How Can My Own Family Member Steal Money From Me?

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@payout (3696)
United States
July 22, 2009 3:28pm CST
I'm very upset my own cousin thought Well I guess he thought it was okay for him to take some money I had in my room. I also notice that some clothes were sort of search through as well. My boyfriend left his pants and shirt from his job at my dads House. We notice that they weren't in the same stop and looks like someone was in the pockets. My boyfriend told me where is the money. I save my simple change I know it was over dollar. even if it was 25 cents or even a simple nickel . It's not okay if you just take it when I'm gone. So yeah I'm very Mad.. HOW WOULD YOU FEEL IF YOUR OWN FAMILY MEMBER STEAL MONEY FROM YOU?
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30 responses
• Philippines
23 Jul 09
It's really very wrong to take things that aren't yours especially if you failed to ask permission. I would be very mad as well, even if it is a family member. I would gladly share what is mine but you should ask my permission first of course.
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@payout (3696)
• United States
23 Jul 09
I know it's very wrong.. I hate it it just makes me very mad just thinking about it..
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@payout (3696)
• United States
23 Jul 09
I know it's very wrong.. I hate it it just makes me very mad just thinking about it..
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• Philippines
23 Jul 09
have you tried confronting your cousin? and maybe let him know that what he is doing is not okay with you.
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@yugasini (12764)
• Anantapur, India
23 Jul 09
hi payout, do not fear,keep away the cash from your cousin,or kept it in secret place
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@payout (3696)
• United States
23 Jul 09
I know I will I usually do but I guess I just wasn't thinking because it is my house but yeah I don't think I need ot hide stuff ALL THE TIME.. LOL
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@yugasini (12764)
• Anantapur, India
23 Jul 09
hi payout, thanks for the comment..have a nice day
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@payout (3696)
• United States
25 Jul 09
hhaha... your welcome and take care.. =]
@glesil_00 (1147)
• Philippines
22 Jul 09
I am mad if my family members stole anything from me, but it is up in there just mad but could not do anything against them.If they done it repeatedly, trust is the issue and it will be lost that i will be cautious to them and avoid them if i can. Ignoring them is one way that i am showing my feeling of madness and disappointed that they are your family but done this thing. This hurt much than if it is done with someone you do not know. Once, my brother already stole the money that i saved that i mixed in my clothes. I do not put money anymore to my clothes.
@payout (3696)
• United States
22 Jul 09
I think it's just sad how you have to hid money from your own family people you think you can trust and tell everything too. Just loses your trust because they think it's okay if they just take something of yours when it's called stealing and it's hard to trust them afterwards. so sad
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@glesil_00 (1147)
• Philippines
23 Jul 09
If hiding prevent them from stealing, i will not hesitate to do it. I am doing my best to saved and then you will discover they are just watching or observing if you have that they can get from you. Sad and you can not do something against them because it is still your family.
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@payout (3696)
• United States
23 Jul 09
I know... =[
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• United States
22 Jul 09
It would really make me mad! I feel like you, whats mine is mine and unless you ask me for it don't touch it. I have a niece that was staying with me and stole my credit card one time. When I found out she said that she told her boyfriend to just charge five dollars worth of gas on it. That's not the point, like I told her, it wasn't hers to start with and she shouldn't have taken it. The total amount ended up being over a hundred dollars that they charged on it. After that she has not came back into my house. That's two things that will make me mad,if you steal from me or lye to me.
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@payout (3696)
• United States
22 Jul 09
Wow If that would of happen to me I would be on FIRER. OMG ... I would of snap on her.. Then she lie said she only use 5 dollars.. I bet she is scared to see you probably will be hard for her to look you in the face. After all that but yeah five dollars a dollar it doesn't matter you just don't take someone stuff. It just makes me very very mad.. wow.. I just can't believe your own niece did that to you.. wow..
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@AcireRo (54)
• United States
23 Jul 09
Been there, done that. I had a bank account as a teen, that I thought was intelligent because I could store money in a safe, reliable place. Well to open my account, I needed a parent to sign on. And when that parent hit financial crisis, they had no problem writing out checks or transferring money out of my account. And I couldn't do anything, because they're signed on... so they have partial say over my funds.... DUMB. Oh well. I'm older now. Person is still tied to my account, but the money issue was addressed and I don't have issues anymore... Anyways, what I'm saying is... at least you've had little loss. I lost hundreds at a time. Sucks... But things got better... eventually.
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@payout (3696)
• United States
23 Jul 09
yEAH i TRY TO GET A BANK ACCOUNT AS A TEENAGER BUT i DON'T LIKE HOW oNLY MY FATHER CAN TAKE THE MONEY OUT
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• United States
23 Jul 09
It really is a ridiculous system and is very unfair to the youth who are actually trying to be good examples of society while their own families are acting selfishly against their own! Oh well.
