For your children is it good to give them what ever they ask

@amrith (291)
India
February 12, 2009 7:29am CST
Many parents having so many financial problem also give their children what they ask some how is it good ? Normally enen if their necessities are not met also they spent money for their children's lavishness what is your opinion about this
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@syankee525 (6294)
• United States
12 Feb 09
i think just giving them whatever they want isn't good. they don't get the meaning of appection the things they are given. as for my kids once i got hurt and lost my job, the thing they wanted and things they needed they learn the different. they got what they needed and the things they wanted they went to work for grandparnets to earn extra money
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@bamakelly (5194)
• United States
12 Feb 09
It is a good thing for children to understand the appreciation and value of the things given to them. You do bring up a great point here. If children can earn things on their own merit it could be beneficial to them more as they grow older. As long as the children are getting what they need then that is all you can ask for in my way of thinking.
@amrith (291)
• India
18 Feb 09
By giving them and making them understand the difference between need and lavishness avoid so much of problem in later life also
@sonusd (1548)
• India
12 Feb 09
I am totally disagree that parents should provide what ever the kid demand if this thing happen the child will become more and more demandable and he will become angry when he will get deny from his parents in future so before providing him anything just check the use of it for the child
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@bamakelly (5194)
• United States
12 Feb 09
That is so true. When you give your child everything that they want they will get too used to it. When they grow older and you as a parent tell them no or it just happens that another adult won't give them their way then the child will become angry and possibly retaliate.
@amrith (291)
• India
18 Feb 09
yes parents have the duty and responsibility to think and understand what is needed andwhat is extravagent. then only they can build up a balanced child.
• United States
12 Feb 09
When my kids asked me for something they like even if I can afford buying it but it is not in the list of my priorities I will tell them that I will give them a toy on a payday or if we have more money. I find it important to explain to them that not all of the things they asked for will be given and I am glad they can understand it. There are things that money can't buy like your love, support and quality time for your kids.
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@amrith (291)
• India
12 Feb 09
very good thought love,support and quality time for the children is best a parent can give
@aisaellis22 (6449)
• United States
12 Feb 09
Hello amrith! I would not tolerate any material things to children. I mean, I will give them some things to make them happy but not most of the time. If my child would want some thing and that I don't have budget, I would probably say no and explain why. A child who always gets what he wants would be pain in the b*tt when he grows up. I have proven it to my brother who became spoiled and now, he is giving us a hard time especially if he wants something and that we can't give him.
@amrith (291)
• India
18 Feb 09
Ican understand the problem of a parent who is not able to meet the demanding nature of a child it will spoil the whole life of parents.so it is better to be choosy in giving things give more important to give what they need not what they demand in greed.
• United States
18 Feb 09
I agree with you amrith..
@rosdimy (3936)
• Malaysia
13 Feb 09
I was brought up to be prudent in spending money. This is the way I try to bring up my children. Sometimes even when I had the budget I refrained from being lavish on them. My children are always reminded that material wealth will not bring them far in life. At the same time I try not to be skint on purchasing useful products. That is why even though we have only one small car, we have two PCs and four laptops. Another laptop belongs to the education authority. Gaining knowledge is important, because with a proper use of knowledge one can overcome adversities. all the best, rosdimy
@amrith (291)
• India
18 Feb 09
such a noble thought .gaining knowledge is more important than any thing else that will give them the correct direction to choose what is need and what is extravagence.that lessens the problem of parents