Very Low Down Discusting Thing To DO!

United States
June 21, 2009 5:30pm CST
Whoa! So, I've been staying at my mom's lately and one of my sister's friends came in a was showing me her swimsuit. It was cute, but veryy stained up and old looking. She informed me that her goal at the pool with my family today was to hit on my brother and make him leave his girl friend/fiance (they have the ring in layaway right now). I was stunned! Apparently a couple people in my family don't like her and they asked my sister's friend to try to break them up. I know how this can feel because they did a similar thing to me and my ex... well he left me. But, anyhow. I felt so sick over it and mad, she is 17 and he is 24. Who does she think she is? She isn't even all that cute! So, anyhow, I couldn't decide what to do about it for awhile. But, eventually I called his cell phone and left a message letting him know what she was planning on doing. I figured if he goes into this knowing what she is doing and STILL falls for it, then he is the one that is scum. Right? Or do you think that I did the wrong thing here? What would you do in my situation?
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11 responses
@maezee (23647)
• United States
22 Jun 09
I hate when girls like this have "agendas" like that. I've recently had a similar situation happen with one of MY sisters' friends; and it just shows how conceited and self-centered some people are! I mean, having self-confidence is great, but being so horrible and conceited that you're willing to try to break up a long-term relationship just so you can get some more attention from guys is just RIDICULOUS and is majorly crossing a line that shouldn't be crossed. And honestly, it doesn't matter if she's cute or butt ugly - it would still be wrong, even if it was Heidi Klum trying to break up the relationship. That's just not morally and ethically RIGHT. Not to mention ILLEGAL if anything did end up happening (which..hopefully nothing will. Hopefully your brother is sensible and secure with his relationship, and hopefully his rejection will put this wild girl back in her place). I think it's good that you warned him. That's a very sisterly thing to do; it shows that you're looking out for him. I definitely agree with what you did - you shouldn't think twice about it. And on a side note, why would that girl tell you her vicious plans to begin with, considering her victim is your brother. Of course you're going to tell him. She obviously didn't think that one through.
1 person likes this
• United States
22 Jun 09
Sad thing is she thought that I would glory in her plan with her. Since others in the family asked her to do this, and it is no secret that I don't like my brother's girlfriend... she assumed that I would also ask her to do the same. But, no matter what I think of his girlfriend... I will never condone deception. I believe that he should choose his own course even if I don't find it best.
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• United States
22 Jun 09
You were right in what you did,,,setting someone up like that is never right, and someone trying to steal a guy is also extremely skanky,,,,you did the right thing in informing your brother that there was going to be a set-up on him,,,,I'm just reading this all and can't believe that your family would do something so backstabbing and devious, so no you are totally in the right and your family and sister's friend are in the wrong,,,good for y
• United States
22 Jun 09
I pressed the space bar and it submitted my response before i was done good for you for doing the right thing
• United States
22 Jun 09
Well, my family is very wrong on a lot of stuff. I pointed this out to one of my sisters today and she shrugged it off saying that my brothers girlfriend is a 'Hoosier' I laughed at her, this coming from the girl born in my grandparent's basement out in the middle of nowhere? She doesn't seem to get that where you are born and where you live does not make you a better or worse person. At least my brother's girlfriend is not a high school dropout! Haha.
• United States
22 Jun 09
I believe that you did the right thing and I can't believe how shallow your family is to do such a thing. Also, ask what is wrong with being a "Hoosier"? I happen to be one and I would take offense to someone saying that to me or about me. Where is she from?
@moondancer (7434)
• United States
21 Jun 09
That is a dirty and low down thing to do, for her and your family. He is the one that must love and care for the person HE will be living with. It does not have much to do with what they want, of course they want to get along with the wife he has. But for them to ruin his chance with the girl he wishes to marry is down right wrong, as you well know. I would have done the same thing as you did. I would also make sure that his girlfriend was there too, if this was possible. I would also tell my family that it's none of their business who my brother marries, he is going to live with her not them. I would tell the other girl that is doing this stupid thing the family asked her to do...that she needs to butt out. I'd tell her, no matter what the family has done that she is not welcome there and that she has to leave. I would have to stick up for my brother. I always have when I needed to.
