Sometimes it's best to just leave
By ParaTed2k
@ParaTed2k (22940)
Sheboygan, Wisconsin
February 12, 2009 9:09am CST
I don't like who I've become here at MyLot. It isn't anyone's fault but my own, no one forced me to say what I have here. But when you don't like how you are in a community, sometimes it's best to just leave. I don't know if this will be for a few days, weeks, or forever, but MyLot isn't good for me anymore, so the best thing I can do for myself is just go.
Thanks for all the great discussions! Sorry it ended up this way.
If you want to stay in touch with me, feel free to IM me on Yahoo Messenger: ParaTed2k.
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29 responses
@olivebranch56 (910)
• United States
12 Feb 09
Ted we all get a little too passionate on here sometimes. I think in this case your responses are coming from concern and fear of what is happening to the country you seem to care so much for, and the people who you swore to protect. Do what is best for you, but I for one enjoy your discussions, yes they get a bit rough sometimes, but they are also intelligent well thought out informative. I will miss you. Blessings Marilyn
@greysfreak (1384)
• United States
12 Feb 09
I think you said it best, pretty much what I would have said. I have read and responded to many of Ted's discussions and I definitely find them very good. Discussion and debate are great things, without them we'd be the people who just sit back and think what people tell us to think.
But I definitely understand how Ted is feeling, I know that after the election I found myself crashing emotionally, I was just too emotionally drained to respond on here, and there was just too much arguing and accusations flying. I haven't yet gotten back to where I was last summer, but I try to come on here from time to time and read some discussions, and put in anything I can.
So my message to Ted would be, if you think it's time to take a break, take one, it does get overwhelming to think about things, and discuss them, especially when it feels like so many people don't care or can't see the path we are on. All I know is, I will keep looking for your discussions if and when you do return, because they are interesting, I may not agree 110% of the time, but more times than not I have agreed, and it is always great to hear a sane voice when everything else is just so crazy.
Good luck. Take Care. Keep raising your voice.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
13 Feb 09
I do not want you to go. There are lot of people who need a wake up call to what is going wrong with America and we need someone who is not taken in by the present president's charisma. Most of what we hear is the pro-Democratic side and how the president is always right and wait a while until he gets his feet wet. Well I am not an American but I plan to visit the States someday. I want to know what is really going on. Do not let the trolls drive you away. Please stay. 
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@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
13 Feb 09
I normally do not respond to farewell discussion for different reasons but yours is somehow different. I do not know how and what changed you but I can honestly say I have enjoyed your discussions and responses. I hope you are just taking a break and we will see you soon again.
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@makingpots (11915)
• United States
12 Feb 09
You know? I admire people who know themselves and know when it is time to make some changes. If leaving is best for you, I say good for you.
I know I have to take myLot breaks now and then. Maybe just a break is all you need. If I see you around down the road I will smile, because I hope it means you took care of you. Maybe you need to appologize to people and see if friendships can be taken to the next level over working through some conflict. I have no idea what has been going on with you here, so please don't read that as a suggestion. Whatever you do, take care of you.
Be well.
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@BlueGoblin (1829)
• United States
13 Feb 09
You are such a quitter! j/k
I feel that way sometimes. You are not a bad person but people make you sink to that level. People with different views bring out the worst in you. I get it.
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@djbtol (5493)
• United States
13 Feb 09
ParaTed2k -
I have often often enjoyed your posts and have responded to some of them. Hate to see you go. You do not specify what "who I've become" means, but a reasonable guess is that it has to do with your reactions to the injustices that you see in U.S. governmental leaders. You love America and have done an excellent job of calling out those leaders who are being foolish and working against the USA.
I know how you feel, and have been led to reduce my discussion on a few sites since the election. I one day realized that my first instinct had become to pick up a shoe and throw it at the television when a certain individual came on. Although the sentiment is correct, that response is not appropriate.
When you couple your passionate views and understanding, with the multitude of things occurring daily that someone should be railing about, the response is like yours and you get a kind of burnout.
Hang in there, give your self a little distance. Then come back and be active in myLot - whether with your current issues sword or not.
djbtol
@vanities (11395)
• Davao, Philippines
14 Feb 09
hi parated2k...well i guess its goodbye here? good luck then ..although maybe its my first time to respond to your discussion i really cant recall sometimes if i had responded to your posted discussion(whatever reasons you have, not contented perhaps)....but all i can say be well and have a nice day..
@6precious102 (4043)
• United States
14 Feb 09
I really wish you wouldn't leave. We need people on myLot who have some sense.
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
13 Feb 09
Hello Para Ted2k,It's my first cotact with you.I'm here for four months.I feel interest to be with myLot.You are an old member of this site.I don't know why you are leaving this friendly site.Is there any wrong?
@lilnono (228)
• United States
13 Feb 09
I think you made the right decision. It's not good for people to become overly attached to their opinions.
@bonbon664 (3466)
• Canada
13 Feb 09
I have found the same thing. I have been away for several months, I found I was getting mired down in some things going on here. I popped in today, as a fluke, and I always found your discussions articulate and thought provoking. I wish you all the best. I don't think you're alone. There are a lot of "old time" mylotters that have left. Be well!
@derek_a (10874)
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13 Feb 09
I am sorry to hear you say that you are leaving. Whatever it is that you have said, it done and gone - it is past. From this moment of now, you have a choice to say those things that bring out the best in yourself.
Personally, I am a great believer in honesty, but if I feel I am going to upset anybody, then it is best that I don't get involved in the discussion.
I am a therapist, and I enjoy helping other people with what I feel could be of value on MyLot. Of course we all misread posts at times- it is very difficult from the written word to see if somebody is being offensive or not, but in such a circumstance, I would ask the person who is posting if he/she could explain what they meant a little more. Most of the time, animosity is not really meant.
Good luck with your Internet work, if you leave myLot, but I think you have been honest and open in writing this post, and would like you to stay. :-) Derek
@Christopherchen (10)
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13 Feb 09
sorry to hear that.and Best wishes for you. remember. never look back.if you leave.
@katsmeow1213 (28717)
• United States
12 Feb 09
I've had that feeling before too. Every once in awhile I've come across someone who's managed to bring the worst out in me, because there are certain things I will not keep quiet about, and I am an open, honest person. So I've said things I probably should have kept to myself, and debates have started. I got to a point where I wondered if being on here was worth the headache. In the end I realized there are a few people here I enjoy chatting with, and they are what keep me coming back.
