Do You Ever Wish Things Could Have Been Different?

@KrauseHome (35517)
United States
May 14, 2009 3:10am CST
Looking back over your life, we have all faced challenges, had Dreams shattered, life changed, or maybe even our life turned upside down in shambles as well. Or maybe looking back there is nothing you would really change as well. I know for a fact, there are many times in my life looking Bad I often wonder "What If" or "Why Me?" I came from a very abusive Teenage childhood, and then was abused by men in my 20s. Then I also had Medical issues a lot of my life to where I have not been able to work all of the time to prevent me from having a Great job like I would have wanted. But one thing I do know, even when there are times in my life I wish things could have been different, I now have a wonderful husband I would not Trade for the world, and friends in my Church and life that are supportive of me no matter what I go thru. No, I cannot ever change my past, but with Gods help I can overcome any obstacle that will stand in my way because of this as well. Wishing you all the Best. ~~TINA~~
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@Grandmaof2 (7603)
• Canada
14 May 09
This has been uplifting to me as I am in the middle of a very difficult time in my life. I too have many serious health issues and am going through a separation from my husband and as this may sound petty to some being taken away from my little dog (Which Is My Avatar) is tearing me apart, so thank you for this post and the reminder God Is Good!!! Thanks Tina
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@maxilimian (3099)
• Indonesia
14 May 09
Hi Tina, There are so much regretten things happen in the past of life, near time at that bad condition, we wish that the things could have been different, but when the time goes by, we realized that the things is a lesson for us, to grow stronger, in my thought "God has a plans, human decides" and it is not the opposite way than most of people thinks that "Human has a plans, but God decides", because in my thought God really has a big plans in all of our life, but once again, He didn't forcing us to choose His way, so if we choose His plans, He will take care of us very well until the end, if we didn't take a part in His plans, so you know what is waiting for us in the end ... Wish you take a part in His plans GBU
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@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
14 May 09
yes, i would look back and things i sometimes wish i did not do those things, i was like so stubborn and a rebel back then...i entered college with a rebel mind..see, my parents did not allow me to go to the school where i really would love to go and they only let me stay here in our place at the local college and well i was rebel, and in the end i got myself pregnant so early in my life and indeed my life turned 360degrees... but then if i did not do those things i would not have learn, i would not have wonderful kids right now and i would not have a wonderful husband who never left my side the moment he found out i was pregnant and it was not easy, we often fight now but i am still willing to fight for our relationship ot work out..so a part of me does not wish things could have been different.
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@chrislotz (8203)
• Canada
17 May 09
If I could just change one thing in my life it would be, get an education. Get a degree in something professional as they are the only jobs that are guarenteed these days. Something like a doctor or nurse or teacher. I had my kids when I was young and I certainly don't regret that as they are now adults and my life is for me now. I have a great relationship with both of them but I don't have to take care of them anymore. So I wouldn't change that part of my life. Some people tell me it isn't too late for me to go back to scholl but since I am 52 years old I don't know that I can study and concentrate like I used to when I was younger. I also don't have the funds or means to go back to school.
• China
15 May 09
Well,we all know nobody will feel for their life,we alway seem to find something that more better than now,yes,we all wish we can lead a great live than other ppl.So am i,i always wish the all things ends different.But now i know i can't change my past ,the best i can do just live a better today and tomorrow.
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
15 May 09
I have no regrets. Even the bad moments led me to a better spot in my life...all was a learning experience & made me who I am today which is far from the person I want to be but still much better than the one I was years ago.
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
15 May 09
Past misfortunes are great lessons learned and it can sometimes be a blessing in disguise. Those who take advantage of their advantage obtain the advantage. Life is hard, and life is often unfair and we can expect trouble. But that doesn't mean we have to let it defeat us. It takes courage, the everyday kind.
@yoyozhou (356)
• China
15 May 09
yes,we all faced challenges.Every time when I recollect my past,I just feel I have a lot of things I haven't done. And life is tough .But every time when I recall my friends,my parents and people who helped me, I am happy.They give me courage to go on my life. They are really important to me. What's more, I always thank gods because he bring me a mother who love so much.Life is going on and we will get we want.
