Naming a baby

@maximax8 (27048)
March 18, 2009 2:31pm CST
On a parenting website that I often look at there are discussions about naming babies. One lady is expecting twins: a boy and a girl. She wants to call them Hilda and Harold. What do you think of those names? In my opinion is it nearly as bad as calling twins Jack and Jill. Another lady wants to name her son Jonah Joaquim. She asked for people's brutal opinions. Most liked the first name but think the second name with it sounds comical. What do yo think? Did you name your kids before they were born or afterwards? Was it easy for you to find a name that you liked? If your kids are older now do you like the name you gave them?
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@suspenseful (40326)
• Canada
18 Mar 09
We adopted twin boys so named them after our fathers. Of course, we did not follow the order of naming the oldest twin the name of my father-in-law and the younger the name of my father because my older son was a --- (my dad's name) and my younger son, a ==(my husband's dad's name) so the names suited their personality. My older son is a bit more practical while my younger son still would forget things if his fiance was not on his back all the time. I think it is easier to name a child after a relative especially if the relative is still alive.
@maximax8 (27048)
19 Mar 09
Hi there Suspenseful my friend. I think the way you named your adopted twin boys was charming. It is great the names suit their personalities. It is lucky your younger a has a fiance that reminds him of things. Naming children after a relative is popular. When there is a John Senior and a John Junior it can get confusing.
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@suspenseful (40326)
• Canada
20 Mar 09
I was thinking of that joke "Which one?" In my dad's family there were so many Lindas, that my dad decided to name me after his mother. It does get confusing with all the seniors, juniors,m the first, second, third. I think that is more of a matter of giving oneself's importance, like pretending you were descended from royalty.
@imadriscoll (2235)
• United States
26 Mar 09
I love classic names, but Hilda and Harold seem a little too old! I don't know why, but I like Henry and Hazel which I suppose are in the same category. I think that it's a little cheesy to name twins with the same first initial and it reminds me of the popularity of naming twins Larry and Mary or Hannah and Anna! Jonah Joaquim is really not my style at all!! But in the end it comes down to choosing names that you love... and that your spouse will agree to!!
• United States
26 Mar 09
I forgot to add that we picked our kids names out before they were born. I tend to pick a name for the next baby as soon as one is born, but with good reason ... Hannah is 5, Emma 4, Benjamin 3, Gabriel 1 and we're pregnant again, possibly twins this time! It's getting harder to find names that the hubby and I both like!!
@aseretdd (13712)
• Philippines
19 Mar 09
I love the name that my husband and i chose for our daughter... because it has a very nice meaning... my daughter's name is Callia... and it means "Beautiful Voice"... we got it from the internet... and since my husband is musically inclined... he thinks the name is perfect for her... and true enough... my daughter right now has a beautiful voice and really loves to sing...
@maximax8 (27048)
19 Mar 09
Callia is a really lovely name and the meaning is charming. It is superb that your daughter does indeed have a beautiful voice. It is so great when parents both really love a particular name and then their child grows up feeling the same.
@marketing07 (6266)
• South Korea
19 Mar 09
when i gave birth to my son..my mother -inlaw insist that she will give the name according to korean tradition..but i dont like that kind of name..lately, i gave an english name to my son "kenneth" and my 22 month old daughter i called her even when she was still on my stomach "reajin"
@maximax8 (27048)
19 Mar 09
Your mother-in-law wanted a traditional Korean name so I think it is charming that you have named your son Kenneth. A boy named that in my home country might get called Ken. I think Reajin is a beautiful name.
@Ithink (6014)
• United States
19 Mar 09
We have a set of twins and there names are so different and everyone would say they are twins so why would you do that? In reply I would say why would parents name their twins names that are alike? They are still their own person! All together we have 7 kids and we did pick some unusual names for most of them. We picked names that we liked while I was pregnant. They all seem to like their names and of course I do or we wouldn't have named them that in the first place. On a side note I even got to name 2 of my grandbabies!
@maximax8 (27048)
19 Mar 09
It is wonderful that you got to name two of your grandchildren. It was wonderful that you named all your children during your pregnancies. I like unusual names and it is wonderful when the child likes that. It was lovely that your twins names are different to each other.
@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
18 Mar 09
I think when a lot of prospective parents look for names for their children they are not very thoughtful, and only think of the present. For God's sake, Hilda and Harold, sounds more like a sitcom. Might as well call them Heckle and Jeckle. As for calling someone after the actor who played Johnny Cash so well. That would be OK, but he seems to be making a real fool of himself of late, so that may not be a good think to burden a child with. You can't go wrong with good proven Bibblical names.
