DO You Know Who You Are?

@bfarrier1 (2082)
United States
March 7, 2009 9:29pm CST
I was just thinking to today and it has been on my mind for quit sometime,who am I I use to know or at least I thought I did back when I drank ALL the time,I went to the bar every Friday and Saturday night and drank until I dont remember getting home or how I got here. It is very hard not knowing who you really are.I was thinking maybe I need to be the way I was 2yrs.ago and I wouldnt being having this converstation,but then again I have come along way since then.Last night was my Straw that broke the camels back when on a Friday night I went to bed at 8:30.When I got up today I was like WHAT Happened To The Old Me and Now I just dont who I am. Have you ever felt like you dont know the real You? I am not sure anymore.
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@singlemommy (2952)
• United States
8 Mar 09
Every day! I remember when I was a teenager, I thought I knew who I was. I was a sweet and shy girl. I thought life would be great and all my dreams would come true. Now, I look back and see how wrong I was. Life really sucks. I know that's blunt, but sometimes I feel like anything that can go wrong, will go wrong. Nothing ever goes my way. My kids are my life. But I always thought that I would find the man of my dreams before I had children, but turned out I found a couple jerks. Maybe life will get better, who knows. But to answer the question, "Who am I?". I am a mother, a maid, a cook, a taxi cab driver, a friend, a lover, a worker, a co-worker, an employee, and a dreamer.
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@bfarrier1 (2082)
• United States
8 Mar 09
You do know that life is what you make of it(or at least this is what I have been told)but today I am really trying to figure it all out.I have raised my girls and they have familes of their own and I think I maybe just feeling sorry for myself today. You Prince Charming will come along you have to believe in it first.I know all about the jerks I raised my girls on my own and they are beautiful,successful women and I would'nt let them be any other way.
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• United States
8 Mar 09
I'm sure you were/are a wonderful mother. I'm sure your girls are very proud to have you as their mother. Raising children on your own is one of the hardest things anyone could ever do. Sometime last year, a teenager here in town told me to listen to a song. I wasn't sure why she wanted me to listen to it, but I did. I heard it and all I could do was cry. It was so much like my life and who I am. After I listened to it she said, "When you get married, I'm going to dedicate this song to you at your reception". The song was "The Strong One" by Clint Black. If you have never heard it then you can go to this link and see the video. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bsB3UgO_PMA I know you are a wonderful person because I've had so much contact with you here on MyLot and I consider you one of my best friends here. You are wonderful and so heart felt. Don't feel down about who you are, I know sometimes that's hard to do and pretty much I was feeling the same way last night.
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@bfarrier1 (2082)
• United States
9 Mar 09
Thank you so much for the response and no that I to respect you as a mylot friend and I will be here for you.That is a beautiful song I have heard it before.you have a great night.
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@fwidman (11515)
• United States
8 Mar 09
I know who I am, although there are days when I do not remember why I turned into this person. If you went to bed that early, I'd say you were very tired and needed the rest
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@bfarrier1 (2082)
• United States
10 Mar 09
Are maybe I am just getting old! Thanks for your comment and maybe that is what happened to me,I just dont remember why I turned into who I am today.you have a great night.
• United States
8 Mar 09
Hi bfarrier: It sounds like you define yourself by what you do. Since you no longer drink, you can't go to those places you used to. So, find other things to do on Friday, and Saturday nights. You could take up bowling, and join a league. They may not exactly play on Friday, but you would then become another day of the week person. You could take up poker, and have a poker night with your friends. You could take some dance classes. They are usually on Saturday nights, and you could meet an entire new group of people to socialize with. You could take up any number of hobbies that can keep you busy on the weekends. You just have to find some things you like, search out groups and others with similar interests, and go be with them. I too gave up drinking for the same reasons you did. I kept waking up in my own bed perfectly fine, checking my car which was parked perfectly without a scratch but couldn't remember how I got home. I decided to take it as a wake up call, and thought to cut my loses before I killed myself or someone else. As we grow older, we run out of energy earlier in the evening, it's just a part of life. We work hard all week to take care of our responsibilities only to get to the weekend to be too pooped to pop. That's just life, but if you can find some fun things to do on the weekends, you can make new friends, and stay energetic at the same time. Don't be so down on yourself. You just need to find some activites to replace the ones you gave up. Drinking isn't everything, and you really shouldn't let it define who you are. Hang in there.....
@bfarrier1 (2082)
• United States
9 Mar 09
Thank you so much for your response and I am feeling better today,I have been really flustred lately because since I quit drinking the friends I thought I had no longer come around,but as a wise lady told me then they werent really your friend.Life gets strange when you change something in it but I did a very positive thing for myself and now I have to find a new me.You have a great night.
