my friend just can't stop talking!

@victorywp (3526)
Malaysia
February 15, 2009 9:03pm CST
actually i knew this guy for about six months. we are currently working in the same company, just two of us. he loves talking so much that he doesn't care whether i'm listening or not. the problem is he is interupting my work most of the time! he loves to talk about anything - politics, people, gossips, etc. he is very annoying because he talks anything that he can think of, talk out of his own opinion without strong proof or whatsoever. for me he is talking nonsense & always worry about things which will never happens in this lifetime. i scold him everyday because he really frustrates me & i just can't stand him. i need to & i have to! i always scold him directly that he is disturbing me with his nonsense but he just never give up talking! i can't believe there is such a person until i met him. what will you do if you have such a friend?
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@thezone (9451)
• Ireland
16 Feb 09
i have many friends like that. Sometimes you have to take the good with the bad. Then if you did not like them in some way, you would not be friends, so you will put up with whatever they say.
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
16 Feb 09
i have many friends who like to talk very much too. but this particular case of mine is too extreme because he can't even stop after i talk to him, warn him, or scold him...
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@thezone (9451)
• Ireland
16 Feb 09
Ever try kicking him in the .... No but seriously there has to be a way for you two to communicate and reach some kind of balance.
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
16 Feb 09
LOL! it's hard to find the balance because i think he wants attention or i might say that he wants me to listen to him but unwilling to listen to my opinions.
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@zweeb82 (5713)
• Malaysia
3 Mar 09
Wow!~ Can you like tie him to a chair & gag him? HahahaCan't you relate your situation to your supervisor or something?
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
5 Mar 09
i don't want to report him unless our superiors notice by themselves. unfortunately seldom have any superior passing by or coming near to our place...
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@zweeb82 (5713)
• Malaysia
6 Mar 09
Maybe your superior also afraid to stop by after he talk to them non-stop? Hahaha
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
6 Mar 09
maybe! that's why he was placed together with me & not with them! LOL!
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• Philippines
14 Mar 09
He is like a 7-11 Because his mouth is open 24/7 and never closes huh? If I have a friend like that and I can't stand him, I will leave him alone and for sure he will be able to understand that nobody likes to hear his stories
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
16 Mar 09
LOL! that's funny to relate him with 7-11 which opens 24/7! he loves to talk so much makes wonder whether a slap would stop him from talking? anyway that's just a thought & i would not try it on him. LOL!
• Philippines
18 Mar 09
Did you watch the movie "Rush Hour" Chris Tucker was so talkative in his character that he was tagged as 7-11
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
19 Mar 09
LOL! now i understand! thanks for the explanation. i like chris tucker's character in the rush hour with jackie chan.:)
@laydee (12813)
• Philippines
23 Feb 09
If you can't talk him out of it, then find something to shut him up. Well, there are many things really, one of which would be giving him something to eat. He can't talk when he's eating, right? Then give him some powdered candies like polvoron he'd really choke to that if he tries to talk still while eating those. Another tactic would just be listen to your ipod. Put it in loud so that regardless how he talks, you won't be able to listen to him anyways. You've already tried not to be rude, but to no avail... Now is the time to take things into your hands. Good luck!
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
27 Feb 09
some good ideas you have here... give him something to eat, once he is finishing the food, give him another... LOL!
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@laydee (12813)
• Philippines
28 Feb 09
If you've tried everything and nothing works, why not try that?! If still he could talk, then it's time for him to be presented to the Guinness Book of World's Records as the person who can talk while eating.
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
6 Mar 09
LOL! that's funny! then he would thank me for spotting his hidden talent to talk while eating!
@chookie1971 (2276)
• Australia
16 Feb 09
You only put up with it when you see the guy. Think about living with it. Both of my children love talking. My older child more so than the younger one. It drives me insane. I always can't wait to the day my kids go to school so I can get peace and quiet. I can't say that I enjoy when they go to sleep because the older one talk in the sleep as well. I can feel the frustrastion for you.
