Why not a housewife?

a housewife - 24 hrs of a housewife .
India
April 6, 2009 12:59am CST
Hello freinds,i had a question im my mind,from a long time,"why are the housewifves treated as dumb as compared to the working women?"Is that so,arethe working women smarter than the housewives,just because they are earning something,or what?What is the reason behind this thinking?Why are the boys today ashamed of tellling someone that his wife is a housewife?Why everybody ask this question so strangely "ARE YOU A HOUSEWIFE?"I guess all the housewives there agree with me.
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20 responses
@kiran8 (15398)
• Mangalore, India
6 Apr 09
Hi shiwangipeswani, the general feeling among people is that a housewife is just that.i thnk it happened in the past when the more educated women worked and the rest were married off. The mind set has continued. People still do not realise that there are some who are stay at home moms out of choice...They dont lack in anything, but prefer to care of their families..
• India
7 Apr 09
hello kiran thnx for sharing the viewa and i think you are absolutely right but we should something to change the notion of society.dont you think so?
@kiran8 (15398)
• Mangalore, India
7 Apr 09
Hi shiwanigi, i think it is impossible to change the mindset of the society. I think it is better to go ahead and do what you want to do with conviction and confidence without bothering about the society. BYW the so called society is never there when you need help so why care???
• United States
6 Apr 09
I believe that now a days everyone is judged by their jobs. Even if a women works and it is not standard enough to some that they are looked down on. I am a housewife and I absolutely enjoy it. Because of health reasons it is harder for me to work.Even when I was working it was hard, it became almost not worth it for me to work because everything I was making was just going right back out to pay a babysitter. I agree with you that it is like that but I don't agree with the statement..being a housewife is just as hard as being a working women. And you know that being a housewife means no end...it doesn't stop at 5:00 like a job it goes 24/7. I think the only difference for me is I have more time to try and finish the things that need done instead of speeding through them before you head out the door. I fully believe and always will believe that family is more important...Do you honestly believe that your children are going to remember that they had alot of the materials they wanted because you worked a ton of hours and could afford it or that you were there when they needed you and not at work? Being a housewife is looked down on and probably always will be but what I don't get it back in the day that was how it was suppose to be so what is so wrong with it being that way now?
• India
7 Apr 09
hello dear freind thnx for shring your views ,yeah even i think so that being a housewife is more tougher than being woking out.you are taking me wrong ,iam a housewife and proud to be ,i was talking about the people all around me think like that .
• United States
13 Apr 09
Hehehe..it's alright I wasn't talking about you either I was just talking about people in general that put their careers in front of their families :) Thanks for the best response :)
@prinzcy (5055)
• Malaysia
7 Apr 09
Being a housewife isn't something to be ashamed of. My mother is a full time housewife. She spend entire day to cook, clean and make sure we get here and there. She also the one in charge of our house budget and spending. She is also the doctor, nurse us when we sick and prepare balance meals to eat. She is also a teacher, guide us during our study. My mother isn't a university graduate and there are things she can't teach us. But she still doing the best she can with buying books, enroll us for tution and more. For me, my mother really is amazing. I can't do things the way she does. So no one should be ashamed of being a housewife.
• India
7 Apr 09
hello freind thnx for shring your wonderfull views and dont take me wrong iam a housewife and iam proud to be .
@flyrock (58)
• China
7 Apr 09
Housemaker is as important as money earned,image when a husband come into his house,the floor is in a mess,the food is not ready,etc.He will feel uncomfortable.In somewords,The housemaker create values.But donnot stay in always,if have time go outside ,surf internet,keep pace with the modern world.
• India
7 Apr 09
hi freind thnx for sharing such great views ,we need such views to change the notion .
• United States
6 Apr 09
I think this probably has a lot to do with the way people have perceived the running of a household. Everybody does it. We all have households which we run, so the assumption is if a woman is working, she is also doing the household chores. Is this fair, accurate? No. Running a household is difficult and women who stay home are making a sacrifice of time and energy to promote their families' well-being. However, because what they are doing appears to be the same as what everybody else is doing, it's not consider harder than anybody else. Nowadays, with women taking a more active role in the workforce, it's pretty much assumed that if a woman doesn't work, she's just lazy and prefers the easier work of the home. It's ridiculous, but people do think that way. They don't see the time she puts in with her kids, or the maintenance of the things that keep a home running smoothly, the coordinating of schedules etc. They just see her as someone who isn't doing what she "should" be doing. However, they choose to ignore the fact that most working women are struggling to maintain both worlds (or have help). The myth that a woman can "have it all," is just that, a myth.
• India
7 Apr 09
thnx for your wonderful views
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@SomeCowgirl (32266)
• United States
6 Apr 09
I'm not a housewife myself so I'm not aware of anyone feeling that it's a strange thing to do, nor am I aware of people thinking of it as dumb. If anything, I would feel that maybe people think it's out of society's character as usually women work as well and do not stay at home to take care of the house. Men are doing this now as well, although they are "househusbands" and honestly society has become equal in that a woman can earn more then a man. This may be one reason why some men stay at home and not the women, but whether or not society calls these people dumb I'm just not sure. To each their own, and we all have our own opinions. Happy Mylotting.
