Why do people ask a question and never tell their opinion in the discussion??

@_sketch_ (5709)
United States
July 29, 2009 6:58pm CST
Most of the discussions on here are in the form of questions. For example, someone may start a discussion asking what kind of music you like, but they never say what kind of music they like. Why is this? Whenever I respond to a discussion like this I always ask the person, but they rarely even answer me. It's kind of irritating because they make me so curious about what they think. I mean, they must have some sort of opinion to think of starting the discussion in the first place. I like to know where the person is coming from when they start a discussion. Do you do this? If so, why? And if not, why do you think that people do this? I have no idea why myself and it is bugging the berjeebers outta me.
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@akuler (3539)
• Malaysia
30 Jul 09
Hi _sketch_, If you have time to check, most of this people are the one who always started a discussion and make 10-15 discussion a day. Usually they will give one sentence discussion and never bother give a comment to any response they received. I think they do that because they think they can earn more by starting a discussion and not comment on the response. Do I do this? I don't think so. I can hardly start any discussion because I always have ideas blocker when I want to started one. Always no idea. So, I prefer to give a response to others discussion. Happy mylotting and have a nice day.
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@_sketch_ (5709)
• United States
30 Jul 09
Yeah I think you are right. A lot of people on here only care about quantity not quality. It's really a shame I think. I can relate about the writer block. I also find it much easier to respond to others' discussions. Thanks and you have a nice day as well.
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@akuler (3539)
• Malaysia
30 Jul 09
They will make a lot of noise once they look at their earning. They definitely will complain about this. And most of them will quit from here and crate a lot of lie about mylot. That's what happening to other site.
@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
30 Jul 09
I must agree with you and your discussion has me wondering whether I have ever done it! I think I usually put my opinions in my topics before asking others their views. I can’t think of why people don’t do this; I imagine that most of the time it may just be eagerness to get the discussion started; probably not deliberate. It would be nice to receive a reply if you ask a question though.
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@_sketch_ (5709)
• United States
30 Jul 09
Yeah a lot of it is probably unintentional. Thanks.
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• India
30 Jul 09
I DO Make it a Point every time To answer First and Then Put it across To the Mylot Population .. I Might Miss It In A Hurry to Start The Discussion .. But I Do Answer Some Where Down the Line .. It Reflects Really Bad On the Discussion Starter If He Does Not Put His Views Across .. Thank YOu ..
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@_sketch_ (5709)
• United States
30 Jul 09
I agree. Thanks for responding.
@kintahay (23)
• Philippines
30 Jul 09
I have a guess. They just want to publish something, at least to reach the minimum requirement for them to be honored by mylot for an incentive! I guess they don't even read the responses to their question because they don't mind it. they just need to open a "discussion" wherein they have become completely detached from it. I don't think they deserve atention
@_sketch_ (5709)
• United States
30 Jul 09
I don't think they deserve it either. It's called a discussion and so you'd think that something would actually be discussed, but sadly that's not always the case.
@nehaagra (849)
• Singapore
30 Jul 09
some people do start the discussion thinlking that they earn if they start many discussions, so they never check back for the responses, and comment back on them. I do not do so, i always try to comment back, as its my discussion, and our activity only help us earn, and its better and easier to comment on our own discussions too..
@_sketch_ (5709)
• United States
30 Jul 09
yeah I think that this is the most common reason why people do it. A lot of people on here only care about earnings and not about quality of the discussions.
@dex1007 (556)
• Malaysia
30 Jul 09
I guess i've done that myself. My excuse would be... I'm more interested in other people's answer? how about i forgot? lol. The answer might not be as interesting as you expect in those questions, there for by not answering i'm creating a little mystery? ok... that's not either.. hmm...
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@_sketch_ (5709)
• United States
30 Jul 09
lol. Thanks for responding.
• Indonesia
30 Jul 09
Yeah, I feel a little annoyed too with this kind of discussion because I personally think we want to discuss and share each other, not like in the classroom between teacher and student. But I try to understand maybe this person just wanna know what other think or this is a personal matter for him/her or maybe they shy or wanna fly away to other discussion,so it can save time. post a question then fly to other discussion and back again to comment on ever response.. There are some people who feel impatient if they must read 2 or 3 opening paragraphs before respond to it so maybe they just wanna make things simple? I never do that,,when i start a discussion, I try to share what I think or what condition that make me ask this..
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@_sketch_ (5709)
• United States
30 Jul 09
Well in my experience, good teachers always did give their opinions and views on things. I think that this kind of interaction helps everyone to understand things better because it opens our minds to different ideas that we may not have considered on our own thus helping us to make a more informed decision on our views. You make a real good point though. There are a lot of people who don't respond to longer discussions because they don't want to take the time to actually read it.
@divkris (1163)
• India
30 Jul 09
I do agree with you _sketch_. When ever i a discussion where the discussion owner/initiator has not give his/her comment - i simply tell my opinion and then ask for thiers. I think it is an easy way to get them interact to your responce too :)
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@_sketch_ (5709)
• United States
30 Jul 09
Yeah that's what I do as well.
• China
30 Jul 09
Maybe they just want to list a question on the site and wait for more and more rigestors to reply, and they can save time to do other things, such as posting another question like this quickly.
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@_sketch_ (5709)
• United States
30 Jul 09
Yeah it seems like that is a very common reason.
