25 Dec 08
If I feel I have wronged someone I will not waste time to go there and apologize. I won't wait until Christmas or hold on to my pride not admitting mistakes. If I am wronged I don't easily forgive but I don't necessarily make them feel guilty although if anyone asks what happened I would tell them everything so that they know my side of the story. I do however need to make peace with myself. I used to think that people did what they did to me because I let them do it. I realize now that I can't change what they did, but I can change how I deal with it. I'm still working on that.
@carmelanirel (20979)
• United States
24 Dec 08
Yes, a couple but it is still too new and they probably wouldn't sincerely would accept my friendship..:( Maybe next year...