• India
7 Apr 09
hello freind thnx for shairing the views
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@chiepao (714)
• Philippines
6 Apr 09
I may not know from personal experience on what being a housewife is, but seeing it from my mom, because my mom's a housewife, it's not as easy as it looks. Housewives are not treated as dumb compared to working women. Not all working women are smarter than housewives.
• India
7 Apr 09
hello freind thnx for sharing your views,even i think so that smartness can be rated by being a housewife or a working woman
@Lindalinda (4112)
• Canada
6 Apr 09
There was a time when women were considered inferior in intelligence compared to men. Thankfully this thinking only exists now in the most primitive minds. Consider Michelle Obama was the mentor to her future husband Barack Obama in the law firm where she worked. So to answer your question, I don't think most people consider housewives dumber than working women. Then again it depends on the status of the housewife. If a girl gets married young say at 20 or 22 and has not obtained a means to support herself if need be she is indeed dumb. Today's women need to get an education, learn a trade, a skill or obtain a certificate of sorts which will enable them to look after themselves independently if need be. When young people get married today it is expected that both people work until there is a child or children and then one partner, usually the wife chooses to stay home and look after the house and family. It is also important, if at all possible that the wife in any marriage has an independent source of income or savings so she is not totally dependent on a man. From my own circle of relatives and friends I only know of one case where the wife who is still quite young and has no children stays at home to cater to her husband and the house. Indeed most people regard this as very strange and think the wife is bullied and oppressed or outright dumb to do this since she is not working outside the home to accumulate contributions in a pension plan for her old age and save up some money for her own personal use.
• India
7 Apr 09
hello freind thnx for sharing wonderful views on a housewife.
@cudamani (997)
• India
6 Apr 09
It is very difficult to be a successful housewife. But once the goal is achieved they become better than working women. A housewife is faced with a lot of challenges in life, she has to look after the husband, his needs, her children, their needs and the needs for the good and effective running of the house and other things. She is ultimately the winner! And that is why she is called with respect as 'home maker'. She literally makes the home!
• India
7 Apr 09
hello freind thnx for sharing your views
@icegermany (2524)
• India
6 Apr 09
yes i agree with you, few people do thin soo but i believe that there are more ladies who are housewives and much smarter than the other ladies who work, if any lady is willing to also work than they somehow find ways also sitting at home and do more work. the most important role of a wife to bring up the family and we do so and also everytime sacrifice our desires for the sake of family and this cant be done by all women. while studying we never think that either we sit at home or go to a job and we are all treated equally like students and no more or less but when we get into a married life we some of us can work and some cant and hence we get categorised into working women and housewives which should not matter and effect a person. i hope you are trying to understand my point of view. i myself is an engineer but i couldnot go to a job after my wedding and i am a housewife and it is not that my capability is lessr than anybody else. i think it is wrong to think that a lady being at home is not smar enough.
• India
7 Apr 09
heelo dear freind thnx for your view and i know a housewife can understand these feelilng much easier than anyone other ,lets hope that in future the notion will change completely.
• India
6 Apr 09
I think this notion of housewives being dumb developed at a time when housewives were definitely confined to their homes and had little interaction with the outside world. Think of it this way…there was a time when women were thought of as dumb when compared to men only because men went out into the world and women did not step out. More than the money, it’s the daily interaction with people from different walks of life that really matter. So in that sense, housewives of previous decades did not really venture out of their neighbourhoods are were generally thought of as being out of water if introduced to outsiders. That notion has carried on and will take time to break. Nowadays, a lot of earn-from home schemes are there and many women ideally juggle home and some business to each some money. I think this is the best way to manage both successfully.
• India
7 Apr 09
hello freind thnx for sharing your views ,its so sad but still there are people in our society who treat housewife dumb in compairson to working women.
• Philippines
6 Apr 09
A home maker is a person who's prime occupation is to take care of their family and home. In this generation, women prefer to call them A Home Maker, because they not only take care of their husbands and kids, but also do work at home and in the office. A housewife is simply what most of people prefer when a wife does stay at home only and does not have any job outside like in an office. But it is up to you on how you bring your kids up well without anyone degrading you either your a Simple Housewife or a Home Maker. For me, this is just the same. We do hard work for our family. And we deserve equal respect and honor even if we are just stay at home housewife or not. Happy mylotting!
• India
7 Apr 09
thnx for sharing great views on housewives.
