Where's The Love?
By singlemommy
@singlemommy (2955)
United States
April 1, 2009 8:41pm CST
Most of you know about the "crush" that I had on our FedEx driver. Well, in the past couple weeks, I have backed off of him and I haven't been making many attempts to talk to him. Thus, he has been doing the same to me. We pretty much have both been ignoring each other. Well, yesterday, my co-worker looked at me and said, "Where's the love?". I just laughed and I told him that I was jealous because the FedEx driver always talks to him every day when he comes in but he doesn't say anything to me. I told him it wasn't fair that he gets all the attention.
Now, I still like Mr. Fedex, but I know that he isn't interested in me and I'm not willing to press the issue and go after him when I know I will never have him, so I see no point. I do wish that we could atleast be on talking terms, but I think he pretty much ignores me now for some reason. I'm not sure if I have made him mad or done something that offended him or what. Maybe by me not coming on to him, he feels like he shouldn't approach me anymore. I'm not sure what the reason is, but when he comes in, you could cut the tension with a knife.
So, what would be some ways that I could lighten the tension and maybe atleast get us talking on a "friendly" basis? Any ideas?
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16 responses
@cjforeverknight (427)
• United States
2 Apr 09
I would just speak to him & say hey how are you doing??? And just be on the friendly but not too friendly. I would speak to him everyday like there is nothing wrong with me, for he might think you are mad at him. Also some big mouth may have told him you have a crush on him. But just be yourself and just be friendly like you would to your female friends. And let him see that you are always smiling and happy no matter how you really feel in your heart. Good luck.
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@cjforeverknight (427)
• United States
2 Apr 09
Also when I met my husband at night school, he said how he noticed me was I was smart & beautiful too. He said he liked the fact that I treated everyone in class the same & I was just as friendly to him as I was the others in the class. He said that was a turn on for him, LOL!!! We met at night school in 1978 & we have been together ever since, LOL!!!! He said I was the sexiest brainy nerd he ever saw, LOL!!!!
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@singlemommy (2955)
• United States
2 Apr 09
Yes, he knows about my crush. It was no secret. One of his friends in my co-worker and he told him. I have tried a couple times to talk to him. Once he acted all mad and the other he just said a little comment back. But it isn't like what we normally did or how we normally talked.
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@singlemommy (2955)
• United States
2 Apr 09
Well, he is a lucky man to have found you. I was born in 1978 so that was a wonderful yeah, huh? Yes, I'm hoping that when I least expect a man to notice me. Hopefully it is soon.
@lilybug (21107)
• United States
2 Apr 09
He is probably just ignoring you because you are ignoring him. Try just saying "Hi, how are you doing today?" to him and see what his response is. Maybe you guys just need to start over fresh without any of the flirting and try to work on just being friendly. Good luck!
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@singlemommy (2955)
• United States
2 Apr 09
Well, today I had to work in a different department so I wasn't going to be around when he came in today or so I thought. I get my last break at 2 and I walked over to my regular area that I work in for my break to hang out with all my co-workers that I normally work with, well, he came in as I got over there. When I saw him, I thought to myself, 'girl, you gotta break the ice', so I just walked up to him and said, "You know, I could really use a hug today". He gave me a hug and then one of my co-workers said, "Why don't you just lay a kiss on her?". Then the FedEx guy said, "If I did that then they wouldn't get any work out of her the rest of the day". My co-worker jokingly replied, "They aren't going to get any work out of her anyway". So, all in all, I think or atleast I hope it helped break the ice.
@hotsummer (13835)
• Philippines
3 Apr 09
it seems to be in a very awkward situation. i guess the fedex guy seems to be shy to make the first move and would like you to give a hint for him to come forward to talk to you. but i am not sure about it. i myself is not good on this kind of stuff. i fail miserably on matters that pertains to love and relationship. but if i am in your situation i most probably just give it a try. and will just hope for the best. But i think that you have given your best and that you have done every thing you could. and i think that you just have to make up your mind if you really like this person in your life or not. if you really want or not. cause i guess the person is making sure that you really wanted him and not just an ordinary friend or something. and maybe he just avoids to be disappointed or make any wrong move and so he was so careful about it.
