Why do some relationships break up very qucikly?

Hello Vijay, My parents were on their 40th wedding anniversary soon,this coming September(very soon)Happily married,and keep stronger my dad is 17 years older than my mom,but age doesn't makes a difference.My dad is not a perfect husband,he also cheated my mom before,and my dad is a drunkard till now.(the only good thing with my dad is,he never drinks at home and never bring his friends to have a drinking session at home,and he drinks in moderation and one more,none of my 2 brothers were drinkers either) My mom says,dad never lift a finger to her,and that she doesn't mind our dad's cheating on her before,becoz,our dad always confesses his mistakes and never left us. The love they shared and understanding each other,my mom's loyalty and goodness i can't define,this 40 years of wedding anniversary,what more can i explain for? I don't have a successful married life like my parents.Maybe becoz,i was too practical minded,or maybe becoz i don't want to understand why my ex keeps cheating on me,or maybe,i was too proud to myself that i don't deserved to be cheated,i really don't know. To those who have lasting relationship,i always admire and envy. To those short relationships,i guess i can understand their reasons whatever it is becoz i been through it. Maybe,it needs a big heart to contain all the do's and dont's in a relationship,and to have a happy ending is to believe in fairy tales do come true.

Tolerance, a willingness to look only at the positive aspects of a partner, a mindset that allows a 'live and let live ' policy,a determination to work at a relationship making it succeed, a conviction in long term commitment--THis is all needed to keep a relationship going. You start great topics.

I have never been in a relationship, but according to my friends, relationship didn't work because of their differences. Lack of time for each other is also the reason. Lack of understanding. Lack of honesty and loyalty. These are the reason. Of course there are no perfect relationship. All relationship have their own struggles and hardships, but if they will not surrender from all of this , they will win it. If they are keeping in touch with each other and always open minded I am sure everything will work out right.

Hi vijayanths, I'm sure there are a lot of people who would love to know the answer to that one, but I doubt if there is one answer for everyone. I think that some of it has to be maturity, and I'm not talking about age here as some are mature at 18 and others immature at 28. When entering a relationship we have to realize that no one is perfect and that includes ourselves. We must understand that we are going to have to compromise sometimes and we must be willing to discuss things in a reasonable and sane manner. Sometimes the parents of either the bride or groom, and sometimes both interfere and try to tell the young couple how to live their lives. This can be part of the reason for early breakups. I'm sure others will suggest other reasons. Blessings.

I think the secret to a great relationship is having faith in each other! Youve got to love each other and have total trust in each other! And i think the reason why most relationships fail early on is because they are lacking those things. They just arnt right for each other, or not in the right place for that relationship. Many relationships that fail the first time, have been succesful the second time round a few years later. The couple just needed some time appart to grow up and mature and have some more like experience

Most of the relationships break mainly due to misunderstanding. One understands other in some circumstances wrongly . The other reasons are violating self respects of others. Everyone have self respect and due to misconceptions it may be broken. At that time breaking of relationship occurs.

There is no compatibility between the two souls. That is to say no right chemistry. It is like a cat and dog in the house. The secret is no secret but to work hard to make the relationship work.

I believe that some people were just meant to be friends in the first place. This is one reason I think that people should become friends before they start to date. I was friends with the guy I am with for about 3 years before we entered into a relationship together. The relationship has been going strong now for over 6 years. So, altogether we have known each other for 9 years. Maybe that's just part of it, but it has worked so far for us. Good luck to you in your research on relationships!

The secret probably laying on mutual love. Both personal love each other strongly, affectionately. That is the ultimate secret of strong relationship I guess. They both never get tired of each other. Unlike some relationship, after the fun is passed, they no longer feel for each other. What is left? They just try every possible way to get rid of each other.

its just the way it is...some ppl just hit it off and some just dont ......acccording to a pschology study wen ur arnd some person he emots some hormones and ur body senses tht according to which it decides whether the pther personis right fr him/her or not./..........

I think some relationships are just flings, and they rush into it without a second thought. They think about short term rather than long term and in some cases they don't really know the person all that well, and as the relationship goes on they learn about their differences, and sometimes differences just can't be worked out in some cases. Whereas in a strong relationship, people take the time to get to know one another before they start dating, and they don't rush into the relationship. They think it through thoroughly and weigh all the pro's and con's. Occasionally they will date as in go out on dates as friends before they actually make it official. They just take time and time is the key. As well as waiting. The best things in life come to those who wait.