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
16 Feb 09
after reading your case, i think mine is still ok lol. it only take me the most 8 hours daily (excluding saturdays & sundays) to face him. but in your case, you are living with it daily (including saturdays & sundays & PUBLIC HOLIDAYS). you only can get peace & quiet when they went to school, so i'm still counted as lucky... it was so cute to know that your kid talks in the sleep as well! LOL!
• Australia
16 Feb 09
here is an interesting thing about people talking in their sleep, you can actually hold a conversation with them. I sort of got one out of my older child. LOL. it is quiet funny too.
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
17 Feb 09
LOL! it's just too funny to hold a conversation with someone who is sleeping! how can this be possible, i wonder!
@Sreekala (24396)
• India
5 Mar 09
Hi Victorywp, I think it is a difficult situation because he is interrupting your work also. When I read about your friend I remember about my colleague who already left from our office. There is another person, if he starts talk, he won’t tell the matter directly and keep saying some other issues also. You know what he (earlier one, listener) was doing, in the beginning agreeing everything by shaking his head and then he engrossed his work and don’t respond to the other person. Finally the talkative person leaves the place because he realizes that he got ignored.
@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
6 Mar 09
that's a good way too. but i'm sure it doesn't work on him. this friend of mine can talk non-stop if i'm there. he doesn't care whether i'm listening or not, maybe he just wanted to release all the things inside his mind? weird for me...
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@Sreekala (24396)
• India
6 Mar 09
Lol. But I think nobody can tolerate ignorance. Just try it.
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• Netherlands
2 Mar 09
Well first of all He would be the one needing the Body Guard in this instance as I would just have to throw him out the window!! :D Honestly, I don't know what I would do as he would drive me out of what little mind I have left! I am a quiet person and I enjoy silence so someone rattling on and on all of the time would literally drive me crazy...I would have to move or something and I know that doesn't sound like the greatest idea because you said you 2 have to work together so it seems as though you are pretty stuck my friend. Now this is something that I never do and truly don't believe in as you are messing with someones livelihood, But if it was going to cost my sanity I would just have to turn him in to my boss and see if they could move me or him or something. I would try to be nice about it and tell them that he does his job well it is just that his talking affects you and your job. The only other thing that I can possibly think of is to first threaten him by telling him if he doesn't keep quiet and do his job then you are going to have to tell the boss because he is affecting you and your job. MAYBE that may help, but I usually find with people like that sometimes they are so busy listening to themselves talk they don't hear you when you threaten them! Good Luck!
@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
2 Mar 09
thank you for your good advices! that sounds great...:)
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• Netherlands
2 Mar 09
I don't know if it will work but I do hope it helps some! ;)
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@syankee525 (6294)
• United States
20 Feb 09
i would just tell him ok time to work not talk..
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
21 Feb 09
LOL! i tried before... don't work for him... :(
• United States
21 Feb 09
then i would turn it up some be some what harsh
• India
20 Feb 09
Oh boy! And I though I was the only person suffering…there’s this colleague sitting right beside me who has an opinion on anything and everything. Try telling anything and she know better than you or has experienced the same thing herself and you just have to listen to her experiences. Worst part is we are almost same age and our sons are same age too. So she tells me everything and expects the same from me. the worst was some days back when I seriously goofed up on some important work coz I was paying more attention to her nonsense…you cant really avoid her…she has this annoying habit of prodding you on to look at her, even if you are just nodding your head and doing your work. After that serious goof up, I went to our HRD and told him nicely what was happening and I don’t know what he told her, but she seems more subdued now.
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
21 Feb 09
LOL! can't believe that i found someone who had this problem too! yeah my friend also the same! if i just nodding my head & don't look at him while he was talking, he will keep on calling my name til i look at him! so that is how you settled the problem... will try it...:)
@kerriannc (4280)
• Jamaica
28 Feb 09
lol So sudiptacallingu you messed up on the job and looking for a scape goat you went and tell your HR that it is your friend who has caused you to messed up. If I was that friend I would not be looking at you muchless to call you a friend. There are alot of ways where you can tell someone when he/she is disturbing you at work or at home. It is sad that you went as far as the HR this would have cause her this job and you said you are friends. You are a Judas in disguise. Friends like you no one wants.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
16 Feb 09
Since he talks a lot, why don't you ask him to join mylot. He might have great many ideas. I can't stand people who talk a lot which only makes my head spin. I think you just need to ignore him sometimes to put your message across that he is a chatterbox and you are not too comfortable with his conversation. It might be rude but sometimes people like this needs to be told off.