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@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
2 Apr 09
Hey singlemommy! I really don't know what to tell you about
this! I would kind of let things just play out as they may
right now. I think that he feels uncomfortable because he
doesn't know what to say to you or how to act around you. You
could just start off by asking him how he's doing or something
light like that. But, I wouldn't say anything too serious or
stuff like you were saying. I think that is what might have
made him uncomfortable in the first place. I think that he
knows you like him and just isn't quite sure how to act. Maybe
he is just a really shy guy! Give him a chance and maybe you
will be pleasantly surprised! You have to understand that since
everyone at your job knows that you like him he might feel
really awkward even if he does like you so take it easy and
then see what happens.
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@singlemommy (2955)
• United States
3 Apr 09
Well, today, I asked for a hug. He gave me one. I figured it was a good icebreaker and the hug was a friendly hug, not like past hugs that we've shared. One of my co-workers told him that he should just give me a kiss and he replied, "If I did that you wouldn't get any work out of her the rest of the day". So, I would say it didn't go to bad, hopefully things won't be so tense anymore.
@jordan04n (463)
• United States
3 Apr 09
Go back into normal mode like you were befor any of this stated. Auto pilot always works for me in uncomfortable situtations. Good luck.
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@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
2 Apr 09
According to me the best thing to do would be to continue avoiding him until you find somebody and the tension between you and Fedex guy eases off normally. I know about this Fedex guy and how mad you are about him and how he is OK with you but NOT overtly eager…so I think even he would be relieved with you avoiding him! I mean he seems like a respectable person who’s understood what’s on your mind and what’s on his…and he never took advantage of the situation, so you should give him his dues and let him perform his work normally. If its got to do something with you professionally, then be professional and get the work done without any extra overtures…that might embarrass both of you for no valid reason at all. I sure hope you find your love soon enough and then talking to this Fedex guy would be no problem at all!
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@AcousticSoul (1309)
• United States
2 Apr 09
It sounds to me both of you are playing games :o) Smile, and the best way to get pass the tension is to not create it. I mean you should have no reason to feel you've done anything wrong unless you've done something wrong, have you? I think he feels like you insecure and wonders what he did to make you so quite so he is feeling out the situtation or it could be he's just not caring about your feelings. If I were you I would speak, ask him about the weather... and his work load, because of the recession has his route changed anything to see what his response is but don't make it obvious that you are trying to figure him out, just be natural and let the conversation unfold on its own...
Good luck :o)
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@ketybhagat (4123)
• India
2 Apr 09
Well, I think its your fault partly, mommy.You used to go out of your way to talk to him and ask for hugs. Then all of a sudden you give him the cold shoulder without any reason. He is also a human and has a male ego which is very sensitive. I suggest you go up to him and talk to him, just like you'd speak to any normal person, a friend. Smile at him the next time you see him and just say hi ! Break the ice. Maybe somebody told him of your crush for him, and he might have withdrawn into his shell. Relax. Im sure you both can be good friends, if you really leave the emotions out of your relatinship. That might make him feel easier if he had no ulterior meaning to his friendship with you. You too take it in your stride and dont let it pull you down. Your bangy image is a wow !
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@shewolf52002 (1214)
• United States
2 Apr 09
If your coworker is a friend I would suggest you get pointers from him. Since he knows Mr. Fedex he could tell you the best way to proceed or talk to him for you. Best I got, sorry.
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@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
2 Apr 09
Just carry one as if nothing ever happened. Say a cheery good morning to him when he comes in and then go back to work right away. Maybe he thinks you're mad at him because he's not interested in dating? A friendly word will set that to rest and leaving it up to him to reply (staying busy and not focused on him) will avoid his feeling obligated to respond.
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@myskysky (38)
• China
2 Apr 09
May be the most effective solution is to find another person that you love.But it's not easy to find a true love so you must wait time to connect the distant between you.And you must release yourself from the love you give him if you're sure that you are impossibe.
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@bfarrier1 (2082)
• United States
2 Apr 09
Well you could just be honest with him and tell him that you would'nt mind at least being friends and let him know you are no longer interested in any thing else.I hope this all works out the way you want it to,Good Luck.Take Care!
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@tamarafireheart (15384)
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2 Apr 09
Hi singlemommy,
Well considering that you are both ignoring each other means he is not talking to you because you are ignoring him, so the best way is to break the ice is ask him why he is ignoring you, because you can't go on like this and if you says you are chasing him then tell him having a laugh does not mean you are chasing him, something has to be sid as its no good carruing on like this.
Tamara
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