@maximax8 (27048)
19 Mar 09
Thanks for your excellent response my friend Mipen. I can see what you mean about the names Hilda and Harold being a suitable title for a sitcom. I know what you mean about there being a possible problem if naming a child after someone famous. There are some excellent biblical names that are simply classic.
@guybrush (4662)
• Australia
18 Mar 09
I like traditional names - but the ones I chose for my four children were different enough that none of their classmates had the same name. I suppose the people who picked Hilda and Harold liked the names - and they are certainly better than lots of the stupid, made-up modern names. My kids are all grown up now, and they all say they are happy with the names I chose for them - so that's a bonus!
@maximax8 (27048)
19 Mar 09
I am delighted that your grown up children are happy with their names. My aunt is called Iris May and she has always hated her name. She married a man whose surname begins with B. So that is the name she uses. Some traditional names I really like. Jack is the most popular boys name in my home country and it has been for many years.
@AmbiePam (45707)
• United States
18 Mar 09
I think Jonah is a good choice, and since it is his first name, no one has to know his middle name. Because I'm with the majority, Jaoquim isn't the best middle name I've ever heard. As for Hilda and Harold? I think Harold is a very dignified name. For a grown man who is not a child in the year 2009 or 2010. So I would forego the Harold choice, although for a middle name, it would be okay. Like I said, Harold isn't a bad name, but I'm telling you for the days we are in now, that boy is going to get picked on at the playground.
@maximax8 (27048)
19 Mar 09
Hello there Ambie Pam. I also think Harold sounds like an old man's name rather like the one that is character on Neighbours, an Australian soap opera. It is sad when a child gets picked on in the playground because of their name. I said no to naming my daughter Africa. I am so keen on traveling and she might be too. I once met twins called China and India so just imagine if they ever visit those countries.
• United States
18 Mar 09
I am 2 1/2 months along in my first pregnancy. I still do not know what I am having, so my husband and I are picking names from both genders. My problem is that I am American and my husband is Egyptian. I want to pick an authentic Arabic name that I like and that will work in the USA and Egypt. I don't want something that my family can't pronounce. For a boy we are leaning toward Yassin, for a girl Nadia or Farida. I hope my American family can handle those, lol.
@maximax8 (27048)
18 Mar 09
Hi there Angela Allen. Congratulations on your pregnancy. In your second trimester it might be possible for you to discover during an ultrasound scan if you are having a boy or a girl. I can appreciate your problem with deciding on a name that sounds great to people in Egypt and in the USA. In my home country Mohamed is a popular name for a Muslim boy. I like your choices of possible names. I have heard of an American lady that is named Nadia. I am now 26 weeks pregnant and am thinking of naming my baby girl Amber or Holly. Good luck with pleasing all your family when you name your baby. What you and your husband like will be the name I think.
@arkaf61 (10891)
• Canada
20 Mar 09
I guess with names it's one of those things that can't please everyone LOL I personally wouldn't like the pairing of Hilda and Harold, but I guess if the lady likes it hey....I know that not everyone - specially in my family - was very fond of me naming my daughter Katya. Jonah Joaquim leaves me neutral but again, it's what the person naming the child feel. My only take on this one is that people should think a bit before naming a child. Taking care to get a feeling of how the child feel about that name in the future. I would avoid names that could trigger some joking - good or bad intentioned - by other kids later in school. Some kids can be cruel. I would also avoid those names that are fashionable today but would sound silly tommorrow. And I would not call a child of mine Brandy for example LOL As for my kids, I had my daughters name in mind ever since I was a kid. It was from a story that I read. I always thought I would name a daughter Katya. My son was a bit more complicated. I had a general idea of what I wanted in a name for in, but I also wanted to include grandad's name in there somehow but they just didn't go well together. I like the names I gave my kids, but to prove that one can't please everyone, my daughter doesn't really like hers... oh well..... :)
@bombshell (11268)
• Germany
19 Mar 09
the nme you mentions is nice.i gues depends on that area if many names are like that but in my case i named my gilr before she was born.we have this name when my belly was 3 months and now she gets older the more we like her name.her name is Cathren Ann Louise and she likes her name too so much.she said its like princess
• China
19 Mar 09
hello.i think it's very interesting to consider the baby's name b4 they're born. at such time we can think as we like and make it. but it's definitely not a certainty and can never be changed again~! maybe when child born we may think of some names better that may stem from tha babies themselves such as their appearances/simling etc. and when they grow up they will have their own ideas and they also have the right to choose name of their like for themselves.so as parents we can not stop them to do so.thus,their names may undergo alteration at that time. generally, i think it's necessary and interesting to preconsider babies' names b4 they're born but future change should also be allowed if need:. okay,that's all i wanna say for this topic: thx~!
