How do you feel when someone is late or you you are the one late? Punctuality

Philippines
August 13, 2009 2:17am CST
Being late to attend in a meeting, schools, offices, parties and other activities you are suppose to be present. What do you feel if your co-workers, classmates, friends or the people you invited comes late? In my own personal opinion I feel really annoy especially if other people comes late. For examples, you have a parties and you invite people with a notes, including the time and places where you are going to hold your parties. Then, the other guests or the main celebrant wait for the parties to be filled in by people whom she invited..How would you feel if guests come late. Another scene in offices, your co-worker comes late it is a sign of being not professional, then at schools, some students come late..What will be your reactions if you are the teacher or students..If we are going to reverse the situation; do you hate being late or you hate waiting for late companion? Are you punctual or you are late to come, because of others valid reasons which could be an excuses or others really comes late, because they already acquire the habits of being late?
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@daeckardt (6245)
• United States
13 Aug 09
I hate being late. It is very embarrassing, especially if it is to an interview. It reminds me of something that happened a couple of days ago. I had an interview scheduled about 30 miles from my home. I picked up a map that I had printed out a couple of days earlier (or so I thought because I didn't look at it at the time). I got into the other community and looked at the map and it turned out that I had picked up the map for the interview that I had the week before. The guy hadn't given me a phone number to call so I couldn't call and let him know that I was lost or that I wouldn't be coming. Oh well... On other occasions, I arrived a little later than I had planned because I couldn't find the place. The people I was meeting didn't seem too bothered by that so I didn't worry about it either even though I was embarrassed. When other people are late, I get more worried than upset. I often wonder if something had happened or what.
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• Philippines
17 Aug 09
Punctuality is a very crucial things and its have a lasting effects on the person who do it and to the person who fails to do it. The implications are resulting to lost opportunity and business transactions may be affected, causing tremendous damages to the person reputation and including the images or credibility of the company whom you are working. Habitual tardiness is very annoying but some tardiness happen for a reason such as the one you mention you lack proper information which resulting you for being late. it is normal you get the feelings of being worried, especially if you are waiting for your loved ones and never heard for more than an hours about his whereabouts. Lastly, it is good to maintain constant communication with the person you are dealing with to avoid confusion to take places or at least inform your contact ahead of times in cases you or he gets late..
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@daeckardt (6245)
• United States
17 Aug 09
I agree with what you are saying. It is a good idea to stay in touch with people so that they don't worry about you. Of course, I don't know about constant contact because that could get a little annoying also.
• Philippines
18 Aug 09
hi, daeckardt, you could communicate to your contact person the day of your supposed meeting not really every minutes as it will be irritating. A cal or sending messages is enough to remind him about your meeting so that this person would not forget what you agree upon..tc
@stephcjh (32387)
• United States
13 Aug 09
I hate being late for anything because it makes me nervous to try to rush to make it on time and it ruins my day in most cases. I hate it when someone else is late also and does not even take the time to tell me they are going to be late or if they make a habit of it.
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• Philippines
17 Aug 09
It is better to think of being the one to arrive first at the appointment time rather than arriving late. Yeah, it is really a good attitude to inform your contacts before hand to cancel the appointment than making an alibi which could easily be detect as lies.
@Sreekala (18107)
• India
13 Aug 09
Hi neelianoscet, I admit that I am a late comer in office presently. But that facility is provided for me because I have a small kid at home. I was famous with my punctuality before my kids born and I think that is why I am getting this facility now. In other cases I try to be punctual. Yes I may get annoyed if other people not reach at time. I can’t tolerate if students came late at school. I will always make a point to reach in time for parents meeting etc.
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• Philippines
17 Aug 09
i like your company is very sensitive to the needs of employees and they allow you too make your own schedules. If that is the cases it is better than keeping late and always narrate your every reason many times to your boss may sometimes takes her patience out. If others could do to arrive in time, you could do so and if you are really low, as some people really acts like this, it is better to adjust your watch at least more than 30 minutes. So that you will never arrive late and instead arrive ahead of the scheduled time.
• United States
13 Aug 09
I hate being late for anything. I'd much rather get to let's say the movies, for example, 30 minutes early and just wait instead of getting there when they've already dimmed the lights. If it's for an appointment or something important, I get really upset if something happens to make me late and usually try to phone ahead to explain the situation. I get furious when people are late for appointments with me and don't even have the courtesy to call me and let me know. As long as they give me that one little bit of respect, a phone call, I'm completely cool with them being late, but just not showing up or being incredibly late really, really irks me. If I don't get a call, they better have a dang good excuse for showing up late/not at all. And I mean really good excuse.
