If you've been given a chance to become a HOUSE WIFE will you take it?

India
January 30, 2009 12:33am CST
This discussion is for everybody here!! Women and Men both are invited!! I know many of you will say that I love to work & will choose to work rather than sit ideal at my home!! I had the same answer some months ago. But it has changed now. Yes People love keeping themsleves busy as empty mind is a devils home. I have many other things to keep my self busy rather than going for some boring 9am to 6pm jobs!! I love Sketching and creating stuffs with that I love dancing and singing and cooking!! But I would hate to do sketching whole of the day!! or dancing, or singing and Yes photography!! So If I have been given a chance to become a house wife I would surely take it(if and only if the salary of my husband is MORE than enough) And with that amount of time I will do things I never got to do in my childhood!! I will join a Dance class and learn all types of dance forms and may be become a teacher there itself later. I will become a summer school art teacher. I would love to do some thing in Photography as well. And will have the time of my life Now what do you have to say about this? Will you choose to become a house wife?
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28 responses
@eagle_f15 (2054)
• Malaysia
30 Jan 09
Hi Stella......I used to work in an organization but after resigning 2 years ago, I have been working from home. So I guess I can consider myself as a house wife working from home. I teach music classes from home and sell online. But if one day I were to stop teaching music and when there are children to take care...I wouldn't mind. I would still be earning spare cash by myLotting and selling online and active in Tupperware......all from home having the time to cook, take care of kids and still earn money..........I am a person who is on the go all the time...when is there ever a time I am free or bored or have nothing to do ?? I can't recall.
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@zweeb82 (5718)
• Malaysia
30 Jan 09
She's my home engineer
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• India
30 Jan 09
Nice.. Even I am some how like you. I prefer doing small small things rather than broing my self in a desk job. Even I don't get bored .. even when I am all alone!! Thanks for your response!!
@eagle_f15 (2054)
• Malaysia
30 Jan 09
Yeah Stella we the same - all alone and never bored. Can always find something to do...
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@Rustinas1 (440)
• United States
31 Jan 09
Hi Stella. I wish you the best and hope you can and will do all that you can do and wonderful you have a husband that loves that to. My husband loves that I'm at home more and more. Unfortunately, I've become an at home House Wife and not by choice. The jobs around here are very scarse and as of today, my home care for the elderly has ended due to cutting of funds. Slowing, and over months, the hours were slowly dwindling. I went from 40 hours a week to 6 hours a month! That was hard and a strain financially. I do sometimes enjoy being at home, but over the last 6 months, it's getting old. My husband tries to help out as he can, but he's always broke and strapped. I try to do some odd jobs here and there from house cleaning to babysitting to help with bills, but it's not enough. I just miss having my own job, self confidence and money. Not that money is everything, but if I had my own income, and after paying what needs to be paid first, it would be nice to go out and buy a cup of coffee. I've never been one to rely on people, I've always done for myself, and it's all just new and weird to me. I just miss having even 5-10 dollars in my pocket for the week and hey, if I want a cup of coffee I can actually stop and get one.
• India
2 Feb 09
hmm I get the picture of what you are going through right now.. Life is not that easy .. I know. Don't worry.. you have a loving husband with you. This a phase and it will pass by.. and you will be free again... and independent!!
• India
2 Feb 09
I get the picture of what you are going through right now.. Don't worry at least you have a loving husband with you!! You will be free again and independent
@sacmom (14317)
• United States
30 Jan 09
Yes, I would taken it. In fact, I did take it. After I became pregnant with my oldest child I quit my job. As it could have been dangerous to my baby's health, it was recommended by my boss that I quit, so I did. I wasn't going to risk the health of my baby, no matter how much I enjoyed my job. Okay, so I didn't everything about it, but I enjoyed the majority of it for the most part. Although I'd like to get a job outside of the home, it just isn't practical at the moment. Maybe one day...
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• India
30 Jan 09
Okay.. So you actually want to be a working woman who became a house wife because of her child? Or you just saying that you loved wroking.. most of its part because you got so used to of it??
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@sacmom (14317)
• United States
31 Jan 09
In a way, yes. I didn't really have much work experience when I became pregnant 12 years ago. Maybe a year at the most. It's not that I don't like being a stay at home mom, I just want to be able to contribute to the household financially.
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@vicky30 (4777)
• India
5 Feb 09
If i was given a chance to be a house wife.i wold not take it.It is a very tough job to just spend time at home.I would love to got out and make friends outside.I would also love to do some shopping outside and pass time. i would also prefer to eat outside food than my own home cooked food.
