Exhausted............I want to give love to a deserving man.......

United States
April 6, 2009 11:27pm CST
What do you do when you know what you have to offer to a deserving mate and What if's get in the way? Sometimes they are not even your what if's. What if he/she cheats......."I just heard about so and so who cheated on her man after 10 years....." We are constantly bombarded with What if's. Now the typical answer is " Your relationship is your relationship. The only two people that set your destiny is you and that person.....Is that really true? The What if's The She should and He should Why isn't he doing, saying, acting Why isn't she doing, saying, acting Is taking its toll. I feel it, that is why I am up at 11:25 typing this, because I really feel it. And I keep trying to make this my own, make it only unique to him and I, but something will not let that happen. Is it me? I care for him and I am doing the best i can. We shall see what the outcome will be.
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5 responses
• Philippines
7 Apr 09
you know what, i feel the same way too. i am so scared to fall in love. scared to love. i have this fear that "what ifs" i just don't know why. just recently, i am not in a relationship right now. and i think he is planning to win me back, but until now, i am still thinking about the what ifs...what if he will do it again. what if he will not be the same. so sad.i still feel something for him, but i prefer to keep it than to be hurt again.
@rsa101 (13337)
• Philippines
7 Apr 09
For me love is never expecting anything in return. That is something unconditional and accepts what it has to offer. Anyway kind of hard to do actually but I think ideally that is what love is all about. Those what ifs and should be's is never realistic at all since when love strike at you, you either deny it or accept it. If you accept it then enjoy it while it lasts.
@dmrone (751)
• United States
7 Apr 09
I feel that the relationship and the strength of the relatioship is up to the two people involved. The what ifs will only weaken the relationship. If you worry about it then it i going to cause problems. You can only do what you can do, and nothing more. It is all up to you and him what the outcome will be. I wih you the best.
@iamsolucky (1243)
• Philippines
7 Apr 09
Just love the guy you really love, not thinking they wont give you the same amount of love. Love without thinking of regrets. sometimes we feel tired when we think we are the only one loving, but did you know this is the best part of love? We are glad, God is not tired of loving us, even he dont accept the same love amount he really deserves. yeap "really deserves"
@bird123 (10342)
• United States
7 Apr 09
What if's never happen. Don't worry about them. As far as the rest, give unconditional love then nothing else will matter.