@sameroad (3180)
• United States
8 Mar 09
No, i don't know who i am... i am still trying to figure that out... sometimes when i think i might know i become unsure again. i don't know... i wish i knew
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@bfarrier1 (2082)
• United States
8 Mar 09
You know I feel what your feeling,I hope you find yourself and thanks for the response to my discussion.You have a great night.
@mansha (6301)
• India
9 Mar 09
I don't drink but I also faced this dilemma not long back but may be then its simply a thought process in our lives that we go through occasionaly. I also felt the same way a while back and just after my marriage too. I was jugglong the idea of a modern polished look with and feel my husband's office staff with the ideal bahu feel with my in laws. One day suddenly I felt I am no longer me and I am just retending to be the way people want to see me. That day I shed that pretence and started becoming more and more me. Nw I am happy may be people do not like me as I am may be they do but atleast now I like myself as who I am.
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@lonmar71 (89)
• Philippines
9 Mar 09
i guess the first thing you need to know is that god loves you and accepts you for who you are. you are special and a unique individual. you also must love yourself first because how can you love other people if you don't love yourself. you have to reinvent yourself all the time. you try new things. you do things that you love doing just for the fun of it. you become the person god wants you to be. try reading the purpose driven life by rick warren or become a better you by pastor joel osteen. you focus on the good things that god gave you. your talents. you try to motive yourself all the time. you surround yourself with people who loves you and who knows how to bring out the best in you. stay away from destructive vices. it wont help you. it will just bring you down and confuse you even more. there are a lot of reasons to be happy. just being alive is a gift from god.just count all of your blessings. i'm sure you have a lot of it.
• China
9 Mar 09
man is the duplicate of destiny,,,in my childhood ,I also have this optiion:who am I? why not am i a dog? Now ,I see it, I am a person,,,but who is person? person is a clever animal? but what is the animal? animal is a living thing????so...so....where is living thing come from????what on earth ???? this is a difficulty question? this is a comipulicated question for us ..... my answer for you is I am I,,,,not the second answer,,,
@barehugs (8985)
• Canada
9 Mar 09
I have a very good idea who I am, and how I became who I am. The first step was relinquishing religion. Religion has its limitations, and is difficult to get away from once you get bogged down in it. After that, I began studying Spirituality and doing Yoga. With the Yoga came Meditation and Past Life Therapy.Some time later, I began to see some of my Past Lives. I learned a lot about myself,and it was not all good either. But "live and learn," I became well acquainted with who I was then, and how I came to be who I am now.
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• United States
8 Mar 09
I feel like this sometimes, but not as much as I used to. It does seem like alot goes wrong all the time, and nothing goes the way I want it to though. Even though this is true, i still know who I am. I know what I would like to do with my life, and what I plan to do. I will be moving in a about a month, so hopefully once i get settled everything will start to get better.
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@cindyhxf (1447)
• China
8 Mar 09
yes,i always know who i am ,i am a mother for my 5 years old daughter,i am also a teacher for her in life ,i am a worker for a company,i have to work from Monday to Friday,it is only way for making money.i still have a lot thing to do for me for my daughter.ah!i have to know who i am always.
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@nut_nut (251)
8 Mar 09
im pretty sure who i am. everybody chances the older they get through experiences they have, you may not even notice til one day you look back and see what you used to do or act like befor certain experiences
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@lingzi (568)
• China
8 Mar 09
Firstly, i think you'd better drink less for your health.and then if you have something unhappy, tell you friend,or listen to the music.drinking can not solve any problem.
@besthope44 (12145)
• India
22 Aug 10
I drink soft drinks and never tried it.Any thing small quantity is safe.
@Canellita (12058)
• United States
3 Apr 09
I guess you didn't have time to figure out who you were when you were busy getting drunk and blotting out life. Congratulations on taking a turn and good luck on the journey of self discovery.
• India
8 Mar 09
I thought I knew myself till the time i was there with my x-bf.but now after getting married on jan 13th of this year I feel that whatever i do or talk is wrong n i know nothing n now i feel I dont know myself coz i got married by contradicting myself in many ways ............ but its okay i try my best to know myself again but i do really feel bad sometimes.
@lynnemg (4538)
• United States
8 Mar 09
I have gone through times in my life when I didn't really know who I was anymore because I felt angry and depressed all of the time, I felt like I was no longer myself and had no idea how to find myself again. I did find myself again, but only after realizing that I am who I am, and if I am unsure of who I am it is time for me to do something about it. I would end up making small, positive changes in my life, one by one until I found myself again. I am happy to say that I have not lost myself for quite a whole now.
• United States
8 Mar 09
I know who I am as a person & I give my self respect so that I can know who I am a person