What are your thoughts on the mother who gave birth to Octuplets this week?

This what I am reading in the news.. Los Angeles - The woman who gave birth to octuplets this week conceived all 14 of her children through in vitro fertilization, is not married and has been obsessed with having children since she was a teenager, her mother said. Angels Suleman tole The Associated Press she was not supportive when her daughter, Nady Suleman, decided to have more embryos implanted last year. "It can't go on any longer," she said in the phone interview Friday. "She's got six children and no husband. I was brought up the traditional way. I firmly believe in marriage. But she didn't want to get married." Nadya Suleman, 33, gave birth Monday in nearby Bellflower. She was expected to remain in the hospital for at least a few more days, and her newborns for at least a month. A spokeswoman at Kaiser Permanente Bellflower Medical Center said the babies were progressing daily, with all eight breathing unassisted and being tube-fed. While her daughter recovers, Angela Suleman is taking care of the other six children, ages 2 through 7, at the family home in Whitter, about 15 miles east of downtown Los Angeles. Now, I am sorry if I hurt any one feelings but, who is going to support these kids??? I know she can not do it alone! Not unless she wins a couple of million dollars over night. So, are my hard earned tax dollars going to pay for them? Because, I only pay for my two!!! I think if you want to have this many children you should be able to afford them!!! Also, for those women out there that are having kids just to get assistance and housing and all the works, I do not want to pay for your kids either! Get a job support your own or get your tubes tied and burned! My motto is if I have to bust my back side to pay for mine you should have to do the same!!! Stop FREE LOADING!!! ** Peace and Love gets your through everything in Life ** **(But,it does NOT PAY THE BILLS!) **

It made me wonder as well when I read the report. I can't imagine a doctor who would offer that treatment to someone already blessed with so many children. I read that she also had the option to reduce the number of embryos at a very early stage, OK, that's a matter for the individual but I really hope she knows what she's let herself in for, her parents won't be around forever to help.

Where did you read all this about the mother? I haven't been able to find anything more than that she gave birth to the 8 babies. Nothing I've been able to find said anything more, including the fact that she didn't want her name revealed and had not yet named the babies. I found one site that said the mother was very calm when they noticed the 8th baby and said something like, "Oh, really? Eight babies?" But I haven't been able to find anything more about it. Where did you read this story about her having 6 other kids? I'd love to read it!

Hi Tess, I am a firm believer that just because we can do something does not necessarily mean that we should! Up until the last couple of decades it has been up to nature or God or whatever you believe, to decide if and when children are brought into this world. My opinion may surprise you as science saved my life. I was born between 24 and 26 weeks of gestation and have Cerebral Palsy as a result. Now I call my Cerebral Palsy naturally occurring because there is no obvious reason that my mother went into labor early, or for why I had birth complications resulting in long term costly medical disabilities. However, I believe that medical science is saving smaller and smaller babies, and because of this sicker and sicker children are surviving and must now be treated throughout their lives. It is my personal opinion that just because we can do something scientifically, it does not mean that we should do so morally. I believe that children with disabilities can and do become productive adults and contributing members of society. However, when will medical science push the envelope too far? At what point does quality of life matter over quantity or longevity? I think, just as other critics of fertility treatment, genetics testing, and selective abortion, that there needs to be some guidelines prior to a woman being accepted for fertility treatments, as to what the parameters will be, and what one should do in the event that we have eight viable fetuses. In my not so humble opinion, we are human, we are supposed to give birth to sigle babies and occasionally twins, triplets or quadruplets. We are not meant to have litters! I believe we're playing with fire here, and people need to stop and think about what they're doing before we get into a situation that we can not reverse. You mentioned the burden to society in order to care for the children and you are absolutely correct but, I am also worried about the burden we have asked those children to carry, through no fault of their own. We do not know yet, but those children may suffer severe, debilitating and painful lifelong disabilities. I know I am severely disabled myself. I don't think that I as an individual have a right to say what one person should be able to do or should not be able to do, but on the other hand society does need to set rules and expectations for the good of everyone within that society. That's just my 2¢ worth and happy Mylotting!

Well, as long as her family can support them... she must really love children. If I were single and living with my parents with six children already I know I wouldn't have even more, never mind eight. I read that she was married though. Her husband (if there is one) must be very surprised. I don't think that one woman can care for eight newborns at the same time, and what about their college fund? Good luck to her though. I hope she's not irresponsible.

Not only is it not financially responsible, but it is also being irresponsible in regards to the health of these children. Multiple births always face health issues, and this is certainly no exception. They were born fairly early and very small - and will have to fight for their lives, and may face many health problems throughout their entire lives. To each is own, but it seems rather selfish to have so many children in one go without any regards to the health of each child. People were not meant to have litters. JMO of course, and everyone is entitled to their own. I wish the mother and her babies and previous children all the best, and hope they continue to thrive and avoid any serious complications. Children are a blessing.

How can a woman who has 6 kids, is a single mom, afford this type of treatment? I don't think (in fact I am pretty sure) my insurance would not pay for this treatment. SHe has 6 kids, this would be a big job for a 2 parent family and as a single Mom, with an unhappy Grandma, this is a sure recipe for child abuse. I think it is wonderful that all 8 babies are doing well but I hope this fairy tale story will continue. I do not want to see her on TLC -- 14 is not enough.

