Ignorant people really annoy me grrrrr
By ellie333
@ellie333 (21016)
May 8, 2009 4:36pm CST
Today when I went to collect my son from school my ex was there with his latest girlie and I said hello to the both as the night before I had looked after HIS son overnight and taken him to school so they could have a night out together SHE BLANKED me!!!!! This was before the kids were out and around and so I said to them both that I could see the attraction he had for her and she was as ignorant as his mother (they say guys go for the mother figure LOL) she said to me but I don;t know you, BULL, she was my lone parent advisor, so I said so you are only nice in your job but a b*tch out of it then, I am being amicable here...... anyway to cut a long story short if I didn't have his lad on occasion they wouldn't have a chance for a relationship and I could have pulled the rug by saying I wasn't prepared to look after him anymore. (I am the only trusted person to look after this lad via police and social services. What would you have done in this situation? Huggles. Ellie :D
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@littleowl (7157)
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9 May 09
Hi Ellie, unless put in the situation I am not really sure what I would of done at all...my heart goes out to you that you have to put up with this attitude from your ex's girlfriend after all you did do her favour she in return could be civil to you...huggles littleowl
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@littleowl (7157)
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9 May 09
It was lovely talking to you again, anytime you want to talk am here for you ok hun...huggles loLo
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@meandmy3 (2227)
• United States
8 May 09
I would have been so nice to her that it would have left her dumb founded.
If I were in your shoes. I would have said I am so sorry you are having such a bad day, it seems you would be in the best of moods considering I kept his son last night so the two of you could have some alone time. But then again If I had to spend the night alone with him I might be a grump as well.
@tamarafireheart (15384)
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9 May 09
Hi ellie,
What an ignorant person, to be honest both of them are, its a shame they are like that but for the sake of a child you have to just ignore it, the little boy is better of you looking after him time to time, ohhh I can't stand people like that. Love and huggles.
Tamara
xxxxx
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
9 May 09
Hey ellie! I don't know how you kept yourself in check my
dear! That was just a bit too much! I think that at this
point, (knowing what I know of the whole story) I would have
pulled the plug on their little "overnight love fest"! I think
that you have gone above and beyond, considering that he is
your ex-whatever and you are being beyond considerate by taking
his son! I would put an end to their little trists at once!
How dare she play stupidier then she is! Ellie, you are too
good for this sh!t! Cut them off right now! Refuse to take
the child so that they can no longer "trist" anymore!
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@ellie333 (21016)
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9 May 09
Hi Opal, Thanks darling but he still has my son so I can do a late shift at work one night a week so I am in a bit of a spot really with that one, I may say this week that I am exhausted and can't do this Thursday as I am very tired so I wouldn't be lying. Huggles. Ellie :D
@Rainegurl (2156)
• Philippines
9 May 09
Hi, ellie 
Kill them both with your sweetness. I think you are better than them -- well, anybody is better with that attitude. Your ex should not have tolerated the ignorant girl's attitude. I guess ignorance is contagious. Both your ex and the ignorant girl are not treating you well. Stop helping them. 
Kill them both with your sweetness. I think you are better than them -- well, anybody is better with that attitude. Your ex should not have tolerated the ignorant girl's attitude. I guess ignorance is contagious. Both your ex and the ignorant girl are not treating you well. Stop helping them. @ellie333 (21016)
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9 May 09
Hi Rainegurl, Thanks, I will be sweetness and light next time I see them together. I look after the little lad because I choose too as I am the only constant female he has had in his life and him and my son as so close, we bake cakes and things and he looks forward to coming but I may try to have him every other week instead of once a week maybe. huggles. Ellie :D
@moondancer (7433)
• United States
9 May 09
I don't know ellie as I have not been in this situation. I can say I would have told her off. I would not do anything that would hurt the child. As the children are not the reason for anything happening between adults.
I know that you love this child and would do nothing to hurt him no matter how upset or angry you get.
