Still involved?

@bamakelly (5194)
United States
January 29, 2009 9:07am CST
Do you worry if your children will still be involved in your life even after they grow up? I know that I worry about that because I have a five year old and I wish to remain close to him even after he grows up and leaves the nest.
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@barehugs (8986)
• Canada
30 Jan 09
I am 75 and still involved with the Farm work. My oldest son has stayed home to work with me. He has his own equipment and livestock, we work well together, and have a Great time doing it. We both Love our work. The secret to working well with your children is to begin when they are young to give them the love and respect that you would like them to give to you. Children are small adults, and should be treated as such. Corporal Punishment is not suitable between adults, and by the same token, should not be used with Children. When there is a problem take time to sit down with your child and talk about it. Make a deal as you would with an adult. "You do this for me, and I'll do that for you." You will find that this approach always works well, and your child will grow up loving you for it.
@dragon54u (31615)
• United States
29 Jan 09
Don't worry about it. If you're close to your child and you enjoy spending time together he will be close to you when he grows up. My own two sons call me a lot, even though they live 1800 miles away. Be honest with your son, never lie to him, answer all his questions even if they make you uncomfortable. He'll love you and rely on your advice throughout his adult life.
@jessi0887 (2794)
• United States
29 Jan 09
I think if my son is like my fiance he will remain close. My fiance is a momma's boy and my son seems to be like that as well. I do hope it remains.
@ravinskye (8242)
• United States
29 Jan 09
I worry about it too. I want to always be a part of my kids lives. I hope that they grow up and decide to still live close to home so that I can see them often. I think about friends of mine who ended up moving out of state and hours away from their parents. i think I would be heart broken. I would move to be with my child but since I have 3 that would be hard if they all go in different directions lol.
@Kat4676 (474)
• United States
29 Jan 09
I do worry about that, especially with my daughters as I went through a rough divorce with their father and it was very hard on them. I have a five year old boy as well and I hope we all can stay close. Kat