Why Are Women Passive Partner's In BED?

India
July 15, 2009 12:38am CST
I am virgin still at 45 years.So no experience so far. But this is one common complaints i get to hear from my friends and also have read it in newspapers.That women are passive partner's in bed. They expect men to do everything, while they silently enjoy the fun. Why is this so? is it becuase of shyness or because they fear men will mis understand them? They could be exceptions. But mostly they are passive in bed.Men am told would prefer an agressive partner too
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@just4you0 (422)
• India
15 Jul 09
I dont think this all happens, as without the support, help of female, male cant do anything much comfortably. In starting she might feel shy but after sometime she gives her full cooperation to reach the maximum of pleasure. I just assumed this but i am not sure as i am still virgin. Happy mylotting!
• India
15 Jul 09
I have heard my frds say that their wifes are like corpses in bed. They just lie simply and that it.. thakx for ur response
@daliaj (5689)
• India
15 Jul 09
Hi Prakash and Just4you! What do you actually mean by 'passsive partner'? It doesn't mean that women just lay in bed or they are inactive. I understood that it means that they are not that active like men. If it the meaning, then you are kind of correct. I don't that making love is interesting for a man if the women is just lie for man's pleasure. I think women rarely take intiative for it, but she (I mean all the women in new generation) corporates with their life partner and put her good effort to make it enjoyable for both of them.
• India
16 Jul 09
I dont know about u daliaji, but the general complaint i get to hear from my frds is that thier wifes are like corpse in bed. They close their eyes while the men toil.I want to see a women tear her man apart in bed. I am waiting to hear this from men.
• India
15 Jul 09
i also agree u r point because now the girls who are all went to job are physically tired .
• India
15 Jul 09
hahaha physically tired? that means they will become more passive than before. Its more work for men.. Thx for ur reply
• India
15 Jul 09
i think u have more experience in that
@daliaj (5689)
• India
15 Jul 09
Hello, I don't agree that the physical tiredness due to job is a big issue in this case. That tiredness will go once you take a good shower (bath. I am also a working women. The fact is women like to be passive due to traditional beliefs and they enjoy that. Yes, I agree that it is too much work to be agressive, but women can do that, it they really want to do it.
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
16 Jul 09
I am wonder for your age is still a virgin. I don't know behind your still a virgin but the point of our discussion is "why women passive in bed"? There is no connection about shyness on the part of the women. There are women that is very aggressive than men when it comes to love making. In the second place. Women in some countries that practices traditions is being the reason of passive of a women. Because they are affected by means of their sulture and it is psycologically impact on their minds...
• India
18 Jul 09
It is my fate to be a virgin. Yes some women are very hot in bed, but generally very mild.. thx
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
18 Jul 09
Hello preethaanju, like to know what country do live, so that I can add another comments on your fate. It is really not good for you to be a virgin in that age. You must fell the sweetness of love and how it is great being satisfy on love making. I think there is fear in mind or any culture that suppress to be active on seks?
@meyows (438)
• India
16 Jul 09
May be shy or they may afraid that their partner may misunderstand, what you said the reasons are just correct.
• India
16 Jul 09
I have heard this excuse of being mis understood far too often. How can a hubby mis understand a wife? If he does, who else shall she turn too for her physical needs? Cant a women mis understand a man , if he shows all the expertise in bed from day one?
• United States
18 Jul 09
A man can think he knows everything, but honestly, he may know nothing. Your (anyone) job as a lover is to open yourself and trust...if you can't trust your lover, then why are you exposing yourself to them at the most basic level?
• United States
16 Jul 09
I am submissive to my boyfriend's domination, but I wouldn't say that I'm passive...I'm always giving him tips to please me, what my likes/dislikes are. Initially, I guess you could say I was a bit passive, and just was there to enjoy the fun, but we've been together over five years now and I've learned to just be myself with him. For me, it was part fear of being misunderstood and part fear of being teased for being too noisy, doing something weird, or just being too loud. I can be aggressive--sometimes it's nice to give your partner a surprise they're not expecting because it really spices things up.
