Do you accept it when your relatives are rude to others?

I do not really like it when my relatives are rude to others out in public. My grandparents are like yours, they are picky about everything and make rude comments about people behind their backs. I do not like it either, but I just stay quiet and do nothing about it.

My aunt is ALWAYS making very rude and uncalled for comments and I can't really say anything about it, its pretty horrible.

my mom can be rude to people especially in restaurants and i hate it. i do point it out to her because she can be ridiculous and impatient with people. she is very stubborn and set in her ways so when i say something she gets annoyed with me but she has to be shown that she is acting rude so perhaps she will think twice next time. there is no reason to be rude to people, unless of course they are rude to you first then all bets are off in my opinion.

if i see that my relatives are rude to others, i should correct them in a nicer way, like what your grandmother had said to the girl. i would rather tell grandmother that the girl didn't mean to step in her toe. and if if prolongs the discussion then i would shift the discussions to the other way round to avoid confrontations.

The older generation make me giggle. I live in a town full of oldies and they grumble and moan about the youngsters all the time. Yes some times the younger kids are rude and disrespectful but most of the time they arent and its just the oldies that like to grumble. Here they push you out of the way just because they are old and feel they have the right to. Most of the time i just ignore them! Its not worth the hastle!

You just have to realize that when we get older, we get grumpier. No excuse for bad behavier though.I am 64 and noticed that more things bother me when I am hurting etc. Just talk to your grandma and find out if she was just having a bad day, could explain alot. Hope all is well.

I had an acquaintance, I think he was just a little younger than me. But maybe his behavior give me that present impression now that I'm older. Now, here in the United States, we have spaces in the parking lot designated for handicapped persons. Either they have a special license plate on their car, or a tag that clearly shows in the window indicating that they were cleared to park in such places. For some reason, some non-medical individuals here form their own opinions about who have the right to have such licenses. My friend was obviously one of them. The lady was definitely elderly, barely putting one foot in front of the other. And he made some comment about how she was obviously not handicapped. I was never so embarrassed in my entire life at that point. And heaven knows I have done some actions myself that make me turn red now, remembering what I have done.... I wished now that I abandoned that guy and assisted the victim to whatever errands she had to perform, but I didn't. I did mention to him she did have a handicapped permit in her windshield, but that did not matter to him; she wasn't in a wheelchair, or something that qualifies in his own mind what a handicapped person was, and that was that. Yes, I was such a wuss. I'm glad none of my family members are like that. It's hard enough having friends like that.

hmmm,if i meet the case as you ,i also didn't know how to deal with.but maybe i will talk with her later don't say that again because the girl wasn't willful.anyway,it is hard to change someone's way i know.

Maybe that was your grandmother's attempt at a joke? I am often embarassed and apologetic if a family member or a friend is rude to others. It is one of the most awkward positions to be in, and it is hard to talk about with said family member so that you can avoid further recurrences.

I won't be able to stand if one of my relatives acts like that with someone, i am pretty sure you wish your grandmother were a little more considerate over such matters.... i would especially feel bad if the relative was older than me, if he/she would be younger than me then i could see to it that i take the matter into my hands and apologize if it was our mistake.... i just don't like rude people who dispute over smallest of matters and mistakes... i just hope people were more reasonable and more understanding... but then not all people are the same.

I think the elder people like to do that.I found my mother in law whom she like to grumbleing a lot of stories.I don't think much about the elder people.

grandma is a child when she is getting older .My grandmother gone away last month.she was 80-year-old. when she was 77-year-old .she was liking a child .she was rude to strangers when she was out.she was out of contorl.we only do it,understant her,and accompany her a lot.

I wouldn't accept that. It was really rude of your grandmother to say those things about that young lady. The young lady did apologize to her about what she did. I guess older people are just grumpy. I would just ask her to be more polite and patient around other people.

Wow, tred lightly on this one. If it's one of my own relatives I am careful to bring this situation to their attention. Sometimes making a joke of it or just simply asking if something eles is bothering them. But I do bring it to their attention. However if it's someone on my husbands side of the Family, I run for my life. Some fights you will never win and for the sake of keeping peace in my marriage I keep my mouth shut. I have been known to apoligize for the person that was rude sometimes right in front of them. It makes them understand that I didn't approve of the situtaion and makes them look like a complete idiot!

I guess it all depends on the relative. LOL. And the situation. Although I will not allow it under my roof at all. My mother in law detests her neice (long story) and it almost came to a head in my place but I had to explain that in MY house what I say goes and they were both welcome and loved. If they couldn't handle it then they aren't to be there at the same time. My children don't get away with being rude to others outside of the house but if I were in your case, I'd have to say that you always respect your elders. You have no place to tell her how to behave - although maybe you could work it into the conversation that you thought she could have handled that a bit better.

what else can you do, I mean it depends on your relationship with your relative, are you close,or not close? If its not too big a deal why not let it pass. if its really embarrassing of course protest as it doesnt matter what age we needent be rude to strangers.rudeness probably is inherant in some people from young to old age so age is no excuse. if you care about others you will trynot to be rude at any age. There is an elder who is elder to me but goes around saying have a good day to everyone,so sweet eh? no not at all, I inadverttanly bumped into her wheelchair and she screamed you idiot good thing you dont drive a car,look where youre going you idiot, I had already apologized,and was dumbfounded at her reply. she was now glaring at me, no syrup smile, just plain hatred.wow.So i think bad manners or good manners are ingrained in us when we are young.

Years ago, when my mother was in the icu of a hospital fighting for her life, in the waiting room my grandmother used the 'N' word, and loudly. I wanted the floor to swallow me up. One of the pink ladies gave me look of sympathy, as if to say she'd seen and heard it all. What as worse is one of my uncles added, "Yeah, and those mexicans, too." I feel your pain, animegirl334.

u need to b cool , u can say sorry on her behalf , it happens some time , b chilled

All I can say to that is my Grandmother was never like that at all!When she was still living she was kind and helpful.She was all that you would expect from an elderly person.Bless her heart.

I kinda understand. I hate when Im out with my Godmother and she is rude to other people. Sometimes I give the other person that look of "Im sorry this had to happen to you". Lol. Its really annoying when she is mean to someone and then looks at me for support. But I never say anything. I just keep quiet... Lol.