I just wouldn't let her walk on me in any way or him either.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
9 May 09
You tell us what an ignorant person she is, just like your ex's mother (warning, next time check out the future mother-in-law. If you cannot at least be civil, he's not a good match.)and start a fight. Of course, she says she does not know you even though she lies. She has your former man and she thinks that is what he wants to hear. To her, you are the enemy.
I gather she gave you the cold shoulder.
And I bet her and your former mother-in-law get along spendidly.
As for threatening not to look after his kid, I would not do it even though you wish they would take a flying leap off a cliff somewhere. That boy is having his own problems, having a grandmother who is ignorant and a future stepmother of the same lack of caliber. Your ex and his girlfriend sound rather irresponsible.
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@ellie333 (21016)
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9 May 09
Hi Suspenseful LOL Of course she gets on really well with his mum so they are a perfect match. I will still keep having his son though as I am the only constant in his life bless and he looks forward to his sleepovers at mine but the temptation was there to say enough. Huggles. Ellie :D
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@CanadaGal (4304)
• Canada
8 May 09
I don't understand why you continue to stay "friends" with this man, when it tears you up inside so. 
He is NOT being your "friend". He is USING you to look after his son.
I know.. you're going to come back at me saying, "But our sons are friends". Fine. Then how often does he take YOUR son to HIS house for overnights???
He is NOT being your "friend". He is USING you to look after his son.
I know.. you're going to come back at me saying, "But our sons are friends". Fine. Then how often does he take YOUR son to HIS house for overnights???2 people like this
@ellie333 (21016)
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9 May 09
Hi CanadaGal, He has my son one night a week when I do a late shift but not so I can socialize and I have his one night a week unless he requests because of a special occasion. It is hard not to be friendly as he only lives 5 doors down so I try to be amicable but I have put a stop to him coming round for coffee and I don't go round there at all either we just drop boys at the door and the boys are more then friends really but as they in same section at school we have to see each other every morning and every afternoon when picking them up. The complications of life eh! LOL If only they went to different schools, if only they didn't live so close it would then be just a case oforganizing afterschool play for them sometimes. Also I am the only constant in this little lads life. Huggles. Ellie :D
@Mikaela_taz25 (1842)
• Philippines
9 May 09
that must be hard to take.but you should not let those kind of people get to you because it might get only worse. just be happy that you have your boy to be with and never mind the others, whether it is your ex or that lady who thinks she's professional and know it all everything.@ellie333 (21016)
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9 May 09
Hi Mikaela, I usually do take it all in my stride but manners cost nothing and I thought she was very rude. I will still have his little lad though as my son and his son think the world of each other and they look forward to their sleepovers but I will make sure that I am treated with some sort of respect for doing so in future. Huggles. Ellie :D
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@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
9 May 09
What a rude b**ch!Some suggested kill them with sweetness and I like that. Because it would be a shame for the boys not to spend time together I would not stop taking care of his son but I would 'sweetly advise him that it will be on your terms only and not at his convenience so he can spend time with his rude 'beloved'.
I would mention that you don't appreciate lack of manners but I'm sure that will probably go through one ear and out the other!
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@ellie333 (21016)
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9 May 09
Hi Paula, I think they both know that after what I said to her at the school but he does have my son one night a weekwhilst I work so I also feel a bit obliged to even though I love having both boys as we make cakes together and things and his son looks forward to the visits. Huggles. Ellie :D
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@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
9 May 09
Since when are manners and civility reserved only for people you already know? I might have asked her that, and added the question of how she was able to do her job as a lone parent advisor if she could only talk to people she already knew? Surely she can't know everyone whose relationship has ended? Or is she more like a commen denominator here? Ok, I've vented a bit.
As far as stopping the visits between the two boys, doing that really only hurts them. I doubt if Ms Airhead cares if the ex's son has friends or not. That said, next time he calls you are within you rights to say that you would feel uncomfortable continuing with the setup on a long-term basis if bimbo cannot learn manners. You may not run into her alot, but there are times that you will. You deserve the courtesy that should be extended to the parents of any of his sons' friends. See what he does with that information.
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@andy77e (5156)
• United States
9 May 09
Two things come to mind. First, what is best for the child? It sounds to me as if the kid could end up being a relational foot ball, to kick around at the other person. Is that best for the child?