• India
5 Feb 09
You don't like home cooked food..? Trust me you're gonna miss home cooked food.. once you get out of house. I do like got eat out but I prefer keeping it in balance. Home cooked and outside.. Its all about "variety" in my life. Thanks for your response.
• China
2 Feb 09
I think I will choose to keep my job. The relations between work and life is dynamic and reciprocal, what work offers is not only salary, but also a sense of independence, accomplishment, and challenge. Besides, it helps to form a healthy and regular life style, since you have to get up early to work, and go to bed early for enough sleep. So as far as I am concerned, being a house wife seems to mean free time and easy life, who knows?
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• India
2 Feb 09
Yes.. One should go for a house wife option only when you think you are stable and secure enough!!! I know that you never know whats ahead in your life.. But at last I would only say that you will have to trust someone at last. Thanks for your response.
@hdjohnson (2981)
• United States
2 Feb 09
My wife is already a homemaker She has been for the past 7 years, every since our 1st child was born, we decided it would be in our best interest as a young family for her to stay home with our children. Now to this day, there has not been a moment of regret or second thought that it wasn't the right thing to do. My wife isn't idle at all. She is a smart woman, very beautiful (actually the most beautiful woman on this planet for me), and she doesn't sit around the house idle. She writes blogs, she is extremely creative and has a diverse background, including graphic art design and many other administrative skills. She has a degree in biology, she has a lot of knowledge about nutrition. She knows how to cook, be a mother to our children, a wife to me her husband, and a teacher to our children as she homes schools them. Yes indeed, I enjoy and thank God for my wife as often as I can.
• India
2 Feb 09
wow...! Good to hear that you have perfect match with you!!! Congrats for that man!! Thanks for your response.
• United States
31 Jan 09
At one time, I thought it was something I wouldn't be interested in. Now, my partner works often, I work with him sometimes, and when I am off, I take care of the house and such. I do not have to work, I choose to so I can see him, as if I were not able to work there with him, I probably would not, and he might eventually even find somewhere else to work as well. You do have a lot more freetime as a housewife, but I have found that it is not too fun, and the drive to do those things that we did not have time for before, fades when I am alone. I am sure for many, that is not a problem, but I suppose I just feel like I would rather spend my time with him, even if we were mostly broke. You sound like you have a lot of plans, keep with it and such, and I am sure you will enjoy it.
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• India
2 Feb 09
hmm.. I know.. you don't have that much of time... specially when there small kids around. thanks for your response. I wonder why people say being a house wife is very boring!!
@trixyteddy (1072)
• India
31 Jan 09
I've seen both sides. I would like to blend in both, being a housewife and well as work. That way we don't get stagnant and irritable. Variety is the spice of life my dear.
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• India
2 Feb 09
I am kinda like that as well... That is why I don't want to stay in one job.. But I guess after an age.. you like one job with fixed timings better..
@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
31 Jan 09
I don't know of too many housewives that are idle. There is too much work to do to sit around all the time. I'm not a wife at the moment, but I do stay home 24/7. There is always something I can find that needs done. Or hobbies I can find usually to keep me busy. Occasionally I get bored, but luckily that doesn't last long.
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• India
2 Feb 09
hmm that happens with me as well!!
@becdmd (705)
• Philippines
30 Jan 09
hmm...I think I would take it as long as my husband is a good provider like you already said, I know it may sound boring to just stay at the house, doing all the chores, but I think being a housewife has a lot of advantages...I'll b able to take good care of our child and being able to do other things productive like learning to cook better, to learn painting, photography, designing...anything that makes a housewife busy. In that way, I may not regret leaving my career.(^_^)
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• India
31 Jan 09
Yes.. But don't leave your career completely.. Stay in touch with it!! thanks for responding!
@djmarion (4901)
• Philippines
30 Jan 09
i never imagine myself to be stucked in a house forever, i am a working woman and i love keeping myself busy but being a housewife isn't as boring as what you think. infact being a house wife is also as rewarding as a good career since you can spend all your time planning how to be a perfect wife and a perfect mother to your kids, isn't that rewarding to be told as "mom you're the best". besides we can be a stay at home mom and still enjoy our lives.
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• India
31 Jan 09
Yes exactly.. so don't call it as being stuck in your house.. Enjoy every part of it. Thanks for your response.
@bellaofchaos (11550)
• United States
30 Jan 09
Been there done that, and I hate to say I prefer work .. I'm a workaholic by nature that being said I wouldn't have changed being a stay at home mom/wife/girlfriend for the world I got a lot of valuable time spent with my kids but I miss work terribly and I get cranky and frustrated when I don't work.. So I would have to say that I would chose work.
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• India
31 Jan 09
Nice and honest!! Thanks for your response!
