nosy neighbors

United States
July 31, 2009 10:38am CST
We have THEE most nosy neighbors you will ever find! If someone has been at our house while we are gone, the neighbor comes over to ask them what they are doing there. Or sometimes they will call us on our cell phones to tell us. We can't even be out in our yard because they come out & want to talk or they are standing at their window watching us. This summer I was outside planting flowers & plants. I was planting a tall yucca & it kept falling over. The neighbor shouted out her window, "just cut it down & plant the roots, it will come back next year". My husband has been moving the patio table around on our back porch trying to find a spot where they can't see it so he can sit there & drink his morning coffee. He wants to install a six foot privacy fence. I told him I think they would still be able to see over it from inside their house. They are the type of people that would stand on a chair or ladder to see over the fence. We did buy a bush yesterday that is suppose to grow 6 to 8 feet tall, but I'm sure that will take years. If the bush can even survive because I'm sure our male dog will help by "watering" it for us. Do you have any suggestions on how to keep them from looking in our backyard? We really need some privacy!
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14 responses
• Philippines
31 Jul 09
lol same as mine.. i also have this very noisy neighbors who play his music loud and at night he always have fight with his wife.. they are shouting like hell as if no one can hear them... and their baby whose always crying... my window is just right next to them thats why i can hear them clearly... i know others can hear them too but they just ignore them...
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@agv0419 (3022)
• Philippines
1 Aug 09
We have the same problem regarding noisy neighbors. Our neighbor beside us disturbing us everyday they don't mind if it is too early or too late to fight. They always figthing sometimes we want them to petition to leave our place because they are the cause of the problem of some of our neighbors. The husband involving his neighbors in their fight sometimes it is ended up in seeking authorities to resolved the dispute. We can't bear their noise anymore sometimes we are nervous that they going to kill each other.
• Philippines
31 Jul 09
lol i guess ur neighbors dont know the words.." mind your own business" or maybe she just want someone to talk with or just want some attention or maybe just trying to be friendly with her neighbors.. actually mine is different.. i have a neighbors who always plays loud music, his just next to my apartment and my is also right next to his window.. i dont know also how to tell him to lower the volume of the sounds coz i dont want to get his attention as we never ever meet or saw each other... i only saw him through my window and vice versa.. i just let others to stop him but i guess they also try to ignore it...
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• Canada
1 Aug 09
My husband likes to walk around the building at ood random hours in his KGB uniform, and we play loud Russian music in our apartment. Also, I have the reputation as "that lady who prevented Cyril's murder in 2005" (true story), so people just don't mess with us! LOL Nosey neighbours woudln't have a chance with the two of us around. Maybe John could borrow one of Walker's uniforms, and learn a bit of Russian! :) Might scare 'em. Or get a disabled AK-47, and mount it over the fireplace. :) THAT would definitely work.
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@idowrite72 (2213)
• United States
1 Aug 09
Nosy neighbors are nosy neighbors and don't go away. Sometimes it is a good thing, if someone is doing something to your property, but the best thing is probably to just ignore them. They aren't going anywhere. I would suggest flashing or mooning them, but that might get you in trouble and they might like that and look more to see if you would do it more!! Short of telling them to stop looking into your yard, which I am sure wouldn't make a difference anyway, I think you are stuck with them unless one of you move away.
• United States
1 Aug 09
thats funny. I have neighbor who does stuff like that. We got some hanging pots and put them up on our front porch and within the week she had got two and put up on hers. There was one week about a month ago that everybody was outside mowing because it was showing rain for the next few days and hers was the only one that hadn't been mowed out of like 6 houses and low and behold she called the next day for the mowers to come out and mow her yard. We have a fence in the back yard that was put up by the people who lived there before us and she was talking to us about replacing the fence. She got an estimate where one was 1200 and the other was 1400 and she would only pay for about half of it to be done. My mom told her that she didn't have it to take care of it right away. The poles for the fences are not put in good and she's afraid that the dog will get out if there is bad weather and it blows the fence over again. My mom doesn't care about her D*** dog. THe fence on our side is fixed now so he won't get out if the fence did fall over. meaning he won't get out of our yard and get gone. My mom is a hard lady to reach at times because of her schedule and she'll look for her sometimes to see when her car is here just to come tell her about that fence and about her walking the dog so early when mom comes home and see her outside. My mom works two jobs. So shes in and out quite a bit. It's unreal. She even commented my mom getting the building put up and putting gravel down to extend the drive way four feet to the right. We just wanted extra room to park so that way we wouldn't have to move vehicles ll the time when one wanted to leave. We also had a tree cut down that was at the bottom of the drive in the yard and she had to say something about that too.