• United States
19 Mar 09
I agree, that the twins names are just...to put it nicely, silly. And yes the first name isn't bad for Jonah, but come on, Joaquim? The kid will have a hard time spelling that and people will probably make fun of him. But our childrens names and other things in life are in our hands, so we have to make their choices. We named our daughter, Chasity Sky, before she was born. We had a boy name picked out and could not come up with a name for a girl. We came up with everything in the book but didn't like any of them. Finally, one day I was just thinking off the top of my head of this preacher I use to have who had a daughter, Chasity, and she is a beautiful girl with a great voice and personality. I really looked up to her when I was younger. So I threw the name out there. My husband liked it! At first he was joking when he said how about Sky for her middle name. But after saying it together it sounded so good, so thats what we decided. He said Sky because he is very into his indian culture. It wasn't easy to find it, no. But even though my daughter is 2 months old I love her name so much. Oh and after I had her, we were made alert by a friend that Sonny and Cher's daughter is named Chasity Sky. (Had no idea!!!) lmao. So he says that she has a hippie name. But even if I had known that before I had her, we wouldn't have changed it for the world.
@berrys (865)
• Singapore
19 Mar 09
lols. I'm a twin, we're identical twins and me and my twin sis our names are an alphabet apart. My cousins their fraternal twins and their names are Paul and Pauline. I basically come from a long line of twins. It's hereditary. My mum's a twin too shes an identical twin as well and her and her twin sisters name are an alphabet apart too. I think naming kids are preety fun things to do. especially if you triplets! are Quintuplets! imagine you could name them Jo, Joanne, and Joanna Or London, Paris and America OR Augustine,Augustus and Augusta. Just GO NUTS! I knew this African twins and their names were Sarah A and Sarah B.
@luvmysons (497)
• United States
19 Mar 09
I am not crazy about Harold and Hilda..But everyone has there own preference with names. My sister just had twins..a boy and a girl. She named them Jake and Leila. I like the name Jake but not Leila but I guess I dont need to like it since there not my kids.LOL I named both my sons before they were born. It wasnt easy naming them because me and my husband didnt agree But I am happy with the names we chose. My oldest is Vincent Patrick.. We call him Vinny. He was named after my father and Patrick is my hubby. My youngest is Joseph Ryan. Joseph was my Father in laws middle name and Ryan was a name that we just liked.
@penny64 (1106)
• Australia
19 Mar 09
I often think that we like or dislike some names because in the past we liked or disliked people who had those names. For example, if you were bullied at school by a boy called Joe, you would be very unlikely to want to call your child Joe and you would say you didn't like the name. Whereas if someone called Joan was exceptionally nice to you, you might call your daughter Joan because you love the name. There are a lot of names that I dislike just because of the implications. I don't think I'd call twins by names starting with the same letter, but I know a lot of people do. What about that family in the US with lots and lots of children, all starting with the letter 'J'? They are going to run out of names soon ... lol!
@sacmom (14338)
• United States
19 Mar 09
I guess it's the parents choice if they want to name their kids that. Personally I wouldn't want to do that as they would most likely get teased about it. Why do that to your kid(s)? Yes, I named both of my kids before they were born. I wanted to be prepared and have a first and middle name that had a good ring to it and went well with my last name. Though when I was pregnant with my youngest son I had trouble finding a name that had that ring I was looking for. My husband and I ended up settling on another name...that is, until my in-laws intervened. They didn't care for the name we had chosen so they told us of one that they liked. As it had that special ring my husband and I had been looking for we went with it. And not a moment too soon as I was due in just a week or 2! Actually, yes I do. I love both of my kids names. And I think their names suit them very well.
@lingzi (568)
• China
19 Mar 09
hi,maximax,firstly, i want to way it's not easy for us to find a name that we like.so my son owns his name in two weeks after his birth .but i like that name that i and my hubby chose for him.
@mamalev (264)
• Philippines
19 Mar 09
Hi maximax8. I have a 2-yr-old son and even before I got pregnant I've already picked a name for him and his dad just had to nod his head for approval lol. Since hubby's name is Oliver I thought it would be nice to get a piece of his name for our kid. So I told him if it was a girl it would be Amber, it's a nice name ;) if it's a boy it would be River. So River it is!