Got a mail asking for phone number........

@subha12 (18453)
India
July 31, 2009 12:14am CST
I was amazed today morning. I got a mail from a person whom I will never stop hating. He was so called good friend but he cheated me big time. He mailed me saying how are you? what are you doing? can you please send me your number so that I can talk with you.. and so on. He also says I have something very important to talk to you. I am not replying this mail at all plus never give my mail to a cheater. But what hell on the earth he is mailing me. I am confused .
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@dpk262006 (56473)
• Delhi, India
31 Jul 09
Hi Subha! Please do not get so angry on the poor soul, he is asking about your well beings, he would have spare some time to write the mail. He might have something important to tell you. If you still feel that he does not deserve your attention or your reply, you can simply tell him 'not to send such mails' in future and he should not ask for your personal telephone number. But how did he get your mail ID, was it you who shared it with him?
@subha12 (18453)
• India
31 Jul 09
It is an old mail id when he was 'friend' with me. so he knows it. I am not writing any reply at all. sometimes silence says all.
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@sherinek (3323)
• United States
31 Jul 09
I agree with dpk.
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@dpk262006 (56473)
• Delhi, India
3 Aug 09
Subha! You do as you feel like and what gives you satisfaction, final decision rests with you.
@sherinek (3323)
• United States
31 Jul 09
Hmm. I think he has realized what he has done and wants to come clean with you. Dear Subha, I personally feel that you must not continue to hate anybody. You can hate somebody for a while, until the wound is still sore, but with time, one should forgive and forget. If you dont want to be friends anymore, fine, but dont waste energy hating people, its not good for you. You should give a person a chance to express himself. If you dont like the explanation, you can keep quiet. If the explanation is valid, you can think about it. Hope what I say is in good shape. Wish you all the best.
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@dpk262006 (56473)
• Delhi, India
31 Jul 09
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@subha12 (18453)
• India
31 Jul 09
yes, whatever may be, we decided not to be in touch anymore. still today he has mailed me. anyway will not answer him.Hope silence speaks a lot at times.
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@grace118224 (1040)
• China
31 Jul 09
How can others know if you are also confused . Well if he is a cheater you are doing right not to answer his mail . If he does have sth extremely important i think he might send you emails again and again . Yeah don't give a number to him because it's dangerous .
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@subha12 (18453)
• India
31 Jul 09
you are right. I will not communicate with him any more.
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@iskayz (5422)
• Philippines
31 Jul 09
Well, you would keep on guessing and confused why if you won't talk to him.. Maybe he really has something important to tell you. Set aside your grudge on the person for a while and talk to him. Hope tha helps. Ciao!
@subha12 (18453)
• India
31 Jul 09
may be .... I do not want to talk to him anymore
@johnjobf (16)
• Philippines
31 Jul 09
you know you should never i mean never cause maybe he will be asking you your adress.He i dont know hes kind of carrying you away from your mind man.Next time be careful about him
@subha12 (18453)
• India
31 Jul 09
not going to answer him
@dex1007 (556)
• Malaysia
31 Jul 09
something like this happen to me a year ago. An old high school friend, i gave her my number, added her in my facebook. BIG MISTAKE. turns out she was just bored and wanted to do something new. she started asking almost everything about me, what i do? where i study? started to annoy me slightly. after find out stuff about me she started teasing, and joking. pissed me off. firstly we were already walking a thin line, then she starts acting like some... well i deleted her from my facebook before things got any worst. i don't need people like her in my life. So whatever you do, prepare for worst.
@subha12 (18453)
• India
31 Jul 09
that's why do not want to answer him.
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
2 Aug 09
Hello friend, Perhaps, he is realized that he made wrong unto you and want to apologize what he did? happy mylotting...!!
@jayman32 (268)
• Australia
1 Aug 09
hello, i can see your confussion, but i think you must find out what this important thing is, it could be an excuse to be back in your life but then again it may not. if you can bye yourself a pre-paid sim card & give him that number, when you find out what you need to know then simply throw the sim card away.. If for nobody else but yourself, let go of the hate..
@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
1 Aug 09
I can understand your thoughts there Subha. The person could be upto yet another mess or could well have good intentions. He is sorry and wants to make it up. Whatever it may be, you must follow your heart. If you are not comfortable do not share your phone number and details. I feel, your liking and thoughts matter the most.