@abanerji (1026)
• India
6 Apr 09
well, i am not married and don't know exactly if i would be a homemaker or both, working and homemaker. that would depend on the family where i go. well, i think, those who say that homemakers are dumb... are dumb by themselves. some people don't wish their wife to be working so these women don't do out to work. there are many women who don't work outside but are very smart and intelligent. my mother started working only when my brother and i were old enough to hadle things ourselves... women who are at home manage every thing single handedly. i don't think that home management is easier than office management. probably it is more difficult because in home mangement you have to priorities each and everything and everybody.
• India
7 Apr 09
hello miss banerji thnxs for sharing your views,kaash sab log aisa hi sochte all the best
@karbuks (270)
• Philippines
6 Apr 09
i salute every housewives. they take care of the house, children and of course, their husband. my aunt is a housewife and i can see that it is not an easy task, she woke up so early in the morning to prepare breakfast and she all do the chores. her husband don't want her to work so she can take good care of the children because there was once an incident when the children got sick because of their irresponsible nanny. housewives are also smart people and i think thy are suppose to have special treatment for all the effort they do.
• India
7 Apr 09
hello freind thnx for sharing the views,hope everyone may think like you.
@bdugas (3581)
• United States
6 Apr 09
I don't think there is shame in being a housewife, some women don't care to work and their husbands don't want them too. They are more comfortable in staying home taking care of the kids and the house. Others perfer to work, doesn't make them smarter. Some married women, got married right out of high school and didn't go to college. Women now a days are more in tune with what they want out of life and it isn't sitting at home with the kids. My grand daughter will graduate next year, she has watched her mother struggle with trying to raise them and she is getting the education that she needs so that she never has to go through what her mother did to struggle to raise them. Just because someone one works does not mean they are smarter than the woman that stays at home. It is just a personal thing either you work or you perfer to stay home. Don't think smarts comes into it at all, maybe the one staying at home is the smart one, she doesn't have to be up and out early in the morning to fight the traffic or the bad weather or snow trying to get to her job. She dont' have to punch a clock, she comes and goes as she pleases. So who is the wiser of the two. Believe me I would of rather of stayed home if I could and run the malls and had friends over for lunch. But I was out in the early morning traffic in the snow storms trying to get to work. So maybe I should of listened to my mother and found MONEY instead of LOVE and I would of been a stay at home too. NA, I hate being at home I would rather work any day.
• India
7 Apr 09
hello freind thnx for sharing your views ,but let me tell you even i think so that a job of being a housewife is much more tougher than that of a working girl ,iwas talking about the people all around me. thnx for sharing
• Indonesia
10 Apr 09
I wish the term housewife could be stricken from vocabulary and changed to a phrase like The family caretaker. I love being a housewife but I always cringe when someone asks me what I do. I know a lot of people are still very narrow minded and the word housewife carries a debased note to some people. These days being a housewife doesn't mean that you are not educated and being a working woman doesn't mean that you can't cook and care for you family well.
@xParanoiax (6998)
• United States
10 Apr 09
I'm not a housewife nor do I intend to become one...and I think it's a bit unfair too. Girls can do anything they want, and what they do with their lives doesn't necessarily reflect on their intelligence (just your opinion of it).
• India
8 Apr 09
Housewife has more experience and knowledge than working women in housekeeping. But , nowadays, "ANYTHING IS NEXT TO MONEY " in this world. Generally , houswives cook a lot more tastier than working women.What to do? "FOOD AND CARE COMES ONLY NEXT TO MONEY"This craze for money is due to huge living expenses .Therefore, the term "housewife" looks strange to people.
@jassics (206)
• India
7 Apr 09
hey shiwangipeswani i don't think that everyone is thinking as u described. and housewives have 24 hours job........if they will not be there then no male meber can find anything at proper place, no one can leave neat and clean home, no one can get satisfied without eating food from lady. working women have much ego and i guess they think in more standard way but thats not the standard way of thinking . both partners should participate in housekeeping works if both r working. else housewife does more work than a working male my mother , my didi my bhabhi all are housewives so what i love them alot and respect alot
@nanamag (20)
• United States
6 Apr 09
Wow, some of the comments you have received regarding this post are pretty antiquated and somewhat ignorant. First of all, just because you stay at home to take care of family, house, etc. does not make you "dumb". It makes you lucky to be able to do that. It also makes everyone you are caring for lucky as well. It is not an easy job. It is probably one of the most demanding jobs anyone could do. It is also one of the most underrated and under appreciated jobs of all times. It requires many skills that a lot of "professional" people do not have. You must have great time management skills, you must be a cook, a teacher, a nurse, in some cases an accountant. You must be able to find anything that anyone is looking for or needs and do it right now. (Sort of like an executive secretary or personal assistant.) I would be willing to bet that it takes more than one person to do all you do for Donald Trump and they were "dumb" enough to pay tuition to some school to learn how to do it. You're not dumb, my friend and your husband should be proud to say you are a Housewife. It means you love him and your family enough to do all you do without monetary reward or even a thank you. Besides, if he tried to hire someone to do everything you do, well, he probably couldn't afford it, unless he IS Donald Trump. I salute you!!!!!!!!!!!!