do you try to figure why people say or do the things that they do ?

United States
February 8, 2009 7:44am CST
my thing is i finally stop trying to figure why people say and do the things that they do, but instead learn to deal with it. i am teaching my daughter the samething, if you try to figure out people it will drive you nuts. and also teaching her, all we can do is express to others how we feel and it's up to them to do with it as they want. often they won't do what we would like but oh well, it's on them. so you do try to figure why people do or say things? or just learn to deal with it? and do you also belife we can just express ourself and let them deal with it as they want ? have a wonderful nice here for once.
5 responses
@suzzy3 (8368)
9 Feb 09
I try to do that as well but you can analyse to much with some people.If it is someone you know well,it is normally because they are having a bad day and ignore them.It is a mine field trying to explain these situations to kids as they don't have many grey areas.It tends to be black and white,One thing or the other so as to speak,but my daughter explains things to my grandchildren,sometimes they get it and sometimes they do not.My little grandaughter says things out loud "That little girl is naughty nanny,why does'nt her mother tell her off" Then I have the girls mother glaring at me,"mind your own business sweetheart it is nothing to do with us". She is learning but it is a wonder I have not had a mouthful or worse.I wait until we are out of ear shot then just say everyone has their own rules,some are different to ours ,now eat your sweets.
@TLChimes (4842)
• United States
9 Feb 09
I had a friend once, she taught me well. I learned (slowly because I try too hard to be a good person) that there is no pleaseing some people, that no matter what they will say the most hurtful things "in your best intrest" and that you just have to shrug and move on. I'm getting better everyday. I am what I am, who I am, and have no plans on becoming someone else. If they don't like me then they don't have to hang with me. Nobody has to be part of my world if they don't choose to be... nor do I have to be part of theirs.
@jd107nette (1456)
• Philippines
8 Feb 09
I used to be like that.. I always wonder why people do things they do and say stuffs they say... Especially when they are hurting somebody else... Well, I just opted to ignore them instead... I don't want to end up in an asylum... ^_^
@nanajanet (4436)
• United States
8 Feb 09
True. We cannot control other people's actions or words but we CAN control our reaction to them. I may ask why they said something and if I am not satisfied, I move on, or if needed I will confront them, if it something that can cause problems.
@missybear (11396)
• United States
8 Feb 09
Sometimes I try to figure people out and the I think to myself "Why" it's there life not mine so why bother figure them out.