In Your Experience - So How Many Come Back & Say Thank You?

@zweeb82 (5713)
Malaysia
April 8, 2009 10:27pm CST
OK, I was just wondering since I was dishing out Best Responses a while ago - so how many actually come back & say thank you? Please, I'm not particularly looking for one or demanding for any as that would be so shallow but as I'm one who likes to observe things, so that's why I popped the question? Do you always say thank you when you receive a BR? And how many thank yous have you received in percentage wise as I don't think one can remember the exact number? Haha!~Happy myLotting & have a good day y'all!~
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23 responses
@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
8 May 09
Hmm... I have never really received any thank yous much for dishing out BRs. But I do thank the author of the thread from time to time when I receive one. It is only courteous to acknowledge that you received a best response. But then again, I have been so busy of late, I did not dish out BRs like I used to. Even my activity here has decreased. I sure hope in the coming months it will pick up again. So, friend, long time no see... how are you?
@zweeb82 (5713)
• Malaysia
8 May 09
Yup, manners are manners, haha!~I have been very busy as well & my activity here has also slowed down a lot. I'm fine here. Will be out of town this month end so I guess the activeness here will continue to stay low? Haha!~
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@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
8 May 09
Looks like I am not alone eh? ha ha ha ha... so busy, business must be really picking up eh?
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@zweeb82 (5713)
• Malaysia
15 May 09
Yeah, clearing up stuff before I go out of town end of the month, hehe~!
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@aisaellis22 (6449)
• United States
18 Apr 09
Hello zweeb! I have given some of the best responses a long time ago and honestly, out of 10 best responses I have given, only 3 persons came back and say thank you. Well, I really don't mind because when I give my best response, I made it sure that the person really deserves to have it. Everytime I got a best response, I really made it sure I say thank you to the person. I am saying thank you not because he gave me the best response but because of giving me such happiness and satisfaction.
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@zweeb82 (5713)
• Malaysia
20 Apr 09
Good to know at least there's 3 & not ZERO, haha!~Well, I guess some people might have been confused by the guidelines a bit but no worries as it's not a big thing!~ Oh ok, so best responses bring you happiness & satisfaction!~
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• United States
20 Apr 09
hehehe..of course..especially if there are many responses in that discussion...
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@zweeb82 (5713)
• Malaysia
21 Apr 09
Hahaha!~OK!~
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@KrauseHome (36052)
• United States
26 Apr 09
Well, personally I have never noticed how many do when I hand out my Best Responses, and since we are not really supposed to just reply back to someone with Thank You's I am sure this is why most never tend to respond back to most of them. But if you do get a response for me, I know it is appreciated usually for sure.
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@zweeb82 (5713)
• Malaysia
27 Apr 09
I think many people might have misconstrued on the guidelines part. It just say one cannot just use words like "thank you" all the time just to beat the system but we can still be expressive by lengthening our "thank yous" like "really appreciate bla bla bla & by the way, how's bla bla bla & bla bla bla" Haha~!Well, it's not a big matter like I stated in the beginning this is just my observation. Well, at least I found out WHY some people don't do it because of the misinterpretation on the guidelines part?
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@ktosea (2026)
• China
20 Apr 09
Hey zweeb,I actually check the Best responses everytime when I login my lot and I will say thank you once I got BR,I also check the other's "thank you" for giving them the best responses.that really good experience
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@zweeb82 (5713)
• Malaysia
20 Apr 09
Yup, manners are manners to me no matter if it's online or offline!~ Good to know!~
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• Philippines
19 Apr 09
Hi zweeb. I always try to comment back to express my gratitude when someone gives me a br, sometimes I send a pm or leave a comment on their profile. There might have been some that I missed out when I was very new here and was still learning the ropes around. As far as getting a note of thanks is concerned, I think I've gotten about more than 50 percent. Thanks and have a blessed Sunday.
