Long Distance Relationship

@kerriannc (4279)
Jamaica
March 10, 2009 2:15pm CST
Well I am astonished at what is now happening in my life. It is wonderful and positive but there is a even bigger surprise. I meet a guy over the internet well he saw my profile on one of the sites that I visit alot we both share the same status. So I am asking you guys do you believe that relationship via the internet will work. I have just come from out of a five year relationship face to face and that was a disaster and so I am very timid and scared where this is concerned. I am not rushing anything I am trying to get to know him. You know dating over the internet if that is the right word The thing is I am enjoying myself so far as I am now laughing alot which was absent in those miserable five years. Yes I am now laughing again. So please I need your advice my MYLOT friends.
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24 responses
@sunita64 (6469)
• India
11 Mar 09
Internet dating is all about luck, some people do find their partners on net, some get cheated. Just keep your fingers crossed and wish that the person you have met is a genuine one. Wishing you all the best for your life.
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@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
12 Mar 09
Thank you sunita, I am hoping for the best in this one. I am not rushing it and I also has ask God to pilot it. You know everyone has different ways and we are from different culture. Thanks for your response.
• Philippines
11 Mar 09
I believe long distance relationship is possible. In fact I am in a long distance relationship right now. I met this special guy via one of those dating sites. We have been in a long distance relationship for about three years already and soon we will meet each other in person on the last week of March this year. Although there isa risk but I believe it is possible to meet true love via the internet.
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
12 Mar 09
Thank you for your response. I believe that it takes two person to make a relationship work rather online/offline. What I am confused about is the intensity of this relationship. Well I have left it in God hands. I wish you all the best in your endeavours. Have a Nice Day.
• Philippines
11 Mar 09
Me and my Belgian bf met through an online dating website last year. Whats good about it, is that we have met already personally and spend some time together. Our relationship is going good so far and we are getting serious. He is coming back soon next month. I have met a lot of people from the internet, some are nice and some are bad. So be careful if you are going to meet him. Or you can read my blog: http://skelly10167.blogspot.com/
• Philippines
11 Mar 09
I have changed my blog site address: http://sophiedfuss.blogspot.com/
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
12 Mar 09
Thanks for your advised. Well it is he who will have to come to know me in person. The country he lives in my relatives who are living there is unknown to me. So coming to my country is the better option. At least if he is disappointed in me then he can move on to any girl who is available or spent the time knowing the country because we have a great tourism package here and it would be his first trip here as well. If I am to go to his country I don't think that it would be wise of me. Take care.
@kevends (47)
• China
11 Mar 09
Sometimes,people would disguise himself on the internet, he is so good even wonderful when he chat with his net friends.and usually he/she would eager to meet each other. But things are not always good as we want.sometimes it's better to keep the mystery in our mind.
• China
12 Mar 09
it seems that you two have the firmly friendship.Good luck,my friend.
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
12 Mar 09
Hey kevends welcome to MYLOT. You are so right but my dear it is he who are telling me that he don't want any dishonesty, player etc.lol I am just contended to know that at the end of when he comes to my country and sees me in person it will still be there. Not saying that I am putting down myself but you know how us humans are. Thanks for your response.
• United States
13 Mar 09
I am on the fence on this one I have never had any good experiences with LDRs but I have heard some good stories I think as long as you take your time and dont rush anything and keep yours eyes wide opened then I guess you will be ok if he makes you happy and makes you feel good then i say great you know I wish you all the happiness in the world
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
14 Mar 09
Hi dear thanks for the advice and yes I know that you do.
• Philippines
10 Mar 09
I had a neighbor who found her love on the internet... The guy I guess is from Chicago... He went all the way to Manila just to meet her in 2004... They both went to the states and later married... And they're still together up to now and I think they have goodlife together... just be careful that's all... with your heart you don't want to be hurt again after that five year relationship you just had...
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
10 Mar 09
That is so wonderful and encouraging, I hope that this will be as for me too. I think that personally this boils down to being honest and trustworthy to each other as if both of you are living in the same country. I have always practice honesty and so will continue to do this. Thank you for your response and welcome to MYLOT I hope that you will enjoy it here as well all do.