@sunita64 (6474)
• India
30 Jan 09
Believe me being a housewife is a full time profession if you care about your home and your family. How the day passes as a housewife you do not even get sundays, when everybody is home then some special treat everyone wants.So being a housewife does not mean to sit ideal at home.
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• India
31 Jan 09
I know that.. I am not saying that being a house wife is an easy job.. You you need time management every where in you life. And yes this applies to house wifes too. Ofcourse with infants it is 24hours job!! But when they grow a little and starts going to school themselves.. My mother is a working women she joined her office right after I turned 1 and half years.. Yes we had a care taker. But still I believe that this is all about time management!! Thanks for yourr response!!
@tmae87 (17)
• United States
30 Jan 09
I am currently working and I have to admit...I'd looove to be a housewife. I'd love to sleep in and enough time in the day to do things that I enjoy. I am currently pregnant and being able to stay home with my daughter would make me the happiest person. Unfortunantly...financially it isn't smart right now but if we could afford it..I'd do it in a heartbeat. I'd beable to do so many things I enjoy.
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• India
31 Jan 09
Oh.. don't worry.. I am sure that you know about.. "When life gives lemons , you make lemonades" God to hear about your daughter!! Congrats and all the best for your new baby!! Thankyou for your response!
@dd2008 (8)
• China
30 Jan 09
Hi,stella. Well,I donnot get married yet.I got a job two years ago.I feel tried sometimes and at this moment, maybe it will be a good idea to be a happy full-time house wife.However,if I have such a chance,I may be afraid of it. Because I am sensitive in my life.I cannot belive someone completely even though he will be my future husband.I think it is absolutely safe when depending on myself.On the other hand, I am puzzeled when being a house wife at home.And I donnot know what to do and how to spend the time?
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• India
31 Jan 09
Oh yes... You have got a point the there... There is something called independence.. And yes financially too!! Because you never know what is kept for you in future!! Thanks for your real good response dd
@djemba (767)
• India
30 Jan 09
Well i am single but i know life will be exciting as a working lady. But i dont want to stuck up in the 0900 to 1700 job every day. Regardless of whether you are tired, you are not in a mood to go etc. For me life as a housewife is much better. I know how to keep myself busy all day long. I dont prefer flouting my freedom. There is so much to learn, read and innovate in so many phases of life that it is worthless sacrificing your whole life on a particular subject or working in office.
• India
31 Jan 09
YES Exactly!!! There is so much to learn in this world.. Thanks for your response djemba!!
@siomaiii (238)
• Philippines
30 Jan 09
I'm not yet married. But just in case my future husband would ask me to quit my job and stay at home to take care of the family, then I think it will be fine. As long as my husband will assure me that he can provide us good life. We can send our children to school that offers quality education. We can live in a comfortable home. We can eat at least three times a day, and so on and so forth.
• India
30 Jan 09
good.. I mean I have no craze for working day and night!! Thankyou for your response!!
@Lindery (854)
• Latvia
30 Jan 09
I am glad to become a house wife really soon because on March I am on maternity leave. I am happy to be full time mum for my first baby who will be born on May, and will be happy to be full time mum for my other kids. I think kids are only reason to stay at home and be a house wife. My partner doesn't earn millions to maintain my every will, so no point to sit home just to be a house wife and do useless things. If my situation would allow me to improve myself while being a house wife (if I am house wife without having little kids) then I would probably think differently.
• India
30 Jan 09
Exactly.. Thats why I have that "only" condition in my discussion.. lol We can't live in a fairy tale you know.. I started this discussion to know what people actually think about being a house wife. In my surroundings I've been hearing this a lot that NO I DO NOT want to become a house wife!! I just wanted to say .. "if given a chance then why not?
@spalladino (17927)
• United States
30 Jan 09
I've been both a housewife and a working woman and I have to say that I prefer to work because I feel that I have to contribute more to the household than cooking and cleaning. I'm not good at being a housewife either...someone told me once that I had no "home training" and she's probably right. I am much more suited for the working world because that's where my talents are.
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@yadav8797 (1211)
• India
2 Feb 09
hi friend, thanks for responding the discussion. i really happy to hear that you are working as a wife as well as working woman.you are playing two roles together.its great to hear friend.so, earning money by act as a wife a great job. are you have playing the role of mommy as too.do you have kids over the home. happy mylotting
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@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
1 Feb 09
I was a housewife for four years until I completed my journalism course. Since then I have been working from home doing what I love which is writing. I don't make as much as I would like but I would not change my situation. I have the best of both worlds. I don't think there is anything wrong with choosing to be a housewife and I know several women who are very happy in that role. I feel that I need to do something with my days that has been a passion since childhood.
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