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• Philippines
17 Aug 09
It is alright to tell to the person you are going to be late or rather cancel the appointment in advanced that the person will no longer expect you to proceed with the plan. Me too, I really feel ashamed every time I am late and becomes the center of attention of other people who are already seated keep looking or stop what they are doing to look at you..The important things to remind always the feeling of waiting and the feeling of being late is not a good things and should be avoided at all cost. It is really disappointing to wait and then find out the person you are going to meet have no desire to come. Anybody who experience the things you mention will really feel bad as you do a lot of preparation while the other person involve do not mind being late is not a good habit to maintain.
@mickly08 (770)
• China
13 Aug 09
Sometimes I would be very angry with someone who are late .Because sometimes my schedule are full. I have something to do in next given time .I think someone always late is not responsible for others .They don't respect others .They bring a lot problems to each other . Punctuality is important for everyone .
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• Philippines
17 Aug 09
It is better if they cancel their meeting with you they will says so in advanced that you will no longer wait for them to come and you could cancel it both. Transactions gets affected and your precious times is wasted.
@jazzbabe (166)
• Philippines
13 Aug 09
I am guilty of being a late-comer in a lot of times. In school before and at work, but I'm never late for parties or some social events. lol. I know that it's never a professional way, and I am still working on changing this since it sure did become a very bad habit..
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• Philippines
17 Aug 09
Maybe you never really feel excited in going to your others appointment and you feel bored. Whereas in going to social events you feel more excited as it makes you happy and by seeing a lot of friends..Good things you will learn to changes your behavior and may reap the good benefits after the changes..
@versio9 (329)
• Philippines
13 Aug 09
the only excuses i will accept or will give are: when someone or myself meet an accident. otherwise, lateness on my part or the other violates one's commitment to the other. do this three times and trust will disappear. punctuality means respecting the other person's time and effort. it builds trust because you value the other person's time.
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• Philippines
17 Aug 09
yeah, it is really a matter of respect, if you think of yourself as the latecomers, then it is best to learn to adjust your time and you still arrive at the place ahead of the time given to you by the person who invites. This is the way being late is avoided as constant lateness have effect on every transaction whether for business or for personal use.
13 Aug 09
I've been told that i'm right on the dot when it comes to meetings with friends, and I'm really glad that I have that reputation with my friends. I don't hate waiting for people who are late (hate is a strong word), I'm rather just cross and annoyed, but I don't show my feelings. I just joke about one's lateness with others, but it's not in a hurtful way, I say it in a playful, friendly way.
• Philippines
17 Aug 09
Being late in any appointment is very irritating to the person who make the invitation. Sometimes being late is excusable when the late person have no intention of doing it. Such as when their is an accident along the roads that it is impossible to arrive on the exact times, and creates tremendous traffic or other valid reason. You could easily detect if this person are always making an alibi when he always do it not few times but almost frequently. Then, it is no longer tolerable as this person acquired this habit which only makes him infamous.
@bjcyrix (6857)
• Philippines
17 Sep 09
Ooh, neelia, all I can say is... Ouch. LOL That's because I do admit to having the habit of being late. Though Im just too much aware of time and being a procrastinator, I just hit the snooze button repeatedly. I do get up when I feel that I have just enough time to shower, dress and commute. I dont know, its just I have this mental clock of my schedules that each activity I do already has a calculated amount of minutes. Like if I spent too much time brushing my teeth because I was very sleepy, Id make up for the extra time by breaking world records in putting on clothes and running to the jeep stop.LOL I do give a slight margin for unexpected things like, I forgot my ID or something that Id have to go back home and get it. What Im trying to say is that I time my actions so that I would be able to get to class or to that meeting just at the right time. Not early, but not late (hopefully). Being early, just gives me time to 'zone out' while waiting for the class/meeting to start, that mindset would be carried over until the next class. Worrying that I might be late kinda gets my mind active. So Id really prefer to be just "on time". As for waiting and being waited for. I really hate to make people wait for me. If I couldnt make it at the rendezvous at the designated time, it is compulsory for me to inform whoever I was meeting with that I might be late. I will give him/her updates as to where the jeep is at some points. I usually dont mind waiting for others. I actually can wait for hours for others. BUT when I have other engagements to attend to, that's when time is important for me. Every second counts in that instance. I do inform the people Im meeting with when I will have a busy day or I tell them to please not be late since I also have other things to do. If people show up, I certainly dont wait for the others to start the meeting, if they insist to wait for the others, then I will wait for them but I will leave at the time that the meeting is supposed to be over. Guess it would just depend on the gravity of the meeting/class if I will really make an effort to be early, be at the right time, or just skip it altogether.
