Have you ever been denied?
By dreamertink
@dfollin (24172)
United States
January 30, 2009 9:25am CST
I always wonder when I ask someone to be my friend,if they are going to deny me.Do you deny friends? Have you ever been denied? Do you wonder like I do if you are going to be denied or not? I get a notice when Iam accepted as a friend.But,does anyone know if they let you know if you have been denied?
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@Yestheypayme2dothis (7874)
• United States
30 Jan 09
I never notice if I have been denied as I am always doing a lot of things. However, I do not deny anyone unless they are really nasty people, or into very evil things (I look at their profile), or those who worship Obama. The last one is simply because I know I will never agree on much with that person.
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@dfollin (24172)
• United States
30 Jan 09
Well,I guess that we cannot be friends then.I do not worship Obama,but I did vote for him and follow what he asked about us working together.Even Obama does not expect anyone to worship him,just like him and work with him to make this a better country.Let me know how you feel about being friends with me.
@Yestheypayme2dothis (7874)
• United States
31 Jan 09
I feel that people are free to vote for him if they want to. I don' tell people what to do. You can take the word worship losely...not literally. If you take a look at what he is doing these days with supporting international abortion when we have people in our country who have no places to live...it is very hard to support him. I do not respect what he is putting on the plate for the American people. Think of the money he is spending on things that will not work. I could put many links here about what he is doing, but it is out there for everyone to see.
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@dfollin (24172)
• United States
31 Jan 09
Ok,that is your opinion about him.But mine is different.But,what does that have to do with this discussion of being denied? And I asked you does that mean that we cannot be online friends and you did not answer.
And what you were just talking about.Ok,I do not believe in abortion unless it is necessary like for a medical reason,which I had to do and don't regret it.There is another myLotter who was disagreeing with me about supporting President Obama saying that he has made a law to support abortion and that will keep people from adopting babies in this country.But,I agree with what you said about there are lots of people out hear homeless.I am very close to it myself,we are staying in a hotel.My adult son sleeps on someone's couch.I am confused thouy now you are saying that he wants to outlaw abortion.It can't be both ways.You said that you have links to prove it.She says that she researched it.Now,when I was deciding who to vote for McCain wanted to outlaw abortion completely so that means that if there is anyone in the same medical circumstance that I was would not be able to have the abortion.I was told that Obama did not want to outlaw it.
This is just a note in addition to what this discussion is about.Please answer my question.Thank you.
@teka44 (3420)
• Brazil
30 Jan 09
Hi dfollin. Yes, it happened to me twice. I ask for two persons to be my friends and they denied me LOL. I never more ask someone to be my friend after this. If I remember well I got a message from mylot. And yes, I always accept who ask to be my friend because I think that it is a good thing if someone like my responses and discussions and want to be my friend. I think that is a rude thing denied someone that you don't know.
Have a nice day.
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@dfollin (24172)
• United States
30 Jan 09
Awww! You should not be friends with people just because two people didn't want to be your friend.Sometimes there are some rude people here and everywhere.I will be your friend.You should go on and ask people to be your friend.If they choose to be your friend great,if they don't then that's their loss!
@dfollin (24172)
• United States
2 Feb 09
Thank you.I have not figured out why someone would deny you.
You have a great day as well.
Cheers and have a good day.
@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
30 Jan 09
I don't think you get any notices for when you are denied. I have never been denied before. I was once ignored when I put a friends request in, after a few days I just cancelled the request. I usually accept all friends request. Also every now and then I go thru and delete some. Its hard to find someone your looking for when you have so many pages of friends. I have also denied a few, I first look at teir profile, if they are new and just collecting lots of friends and aren't participating in mylot. I usually leave the request up for a few days to see what they are doing. I have a circle of friends here that I consider friends. I do have room for more, but I don't need to have a big number of friends.
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@dfollin (24172)
• United States
30 Jan 09
You are my closest friend here and I have a few other close friends.Then I have a lot of friends here that I am not so close to.I usually accept everyone as a friend.Usually once or twice a month I go thru and delete friends that have appeared to not be intrested in participating in mylot.
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@deborahkat (519)
• Brazil
30 Jan 09
I think everybody must wonder if they will be denied or not to be friends. At least i do but as I am used to accept anybody and everybody and feel really happy when someone adds me as a friend I think everybody will do that. We are here to make new friends and share knowledge and things, at least mylot is made for that. And no, at least here I never could know if I was denied or not, but I don´t know if they let you know that here.
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@dfollin (24172)
• United States
31 Jan 09
You have a great outlook.I do believe that's why mylot is here too.
@jessi0887 (2788)
• United States
30 Jan 09
I don't think i have been denied. I haven't denied anyone. I don't know why someone would denie unless someone was just on here typing random stuff that didn't make sense.
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@dfollin (24172)
• United States
31 Jan 09
I denied one person that recently did start a discussion that made no sense.I think that they were just trying to get points towards payment by starting a discussion.