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@zweeb82 (5713)
• Malaysia
20 Apr 09
More than 50%!~What goes around comes around I guess!~All the best & happy myLotting!~
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• United States
19 Apr 09
I would say that about 50% of my best responsers will give a thank you... I am not that great at going and saying thanks for the BR...and that is bad on my part...and I keep telling myself that I need to...only I have been so busy lately and trying to fit mylot in during the day is getting harder with things going on this past week alone....LOL I have to get on everyday no matter what...I am addicted like that, but I really should thank the BR's that I get...my bad!!! happy mylotting!!
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@zweeb82 (5713)
• Malaysia
20 Apr 09
50% is a very good ratio indeed!~ I think majority would be one third!~ I guess sometimes we're too busy till we forget as there are so many important things to be done, haha!~In fact I haven't been in myLot for nearly a week already, haha!~
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@SomeCowgirl (32265)
• United States
11 Apr 09
I don't really keep count as to how many go back and say thank you but I can say that I sparingly go back to say thank you as often times I don't even check to see if I have gotten a best response. I'd have to say of the number of responses I may give atleast three or four come back to say "thank ya for the best response".
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@zweeb82 (5713)
• Malaysia
12 Apr 09
OK, 3 or 4 is still a good estimate!~ I guess we're sometimes too busy responding & we forget like me - sometimes I reply to so many discussions a day I can't even remember who has replied or responded or said certain thingshaha!~
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@mysdianait (65127)
• Italy
9 Apr 09
I have noticed that not many come back, Those that do always add a bit more to their comment too. Personally I do go back but that's just me Just to clear up something from earlier responses. In the Guidelines it says: '(Don't) Thank everyone that responds or comments on your discussion. This will not increase your earnings' This does not mean that if we have been brought up to have a certain type of manners and respect for others we cannot thank them but it does mean that will not be enough. It means that those who just do that will not earn from it but it does not say we cannot do it. I do feel that a little bit of logical thinking is required and sometimes we should put ourselves in someones elses shoes when trying to interpret the Guidelines. They are not as ridiculous as many discussions try to make them
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@zweeb82 (5713)
• Malaysia
9 Apr 09
Well said, well said!~ That's why I always like you around as when it comes to things like that you're one of the veterans that knows how to go about, haha!~If really the one is disallowed from expressing one's gratitude then I guess this discussion will be deleted sooner or later as the admins wouldn't want an unnecessary uprising, haha!~
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@mysdianait (65127)
• Italy
9 Apr 09
Hahaha! Is it only the veterans that are logical? I think it has a lot to do with 'well that won't earn me anything so I'm not going to do it' - sad Nowadays, offline too, if it doesn't pay it's just discarded
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@zweeb82 (5713)
• Malaysia
9 Apr 09
I wonder what happened to gallantry & knights in shining armour? Hahaha!~But maybe spoiledbrat there was just being cautious not to step over the guidelines to avoid unnecessary trouble?
@ratyz5 (7829)
• Philippines
9 Apr 09
Hahaha~! You don't fail to come up with simple yet interesting questions to ponder on, zweeb82 As far as I could think of, on my part, whenever I get awarded the best response, I would always like to reply my thanks and not post my gratitude just after another post of mine. I don't know, it seems irregular to post another response after I have posted one already. I want it to be alternate like their reply, my reply, their reply again and so on. Okay, going back to your question, I might think around one out of of four would come back just to say thanks.. well, I'm not really sure if they really got notified about their best response through their email so who knows?