• India
18 Jul 09
Nice, ur tutoring ur bf to do what u want.. i suggest u get a bit rough on him urself.. he willl love too thx
• United States
18 Jul 09
Actually, I let him think he's the one taking charge in bed...he likes that but sometimes lacks imagination on how to get me to do things. I'm actually quite creative, and like to surprise him with new moves or tips.
• United States
15 Jul 09
I cant speak for everyone. But there is no way I could just lay there. You asre correct men need something more or else they will get very bored. You got to keep it exciting somewhat and just laying there aint gunna cut it. I have heard the same thing. Like ive said b4 everyone is different and I just couldnt be like that.
• India
15 Jul 09
yes we both are same thinkers. Wish u get what u r looking for in women. thx
• India
16 Jul 09
Nature created both men and women equally.While we get aroused fast women take their time to heat up. But when women show no interest in getting heated up, then all pleasures go waste. Thx for ur response
@vjsinduja (1035)
• Sri Lanka
15 Jul 09
Goo discussion. I too had a doubt about it. I am a hindu. According to our culture and traditions, its the guy who initiates the first move, girls remain silent and exp all. Its said that, girls are shy or should remain shy, If they strat off first, they suggest that the girl would have had previous exp... But then in europe countries I don't think its like that. even girls seduce guys. I am too waiting for other responses, especially from guys. I would like to know what are the guys answer to this discusion
• India
15 Jul 09
We must carry this belief in our mind that in bed both are equal partners. No one is dominant, though men by nature are agressive. I would love an agressive partner to go by nature. Thx for ur response
@vjsinduja (1035)
• Sri Lanka
15 Jul 09
Forgot to mention. Its not all Asian are like that. A few percentage are like that.
@jdyrj777 (6556)
• United States
18 Jul 09
Im female and im certianly not passive or silent in the bedroom.
• India
18 Jul 09
Lucky is ur man to have a wife/gf like u. LOve someone like u Thxfor ur response
• United States
17 Jul 09
I'm both, to be honest. Sometimes i just want to be taken advantage of... And sometimes i'll just jump on top and go with it. I know it excites my husband when i jump on top and give him a good time, rather than him doing all the work. He says he likes the view, ha ha. But when i don't do it too often, i know he enjoys it more because it's like a surprise. So i don't know why women would just lay there and take it when they could enjoy themselves even more by being on top and taking control.
• India
18 Jul 09
So ur using aggression as a surprise element? not a bad idea. Thx for ur response
@meapas (2434)
• India
16 Jul 09
Watch nature in its true sense, you should get a clear cut answer. Universal law is such. Look at the animal kingdom, you will see females passive. Have you ever seen dogs play, what have you noticed? who is more aggressive?. Go to any part of the world, go back to history, you will find females passive in all walks of life. But now with the world passing through its middleage, time is changing fast and so women too have started shouting from the roof top, hey men we are coming. Passiveness of women will soon be history. Don't dare to bark at the sleeping tigress, she can be dangerous. meapas.
• India
18 Jul 09
yes u have some nice points. You have tried to prove ur point through evolution. women or feminine characters are all very gentle by nature. Thx for ur response
• United States
16 Jul 09
Well, I for one am not passive at all. We share in the fun haha. It should be about enjoying each other completely. If the woman doesn't initiate and take some of the actions, well, they aren't getting the full pleasure from the experience. There is nothing wrong with it. Although I will say that women are like that mostly because there is a stigma that goes along with it. She is often called a sl*t or other things if she admits to enjoying herself. I say, I don't care what people think. I like it and I am not going to pretend that I don't.
• India
18 Jul 09
Yes men will call women by many names. This is a male dominated world. But women have equal rights to enjoy. Ignore people and enjoy full in bed with ur hubby/bf thx
@dpk262006 (56217)
• Delhi, India
16 Jul 09
Hi dear! I think it is due to nature and physical attributes of women that they themselves feel shy to take initiative in the bed. They are not be blamed, it is a very common penomenon. However, once they are into it, they fully take part in the act. Yes, I agree, exceptions are always there.