• Philippines
18 Sep 09
That is very funny but it is a true testament of you being late but you still manage to complete your day without being absent from your commitment. Sometimes, being late is not intentional but their are many events which contributes to being late. Such, as when you commute and their is heavy traffic even if you like to arrive at exact time, you could not do so, because of many hindrances such as when the vehicles got flat tire and all you have to do is to transfer from another vehicles. It is really annoying too when you wake up earlier only to attend at a scheduled meeting that it is cancel without notifying you in advance. As in the cases you really have practices the daily ritual without alarm clock as your body is accustomed to that is definitely a good things. It only mean you have a good memories and you move quickly, hopefully not clumsy all the times..lol..I too experience when I wake up late, I take my bath less than 10 minutes, get clothes on, even skipping breakfast just sip warm coffee, brushing teeth and am ready to go. It may sounds funny but it is the way we become alert of the tardiness is embarassing things. About waiting and being waited. Neither of the two in extreme cases is not a good things to do, as they becomes habit. Just, what you do, you arrive exactly just on time is better than never. Finally, the very safe things to do is to allocate at least 15 minutes ahead of the scheduled time is the best way where you are not late and not too wait for so long that you get piss from waiting for others to arrive.
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@bjcyrix (6857)
• Philippines
4 Jan 10
It seems that you and I do the same things when pressed for time.^_^ I do agree that doing those things often would turn to habit which is definitely not a good thing. Allocating 15 minutes is indeed the most ideal and the time margin that I give myself is usually 5-10 minutes. It would depend really but whichever works for our needs, right?
• Philippines
8 Jan 10
right, Bj and if one is too unsure of the right schedule for the appointment and the way you estimate your travel time need to extend at least 30 minutes or at least an hour just to get to your destination as their are many instances when troubles are being meet along the roads which uncontrollable so it is a good things to plan ahead before the exact time..
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@chi2nasrin (1103)
• Malaysia
14 Aug 09
I have posted a discussion about one of my friends who is always late, because I really hate it when people let me wait for them for a long time. Waiting will only spoil my mood to go out, I prefer other people to wait for me but then I will feel really guilty. At least have an excuse when you have to be late than the time promised. I hate waiting very much, maybe one day if I can't take it anymore I will just leave and cancel the plan.
• Philippines
17 Aug 09
Waiting for at least less than 5 minutes is still acceptable but if the waiting time exceeds more than one hours. No matter how patience you are would really feel annoy as it is not really fun waiting and it is a waste of precious time of the person who wait as his other schedules may be affected. Then, if you are the one late, as what you says you will feel guilty is true. Also, it is shameful when people label a person as slow who got no word and cannot be trusted. The next time you are the one requesting their presence they will also do the same things as their revenge to you for being late.
• Malaysia
18 Aug 09
That is exactly what I am going to do the next time my friend let me wait to long for her.
• Philippines
18 Aug 09
don't overdo it, as it may even create troubles, every things could be settled down in peace if we both listen and respect..
• Malaysia
14 Aug 09
I'm not a very punctual person, but everyday i do my very best to be punctual on any occasions. I am a student and also a teacher. I can tolerate with my students if they were 5-10 minutes late. I won't say that i hate my companion for being late, normally i just understand if it's just 10 minutes late. Since we are not in the military also. If I'm late for more than 15 minutes, i will feel very guilty towards my companion.
• Philippines
17 Aug 09
Being late for a short times may still be forgiven but if the latecomers makes it likes a habit and it takes her longer to comes to the places being scheduled. it is no longer excusable and the person who is doing it must think of a plan to changes her attitudes as it may greatly affect even her credibility and reputation. Her peers may not respect her for being unprofessional, but if she try to changes it is good to maintain..
• Malaysia
18 Aug 09
Ya, i agree with you. We should always improve ourselves and don't rely on 'late is better than never'.
