Cheating

@soleya (1102)
Latvia
April 27, 2009 6:16pm CST
What to do when you feel something is wrong in your relationships, when your husband is acting strange, when you feel like he is cheating but don't know how to find it out? I feel really bad, but don't know what to do about it?
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10 responses
• United States
27 Apr 09
i have felt that way and my feeling where right , all you have to do is talk to him he may not tell you the truth , if you talk to him about it and ask questions make sure you will be able to deal with the truth if he is .
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@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
27 Apr 09
Well when I feel and sort of knew my ex husband was cheating on me. I asked him of course he deined it. Untill finally he left me and I found out from some friends what was going on. I sort have figured it out from the start. I mean he was talking to his ex wife to much.
• United States
27 Apr 09
I can honestly say that I have never felt that way but if you do- just come out and ask- his response will tell you what you need to know. Honestly if you can't trust him (or feel you can't trust him) then it may be time to look inward. Good luck to you and I hope all goes well for you!!!
@scififan43 (2438)
• United States
28 Apr 09
I am not married right now and I have no grilfrind at present. However I did have a distance relionship with someone overseas. when the e-mails started to seen less and less, espicaly when she started useing a differnt e-mail address and cliamed that she was haveing problems with sending me e-mail via her own. I started to get sispiccious and decied after a long abcese of e-mails that I needed to rethink about the reliatoiship. I latter fould out she married someone easle.
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@dragon54u (31653)
• United States
28 Apr 09
I'm sorry this might be happening to you. Don't be too quick to assume he's cheating, though. Confront him and ask him what is wrong in a non-aggressive way. Get it all out in the open and find out what's wrong. If he is cheating you can either get marriage counseling or start a life without him. I favor the counseling the first time, life without him if it happens again. But like I said, ask him. Cheating may be the farthest thing from his mind, it may be something else. You never know with men, they're are all rather strange.
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@Aussies2007 (5339)
• Australia
28 Apr 09
Define "Strange"? People act strange for a variety of reasons... If you feel that he is acting strange towards you... Start back tracking and try to figure out what you did lately which would cause him to act strange towards you. Maybe you did upset him... and he has not forgiving you. If you think he is cheating... Ask him straight out if he is... And study his reaction... But don't accuse him of cheating unless you can prove it. Because if you are wrong... you are going to upset him even more. There is a big difference between "asking" and "accusing". And when you do ask him "Are you cheating on me?" He will reply "Why are you asking me such a question?" And you better have a good answer.
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28 Apr 09
Hi soleya, Ask him straight out or follow him, its no good just sitting there worrying, you have to do someting and women always knows when something like this happens you have to find out, so good luck, but then again he may not be having a affair and just talk to him. Tamara
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• Philippines
28 Apr 09
hi soleya, if you are really bothered of your husband's sudden change then go and tell him straight so he will know how you feels. just be observant of his answer if it is consistent or not, or if he can look at you straight in the eye. be a detective wife, if you really want to know the truth. God bless!
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@Margajoe (4718)
• Germany
28 Apr 09
You have to call "Cheaters". That is a great TV show. They will find out for you if your partner is cheating on you. At the same time, they are put on TV! Take care have a nice evening.
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@gicolet (1703)
• United States
28 Apr 09
Trust your instinct and ask him face to face. Not on the phone but face to face. You know your husband well enough to see if he's telling the truth or not. Do something about it before it's too late. I've been there and done that. You won't know until you ask. If you suspect he's cheating tell him so and see what he's going to do about it. Is he going to admit it or not? Just make him tell you the truth as long as you're ready to handle it. It's better than sneaking around for some proofs. Good luck and take care.