• India
18 Jul 09
Yes women are by nature shy.. so this will translate in bed too. thx
@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
16 Jul 09
Are you kidding? Not all women are 'passive' partners in bed lol. Sarcasm makes me want to say that you just know the wrong women - or your friends know the wrong women - or perhaps they have not shared their frustration with these women. Women are not mindreaders, if we don't know something directly, then we just don't know. Anyway, I guess it depends on the mood which partner will be more dominant, but it will differ, from day to day, time to time. That's not necessarily a bad thing, I mean you can always discuss it together to come up with what you both like best!
• India
16 Jul 09
u Seem a very hyper active person in bed. Blessed is he who is lucky to bed u thx for ur response
15 Jul 09
as a women i think that is definitely true and im not going to stick up for us women. But when it comes to giving head i think it should work both ways .
• India
16 Jul 09
pinkbunnikez never be contended with what the males throw at u. Demand what u need and is rightfully urs. happy bedlotting
• United Arab Emirates
15 Jul 09
Mostly it is so, but still there are women out there who are equally active in bed...In Asian mentality, Women are taught to hide their emotions and revert to shyness or cower when her husband seeks attention but many of them are out of their shells now and are actually becoming more initiative than their counterparts...Mens, So be aware, you might just encounter a tigress the next time you are in bed.
• India
15 Jul 09
u have sounded the warning sign. But we men welcome any such change lol thkx for ur response
@daliaj (5689)
• India
15 Jul 09
I think it is how we are taught in the society - women are supposed to be passive partners. So, they keep going like that. Also, many traditional men won't like their women to be an agressive partner. Men wants to dominate and he will never want to loose his driver post. I am a person who thinks women should not be passive partners, but when it comes to bed I become a passive partner because the triditional thought is inclined too much in mind.
• India
15 Jul 09
yes i do agree that our society is a bit too much conservative when it comes to man- women relationships. I am a virgin still so dont have an idea how things are played out in bed. But if given the freedom to imagine how i would love to have it, i would prefer a women with no inhabition in bed. IF she doesn't have the freedom to fullfill her needs with her hubby whoelse would she turn too?
@megaplaza (1438)
• Nigeria
15 Jul 09
Honestly with all due respect to you, i find it hard to believe that you are a virgin at 45. I hope this not another trick to generate response, but all the same if that's true keep it up.
• India
15 Jul 09
I can only spek my heart. Cant cut it open for people to see.Trust and believing is individual perception. I know who i am. Thx for ur response
@stealthy (8188)
• United States
15 Jul 09
Some are and some aren't. Also, I think it may also be affected by the culture in which one lives, but that is really just a guess since I only have experience here in the U.S. But I would say that most, maybe 70%, of women do prefer or think they or expected to prefer the man to take the lead.
• India
15 Jul 09
yes culture plays a role. Wish all cultures were the same atleast in bed hehe thx for the reply
@kevchua (1004)
• Malaysia
15 Jul 09
No, not all men want agressive partners. I don't. I prefer a good mix of passive and aggressive - that will make sparks fly. So I certainly do not enjoy a woman riding me while I lie down quietly on the bed. No, not all women are passive. Whether they're passive or not depends on one important factor - their upbringing. In other words, do their cultures allow women to be agressive? Western women are quite agressive compared to Oriental and Asian women. Perhaps if you're a passive partner, it might take time to warm up and be a bit more agressive. This is possible with patience and perseverence. My wife was extremely shy at one stage. Now, she does the flirting first.
• India
15 Jul 09
I like it very much. Women who whipher naughty things and takes a man on. Wow i cant imagine the scene.. thx for ur reply
• Philippines
15 Jul 09
I beg to disagree. Some women I've met are hardcore in bed. They do what they want and do most of the actions that would please them more and me as well. I know there are still some passive women in bed but times are changing, most are more aggressive than men nowadays. Cheers to all the ladies out there!
• India
15 Jul 09
Yes i said there are exceptions. But in my country its like that. Women just sleep while men tire it out. Personally i love an agressive partner than a corpse in bed. Thx for ur answer