When you go out first time with a man , who must pay a meal in a restaurant?

I think whoever did the asking first should pay the meal on the first day regardless of gender. However, if you have been going out for several times already, I think it is only proper to share the bill. When my boyfriend and I first went out, it is him who payed for everything because he was the one who asked me out first. :)

These days is would be a good idea to settle this before you go out, at least carry a card or cash so you can take care of it if you have to. But I bet there are some nice ways to find out who is paying. At my age I think I would just ask.

It's modern times now. In my opinion, it's split the bill or, better yet I say, go by income and the person with the most disposable income pays.

Hehe! We shared! Well, she doesn't want me to pay the bill alone so I just pay half of the bill. Kinda CUTE! Hehe! I love my partner so much for that! Happy MyLotting!

Dont think about this if girls has money she can paid if boy has money he can paid. But if couples are going then husband will paid. If your friend is good then you can distribute the bill if bill is too much.

It used to be that men would pay for the meal, but things aren't like that anymore. I think a man should offer to pay for the entire bill, & at the same time, the woman should offer to pay for her meal. What they end up doing depends on the people. I tend to be independent, so I would rather pay for my own meal, but if my date insisted, then I'd let him pay. I don't care for splitting the bill evenly, because let's just say one person's meal came to $40 and the other was $20 -- I don't see why the person who spent less be forced to pay more money.If they each want to pay, then they should pay for their own meal separately.

well i don't think anyone must pay for the meal. the first time i went out with my current partner he offered to pay. if he hadn't i would have. or at least i'd have offered to pay my share. i don't believe in living off anyone no matter who that person may be. i have absolutely no intention of obeying his wishes so i'd rather pay my own way. this is what my mother has always told me - the person who pays speaks louder. it applies to work as well. our bosses pay us so we have to listen to them, right?

Hi icesmile! Traditionally, it's the man who pays for the bill. If it were to be a romantic date, it is expected that the man pays for the bill. This is especially true when the man is still courting the lady. If it is not a romantic date then we could split the bill. Otherwise, I think whoever invited must pay.

Hi icesmile! Traditionally, it's the man who pays for the bill. If it were to be a romantic date, it is expected that the man pays for the bill. This is especially true when the man is still courting the lady. If it is not a romantic date then we could split the bill. Otherwise, I think whoever invited must pay.

Well it depends. If a man asks me out on a date then I expect him to pay. If a friend and I go out to dinner together then we share the cost. If I ask a person out then I pick up the tab if I can afford it or share it if I cannot. So it is a matter of perception. Some men do not like women paying for them, others think the cost should be shared. I think dating is quite different then just friends going out to a meal together. When my partner and I go out to dinner he always pays even though it is our money he likes to be the one doing the paying part. Some men just like to do thing that way.

I think it doesn't really matter anymore these days. Women have become so independent in their own lives that they don't need anyone to pay for them in the way that they may have done a while ago. I think it is very polite for a guy to offer to pay for a meal, but I wouldn't expect him to.

Hi icesmile...I know that some people would disagree with me but when I used to date I would expect the man to pay always. Now of course that I'm married I still expect my husband to open his wallet and pay for things even though I know that it's our money - we share everything. But I guess I'm just traditional in that sense - I want the man to take care of those things. And I also feel that in doing that he feels great in that he is able to provide for his family.