• Canada
11 Mar 09
You need to be very careful but yes they can work out. I know people who have met online and have gotten married. you need to take your time getting to know this person and make sure nothing seems weird. Make sure you get his home number to be sure of no wife and kids LOL and you need to meet the person eventually and make sure that is on your terms don't let yourself be pushed into meeting him face to face. oh and have him come to your town don't go there the first few times you get together, keep it on your turf.
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
12 Mar 09
Hey strawberry, well he has to come all the way to my country because I ain't going there. I have no relatives that I know living there if the plan backfired then he can seek other alternative here in my country if it doesn't work . Yes I make sure that I has his phone numbers and when we are talking on the phone I try to listen to his surrounding. In times like this you have to be smart. Just coming out of a destructive relationship don't want to head in another. Thank you for your response.
@silverjam (969)
• United States
11 Mar 09
Me and my husband met through an exclusive site in the internet. I guess online dating is very common nowadays; in fact it's one of the trends now. Of course there is no such perfect relationship and like the rest, it has pros and cons, it's still posing some risk as people involved are not physically in contact for daily basis. If you find this internet date a nice fellow then why not give yourself a try? Who knows this would be the one that is right for you. I have friends who find their soul-mates like me through long distance relationship in the internet and we're doing fine. But of course you should take time to know him better. If possible try to meet him first before you finally decide on marraige.
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
12 Mar 09
Thank you so much for your response. Yes I have to meet with him in person first before accepting marriage proposal. It is good that there are testimonials such as yours. I hope that God will grant us the same peace and love that you have found.
@fwidman (11514)
• United States
11 Mar 09
About 8 or 9 years ago, on a site called LiveJournal, I met a lovely woman named Shelly. We became friends and stayed that way for a long time. Then, that friendship blossomed into love. She has now been my partner for almost 7 years So, I would have to say that it is possible for an internet based relationship to work
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
12 Mar 09
Hey Fwiddy, so this is how you met the lovely Shelly I am glad that you have found love. I hope that mines well be as wonderful as your's.
@yoyo2323 (465)
• China
11 Mar 09
i am in the same situations as you . we met for a few days and then he went back to his country and i sent emails to him .i do not know if he loves me .but i love him ! all the things i can do is keeping in touch ! i am afraid he will soon forget me !
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
12 Mar 09
My dear fear is not given by God and so I would encourage you to pray and ask God to help you maintain this relationship. Putting fears in front of our daily lives activities tends to rob us of the joy that we are seeking. Welcome to mylot and I hope you love it here as I do.
@jd107nette (1454)
• Philippines
11 Mar 09
wow... that sure is interesting... well, i think, if it makes you happy then you just have to go... ^_^ all the luck to you!
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
12 Mar 09
Thank you dear.
• Philippines
11 Mar 09
yeah i think so.. i never believe in LDR because i broke up with my boyfriend 10days ago .We've been together for almost 9months and hes working in Saudi for almost 5months and im a nurse here. Because of the time conflict we haven't had the time to have a chat, even calling each other on phone. So the communication isn't really there. So i decided to give ourselves time to think and a space also. But if you really love the person, u got to face the hardest part of being far from the person you love..
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
12 Mar 09
Well I believe that when you are seeking something you have to make time for it. In the first couple of days he used to complained that I don't have any time for him. There was a misunderstanding on my path because I thought we were on the same timezone. Since then I have make sure that I have the time. Even now I am here wondering if he will wake up and call me and so I slept after we finish IM. I woke up and do some work for my client that I was neglecting and then I come here and doing some mylotting. I will not be disappointed if he doesn't call because he didn't receive enough sleep the night before and I don't want him to lose his job because of me. His rest is more important than having a phone call. But if you really love the person, u got to face the hardest part of being far from the person you love.. Yes I agree but this is when you are able to express your love when you are together. They say that love grows stronger when you are apart. Welcome to MYLOT my dear and I wish you all the joy that I have found here myself.