@kissie34 (2296)
• Philippines
15 May 09
There are so many things that I want to changed in my life. There are so many "what if" in my mind. Well, of course I know that I can't changed the past but if ever I will be given a chance to changed it I'll grab the opportunity. I know that if ever I'll changed my past and correct it maybe I'll gave a good life now, happy and contented. I'm not saying that my life now is miserable, I have a good life but not totally happy and contented. Many people say that I'm so lucky of having this kind of life. I have work, good house to stay, and simple life. Well, other people only see what their eyes see but they don't know how much I hate the life that I have right now. I'm living in a life having no friends and not being with the one I love. Well, even though I don't like the life that I have right now I accept it because I know that I can still change it in the future. For as long as there is tomorrow, everything can be change and will be fine for as long as you really want to do it. As for now, I have some plans but there is no particular dates yet! I don't want to plan it with dates because it's so difficult to predict since not all plans can be done. There are unexpected things will always come and that is part of life.
• China
15 May 09
maybe all our feelins that the life is full of sadness are just caused by ourselves--we only set eyes on the bad things. but move your sight to something else, you have many good friends, you have your own dream, most important, you have yourself, whatever happened to you, you can over come and move forward. so it's common people have different experiences but the similar feeling. loving the life, that's how the life goes.
• United States
14 May 09
I do and have always. But things never seemn to get any better. I graduated high school 10 yrs ago. That same year I hurt my knee and since then its never gotten better. It changed my life and I wish it didnt happen. Then I graduated with a BA in 5 yrs and never got a job from it. I looked but with no internships (degree in communications) and even though I tried a foot in the door job got no where. Now I have $40,000 in student loans nothing to show. Moved to TN in late 2007 and now I have a sorta certifcate from CSB School of Broadcasting. But they closed on March 4th and still no job. We are very broke I am looking for work but its very hard. I am almost 30 not married but want to be, not in my career yet, way in student loan debit, and my credit is shot. So yes I would agree things could be much better but sadly are not. :((
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
14 May 09
Hey Tina~ Of course I look back and think "what if" and still say "why me" all the time! But, as we know there is nothing that we can do to change the past. I also had a very miserable past involving abuse and being taken advantage of. I made so many mistakes that I wish I could take back or do over as so many of us wish we could do. And I still haven't found "real happiness" to this day. But, I have learned and am still learning, through therapy to accept things and try to make the best of them and I am hoping that I will be able to do this so that I can enjoy the latter part of my life. And with the help of my therapist I am hoping that is will happen soon!
14 May 09
I do look back on things and think about the past. A lot of the time I feel that most people don't deserve the things that happen to them. We have bad experiences and something we regret and wish could be different in our past life, but I suppose we learn form these things and they make us a stronger person. Its great you now have a great husband and lovely friends as well.
• Philippines
14 May 09
Yeah I always do. I felt like I've done so many mistakes in my life. That all my decisions were wrong. I always regret all my decision and I always wish that I didnt do things as I wanted. Maybe my life would be a little different from my life right now.
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
14 May 09
There are very many things I have went through in my life that I thought at the time I wouldn't live through....but would I change a thing? No....not for anything. It's help form me into who I am today...given me things to write about....and made me also see that my life has been guided by a special higher being....
@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
14 May 09
I wouldn't want to change the past because the things I have gone through I have learned from, and they are all experiences that have changed me into the person I am today. I love my fiance as well, and he is the top reason why I wouldn't want to change anything about the past, I love him, and through all of my obstacles I have gained him, and I wouldn't change that for the world.
@Trensue (5253)
• United States
14 May 09
I think there is something to be sad for embracing the past, even the tough times. When I start thinking what if something hadn't happened and then I am reminded that my road my have turned a different way and it may have been worse. I spent many years thinking I was a victim and that meant my life had to be one way or another. Now I am a survivor and I would not be one if I had not had those tough times. So there is no "what if" as far as my past goes any longer.
@elitess (5072)
• Ipswich, England
14 May 09
Hi there Tina. I am young, but yet i feel that we should not waste time on thinking and pending on past events, other than to learn from them. I believe that asking our self "what would have happened if i had..." are useless, as they bring us nothing but misery, especially if we are trying to find solutions to problems that can't be resolved anymore. I hope you understood what i am referring to. Wish you all the best !
@kiran8 (15399)
• Mangalore, India
14 May 09
Hi TINA, I too have faced a lot of hardships in my life, in fact , it is like one big struggle at various stages in my life. Many a times I have wished that things were different , but since that is not possible, I can only try and make the best of what I have now.But one always has flights of fantasies where one's wishes come true LOL
@dodo19 (33664)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
14 May 09
Yes, there are times when I wish some things were different. There are some things that I regret and wish I could change, but things aren't always like that. Reality is that we can't change some of the things that we want to change. It's just the way that life goes. We have to live with it, unfortunately.