@zweeb82 (5713)
• Malaysia
10 Apr 09
Yeah, I'm aware you're one of those who come back & yeah, the you post I post alternate style which I'm very much familiar with, haha!~Maybe sometimes the notifications on BR that come in with the pile of other discussions started notifications are too many & overwhelming so they get deleted off one shot? So maybe some people might have missed it in that way? "Simple yet interesting questions to ponder on" - some of the best gifts in life come in small packages & are not some of the simplest truths or statements in life are the most profound ones? Sometimes we can look too deep & miss the practical things in life!~ Haha!~
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@zweeb82 (5713)
• Malaysia
10 Apr 09
Delete one shot as in sometimes I have like one whole stretch of my friends so & so started a new discussion & it just happens that the BR is sandwiched in between so one might just miss it when one decides to just delete all those friends started discussions without taking a second look at them when one is super duper busy....OK, I was referring to myself, haha!~
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@ratyz5 (7829)
• Philippines
10 Apr 09
Hahaha~! You were referring to yourself? On my case, I would always check the title first, say, you got a resposne or you got the best response, I would often open those first and then see if I would reply to any of them. After that, I would read those newly posted discussion and depending on the posted discussion would I include them to be deleted or participate in them too. (^_^ ) I also do one shots but, after reading the ones that I really look forward too
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@kun2349 (23473)
• Singapore
10 Apr 09
haha =D U will know my response when u have given one to me.. lol =D Just kidding Most of the time when i have received any BR, i will be sure to go back and thank them for it, even though we are not supposed to be thanking for any BR given.. hehe ^_^ Thus, most of the time, i will only be saying thanks for the pencil.. There are some BR as far back as a few months ago, and i actually have forgotten about those discussions till i received the BR from them.. hehe ^_^
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@zweeb82 (5713)
• Malaysia
10 Apr 09
Well, it's actually not wrong to thank anyone, as long as it's not like SO short as in just 2 words "thank you". If you wrote a bit longer like this: "Just 2 words - thank you.....oh ok, it's more than 2 words now, etc, etc" that would be still OK & not violating the guidelines, haha!~Just like I said, one just need to be more expressive
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@kun2349 (23473)
• Singapore
11 Apr 09
lol =D If i can comment more on the post, i will suely be typing more than the 2 words.. But if there's nothing much to be said, i will still leave 4 words for them.. lol =D
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@zweeb82 (5713)
• Malaysia
12 Apr 09
Yeah!~ That's the spirit!~ Haha!~In this case, 4 words is still anytime better than just 2, haha!~
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• India
9 Apr 09
I always mention Thank You whenever I recv any Best Responses...it makes me feel good that yes, I have thanked a person for appreciating my thoughts.
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@zweeb82 (5713)
• Malaysia
9 Apr 09
Someone just pointed out that it's prohibited in the guidelines? Read the response above yours!~ Maybe I need to go through the guidelines again!~
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@mysdianait (65127)
• Italy
9 Apr 09
Zweeb please read my comment above
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@zweeb82 (5713)
• Malaysia
9 Apr 09
Thanks!~ I've already read!~ Thanks again for the clarifications. And I thought I missed something in the guidelines areaNow thanks for saving me the trouble to go through the guidelines again!~
@ersmommy1 (12598)
• United States
7 Feb 11
That would be nice. generally I don't go back and say thanks. And usually the people I give best response to don't either. It could be as simple as thinking best response is thanks enough.
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@zweeb82 (5713)
• Malaysia
8 Feb 11
Hmm, you definitely have a valid point there!~As long as there's an understanding, that's good enough!~
@smacksman (6074)
9 Apr 09
I always say thank you to a br. I think it is only polite to do so. But as said before, Mylot does not encourage it. But hey ho! I can't help myself! haha
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@zweeb82 (5713)
• Malaysia
10 Apr 09
Well, if you read through ALL the responses you would find that it's not really they don't allow it but the point is they don't want people to misuse it as a way just to earn extra ยข by just using those 2 words. We can always elaborate more & express ourselves, coming from different angles in terms of writing style. It doesn't have to always be the monotonous 2 word "thank you" as even a parrot can mimic that? Haha!~And yes, I'm like you - manners are manners & I was brought up that way so I'm always compelled to express my gratitude!~
@JenInTN (27549)
• United States
9 Apr 09
Hi zweeb! I always say thank you when I get one. I think that most people I have given one has thanked me as well. I'm thinking probably 75% or more will thank you for one. Take care
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@zweeb82 (5713)
• Malaysia
10 Apr 09
75% indeed is a very good statistic!~ I reckon that the norm would be one third to maybe half. So what goes around comes around so good for you!~
@sid556 (31000)
• United States
9 Apr 09
I actually don't go back and say thank your for it. I'll tell you why. I have had some do that on my discussions. It is nice that they acknowledge and all but at the same time, I feel bad that attention is brought to it. I usually have a tough time choosing a best response. Often there are several who are very good and all very deserving. It's kind of like the same feeling of when you have 3 little kids all showing you artwork and wanting you to decide whose is best....how do you do that? Take them each individually aside and tell each of them...yours was the best but don't tell johnny because we don't want to hurt his feelings. Then you give johnny the same message. Does that make sense?