• United States
21 Jun 09
Yep, at the time I just told her that I think if it wasn't meant to be it would work itself out on it's own. She didn't seem to agree with me. I shut up and quit talking to her after that. But, I wish I would have told her to get out of the house. True it is my mom's house, but my mom would probably have backed me up on it if she knew. My mom totally believes that the fastest way to force a couple together is to try to pry them apart! Haha. I agree!
• United States
22 Jun 09
It sounds like the best thing that you can do then is to let your mom know what they have planned. It is her house and she can certainly put a stop to it.
@adam1980 (517)
21 Jun 09
i would have told him aswell i think you did the right thing, you are right aswell if he falls for it it shows how weak he realy is, any loke in there right mine would be able to see it was a set up hopefully
• United States
21 Jun 09
I'm just so glad that he didn't fall for it! Haha. I asked him later if he got the message and he said he did. I asked if it was in time and he just said that it wouldn't really matter anyhow, he isn't into that little girl anyways. He is into his girlfriend. He didn't move her into his house to be casual about the relationship!
@adam1980 (517)
22 Jun 09
good for him, show her shes not all that special after all
@kprofgames (2906)
• United States
22 Jun 09
Actually, I comment you! Aplause apluse. Your family did this to you and what they are doing is flat out wrong. Sooooo many shades of wrong. The brag point that she had to do pretty much spells out her character. Eww. It's good your brother has the heads up and you're right, if he gets into a situation with this little girl then he needs his head examed too. Aside for the whole relationship with a minor thing, he's in a committed relationship and doesn't need to be looking at anything. I would have done the same as you for giving your brother the heads up. I think I also would have said exactly what I thought of the little tramp and then gone to my other family members and spell it out to them just how low they really are. Hope you can find a place of your own soon and move up to a better standard of living. Sounds like they all drive on drama.
• United States
22 Jun 09
Yes, I love that they think that I'm trash for staying with my mom! Haha. Oh well, I also know that this 'little girl' slept with my other brother that is 22 the night before. So, talk about trampy! WOW! I am now a ticking time bomb about letting her know how I feel though!
• Switzerland
22 Jun 09
I believe you acted very correctly. That is a very low thing to do. If your family had a problem with your brother's fiancée, the very least they could do was talk to him and try to tell him why exactly they do not like her. This is as much your family's fault as it is that girl's. Anyway, you did well to warn him beforehand. Kudos to you!
• United States
22 Jun 09
Actually the only people in my family that have that big of a problem are the stuck up ones. My brother has been working on his career since he was 15 years old and he has done very well for himself. She was born and raised near us and she is a manager at a local gas station. He is totally in love with her. My problem with her is only that I ahem... well, okay, I slept with her brother. But, that was a long time ago! And, I would never tell my brother he can't be with her because of that. But, some people in my family have got it into their heads that she is using him. No matter what, I don't see it that way. If she was using him, she wouldn't have used HER money to take him to Hawaii last summer, now, would she?
@carolbee (16244)
• United States
22 Jun 09
I think you did the right thing by notifying your brother. She's 17. If something happens, your brother might get into trouble messing with someone under age. Hope he remains faithful to his fiancee and doesn't leave with your sister's friend.
@baz5687 (131)
• United States
22 Jun 09
I believe that you did the proper thing.
• United States
22 Jun 09
Thank you for your response, I feel that I did the right thing too.
@winterose (39913)
• Canada
22 Jun 09
I think you did the right thing, what she is doing is disgusting, and if he really loves his girlfriend he will have nothing to do with it.
• United States
22 Jun 09
Thank you for your response. It really is disgusting that she did that... but I'm glad that my brother didn't want her. She is really not his type anyway.
• United States
22 Jun 09
I think you did the right thing. that is a low-down trick, but like you said, if he KNOWS what she's doing and still falls for it, then he shouldn't be getting married.
• United States
22 Jun 09
I'd like to think my level headed brother would do the right thing. Apparently he did. I'm so relieved... but it still bothers me that our family is willing to stoop that low to try to get rid of his girlfriend.
@sid556 (31019)
• United States
22 Jun 09
Nope...you did right but ya know...even if he fell for it not knowing...it'd still be all wrong. Obviously if he fell for it then he has no business getting married.