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@lala501 (1533)
• United States
23 Jul 09
[b][/b] Very VERY MAd. I think 1 of my relativesstold my money before.
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@payout (3696)
• United States
23 Jul 09
Yeah it made me very maddd too trust me haha... I just want to yell and slap a couple people but I can control myself.. =] lol..
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@Ithink (1973)
• United States
23 Jul 09
Im sorry this happened to you, we have had it happen to us too and yes it really pisses a person off. I dont know how family or ANYONE for that matter thinks it is okay to steal from anyone! I just had a daughter do it to us and go thru our things, including bedroom while we went grocery shopping, she is no longer allowed in our home. To me it isnt just the stealing it is the disrespect of the whole thing too!
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@payout (3696)
• United States
23 Jul 09
Stuff like that can show the mean side of a person but sometimes you have to be loud and mean to show people that your not playing and that your really serious.. Lesson was learn thought in the end =]
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@voldrox (7202)
• India
23 Jul 09
i too would be very angry if something like that happened with me, if he/she is so desperate, then why not ask me rather than stealing, that is just so bad, it takes all the trust away and makes us feel so bad we come to know that is was just one of our own family members to do it
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@payout (3696)
• United States
23 Jul 09
Yeah when you trust someone and they do something like that it's hard to rsut them again .. you will feel some cautions with your things trust me thats how at least how I feel..
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@ivbsav (194)
• Indonesia
23 Jul 09
wise man said : "Don't trust anybody" except GOD. lets get the lesson through this experience.
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@payout (3696)
• United States
23 Jul 09
Haha.. I guess I only can trust GOD in the end.. huh
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@sid556 (31031)
• United States
23 Jul 09
You would think you could trust your own family but sometimes you really can not. How much money was taken? Did you confront your cousin? Like you said...even if it were a nickel...it is not there for the taking. If it had been more, you'd be out more.
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@payout (3696)
• United States
23 Jul 09
It wasn't mush money Probably a little over a dollar going near 2 dollars maybe but still money is money and when someone does something and think it's okay. They will keep on doing it so yeah I have to confront him
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• United States
23 Jul 09
I understand your frustration. I have had things in my home that I worked hard to buy and someone come by and pocket it without feeling remorse. I too, am very angry when someone takes it upon themselves to steal from myself and my family. Most of the time there is no way to "prove" that that individual stole your belongings, but next time remember who your company is, and what you have thought about them in the past. Trust your gut instinct. I must also comment on my sons behavior in the past. My son was seven years old when he went into my purse and took all of my money. Over three hundred dollars was in my purse at the time and it was gone. I was livid. I accused everyone that had been in my home and never thought that it would have been my own son. There was a book fair in town and he needed some money. I took him to the jailhouse knowing the chief would talk to him about stealing. I had to scare him without remorse also. It was the only thing I could think of to keep him from taking things without permission. Since that time in his life, I have had no further problems with his thievery. At least now I remember to put money were he will not be able to find it, without really searching for it. Sorry about your loss! :)
@payout (3696)
• United States
23 Jul 09
My brother told me who took it and my cousin admit and it I settle things down and made things straight.
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• Philippines
23 Jul 09
wow, it really sucks when someone steals from you, yet it's even painful when it's a member of your family. When a family member wronged you, you feel betrayed, doesn't matter how big or little was the offense made, the effect would still be the same. Have you talked to your cousin about it? are you sure he was the one who did it? If you're sure and you have talked to him already about it, then pretty much, you have an idea on how to resolve the situation. Judging from the way you reacted, you felt a little or might I say "really" betrayed because you have put trust in your cousin and he failed you...because of that, I feel that it would be a little hard for you to trust him again. If you can still forgive your cousin about that, it would be great...just HELP him not to do that again by locking your room and securing your things in the house especially those that are valuable to you. After all, a temptation can ruin a person's better judgement. You know that stealing is wrong, right? Even borrowing without the owner's consent. Yet, doing nothing and letting this pass by would make it even worse. "It takes a good man to do NOTHING for evil to succeed." Take care.
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@payout (3696)
• United States
23 Jul 09
I know it really sucks you feel stupid / mad / surprise shocked or something. It's hard to believe when someone your close too takes money from you without your permission.