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@zweeb82 (5713)
• Malaysia
10 Apr 09
Haha!~That totally make sense & I do agree with you that sometimes there are so many good responses, that's one of the reasons why I leave all me discussions unresolved & go through them when they pile up. In that sense I can give others a chance for BR instead of one person getting most of the BRs, haha!~But on the other hand, the attention getter part & all is a matter of perspective & people should be mature enough to handle these situations
@hotsummer (10465)
• Philippines
9 Apr 09
i don't say thank you. i feel happy though with it. but i don't think it will matter if we will thank the one who gave or reward us with best response. i am not expecting to. but i don't think that any one is expecting to be appreciated for the best response. and i have noticed that many don't bother to give best response any more to their thread they started. cause they got used to being busy with posting and don't any more bother with some minor things like rewarding this best response.
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@zweeb82 (5713)
• Malaysia
9 Apr 09
Haha!~Like me I guess? I'm a bit lazy when it comes to BR so I give them like once in a blue moon when I'm really in the mood or when I kick myself to do it or I'll never get it done? Hahaha!~
@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
9 Apr 09
Some people do thank us for giving them a best response. I have done that before also. It all depends on if I have the time to go and do it.
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@zweeb82 (5713)
• Malaysia
9 Apr 09
OK, cool!~Thanks for the feedback!~I guess many of us here are very busy & racing for more time, haha!~
@maiann (29)
• Philippines
9 Apr 09
From ranges from 1 to 10, normally only one would comeback and say thank you.... so i practice it myself to say thank you whenever a favor was granted or given to me by fate, friends, officemates etc.... because I think that maybe this will be a good start so that people will remember it and have the courage to practice it later on in their lives to other people also ....
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@zweeb82 (5713)
• Malaysia
9 Apr 09
So you've said it - you be the difference!~ The rest will follow suit!~ It's called leadership by example!~
@eichs1 (1934)
• Philippines
9 Apr 09
I haven't made a tally on this so I can't really say how many came back to express their gratitude. But I do remember that some of those whom I awarded BRs did response back with their "thank yous". It is okay for me though if someone did say nothing at all after getting the BR. I for one don't do it. Not because I don't appreciate receiving one but rather I am a bit shy and felt awkward sending PM or responding back in the thread for my thank you. I don't know why but I feel I am calling attention to myself and haughtily announcing my BR if I did thank back in the thread.
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@zweeb82 (5713)
• Malaysia
9 Apr 09
Oh okThat's something new!~ I don't think you should feel awkward & think that we though as people are always entitled to their perceptions & opinions but as long as your conscience is not pricking you I guess there's nothing wrong in that!~All the best!~
@eagle_f15 (2054)
• Malaysia
9 Apr 09
None comes back to me as I hardly give best response as I hardly start new discussions often but response more. But when I get a best response from another Mylotter, I would also go and comment and say TQ just like you.. I think this habit of saying thanks is cultivated from young. It is good to say thanks.
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@zweeb82 (5713)
• Malaysia
9 Apr 09
Yup, totally agree!~ It's a good habit!~You should start more discussions actually so I can come & respond to them, haha!~ Your discussions are actually quite interesting as it's nature is different than mine as mine are more technical stuff, haha!~