30 Jul 09
Hi _sketch_, Ha ha ha, I have often wodered that, when you resond to heir question, you may not get any respond back but when you do, you get the emocodes back, hehe that is too funny and you still don't why they ask that in the first place. Tamara
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@_sketch_ (5709)
• United States
30 Jul 09
lol. Yeah like when you respond to someones discussion and they only reply to you with a smiley face or something. When this happens to me I always wonder if they are making fun of me or something; like I totally missed the punchline to a joke or something.
@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
30 Jul 09
I try not to I try to always voice my own opinion in discussions that I start. But I have answered a few recently that just ask but don't give no feedback on their opinions..sometimes I will ask it..sometimes if in a hurry I don't. If someone ask me my favorite author and to tell them why, but then doesn't tell us theirs or the reason why..maybe because I am nosy.. I don't know but I wanna know too.
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@_sketch_ (5709)
• United States
30 Jul 09
I'm nosy too. lol. Thanks for responding.
@Canellita (12058)
• United States
31 Jul 09
Because they are not following the guidelines. The proper way to start a discussion about music and find out what others like is to start with a good title such as "Favorite Music" and then talk about one's own preferences and then finish the discussion asking what others like or if they agree with what you have expressed.
@_sketch_ (5709)
• United States
4 Aug 09
I think a lot of people have never read the guidelines.
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@Canellita (12058)
• United States
5 Aug 09
You are probably right.
@fwidman (11515)
• United States
30 Jul 09
Maybe they do it because they do not understand that in order to have a good discussion they must tell us something first.
@_sketch_ (5709)
• United States
30 Jul 09
Yeah probably. Thanks for responding.
@fwidman (11515)
• United States
30 Jul 09
Silly Lamb
@thea09 (18327)
• Greece
30 Jul 09
Hi Sketch, I expect that these are just part of the one line brigade which start something and never bother to respond, just to get their posts up. The idea of a discussion is above their heads. They also seem to duplicate madly, they are really easy to answer but I rarely bother as someone else may come along and ask it properly and actually be interested in initiating a discussion.
@_sketch_ (5709)
• United States
4 Aug 09
So true. You'd think that when people start a discussion that they'd actually start a discussion, but somehow that concept goes right over their head like you said. Oh well their loss not ours.
• India
30 Jul 09
lol.u must be well aware of the fact that discussions are started in interest of bucks and not the responders' interest...so ppl start away discussions wid questions like which music are u listening to?which most of the people can afford time to answer in a short n make their buck..this pays the ts too... when i start a discussion i start t wid brief description of ma problem or ma opinion n then see how it matches wid others..then comment them to check out more possible insights..
@_sketch_ (5709)
• United States
4 Aug 09
Yeah It's quite a shame that so many people on here only care about money and not the quality of the discussions. That's what I try to do; check out more possible insights. Thanks for responding.
@vijayanths (7878)
• India
30 Jul 09
It can be of two reasons. They don't want to reveal their charecters. Some may think that it may affect the discussion of other members.I sometimes don't tell about my interests in my question but will reveal them in the course of answering the responses.
@_sketch_ (5709)
• United States
30 Jul 09
Yes I think that you are right. Sometimes giving your opinion can affect the discussion, but I don't believe that this is always the case. And people do seem to be modest about disclosing info about themself. I think that it is fine sometimes, but I think that most of the time the question wouldn't really tell much about the person if they did just give their opinion. Thanks for responding.
@mermaidivy (15415)
• United States
30 Jul 09
I have seen couple of dicussions are like this too, I usually state what I think in the discussions and ask what others think so if they agree my point, they could say something, and if they don't agree, they could suggest something as well. And I think stating our points of view should be part of the thing in the discussions that we create. But that's just what I think.
@_sketch_ (5709)
• United States
30 Jul 09
I think so too. Thanks for responding. :)
• Belgium
30 Jul 09
Maybe they negect to check the responses and only fucus on their own business to save time. I don't mind that.
@_sketch_ (5709)
• United States
30 Jul 09
Yeah checking the responses can be very time consuming, but why don't they give their opinion in the discussion?
@mzz663 (2775)
• United States
30 Jul 09
There are a couple people on my friends list that do that same exact thing, starting a discussion with no personal input, just a question that everyone seems to answer. This person has alot of friends and rarely comments on any discussion anyone else starts. I think the ones that ask a question for no apparent reason and don't have any reason they've asked are the ones that want to have a high amount of discussions started with high volume answers. I tend to not answer those questions anymore, it makes me feel like I'm wasting my time.
@_sketch_ (5709)
• United States
30 Jul 09
Yeah I agree. Those types of discussions make me feel like I'm wasting my time as well. If they don't care about my response then why am I giving it? Thanks and have a good day!!
• Switzerland
30 Jul 09
I think it is just being human. People love to ask questions and once they found out the answer, then they left like nothing happens. They just get what they want and that`s all. I also did that before. I actually forget to response to those people who participated in my question and answers topics. I just simply asked a question but I am not that person who will not tell what is my point of view. I will be starting out what is my opinion to what I have asked and the conversation starts from there. I am not the type who will just raise a question then I leave the discussion. Keep posting. Happy Mylotting .Have a nice day. Jeff
@_sketch_ (5709)
• United States
30 Jul 09
That's true. Thanks for responding.