A question for your morals

August 1, 2009 4:57pm CST
If you were in somebody elses home and you broke something either of little value or large, what would you do? Would you offer to replace it or just keep quiet about it? I was speaking to a friend whos mother broke something of hers which cost her over $300 and her mother didnt even offer to replace it. I found that pretty shocking, especially since it was her mother. Me .. i would always offer to replace something, i think its polite and the right thing to do. Even if they didnt take me up on my offer i would still do it or it would play on my conscience.
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@a_ce_e (1427)
• Philippines
2 Aug 09
Well it is better for me to replace it if i am capable of doing so, i may pay for it or have something to replace it. But of course, the most important is to express a sincere apology to the house owner and being careful next time.
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@doryvien (2293)
• United States
2 Aug 09
Hi polo_pricess, If I am in somebody else's home and I broke something, yes I would offer to replace it, I won't even wait for the owner to tell me that. If somebody broke my things I would expect the same from someone who did it. But if my mother did it, I won't ask her to replace it or pay me for it, even if she offers. She's my mother, she took care of me until I was old enough to take care of myself, gave me education, loved me unconditionally - I think a piece of something worth $300 is too small compared to what she did for me. It's unthinkable to even bring it up to her and ask her to pay. I don't think she'd do it o purpose, and accidents do happen just like what happened in your friend's home. Peace!
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• United States
2 Aug 09
Yeah i would deffinately tell them and offer to replace it. And even if they refused i would most likely replace it myself and give it to them. Thats simply the right thing to do. Luckily I've never broken anything so I have never had to repay anyone. lol
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@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
2 Aug 09
the first time that I would do is apologize. after that I offer to change items that are broken.
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• Philippines
2 Aug 09
If i broke something, i would definitely replace it. It feels like it automatically comes out of my mouth. Maybe because the mother has the feeling of being superior to her daughter so she didn't offer to replace it all. Besides, maybe it's an accident.
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• China
2 Aug 09
I agree with what you said cause I think we should responsible for our speaking and behaviour.Sometimes you think the stuff you broke is little value,however maybe it is of great value to your friends.The best way to show your respect is replacing the broken one.
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• China
2 Aug 09
I think one should apologize about that and make up the loss. After all, a good man can't sleep well if he does something hidden.
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• Philippines
2 Aug 09
if I broke something at a friend's house,I will apologize first.it was an accident and unintentional.then I will offer to replace it.I will replace it with the same item or something like it.it is very rude not to say sorry when you broke somebody else's thing.
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@angelajoy (1840)
• Philippines
2 Aug 09
I guess her mother didn't offer to replace it because after all, she is your friend's mother. If my mother ever breaks something I own I would not ask her to replace it. She could just say sorry for breaking it. That is, if she does not break it on purpose. Of course, when she breaks something on purpose, then that becomes an entirely different story. If I ever break something accidentally, I would tell the owner that I broke it then offer the owner a replacement. But if the owner tells me that I do not need to replace it, then I wouldn't insist on replacing it. If I could get away with not replacing the object I broke, why wouldn't I?
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@dorannmwin (36609)
• United States
1 Aug 09
Whether it was myself or my children that were to break something I would offer to replace it. That is just the way that I was taught. If it could be fixed I'd offer to fix it. Now, what really irks me about all of this is when something is accidentally broken or ruined the person to whom the property belongs will often inflate the value of the object when something happens to it. If I am doing something that is morally right isn't it morally right for that person to be honest of the value of said object. My daughter, when she was three years old, went to an in-home daycare. While there one day she accidentally peed on one of the children's chairs. When the day care provider told me about it I offered to replace it. She told me it would cost $300 to replace a child's toy. I looked the same item up online and found that it was $90. I refused to give her $300 for the toy ultimately because I couldn't justify it, I told her I would simply buy a replacement. That wasn't good enough for her.
1 Aug 09
Wow thats terrible that someone would take advantadge of your good nature by doing something like that? After all it shouldnt be about the cost, i wouldnt care what someone paid for the item that they broken as long at is was replaced regardless of what i had paid for it. Did you ever replace it in the end?
@dorannmwin (36609)
• United States
2 Aug 09
I did buy a replacement toy for her. It was a lamb chair from Pottery Barn kids. I tried to give it to her but she wouldn't accept it. She wanted the money. So though I tried to replace the item, she wouldn't accept it. I tried but failed I suppose.
@seanbryan (351)
• United Arab Emirates
3 Aug 09
Hi! I'll be glad to ask for an apology if I broke something and the next thing to do is to offer a replacement. I've been brought up to be highly oriented with moral standards and whatever is my relationship to the owner of the broken thing I should do the same. And if I am the owner and my mother had broken something unintentional, yes i'll be expecting an apology but I wouldn't accept any replacement after all she's my mother!
@ladym33 (11009)
• United States
2 Aug 09
I would confess. When I was a teenager I would not have, but now that I am an adult I would. I would not do that to someone that would be wrong not to admit and not to offer to replace it. My mother left my freezer door in my garage opened it was opened all night long, and everything in my freezer was pretty much ruined or had to be cooke right away. When I told her what she did she just laughed and shrugged it off. There was at least a couple hundred dollars worth of food in there including several boxes of real fruit popsicles that were really expensiv that I had just bought earlier that day. There was no way to salvage them. She didn't seem to feel bad about it in the least. That made me really upset.
@sid556 (31019)
• United States
2 Aug 09
Oh I would have to replace it. That is how I was raised. If you damage something of someone elses' then the right thing to do would be to replace it or pay for it. Being her daughter you would think she would feel especially obligated.
• United States
2 Aug 09
Well, now....honestly, I am going to say it depends on who it is...lol. I've had people break things at my house and act like it's no big deal. So, that's how I would act in their home. Fair? Generally, speaking...my conscience wouldn't let me act like that normallly.
• India
2 Aug 09
It Is Your Duty - Anything Broken By You Must Be Replaced
Those are Individual Choices you Make .. To Replace Or Give Back What You Broke according to me Is right, But Can You Force your Own Mother .. Well I Doubt it for Sure .. Thank You ..
@308369666 (111)
• China
2 Aug 09
Often these things happen, mostly as a friend to take the initiative to sell things back to him.
• Philippines
2 Aug 09
That's kinda disturbing, my mom would usually replace it either with the stuff or with the money. that was really insensitive of her not replacing what her daughter lost. i don't think i can trust any person that can broke things and not replacing it..
@dlr297 (4990)
• United States
2 Aug 09
Yes i would say something, and i would offer to replace it. That would be the best thing to do.
• United States
2 Aug 09
If i was in that position i would have replaced that item even if it was of little value, and i would say something instead of keeping quite about an incident, its just wrong to act like nothing happened.