@eichs1 (1934)
• Philippines
30 Jan 09
I'm always flattered when someone thinks I can be their friend here, so, no, I won't deny anyone who requests for it. I really like having more friends because somehow, they generate my interest on topics/things that they started for discussion.
As for being denied, ouch! Four or six members here did not accept my invitation. They might haven't noticed my request or they may have been off-line for a week, or... I'm not sure. I let the requests stayed for a week and when they were not accepted, I deleted them all. I don't want to keep the requests longer because I don't want to impose anything on anyone.
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@dfollin (24172)
• United States
30 Jan 09
I think you are right and you seem to be a good friend to people.
@onesiobhan (1327)
• Canada
1 Feb 09
I used to - I didn't want my friends list to become too crowded so I'd figure out who I most likely to want to respond to and just add them.
Now I don't deny anybody - I figured out the more, the merrier when it comes to mylot.
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
31 Jan 09
I accept anyone who asks, but it does not matter if he or she will decide to no longer be my friend. I did go through a purge a while ago when I decided to get rid of the friends who sort of loved animals more then people, and those who were pro-abortion, of course that meant I would be unable to turn them around since I usually just go to the friends started and they did to.
So it seemed that most of them requested friendship again. The only way if you know if someone denies friendship is if they write you and tell you. Usually you have no idea. And if you have so many friends, you do not realize it.
You just have to answer the posts that they have that they do not snap your head off. Then you will be all right.
@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
30 Jan 09
Not so far I haven't.. I do have one person that I had to request her friendship again as she accidentally got deleted but I don't think that she is on Mylot anymore, because I have never heard from her and there has been no activity on her account.. I can't imagine why anyone would deny someone else, but I am not that savvy about all of the goings on of Mylot.. Have a great day..
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@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
2 Feb 09
on here i don't, but on myspace page my main page i will deni people if i don't know them, or they don't know any of my friends. but on my music page on myspace i will add anyone because it's a chance getting my music out there.
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@hdjohnson (2981)
• United States
2 Feb 09
I have been denied before. At first I took it a little personal, but then I thought this person doesn't really know me, and they probably don't want anything to do with me as a result of not really knowing my character. Which is why I rarely request for friendships from anyone. I usually accept all friendships that are requested of me, unless they have a very strange user name or have a very weird looking avatar photo. Other than that why reason do I have to be upset with anyone? It's their life and if they don't want me to be apart of it, then fine.
@camomom (7535)
• United States
1 Feb 09
I hinestly don't care if I'm denied. I think if someone denies you that they must have their own reasons for it. I don't need to know why, It's their right to deny me. I would like to be accepted but it's not a big deal if I'm not. I honestly don't think I've ever been denied but I have been deleted. I didn't care about that either because I'm better off without that particular "friend". I don't know if you're notified about being denied or not. I think I've only denied 1 or 2 people, for my own personal reason's.
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@messageme (2821)
• United States
2 Feb 09
I dont think they let you know if you have been denied or not. I will never deny anyone that requests to be my friend, I believe in giving everyone a first chance. however, I have deleted someone as one of my friends after a month or two. Others I may put their notify to off because I don't believe they are here to make friends only to earn and get responses to their discssions. Which to me if you want to be someones friend then be their friend don't just expect everyone to respond to your discussions and then never return the favor. Overall, most of my friens are friends and very active with loyalty. I appreciate all of them!!
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@SmilingAngelia (25)
• China
2 Feb 09
if i want to deny a friend,i may keep silence.as time goes by,he or she will know that,i think.
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
30 Jan 09
I mostly accept all the requests I get. I wait and see how many posts or responses they have made before I accept them. I started getting spam pms and comments on my profile page so I mostly accept those who have at least several discussions and responses under their belt.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
30 Jan 09
i don't know if they notify you when u are denied or not. i have never been notified that i was. i have denied a few. it was because i didn't think we'd have anything in common but it's been a very few.
@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
30 Jan 09
Lol.. that's the thing that I wouldn't want to know.. that I am denied by someone whom I ask as a friend. That is the reason why I am not requesting people to add me.. oh!! just this time because I have lots of friends. hehehe but for me? I never deny an invitation from someone to be added, I always accept even if they newbies like 3 posts or 5 posts only. I am glad they want me to be their friends but if their purpose is to add me so that they will recruit me to be their down line for something? I will delete their name on my list. Lol. I want real friends not the opportunist. LOL.
@princessgar (203)
• Malaysia
30 Jan 09
When I was in primary school...being denied of friendship was just there most of the days so much so that getting out of school as fast as possible was just what I wanted, not that I didn't have friends, but in kids it was easy to say "I don't want to friend you". I guess it's in people to move into a friendship once they've actually got positive signals that the friendship is already there with smiles and nods... :)
Princess
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