Do you feel like cooking when you are sad?

@mermaidivy (15395)
United States
July 28, 2009 3:30pm CST
I feel very sad today to have heard my dog had gone... I just don't feel like doing anything... don't feel like cooking... Thinking about it would be better for us to go out for dinner tonight... I'm sure I still can make a meal but... I just feel sad to do so... Can you still make a good meal when you are sad?
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@UK_Shree (3603)
28 Jul 09
No I am never in the mood to cook when I am sad either. Usually I slow right down when I am sad, and I do not feel like doing very much at all. I don't blame you for feeling how you do - I am sorry to hear about your dog. I do think you should go out to eat - it might help to take your mind off things.
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@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
29 Jul 09
That's right... I ended up cooking for my husband last night anyway...
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
28 Jul 09
I can not make a tasty dish if being sad. certainly does not mind the cooking.
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@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
29 Jul 09
I feel the same too.
@snowy22315 (171250)
• United States
28 Jul 09
I'm so sorry to hear about your dog. I have to be in the mood to cook most of the time. I just am not in the mood to cook when I am sad, but sometimes the act of doing so will make me feel better. I just enjoy cooking most of the time so it will usually put me in a good mood to cook. It just usually does.
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@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
28 Jul 09
Does better mood make you make better meal?
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@katsalot1 (1618)
28 Jul 09
I don't enjoy cooking at the best of times, so your idea of going out to eat seems like a good plan - it would give you a change of scene and something different to think about.
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
28 Jul 09
Yea... maybe :-)
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• Philippines
28 Jul 09
Ohh my, i wonder what the food may taste like if you cook and you are sad at the same time. Probably the mind is thinking of something, then for sure the food would also be tasting like a disaster I never have done cooking while i am sad. Maybe i need to take a bath first, then eat my favorite chocolate bar or ice cream or yogurt and the I will try my best to cook. Sorry to hear about your dog. It must have been a bad day for you. Anyway cheer up, it will pass by. I am sure you will be able to do something if not going out with your hubby to dine out.
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@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
28 Jul 09
That's why I think it is right that my mom always say food + her love = a good meal!
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• United States
28 Jul 09
Usually when I'm sad i don't want to do anything, sometimes i sit in my room and watch movies and then I'm not bothered by no one and all by myself. If i need to cheer up i might bake but not cook a whole dinner as that is quit a bit of things to do for me. I also like to shop when feeling depressed as my mind doesn't thing about the bad things then in life. I think when I'm sad i can still cook and make a decent meal for the family and whom ever else might come over then. You might be sad because the loos of your dog but thinking about you might get hungry later is a thing you might think about and then have to cook or maybe just grab something to eat might be easier.
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@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
28 Jul 09
Yea... I guess eating something will help me feel better...
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@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
29 Jul 09
I never feel like cooking when I'm sad - I do however seem to eat more when I'm sad, not good. If I don't feel like cooking I don't worry about it because only other one in the house is my 18 year old son and he usually cooks for himself, sometimes cooks for me too :) he's a good cook.
@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
29 Jul 09
LOL - 'good son' for the most part I refer to him as "The Monster Child" but he does have his points :) understand, he doesn't cook all the time, just when it's something he wants and when he feels like cooking - the other night I had 'dinner' at midnight when he got hungry and decided to cook :)
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
29 Jul 09
Oh that's good so you just need to wait for the food, you havw a good son! ^_^ hehe
• Australia
29 Jul 09
From a personal point of view i take a leaf out of the movie 'Like water for chocolate' i dont know if you have seen it or not. or if any of you have. but i feel cooking for your loved ones and family comes from the heart... and tho we can cook sad or happy or angry that it does affect our cooking. i try not to cook when i am filled with grief... it almost feels like it goes into the food and food should be cooked with love. whether its good or not lol i know that may sound silly but its just been the way i have thought for a while now.
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
29 Jul 09
My mom always say her food + love is the best meal!
