Do you read discussions thoroughly?

@mssnow (9484)
United States
January 17, 2009 7:47am CST
Have you ever read a discussion then answered it then reread it later only to find out you didn't read it right so your answer makes no sense??? Yesterday I read through a discussion (maybe i was distracted or some thing) I answered it, then the person who started the discussion answered me and from the way she answered i figured i should go back and reread it. Although it wasn't way off it wasn't really the answer she wanted. I felt kinda dumb but just left it and went on to other discussions. From now on I'll read them twice if i have too. Have you ever done this and what did you do to correct it??
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17 responses
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
17 Jan 09
I've done it sometimes especially when I'm tired...God, the things that come out of my head when I'm half awake I just chalk it up to old age and move on LOL [b]**AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~[/b]
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@mssnow (9484)
• United States
17 Jan 09
Hello my friend. its good to see you. I am glad i am not the only one :) thanks :)
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• United States
17 Jan 09
Yeah that has appened to me also. I have gotten in to the habit of reading it like three times beofre I actually answer. I haven't actually done anything to correct it. Like you I just go on to the next discussion.
@mssnow (9484)
• United States
17 Jan 09
wow three time lol i guess i should too
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
19 Jan 09
A friend recently quite rightfully put me straight about not reading her discussion properly about answering the phone when you are in the toilet I thought she meant the landline when in actual fact she was talking about the cellphone/mobile phone, so I was quite embarrassed about it, and when I read it again she was totally right I felt like such an idiot but she was real nice about it, I don't usually make these kind of mistakes Princess ;0)
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@mssnow (9484)
• United States
19 Jan 09
Hi Wlfie, Nobody is perfect even you and i have our flaws lol xxxxxx
@polachicago (18716)
• United States
17 Jan 09
Sometimes discussion is very complicated, hard to know what they mean or what answer they are looking for. For example, if someone is discussing personal life with pictures, it is very hard to comment, because for me it is not the discussion, but commenting about someones life.... Same with jokes or recipes.... Also, some discussions are pure statements, not discussions per say, I never know what to say... Some discussions are very confusing and with very sweet, innocent answer, people can feel offended and upset... You never know... HUGS
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@mssnow (9484)
• United States
17 Jan 09
i agree some people take offense when the person meant no harm at all. I think we should remember that we cant see the person so we dont see their emotions or body language . So we might interpret something differently.
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@rymebristol (1808)
• Philippines
17 Jan 09
yes,definitely.cause that's the basis for our responses. it's not enough that we just posted a comment with no sense at all. remember that this is an international open forum site. one time i tried searching for an article on Yahoo, and guess what...on top of my search is a section on myLot.com responses with sense and valuable facts are being posted on search engines.
@mssnow (9484)
• United States
17 Jan 09
Yes i understand that and i know it was dumb on my part lol thanks
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• China
18 Jan 09
I will read the discussion thoroughly if it is posted by myself,if others I will not,since taht takes too much time ,one will pay much attention to the discussion posted by oneself
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
18 Jan 09
That makes no sense. The whole object of being here is to read what others post... If reading others posts takes too much time...how can you expect to give a proper reply. I pay less attention to my posts and always check out what others have written...that's what myLot is about.
@jhartana (1084)
• Australia
18 Jan 09
Yeah I always read it in full first before I reply. This is to avoid any misunderstanding...this was also done before I post my reply to someone.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
18 Jan 09
sometimes I have done that, but other times I do not give them the answer they want because some say would you do this or would you do that, and if I wouldn't do either of them I just tell them that. Some don't like it but they asked the question and they got an honest answer from me.
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
18 Jan 09
Oh yes, I've done that. Or I have missed the main point completely. Like, I answer from my email alerts (slaps self on wrist) without reading the other responses. So when my response is posted, then I read the whole discussion and I realise everyone else has taken a whole different look at the discussion. Only once have I been the person who understood and answered the original post properly.
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
18 Jan 09
I usually do read and don't respond if I am not sure, but it has happened a few times when I am here very late and already tired that I have been a bit off in my response. I think we all have our days where we are not really that focused, but people that follow our discussions can see that it's not our usual response.
@yxinxin (467)
• China
18 Jan 09
I read through a discussion and if I have something to say, I respond. Sometimes my respond is not the one the poster wants but it is because I think differently, not because of carelessness.
@weasel81 (2496)
• Australia
19 Jan 09
i usually read the entire discussion, before i decide to answer. i only answer if it's worth answering, and i usually have to read the starting topic a few times before i start typing. cause i don't always make sense in what i'm writing
@camomom (7535)
• United States
19 Jan 09
I have done this and you're right it does make you feel dumb. I've gotten responses like that on my own discussions also. I usually go back and tell them how dumb I feel and apologize and re-answer them.
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
19 Jan 09
At least you hold your hands up and can be bothered to go back and address the discussion correctly and apologize, so many people never bother to return so intent on making an extra cent, to them it's so what, I ain't bothered. I admire people who actually take the time out to correct their mistakes and be responsible for their mistakes. A worthy quality indeed.
@camomom (7535)
• United States
19 Jan 09
Thank you very much.
@mariposaman (2959)
• Canada
18 Jan 09
Not really. There is not much point in answering a question you have not read, it wastes your own time and the time of everyone else that is scratching their head wondering what this person is talking about. I read the original question at least carefully and skim the answers, although the first page is usually read carefully and the so it the last page to make sure of the tone of the answers already and to make sure my answer is not already amongst the ones given.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
18 Jan 09
Yes. I have done this also. I have had to go back and apologise for my first response. I then go back and respond with more to explain the first one and reply with another response also.
• United States
17 Jan 09
Some discussions you can read through once and know what kind of response they are looking for. While others I do read twice because I want to make sure I understand what the person is looking for. When I first joined here I did do that once. After that happened I paid close attention to the discussions because I want to make sure I am answering what the person is asking for.
@aisaellis22 (6445)
• United States
18 Jan 09
Hello mssnow! Honestly, I haven't experienced it yet. Maybe because when I answered a discussion, I made it sure that I understand fully what the discussion means. If I don't understand the question, I will go through those other responses so that I will have an idea what is it all about and that's the time I will respond to the discussion. I know how you feel about it mssnow. Maybe you're embarassed and that you might think the owner of the discussion will think that you're not reading the discussion..hehehe