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• United States
1 Aug 09
Maybe it is time to have a little fun with them. Give them a taste of their own medicine and become even nosier than they are! If you can't beat em, join em! OR, do something totally outlandish that they'll wish they never saw!! Perform some mock voo doo ritual or something or burn likenesses of them on the grill. Let them catch you burying a body in your yard, all the while mumbling that he shouldn't have ticked you off. Become a bee keeper! Get a really big dog that will growl every time someone looks over the fence.
• India
1 Aug 09
Does It Matter - Invasion Of Privacy ..
What's There If You Got Nosy Neighbors .. It's actually Good to have such People Around When You are Away On A Long Holiday .. But if You Are Very Much Bothered about Privacy, then it is Indeed A Cause For Concern .. Do What You Feel is Right .. Thanks For reading Through ..
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
3 Aug 09
I wish I had a good answer for you on that. I live in an apartment complex and there is no way to expect any privacy here. I hang out my window for a quick smoke break and if any of the neighbors see me and they usually do....they strike up conversation and the quick break can turn into a really long one. They are just being friendly, I know but sometimes I really am busy. It is good for my attempt at cutting back on the smoking habit because sometimes I simply will just not do it. Your case is ridiculous. I mean it is good that they are keeping an eye out when you are away in the event of burgulars. but watching you while you are home is a bit much. I think the fence is a great idea. At least that way they would have to work for the view.
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
2 Aug 09
Many years ago when our children were young, we had neighbors that were always yelling at our kids. Our children would be playing in their own yard, but they still got hollered at. The neighbors were old and our children were young, about 7 and 10 years old. We finally put up a privacy fence. That solved our problem. They did holler at our children for bouncing a rubber ball against our fence, but I could ignore just one complaint. Previously, they complained about everything the kids did. Don't know if a fence would solve your problem, but it did solve ours.
@Shellyann36 (11385)
• United States
11 Aug 09
Don't really know what you can do except like you are already doing, plant those bushes. Look at it in a different light... perhaps your home will never get broken into because your neighbors keep such a good eye on it! Hopefully they are watching it at all times and would report anything unusual or suspicious to the police! It might be possible that they are just lonely as well. That happens with older people.
• Philippines
4 Aug 09
oh my, you really have nosy neighbors. I suggest build a very high fence or better yet a wall. I think that's the most polite way to keep your privacy. If that doesn't work, talk to them to mind their own business.
@murtuza89 (513)
• India
1 Aug 09
Hi friend, Noisy neighbours is something I have been suffering since long. I have a few Rock Band People staying as my neighbours. They Practice all day long and just bang out our heads. However we are used to that so called misical noise. Sometimes Neighbours are like from hell. I wish nobody gets such irritating people as their neighbours.
• United States
1 Aug 09
That would get annoying! I live in an aprtment buidling with three partments in it. In the past i had a neighbor who would insist on stopping me and talking to me for 20 minutes everytime she caught me outside, and it just made me not ever want to leave my apartment if i knew she was home. I really don't know what to suggest, other than maybe go ahead with the fece idea. It sucks that you would have to go to such costly extremes just to get a little privacy on your own property, but maybe they would take the hint and realize you wanted to be left alone. I know it owuld be an extremely uncomfortable conversation, but maybe just try talking to them? Let them know that you appreciate their care and concern, particularly when watching out for your house when you are not home, but that unless something obviously suspicious is going on, or you come to them and ask if anyone has been around lately, could they leave your guests alone? Somehow try to impress upon them that your yard is like your sanctuary, your time to get away from all the hustle and bustle of the world and not be bothered by anyone or anything? As i said, i know it would be an awkward discussion, but maybe they don't have any clue as to how intrusive this can be. In my building now, i only have one neighbor currently. We are on friendly terms, and she has actually had issues in the past with people coming into her apartment unwelcomed. They were aquaintences of hers, but still,she was not home and didn't appreciate them being there when she was not home, and she informed us of this fact, asking us to keep an eye out when we knew she was not around. Which is not a problem. If we see anything suspicious, or anyone hanging around waiting for her for long periods of time, we let hew know, and she appreciates this, and would do the same for me if i asked.
• United States
1 Aug 09
its different when they do it out of concern. it is when they do it out of spite just to be doing it that it gets aggrivating.
• United States
1 Aug 09
To me, it really doesn't sound like they are doing it to purposely aggrivate thier neightbors, more over that they are trying to be friendly, they don't realize it is even annoying the people who live next to them. Unfortunately some people can just be "dense" like that and don't pick up on the subtle clues, and the only way to get your point across is to state it bluntly.
@grace118224 (1038)
• China
1 Aug 09
Just go straight to tell them that you need some privacy. It's hard to imagine such kind of people indeed because nowadays people are too cold to each other and they don't bother to say hello either. So for me the neighbors are just too kind and too ardent .