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@andiel (117)
• Malaysia
16 Feb 09
Hahaha i agree with you zandi458. I believe after he join mylot he may not have the time to talk again, unless if he talks and type at the same time.
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
18 Feb 09
LOL! both of you are making fun of him! that's so funny! but he is unlikely to be here in mylot because of the language. tell you both something... he is always complaining that his english is poor but he never wants to improve it in any ways, just keep talking his language to me!
@whiteheron (4223)
• United States
28 Mar 09
I sure would not take him seriously... Have a bit of humor about it... see the good in him and in life and mirror it back to him... Whisper and see if he becomes softer too. Breathe deeply in and out and focus on him while you do it... May be you can help him relax and not be so nervious. This could help the talking over much.
@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
28 Mar 09
your ways of handling this situation seem interesting for me. i will definitely give it a try. thanks & i appreciate your valuable tips. :)
@a638000 (219)
• China
23 Mar 09
I think he is one of your best friends .who you can scold directly.and then he is not angry..lol.. if he is really annoying ,you should ask him to apply more power to your work. It is advisable that you let him do a lot and talk fewer. BEST WISH to you !
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
23 Mar 09
LOL! he is not my best friend. i can scold him directly & he is not angry with me because he is a positive person. positive in a sense that he treats all my scolding as replying to his talking & so this encourages him to talk more & more to me. i got fed up of scolding him already. i better keep quiet when he talks...
@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
21 Mar 09
I have a friend like that too. I'm sure she doesn't stop to take a breath! What is even more annoying is that not only she will not stop the constant chatter; she is intent on always telling me how I should do things. Sometimes it feels as though she thinks I am not capable of living life by myself and I need assistance with every single thing. I find myself having to talk louder and faster so that she doesn't get a chance to cut in; very frustrating!
@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
23 Mar 09
LOL! yes, my friend also like to teach me how i should do things in which i can't stand him too because i don't think he is qualified to do so. LOL! in fact, i also use the way you mentioned, which is to talk louder & faster so that he doesn't get any chances to cut in. after finish my words, i will quickly change to another topic or walk away from my place.:D
@Yori88 (1468)
• Philippines
20 Mar 09
I knew a guy who is like your co-worker who talks so much most of the time. He is my Aunt's co-worker who happened to be a visitor during my cousin's birthday where I was of course also invited. I lived in my Aunt's house for four years and I have noticed that her co-worker was very talkative. The thing is he is a guy and I can't help myself to ask if he is kind of a gay or something because he talks too much. He is even bragging himself on something which I think there is no need to talk about. I don't know how my Aunt was able to befriend such guy because he is annoying especially when he starts talking and talking things without even bothering to ask how my Aunt is doing. I've heard that until now he is the same and after those years of being very talkative no one had ever stopped him. I think those kind of people should met someone of the same feather, a talkative person also so that there will be a clash! The last one standing is the winner hahaha! Anyway I don't like those kinds of people. If you want to tell something go ahead. As long as you know when to stop and you know when to feel that the person you are talking to is already tired and no longer wants to listen to you. We all need rest and I wonder if those talkative people are still humans. If I were in my Aunt's shoes, maybe I will talk to the guy seriously about his manners. It is not only to stop my own problem to warn him as well of others who might not have the same patience as I have. And of course, explain the effect of excessive talking to others.
