Are you taker or a giver?
By Jenaisle
@Jenaisle (14079)
Philippines
March 21, 2009 2:08am CST
It is always easy to "take and take" without giving, but in order that a relationship could become successful and meaningful to both, you should be both -a taker and a giver. Generous persons do not usually ask any favor in return, but as a taker have you find ways and means to give back to the person? It may be in some form. I had a very generous blogger friend who had sent some financial help. She did not ask for anything but I knew she have to need some help in other areas, and true enough, I found out that she needed some help exposing her blog on entrecard as she had not enough time promoting. So I send her entrecard credits to help her advertiser on other people's blogs. I also mention her blog any opportunity I can and I placed the widget of her blog in almost all my blogs to help maximize it. Of course, she didn't ask for this, I just felt that I can at least show my appreciation for all her help.
What about you, do you feel that people are obligated to help you, but afterwards , you just receive and shrug your shoulders without looking for means to help them too? are you just a taker ? or a giver? You must be both if you want other people to be there all the time for you. Your inputs would be appreciated. Happy mylotting.
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18 responses
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
23 Mar 09
If I am in a position, I would much rather would like to help others and I feel glad that way. No doubt, when I am in some trouble, I do expect that somebody should come to my rescue. I always remain thankful to the person, who render timely help to me and do not forget him/her ever.
I am always good.
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
21 Mar 09
I am both. I think most people; are that way. They may take and take for some time, but eventually they will go back and give. It is just that sometimes you do not know what you can do for others that will equal what they can give you. I will take someone for coffee, and will treat someone. I am not in the giving credits for online help etc. because I am more in helping out my friends in the real world. But I cannot exactly take them to a four class restaurant for example.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
23 Mar 09
You're welcome. I do believe that it is a give and take situation. We may be takers for a while (like I was once on welfare and could not do much) and then after a while, we are able to reciprocate. So everything turns out all right in the end. 
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@p1kef1sh (45681)
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22 Mar 09
Jen I really have no idea. That might sound strange. However, I do try to do my best to be good and considerate and notice when people help me out. I don't always reciprocate to them personally, but I might try to help someone else and I hope that my experience of receiving informs my decision to help others. I do try to say "please" and "thank you". Three increasingly underused words in the English Language.
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@nchap36 (556)
• United States
22 Mar 09
All my life I have been a giver. If I don't have a I would make a way to give. But on the other hand people don't feel that way about me. In this world today I believe its a lot less givers, and whole lot of takers. The killing part about this the takers don't realize that they don't give. They believe it's owe to them.
@hustonphotography (569)
• United States
22 Mar 09
I say I am a bit of both in everything I do. I give and take. I think it is a part of my personality. I am equally rounded. I do the best I can. I use to give a lot but I was taken advantage of now I am careful becuae to many people will take and take if you let them. I think give and take is only fair.
@gayathrigs (871)
• India
21 Mar 09
I like giving more than taking, i dont like taking at all, it doesnt make me happy in any sense, I feel very happy and satisfied only by giving, i see to it that i give away as much as i can not only to near and dear, but also to people far away, orphans,poor etc. I think giving makes us more happy rather than taking. Giving makes us really very delightful.
@babyorchid (1737)
• China
21 Mar 09
when i was a kid, my parent taught me giving is much happier than taking.
if we are some powerful person or let me say if we are good at some field where our friends or family members are not, then it would be much happier to teach them.
here ,giving not only means help in material but also in spirit.
i never think about anyone do have any obligation to help us.
bcz anyone in the world should learn to be independence himself/herself.
but taking is also a good things especially when u are in a hard time
happy mylotting
@LCHBheart (167)
• Singapore
21 Mar 09
This reminds me of a comic I once read. A guy feeds a hungry tanuki (japanese raccoon dog) one day. Later, the tanuki follows the guy to his school and brought him some food as well. Seeing as how the tanuki is alone, he brings it home to care for it. Thus begins a beautiful friendship.
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@shiwangipeswani (613)
• India
21 Mar 09
heloo my lotter
life is about give and take ,this every one knows,so no body can be a part of society if he or she doesnt follow this rule.
@lilsoozieqwa (67)
• United States
21 Mar 09
i would like to think im a open giver..i hate to see a child or an elderly person going without..my mother in law is in a nursing home and i was bringing her a few of her stuffed animals from home when i came up to a sight impaired man named john i watched how the aid interacted with him and it hurt my feelings cause i used to work in that same field..altziemers is a terrible illness..but it turned me into a giver to those who have not..so i took the stuffed bear and walked over to the cna and asked his name...she said john..i then took johns hand and gave him the bear,,and told john if he needed someone to talk to to grab his bear for comfort...you know everytime i see john hes got the bear..the staff thanked me for the bear...sometimes we have to think of others before we take so much for granted..i challange you all reading this to go to your local thrift shop buy 20 bears and just take time to go to a hospice or nursing home and just give them to that person you see in that chair ask their name and tell themyour are gifting them a caring bear .and watch the smile...godbless the selfless for they are our future if we push them away...
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@luvmysons (497)
• United States
21 Mar 09
I definitely enjoy giving but hey I like to take too. Hey I think the majority of people take more than give. I think though that people could easily take advantage of me for being a giver to much.
@hypnotize (4)
• Thailand
22 Mar 09
From my experience, the more you give the more you get, SPECIALLY when you DON'T "give to get" (I know, sounds paradox). I have been a taker for a long time, and it wasn't until I started giving way more than I was comfortable with that my life really started to take off in many areas. I'm 20 times more successful and 100 times more happy these days because I gave giving a try and stuck with it!
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
21 Mar 09
i would say i am a giver, i give my time to alot people and often find myself with very little time to myself or my time is very thin.
most people are takers, they just want to take and take and give nothing in return. i come across so many of these. and i often get tired of giving to these people, or the one who will take and then treat you bad, then get mad at you because you wont give anymore
@lucky1girl (139)
• Taiwan
21 Mar 09
Agree with you.Both to be a taker and a giver will make the relationship more and more near.
When i'm a giver,i'm still happy,even i offer my seat to others,i feel so glad.
I like to help each other with my friends but not to always take from them.
I'll feel ashamed if i can't give anything to my friends!There is no anybody to do everything for us in duty.
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@darknessfalls (180)
• Philippines
21 Mar 09
I'm quite the giver...though I do take occasionally but I usually give things I have when requested properly and I know that what I'll be doing is the betterment if not for me then for the other person. I'm willing to help anyone if I know I can do it. I'd like to give my time to someone in need.
I don't also take note of the people I've helped nor do I require them to help me back with something I could do all by myself. I do things for myself alone and only require other people to help when truly relevant.
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@Jenaisle (14079)
• Philippines
21 Mar 09
That's true and good. She didn't require me to repay and give her anything but I just felt that I can't take and take; it was voluntary on my part, that I had to "help" her too in anyway I can. It was voluntary on my part and I'm sure she appreciated it too.
