The facts of life ,should men only talk to boys and women the girls ?

@ronnyb (6120)
Jamaica
January 17, 2009 8:14am CST
When its time to talk about the facts of life ,is it a good idea for women to only talk to the girls and men ,the boys ,so that everyone is kept in the area of expertise. Or do you think it is a better idea to mix it up a bit so that the boys get an idea of what is happening to the females from a females perspective and the girl from a male perspective ? Or do you think it should be a male to girls and females to boys pairing? How did you do it when your children reached puberty and if you don’t have children ,how do you think it should be done ?
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
17 Jan 09
i was never comfortable talking to my boys about that. i think by the time i got around to it they probably knew more than i did.lol
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@CRSunrise (2964)
• United States
20 Jan 09
I don't think that JUST men should talk to boys, and women should talk to girls. It should be a two way street. There are going to be those times when it has to be a role reversal discussion. However, it'd be a lot easier if that were the case because girls are not going to listen to a man talk about periods and stuff, and boys are going to find it emarrassing to have their mothers talk to them about wet dreams. The message will come across a lot better if the mother talks to their daughter about this things, and the same with men.
@bellis716 (4806)
• United States
20 Jan 09
It seems to me that it would depend on the child and their relationship with the parent. Probably it would be beneficial for each parents to talk with the child at different times.
• Nepal
19 Jan 09
yes, its' good to mix of sometimes. But not good all times.Interest of boys,girls,man,& woman also shows roles on it.Cause i talks or mix up with very few in finger count
@kezabelle (2985)
18 Jan 09
I think a bit of both really, I only have girls but i do think when they are older it wont hurt for them to get a males point of view on the facts of life aswell as mine although to be honest mine and their dads views are pretty much the same, respect yourself and always make your OWN choices and they wont go far wrong. However for learning about what is happening to their bodies then yes women for girls and men for boys where possibly because ultimatley they are going to understand better what is happening to the child and how best to deal with it lets face it my partner while he isnt stupid couldnt give them every fact they need on periods and the such having never had to have one its a bit like him explaining child birth to them he could give them the facts but not the emotion the pain etc that only I felt being the one who went through it
• United States
18 Jan 09
i was a single mom of both boys and girls so I had to do the talking I do not think it matters much as long as they learn
@snowcat46 (2323)
• United States
18 Jan 09
It depends on who's more comfortable with the conversation, or who loses the coin toss. We both talked to our daughter. I answered her questions, and gave her the facts of life. Then she went to dad to find out if I knew what I was talking about. Since he's a boy, she figured he'd know more about what goes on. Kids have a need to double-check things. (That way they might be able to find a way out of whatever you told them) I think kids should get more than one person's view. I helped my nephew with his marriage more than I was able to help my daughter. His mother was able to help my daughter when her son wouldn't listen to her. Kids always think anyone else knows more than you do. Have a support group of adults for your kids to talk to. they'll believe them more than they will you.
@noniefam (284)
• Indonesia
18 Jan 09
its not good idea if men only talk with boy n women only talk with girl. we r same so we have challange or oportunity to get all friend without except. we can talk with girls n boys.
• United States
18 Jan 09
I believe that it is the responsibility of both parents to take on the education of their children. If both parents can make contributions to the discussion, it helps to see it from different viewpoints. In the case of a single parent, however, perhaps you would get help from a close family member, like a trusted aunt, uncle, or even a cousin close to your child's age that may have an easier time relating to your child. I am not looking forward to the discussion with my two girls, but I have a little time, they are both under 6 years old.
@Barb42 (4216)
• United States
17 Jan 09
Not all families have the luxury of the father being around. My daughter has 3 boys and 1 daughter. Her husband left her 9 years ago, so she's been the lone parent to teach both boys and girls. AND, mind you, she talks to them all, and even to their friends when they are around. Seems lots of parents do not talk to their kids. My daughter said she didn't want any child she knew to have an unexpected, unwanted pregnancy. She knows how kids can be, and how they view themselves of knowing it all, and they won't get in trouble. And she burst a lot of bubbles on that regard. And those kids respect her. She once had a couple teenagers tell her that they wished their Mom was that open. She grills the boy and girlfriends of her kids because she wants them to know they have to be responsible. I've known many Dads who tell their boys that they just need to protect themselves from getting a girl pregnant, not that the boy should respect the girl and NEVER push himself on anyone! Sometimes parents send the wrong message to their kids. Kids 'listen' to what we say, not what we might mean. And if you don't get the message just right, they are going to get the wrong message. Times are so much different in these days than it was in my young life or even my kids' lives. Kids are more independent and you have to really be on top of things to reach some of them. I believe television and the computer and cell phones have made this a completely different generation!
@SHAMRACK (8532)
• India
17 Jan 09
Dear friend, I hope it has to be rethink with experts who could dealt this matter much flexible. As each kid has their own ways. May from my personal opinion it may be not right to certain times as long I have seen situations. But this may change in every groups and may every where. Hence I hope change is also to taken into consideration.
• Romania
17 Jan 09
This is the responsibility of both parents (though sometimes children know more than parents actually do :) ).
• Philippines
17 Jan 09
since i was single parenting, i handled single handedly all of my three kids while they were growing up. i have a girl, the eldest and followed by two boys for that matter. i believe that it would be better if the girls will be exposed to some facts of life also from the men's point of view, as well as, the boys be given also some opportunity to learn something about girls. although men for boys and women for girls is a fine thing in itself, somehow it will be better if the boys and girls are well equipped with knowledge coming from both sides.