I went looking for this story,and one article stated her Husband was Serving in Iraq,and would be going back out there..

The reports are varying b/c I've also read that she is married and her husband is in Iraq. I think as long as she or her family can support them then it's their business. I do think that the reporters need to be locked up for being so d*mn nosy. She distinctly asked after the birth that she not be identified. She wanted time to spend with her new babies and make sure that they were going to be allright. Instead some family friend leaked her name and where her parents lived and now they have reporters camped on their front lawn. The grandfather has asked them to respect their wishes for privacy and has said that after the babies are released they'll all be moving to an undisclosed home. Now the media is digging through everything to find out where the other home is. It just seems like harrassment to me. I mean I know that having 8 babies is rare and news worthy but there is a limit to intruding on someone's life. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG AND TRUST IN GOD**[/b]

I have really mixed feelings on all of it. Although I don't have any issue with whether or not the woman is married. All of the woman's children were conceived with IVF. I question the ethics of the doctor who implanted 8 embryos or even agreeing to do the procedure when she has so many young children already. But at the same time, how many children a person feels called to have is such a personal decision. Who am I to say that any number is too many for you just because it would be too many for me? Even if she's getting help from anyone, she will be doing the majority of the work for all of them. She'll have to live with it if something happens to one of these children due to their being so premature. It's just not my place to judge.

Even if she were in a stable relationship...it is just crazy! Come on now, I ran a daycare and you are only allowed to care for 6 children at a time and that all depends on the ages if I remember correctly. There was a limit on the number of infants you could have. I don't remember because I just would not take another infant with my own plus other children. I have 4 kids that I raised on my own while working and it is no easy task. There was a time when I was with my ex that there were 6 children in our home....only one being a baby and that was like running a small army! There is no way that this woman can on her own provide the love and care for 8 babies and 6 young children....I don't care how much you love kids...it is not humanly possible! I really stretched myself with 4 and my saving grace was that they were so many years apart that the older ones were a big help. Even then...mighty tough. It is beyond irresponsible and I hope someone is monitoring the situation closely. She certainly can't be working so I guess we all are paying for this insane choice. What really gets me....who was the idiot doctor that prescribed the fertility pills? Now in a reverse situation...if a young woman goes in and states that she does not want kids & wants her tubes tied...goood luck in that! Most doctors will not do it. The pro-lifers must love this one!

Hi Tess, My computer has been messed up for quite some time now, but the last couple of weeks it's gotten worse. I just saw your avatar and it made me realize I missed you and decided to answer your post. I have to say I totally agree with you. I am not ever happy with people who are so irresponsible when it comes to having children. What are we suppose to think when a single mother with 6little children with no father decides to have 8 more? And who the heck is this irresponsible doctor who went along with the procedure? I think he should have to financially support all these kids for his part in making this happen. I can't help but wonder what he gets out of this!!! Hugsssss leenie

If that is true,the fact that she is not married at all and she just want to bear children,In my own opinion she must be out of her mind and very irresponsible of her.Depriving all those children of a normal family life.Maybe it is her way to be noticed having the ability to produce multiple pregnancies.Or she wants to be in Guinnes book of Records.I hope she realizes as soon as possible the true responsibility of a mother.

I hate to be negative about this when all we know is what we hear from the news media. I certainly would like to know why would she want more babies if she and her husband is separated. I agree with the responder that said more babies more money, and that is really hard on the older children in most cases they are they ones that are looking after their younger siblings. I know it is going to be hard to raise 14 children by yourself, and with the economy as bad as it is. All I can say is good luck to the mother and children.

The original story stated she had problems conceiving so I don't know what to believe I think they need to give us her name so we can find out the truth rather than hearing speculation all the time. For all any of us knows she may be very wealthy and does not need to work and maybe her parents live with her? If no one knows her name then no one knows where she lives. I say leave her be and she will come out of hiding eventually.

hi Tess...i had heard that also..but i guess its the fault of the doctor who injected her 8 cells ? i cant remember the first one(sperm?)or whatever that causes the birth of the eight children..i guess the state should help this young mom...

i think she needs help. she can't be right.

Hey tess! I don't understand this at all! First of all I worked for an Infertility Specialist for 2 years! There was a great deal of pre-screening before a patient was even considered to have this procedure done! Not only physical screening, but mental health screening! There is no way that a woman who was single with 6 children would ever be allowed to have infertility treatments! She is not considered infertile! She has 6 children! WTF kind of doctor did this procedure! He should have his license revoked! She is not married, not in a stable relationship and not infertile! No doctor in his right mind who is legit would ever do this kind of procedure because he would lose his medical license! This case needs to be investigated for sure! It makes no sense! There are codes of ethics and protocols that have to be met before a woman can have these treatments! The treatments alone make woman's hormones raging and they go through mood swings that are unbeliveable! I should know, I had to deal with them! This is some serious stuff that they are given and has to be closely monitored every single day with blood tests! Something is very wrong here!

Clearly there are some real issues with the mother. I really don't feel that we know the whole story there. My big problem is with the doctor. I personally think he should be brought up on somekind on negligence charges. I read that he said that it is his job to educate his patients. I'm sorry, so after your counsel, this woman, who already has 6 children, still wanted more, and you thought that was ok ?!?!? I really think this doctor thought that he could get some media attention...and look, he is. What a world.