definitely it should be the man who pays for anything and everything on a first date. the reason? there is one reason in an article i did for triond. from http://beyondjane.com/relationships/dating/five-signs-hes-a-jerk/ Five Signs He’s a Jerk March 26, 2009 by Ritchelle Published in Dating Leave a Comment A classic, easy to read and remember five golden award winning warning signs that tells you if your guy is a jerk. In the Philippines where the medium of instruction in the schools is English one only needs a little obedience coupled with diligence to learn the language. However there are, quite naturally, slangs that we think we know the meaning of but still aren’t that sure. So when this topic, 5 Signs He’s a Jerk, came up I still have to consult an online dictionary just to be sure for I heard somewhere that the term “jerk” possesses a not so negative and derogatory meaning. So along came http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/jerk that confirmed the term’s eligibility I am going to pinpoint in this article. A jerk is a dull, stupid, fatuous person. It must be so bad a word for I know what dull is. Stupid is not so avant-garde a word for anyone who is English as a Second Language speaker wouldn’t know the meaning of. The third word in the definition, which I have all right to believe is another adjective, is something I don’t like to find out about anymore. The first two words would be enough to render this article a right direction. I am currently at that stage that I know a jerk when I see one. I’d even know one the moment I smell one. Had I been given an opportunity to get pregnant and give birth at 18 I would’ve had a 16 year old by now. That’s how long I’ve lived to find out and confirm what a jerk really is. Here’s the 5 golden keeper signs he’s an all time classic jerk: 1. He borrows money from you. Doesn’t this guy have buddies? Friends? When a guy is courting somebody he respects he does so not because his hormones tell him to. Well, that plays a major role, but he courts a woman because he’s showing signs of interest in starting something special which we all know would lead to starting a family someday even if it takes him 20 years to realize it. Given of course that things work out right between those two people. A guy proves and quite naturally taunts his manliness during this courtship stage. He doesn’t show any signs of dependency. How is a jerk going to feed, support and be the one to provide not only his name but also serve as the pillar of the very basic foundation of humanity? 2. You pay during your first date. I’m not talking of you paying for the entire meal but paying for anything during this put-your-best-foot-forward stage can make anyone do a double take. It’s either you got a date with a jerk or this guy has an IQ bordering on the level of a jerk that would make it difficult for you to live with let alone be with. He’s not going to be a source of pride on your arm, honey. 3. If you’re living with your parents, he shows up when they’re not there. If you’re on your own he doesn’t join you on your get-together with your friends. Sounds like an experienced and accomplished criminal hiding from the curious and experienced eyes of the authorities’ radar. If he dunks these people who love you he’s got the bones of a no keeper in his body. 4. He’s like he’s always about to have his period. His mood swings would not only make a girl about to have her period jealous but there would come a time that you have this feeling that you did something wrong again and can’t figure out anymore what it is. If he can’t rationalize things to calm him down in front of a naturally unpredictable, moody female he’s not going to be able to in the long run. People don’t change. They just learn how to cope and temper down. Mood swings are brought about by hormomes. His hormones are there to stay. 5. He breaks up with you saying he still likes the two of you to be friends even though things didn’t work out. Then he revels in telling you about his new girlfriend. Duh? Sometimes jerks have this roguish charm that many women find irresistable. All I can say is there are a hundred things I can write about that can tell you if your guy is a jerk or not. But consider a decent and easy to read and remember 5 golden signs. Resist their charms ladies. For all we know it may not be an affinity to their charm you’re feeling but a sense of wonderment on what planet he came from. You’re only as good as the partner you get and the partner you keep. Dispose of him before it’s too late.

It depends. If you asked him out, you should at least offer to pay, since you were the one that initiated the date. He may reject your offer and insist on paying (which would earn him some brownie points!), but you should still plan on paying. If he asks you out on a date, I would definitely expect him to pay for it and would consider it really rude if he didn't! Back when I was dating, I always made sure I had money with me in case the guy was cheap or rude and I ended up having to pay. It did happen once or twice. Then I just never went out with them again. Of course, if you are good friends, you should pay your own way unless he insists. Or, you can work it out between yourselves who is paying. For instance, he takes you out on your birthday. I'm sure if he is a really good friend, he wouldn't want you to pay for it. But with friends, you should feel comfortable enough talking about who is paying. I know I do that with my male friends.

A woman should be treated on a date no question. Men who want ladies to pay are cheap.I do not go out with cheap men. Lady Jane from NYC

My husband always pays the bill. When we were dating he would always pay. Its not that I cant pay if I wanted to but he is the one that works so he is the one with the means to pay at a restraunt. It doesnt matter to me who pays the bill as long as it gets paid.

The very first time my boyfriend did. We tend to take turns depending on where we are...if we are in his hometown/country he tends to pay for things. If we are here in my home town/country I tend to pay for things. It makes things easier not having to get money converted. I'd feel bad making him pay for everything.

In the olden days it was like that. For me i feel this should be discussed before going out. Whatever works best for the party involved. I believe the asking person should be the one to pay. Date or just friends. Unless its agreeed that they bill should be split.

My man always pays everytime when we go out for a dinner. But yes, i agree if you were a good friends it should be 50-50. But if a man invite the girl for a dinner or to go out he must pay! Cheers.

When you go out with someone for the first time, I think it is very important that you dont go into thinking that the guy will pay for everything. I think that you should offer to pay for yours or for the whole thing if you can afford it. Times are changing.