Second, what is the right thing to do? Not what you feel like doing, but what is the morally correct thing to do? You can't help how other people act, only how you act. Ignorant people annoy me as well. But we should be careful not to use that as an excuse to act worse than the people who annoy us.
@ellie333 (21016)
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9 May 09
Hi Andy, I hear what you are saying and that is the main reason I still have the little lad as I am the only real constant he has had bless other than his father as his natural mother doesn't want to know and he does to forward to staying. I won't stop it really but that it was I felt like doing but I wouldn't use him as a pawn in an adult game like many do. I was just annoyed by her attitude. I am of no threat as I don't want to be with him, I have his son so the kids spend time together and they get a social life. Huggles. Ellie :D
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
11 May 09
Ellie!
Enough is enough! You just put your foot down and never get used by that man!
Please..
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
11 May 09
That's a terrible situation! Hope you get over it soon. Be fine and think good stuffs all the time.
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@ellie333 (21016)
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11 May 09
Hi Mimipi, Now out of my control he has given me two weeks notice that he wilkl not look after my son anymore so I can work my late shift but if I end up out of work because of it guess who is my lone parent adviser, I am sure she will be unbiased and helpful NOT. Bit of a dilema but will get through it all, just hope the boys are hurt trough this. Huggles. Ellie :D
@Darkwing (21583)
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18 May 09
I think I would have ignored her right back and started talking to him. My betting is she would have had to chime in somewhere, and it's right there that I would have let rip! Ha ha ha. You know me, my friend. I'm quite open and honest but if somebody ignores me, I ignore them right back. If she had chimed into the conversation I was having with my ex, I would have questioned her with, "Oh, you can speak then?", or something to that effect. Nevertheless, I don't feel you were in the wrong, and at least your were upfront with your feelings.
Brightest Blessings my friend.
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@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
25 May 09
You are a very patient lady, Ellie and it's really your ex loss. By being patient, you are not stooping down to their level, although it seems like they are just using you. But you are not revengeful and that's such a good trait. Just mark my words, they'll get their just desserts someday for being totally ignorant fools.
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@guybrush (4658)
• Australia
12 May 09
What a horrible woman this is, Ellie! How unfortunate she was your lone parent advisor - yuck! What a shame she couldn't have been gracious, seeing as you'd done them a favour by babysitting overnight for them. Maybe she's very insecure about your ex having feelings for you still. Sounds feasible. Best to give her a dose of her own medicine and ignore her, too!
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
9 May 09
Hi Sweet Ellie,
I know how difficult this is for you. That broad should not be allowed to treat you like that. If your ex can't step up for you on his own then somehoe you need to let him know you will not tolerate her treatment of you. I know the boys are like brothers and you don't want to deny them their relationship, but can you take his son for a few hours when it doesn't reward the bimbo at the same time? And let the ex know that until he gets her under control their will be no more sleep overs. She obviously brings out the stupidity in him!! This kind of behavior has to stop. I can't stand the fact that she can treat you that way and get away with it. Don't make it so easy for them. Make them earn their free nights. You can do it Ellie. Hugssssss
leenie
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@ellie333 (21016)
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9 May 09
Hi Leenie, He has my son one night a week when I work a late so I can't really do that but I am so tired at moment that I might say I can't have him this Thursday and try to reduce to every other week and meanwhile try to find someone else to have my son and gradually bring it to play after school only eh! Huggles. Ellie :D
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
9 May 09
Ell,
Very good idea. I don't think you want your son exposed to that bimbo any more than necessary.
Her behavior comes from jealousy of your past relationship with your ex. And she may even be jealous of your son. I think we've talked about this before. I'll check back with you later to see how it is going. Hugssssss
leenie
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@ellie333 (21016)
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9 May 09
Blanked me basically means ignored, but all was said before children were aroun and she is now being friendly afterall if it wasn't for me babysitting they wouldn't be able to go out. Even when walking the dog strangers say hello to each other so there was no reason for her not to answer me back as I said hello in a friendly manner to them both. Huggles. Ellie :D