• Malaysia
29 Jul 09
When I am sad, I am not able to cook because for sure my emotions will hit in when cooking and that will sure to make the food taste bad. I would say I am going to eat a lot when i am sad rather than cooking I feel better when I am eating when I am sad. But cooking at the other hand will not make me feel any better.
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
29 Jul 09
I don't think it will make the food I make tastes bad but just fon't feel good with it...
• China
30 Jul 09
yes,i like cooking too,but i don't like washing dish
• United States
28 Jul 09
Keeping your mind occupied during sad times can seem trying. I don't know about cooking, but any type of exercise will be good for you. I tend to eat a lot of ice cream when I'm sad...it helps perk me up.
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
28 Jul 09
I don't have any ice cream now at home though...
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• India
29 Jul 09
Although you may not feel like cooking when you are sad but a different activity may distract your mind and your heart may feel better. You may start feeling less sad and a good meal will soften your sadness further. Some emotions cannot be totally taken away from our mind but can always avert it as we have to keep the life going.
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
29 Jul 09
That's true.. I had to let go...
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
29 Jul 09
Hello Mermaidivy, Depends on how sad i am friend,there are even times that i felt so lonely and i feel not to do anything.But,becoz my kids need to eat on time,i am too much oblige to cook for them. Cheers my friend
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
29 Jul 09
Thanks for sharing :-)
@kcoregon (302)
• United States
29 Jul 09
I think everyone handles their sadness differently. For you it is hard to do your day to day things because of the sadness. Many people I think are this way. It's hard to think about your chores and duties when you have such sadness in your heart. (I'm sorry to hear about your dog, btw.) As for me I find a bit of comfort in doing the little everyday things. It can make my life seem normal again even when it's not. At the end of the day though if I am still sad and the kids are in bed I will watch sad movies or listen to sad music and depending on the situation I will cry. When you are sad I think it is good to cry as it can make you feel strangely better when you are through.
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
29 Jul 09
Thanks for sharing :-)
• China
29 Jul 09
When I was sad,I would do the house clean...
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
29 Jul 09
I do too but it won't make me happier :-(
29 Jul 09
I also can never bring myself to cook when I feel sad or when I am very depressed .When someone in the family is sick I can never think of cooking .I would rather eat bread or anything else .I wouldnt like to eat any delicious things also .I keep brooding over .I do know that we should think and worry but I find it impossible.
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
29 Jul 09
Yea.. I think it influences how I cook the meal too actually..
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
29 Jul 09
Well as what I had said, life must go on. I understand your feeling and I am sorry for that...I think the feeling (our feeling) would be the same..but I know that would just be now or tomorrow but as time goes by that sorrow would be gone...cheer up young lady...life must go on...
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
29 Jul 09
Thank you very much for your support!
• United States
28 Jul 09
I can rarely cook when I am upset--I usually try to do something productive, like clean the house or make something. That way, I use all my energy on something other than being sad and when I'm done, I can feel better because I have accomplished something.
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
29 Jul 09
That's good that you don't get too depressed when you are sad and still can do stuff.
• Philippines
29 Jul 09
Actually I haven't tried cooking yet while I'm feeling sad. It's more of I feel like eating when I am sad.
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
29 Jul 09
When I feel sad, I don't feel like eating at all...
@terozua (45)
• Malaysia
30 Jul 09
i don't think i still can make a good meal when i'm sad..Because normally when i'm sad, i just go to bedroom and close my eyes then try to sleep..
@tutor19us (455)
• India
29 Jul 09
Cooking I always feel is therapeutic. It kind of puts me in a meditative mode. I like to do it all alone. I dont like people yakking with me when I am doing this. I also do not like anyone giving me instructions while I am trying to cook. If the dish comes out well or not is another matter, but at that moment I hate distractions. When I am sad, I actually feel like making something. It is a great stress buster, if you know what I mean. Fixing a meal after a day's work would make many people balk but it is a good exercise to unwind. Try it.
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
29 Jul 09
Thanks for sharing :-)