@Glynis (1)
1 Aug 09
It would seem that you have already made up you mind not to talk to him, but are still curious as to what he might have to say. Hate is an emotion and therefore shows that you still care. If you were indifferent then you would not have posted this question. That said, we are all human and only do the best we can with the knowledge we have. His understanding of what he did may have improved and he therefore wants to apologise, or it could be something entirely different. Your not replying shows that he could still have some influence over you. I would suggest you reply to his e-mail in a mature fashion and point out that he hurt you and you are still stinging from it...because you are.... and that if he has something he wishes to say it can be said on an e-mail at this point. You may then discover what it is. Hopefully it is not bad news as his insistence on calling you does imply some urgency. You also say you were friends so I am not quite clear on how he cheated? I hope you resolve this and certainly take hatred out of your conversation as that just takes away your power. Good luck and take care
@goldeneagle (6775)
• United States
1 Aug 09
Take some advice from someone who has been in this situation. It is usually better NOT to communicate with these type people again. If he has started trying to contact you again, it usually means that he wants something. If you have been OK not talking to this person for any length of time, you will continue to be OK not talking to him. It will truly be one less hassle you have to worry about in your life.
@JeninND (65)
• United States
1 Aug 09
This happened to a friend of mine. Her ex-boyfriend of two years past emailed her and said he had something important to tell her and would rather speak to her by phone. It turns out he found out he was HIV-positive, and didn't know if he got it before her or after her. She is awfully glad she didn't ignore him! She went through a year of periodical HIV testing, and thankfully is negative. I don't want to scare you, but he could very well have something important to tell you. Just my two cents!
• China
1 Aug 09
Subha, hating someone isn't good for you becase it will waste your energy and you time.So I think you have two choices. One is give this person a chance to be your friend angain and try to make up his mistakes.The other is forger him and ingore what he has done or is going to do for you.Remenber,hating someone is difficlut so please stop.
• Canada
1 Aug 09
hi....i have a similiar situation except the guy broke my heart this week and said thats it!!! and he is away now on vacation.....YET he emailed me to see if i was OK...HEY --NEWS FLASH guys ALWAYS will never let go ..."just in case".you may be needed for him..BE STRONG AND DONT EMAIL HIM BACK"!!..cause he and most guys still want to feel in control..and have you like a possession...the minute you respond back he will LOSE ineterest again...just MY opnion ...i am dealing with a broken heart anyway..
• Philippines
1 Aug 09
If I were in your situation, I will no longer give my number again to him because I will do so, I'm sure he will try to fool me again. Chances are, you will be hurt again. Once is enough. . . . Spare yourself from troubles especially if you are already happy with your life now.
@munhozmib (3853)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
31 Jul 09
Hello, subha12! That's unusual. Something that does not happens everyday. Well, maybe this friend of yours just want to chat and apologize, because he realizes he might have done harm to you. That's the most common explanation to receiving a mail like that. And, in my opinion, you should listen to him. Just give some other phone number, that you can answer, but that you can block him from later... Like a mobile phone. Forgiving somebody is one of the greatest action you can do. But, of course, that is your choice. I don't know what has he done. Who am I to say that you must forgive others? =D Respectfully, Munhozmib.
@knrsekar (1009)
• India
31 Jul 09
There is no need to give him your number and ask him to convey the message via mail itself. If you continue to do so, just block his mail id..But he may send from some other mail ids and we can not continue to block them all..The best thing is ignoring his mails ..Never reply ..Soon he will stop sending the mails.
• India
31 Jul 09
No point in giving him the phone number…just mail him back asking what he wants. If he replies then we can see what's he bothering you about...if you dont want to know, just dont reply back.
• China
31 Jul 09
I once met this before.Maybe he just mixed u up with others.Don;t be so confused.
@saraines (154)
• United States
31 Jul 09
i don't know what this person did to you, you might have a legitimate reason not to speak to him, i personally think that if he is contacting you after so many yrs. there must be a reason, try sending him an email, nothing to loose, and after you contact him, what he has to say does not interest you, the good thing about an email is that you can always block the senders address...