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
21 Mar 09
LOL! talkative person is good to help putting a quiet enviroment to become lively. however, if it's too overly done, people would lose the patience & get fed up, just like you & me i believe.:)
@maxilimian (3099)
• Indonesia
20 Mar 09
one thing that i can suggest, don't share your secrets with him if i were you, i will ignore him, or just saying couple words like uhuh, yep, no, i don't know, or just silence and keep your distance .... i'm sure soon or later he will stops talking with you Between that's words, there is also strong and cruel word to make him stop talking, you can say, "i don't want to make friend with you, so please stop talking" But i'm strongly not recommending it .. just ignore him or says couple of the words i've been told before
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
20 Mar 09
i remembered once i shouted at him "i think you have some kind of serious sickness!". but he replied "what sickness? flu? fever? i don't think so." & continue talking. let me tell you something he did that really make me fed up. once he asked me a same question again & again for more than 15 times in 10 minutes time! he only stopped asking after i said "if you are not my friend, i already slapped you after the third time you asked about the same thing!". however, that only stopped him for a while before he continued asking the same thing again... until today still the same... :(
@davido (1623)
• Canada
20 Mar 09
I have one as well...the day he came to my house he was talking, talking....all of a sudden i developed a very strong headache...so awfull i told him i have headache...he simply said sorry and continued again...but we cant do without them they have their own good days in our lives.
@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
20 Mar 09
he simply said sorry & continued again? LOL! i think the next time you should said that you have headache because of him talking nonstop. but i believe that he would reply with a sorry & continue again. LOL! life goes on...
• China
18 Mar 09
Hi, victorywp, so bad for you. If I were you, I would turn him out in the cold. Once I also met one like your friend, of course, she is a gril, we are only common friends, but she always told me some boring things what happened to her. One day, two days, three days are okey, but over several times I can not bear it, So I just regard her as air, I know it is not polite, but the she herself is the arch-criminal. So good luck to you. Hoping your friends will become quiet.
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
19 Mar 09
for those who say that it is not polite for you to say that, i think they have not experienced such a thing. it's really disturbing & hard for us to bear sometimes, especially when we are so busy with things to do & worry. yes, you are right, one day or two is still ok, but pleasae not continuously.:)
• Egypt
17 Mar 09
I don't think that there is something you might do to help your friend, but you can help yourself by not listen to what he says and bringing an Ipod to work so you can put the headphones in your ears , by not hearing him you will be able to concentrate on your work. and who knows he just might stop talking one of those days
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
19 Mar 09
by bringing an ipod to work & put on the headphones, then he might stop talking one of those days? ok i will try it, you know why? because you are "a girl from tomorrow", so i assume that you know the future well. you must have saw my future trying a lot of ways but failed. thanks! i trust in you! LOL!
@Stirtime (269)
• United States
17 Mar 09
Having 3 son's of grown ages I spent much time with them talking my ear off. I could not shut them up or tell them to leave me alone it would just hurt their feelings. With a friend if they are a really good friend it will have the same affect. But now if he is just an acquaintance, perhaps a co-worker (above you) that if you do say something will get you into trouble, then maybe just put up with it. But if he is no threat to your job or to your emotions, I can tell you this. Get yourself to a hardware some and purchase some duct tape, I hear it is pretty inexpensive and is really strong. Take it with you and when he is heading your way, tear off a large section, walk right up to him, smile and gently pat the tape right over his mouth. This should send him the message, if not well, get some really good earplugs and just NOD!
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
19 Mar 09
LOL! duct tape & earplugs! can i apply both of your ideas on him? double protection is always better than one! LOL!
• United States
17 Mar 09
If he was the quiet type then you would be saying things like "Damn you're so quiet I forgot you were even there!", "Why are you so quiet?", "Why do you look so sad?", "What's wrong?" Be happy that he's talking at least. Maybe you can let him talk, just put duct tape over his mouth, and whenever you feel like listening, simply pull it off. LOL j/k
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
17 Mar 09
you are right, people will never be satisfied with what they own. if they have a talkative friend, they complain. if they have a quiet friend, they complain too. oops, that's me!:D LOL! that's so funny! if only i have the ability to on/off his mouth... but i would rather use staples than tapes! LOL!