@cptlo1 (93)
• United States
11 Mar 09
I dont think it will really work to yall really meet each other face to face. Over the internet people can pose as someone they are not. So one day yall going to have to meet to see can it go any farther.
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
12 Mar 09
Well we talk on the internet and on the phone. He has pictures of me and I make sure that there is no additional airs on that picture. So he sees me the way I am. He should be able to know before spending all his money coming to my country what his decisions are. I am just a plain and simple girl. Welcome to MYLOT
• Australia
11 Mar 09
What you see over the internet isnt what you get in person, He can be the Mr. Right or Mr. Wrong- risk it
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
12 Mar 09
straight to the point or you. Risk it I agree because there is nothing to lose. Just some time that you would lose anyway by going into chatrooms. So I agree risk it. Welcome to MYLOT.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
11 Mar 09
There are long standing debates. There are so many relationships just over internet that proved fruitful. Some were just disaster. Be careful about it. It can be good as well as bad.
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
12 Mar 09
Hi subha dear, thank you for your response and I will be mindful of your advice.
@earthsong (589)
• United States
11 Mar 09
I met my husband on the internet. I was a regular in a chess chat room on an IRC client and he and his brother were the owners of the room. We got to talking and became good friends. Then he started flirting with me and I realized that I liked him. A year later he flew 750 miles to spend the weekend with me and never left. It was a rough road sometimes, since we were so far away from each other. But its definitely possible that the relationship can work.
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
12 Mar 09
Hi earthsong, this is wonderful and a good testimonial. Alot of person thoughts are that long distance relationship cannot work but it depends on you the individuals who want it to work. I am so happy that you got married and very happy. My wish is that God will ordain us too and give us the happiness that you are having too. I wish you God's continue blessing and happiness on you and your family.
@andyliuzn (1029)
• Guangzhou, China
11 Mar 09
Well, I think it's also a predestined relationship too to know some one in the internet. Good luck!
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
12 Mar 09
Thank you. The confusion that are there really seems as if it is predestined because we are in this state of confusion with what is happening. I am just going to take some time and seek God answers.
• Philippines
11 Mar 09
If it is the Lord's will for you regarding this, i mean the chances of a long distance relationship is really difficult at start. I am sure on this "getting to know you" stage is just okey. But you see, being personal is different from the virtual. I am not in a point of discouraging you but i am just saying that if you are pleasing God with what you do and the same thing that your friend is doing, then i guess you better pray for it first. You have stated that you had been into a relationship of five years and then left it out? Just a question, what is really the purpose of being in a relationship, when a person does not really have the intention of marrying you just what pastor Paul Washer is preaching that today's generation was like dating is like a test drive or like kissing which frog to choose who is going to be your prince. I admit, but it is not what the Bible speaks of in terms of holiness and being pure before marriage. Anyway it is your choice, consider him a friend first, but getting way far like a relationship, you seek God first. Happy Mylotting!
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
12 Mar 09
Hi strawberry, I think when you go to my blog you will see the reason why I left that loser after investing my whole life and money in that relationship. http://ksurrina.com
• Philippines
11 Mar 09
on my part,,long distance relationship can really work if both parties are willing to work it out..it's not really about the distance..it's all about love, trust & faith that you have with each other..
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
12 Mar 09
Thank you mystic, I share the same sentiment as you.
• Philippines
11 Mar 09
Hello there.. I do believe that we share the same situation.. and i do can relate to you right now.. i have met this guy in YouTube and we're good friends for about 10 months to be exact.. He's so kind and understanding and can play the piano.. i'm afraid to fall for him because of our situation.. but i'm afraid to accept the fact that i am already falling in love with him.. Long distance relationship can be good if the two people involved were sharing the same feelings for each other.. and the most important thing in this kind of relationship is the trust and loyalty to one another.. Have a great day.. Cheers!..
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
12 Mar 09
Thank you my dear and welcome to MYLOT. Yes I agree that it takes two person to make a relationship work. I wish you all the best in yours as well. Cheers to you too.