@lealuvy2j (920)
• Philippines
23 Jul 09
Fist of Money - Demanding for your money back is really hard especially if it is your relative but if he stole for you, I think you should stand a solid ground when demanding for your money and don't take no for an answer. :)
It would make mad also. However, I will try to talk to my cousin about it and if his responses are negative and offensive, I will probably tell his actions to our other relatives. For me, it is still stealing even if we are related to each other. As a relative, he should have more respect for me and my belongings than any other person. Thus, I would really demand for my money back.:)
@payout (3696)
• United States
23 Jul 09
Yeah to respect my belongings but yeah I talk to him yesterday about it he said he needs the money for the bus but I told him he should of ask me before he took it without my permission. He said he was sorry and yeah he should of ask so yeah
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@zhuhuifen46 (3273)
• China
23 Jul 09
It is not good to leave it as if nothing happened. You should have a talk with his parents. But it is equally wrong to make a big fuss. For teenage boys, we should give him the chance to realize his mistakes, but give him the face to continue being a loved nephew.
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@payout (3696)
• United States
23 Jul 09
Well I did talk to him and we settle things down.. =]
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@lizzrr (135)
23 Jul 09
I tend to save money in either a piggy bank or just a box and one time I was living with my uncle, my savings from the box was stolen. I knew who did it (my gay cousin), but I let it off. I was so mad that I had to wish that "whoever stole it, should die, or have a hard time living" and surely he did have a hard time, good for him. I never steal money from my parents with big sums of money. If ever I'll take money, it'll be pennies that is lying around the floor, then put it in a big jar (a collection of pennies lol). One time I took money from my mum purse, because I needed to and I had no way to contact her but as she got home I told her and she was okay with with it, and whenever I take money I have to ask or tell her when I sees her because I can never lie, which is good I guess.
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@payout (3696)
• United States
23 Jul 09
I kept mines in a jar but yeah my cousin came over tolday say he has the money and that he needed to take the busy I told him he should of ask me first and he said he was sorry so I forgive him so yeah things are all cool now.. =]
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• Denmark
25 Jul 09
Not okay. What is okay is to borrow money - if you ask. If you just take without askind it is not okay. And also - it is never ever okay to steal, and especially not with family. One thing is to steal from strangers - it is ust as wrong - but you will not hurt them as much as if you know them well.
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@payout (3696)
• United States
25 Jul 09
Yeah it would be nice if he ask but he never should of just took it without my permission. Thats just the mess up part so I call that stealing..
@ladym33 (11012)
• United States
25 Jul 09
Are you sure someone took it? Or could it possibly have just fallen out of his pants and is behind a dresser or something. It would be really wrong to steal from a relative, or anyone for that matter. I would wonder why that relative would need to be stealing in the first place. I would be very angry and upset too, but I would also want to know why they think they have the need to do such a thing.
@payout (3696)
• United States
25 Jul 09
Yeah I'm sure haha.. It never was in my pocket haha I had it in a jar.. where I just save money in.. and It was gone.. so yeah i'm sure.. and I find out it was my cousin and I solve the problem. =]
@Angelgirl16 (2178)
• United States
24 Jul 09
Hi, You have every right to be upset with your cousin, who is someone you should feel that you can trust. However, if this is the first time this has occurred there is not way you would have known his character, but if he has done this sort of thing, stealing, before you and your brother should have been aware that this could possibly happen. A thief doesn't care if you are a relative or the Pope, if he wants what you have and thinks there is a way to steal it, he will.
@payout (3696)
• United States
25 Jul 09
I know him really well and he was known for his stealing and never did it to me.. but yeah.. I learn my lesson for sure.. and I steel things down with him and .. He said he was sorry and etc.. =]
@KrauseHome (28093)
• United States
24 Jul 09
Personally this would be a little annoying, and if it was me this is also someone I would not want to be around me any longer as well. I know that a lot of times when you have $$ on hand lying around you feel it is safe, but to have someone come around and rummage thru your stuff and take that is feeling cheated. I would think somehow you would want to confront that person, and definately think twice before having them come around your place and stuff again. Sorry you had to have this happen.
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@payout (3696)
• United States
25 Jul 09
Yeah I figure it's my place I don't have anything to hide but I learn my lesson for sure.. =]
@roberten (3134)
• United States
23 Jul 09
It is devastating when my own family takes from me, it hurts much more than having a stranger take my things. Loved ones seem to disappoint me more than the people I do not care as much about regarding crime. I realize it is not any worse being targeted by a family member, and that the great pain I feel is generated from inside me. I try to remember that crime is not a respector of any man, woman or child and that all are capable of falling prey to being tempted into it. Keeping perspective helps to lessen the pain when it is a family member who has committed a crime against you. Instead of asking myself how they can do this to me, I started asking myself why not them; then I took measures to sure up my belongs so as not to tempt them by being an easy target.
@payout (3696)
• United States
25 Jul 09
Yeah it hurts much much more when a family member steals from you I can agree with that.. but yeah things are steel now and much better. =]