• Philippines
18 Aug 09
the saying you mention should not be the basis to make the tardiness as excusable things, although few late are still tolerable but frequency of late is no longer tolerable..
@nenuphar (118)
• France
13 Aug 09
I guess it all depends... I'm always punctual when attending meetings, seminars, wedding ceremonies, etc. because I would expect others to be punctual when I organize the events. Some people are just born late comers, however hard they try, they will always be late. One thing that I'm sure is that no one will be late to catch a plane! Different countries have different customs. At parties, here in France, the people always turn up 15 to 30 minutes late. I still can remember the first time I invited some French friends for dinner. I prepared a roast beef with mashed potatoes. I was really annoyed because the meat was overcooked and gone cold. But I learnt my lesson. Take care.
• Philippines
17 Aug 09
of course, if you are late on the airport, you have to pay for the renewing your flight and may even get a penaltyif that is the cases in other country they have their own rules when it comes to times and scheduling. In my country too.they are called American times which mean you should arrive ahead of the scheduled and the Pinoy time just like in France, the people always arrive late for more than 15 minutes or even the host of the parties never really follow exactly the times indicated on the invitation card, Except in schools and in some companies where being late could be ground to suspension, and worse termination from jobs. So far being ahead of time is to practice being punctual and it will benefit the person who gets used to it.
@nenuphar (118)
• France
17 Aug 09
I like that expression... American time and Pinoy time, I'll try to remember it. Cheers!
• Philippines
17 Aug 09
Really, that is what being practice in my country and lot of my countrymen do it, which is not good if serious business is the subjects as being late is tantamount to lost opportunity and lost transactions which gives a bad reputation to the person who are involves with habitual tardiness, even ruining his own credibility and to the company which he represents..
@samrie29 (112)
• Philippines
18 Nov 09
I believe time is gold and I'm very particular with punctuality. I get really annoyed if people (may it be a family member,a friend or a colleage) becomes late on a specified meeting time. Sometimes it also causes a chained effect because it affects your other schedules just because this person is late. I myself gets really upset if I became late on a meeting or even in a party. I don't always accept excuses since I believe that you should have the oversight of your schedules, should know what will happen and should always have a back up plan for it. My boss is always late for work and eventhough he reasons out that he's schedule is on flexi mode, I still find it unprofessional because people look up to him.
• Philippines
21 Nov 09
hi samrie, I do agree too with the saying that time is gold that once the time has pass it could no longer be recover and the same things with the way one transact business it would be a lost opportunity due to the failures of the other party to attend it becomes the sources of many fail investment or prospect. In other cultures being late still acceptable as long the reasons is valid. Yup, being late should not be an excuses for making a lot of unbelievable alibi as it could easily be notice if the person is lying or not.thanks.
• United States
17 Nov 09
I get really annoyed when other's are late. I hate waiting around and feeling bored. If they have a good excuse, it is okay. But most of the time there is no good excuse. I am rarely late myself. I make a habit of being where I am supposed to be on time, or a few minutes off(1-2) early or late. I think it is just being considerate.
• Philippines
21 Nov 09
hi danrun, very true and it really could make anyone feel upset if the waiting period last for more than 30 hours it affects the productivity of the person who wait and it broke any trust or commitment that the person being late could no longer be trustworthy as he would likely break any promises unless one have valid excuses for being late. thanks.
• Philippines
19 Sep 09
one fine afternoon, my crush invited me to go with her to a place far from our home. i replied with a yes of course, but not knowing that she's already there at our meeting place. she's so damn early! i feel so ashamed cause she's waiting there for me for 15 minutes without telling me that she was already there! so i rushed down and met her T__T but still it was a minus point for my crush for being not on time in our meeting T__T i just zipped my mouth then. haha! i've learned another lesson on that happening hehe :) it is not to be late anymore in any appointment hehe
• Philippines
20 Sep 09
That is really a very embarassing situation for you if it is the first time meeting to make a first impression but the time never cooperate as she arrive earlier than you Then, just charge it to experience their still have other time to make a lasting impression on your crush.
@derek_a (10904)
14 Aug 09
I can get extremely irritated when another person is late. Apart from an emergency, I am rarely late. I am most often too early and have to wait around until the time of the arranged meeting. I guess it it the way I have grown up. My father was very strict on being on time and before I learned to have better punctuality, I would always get told off if I was late by even a few minutes. - Derek
• Philippines
17 Aug 09
It is a good feeling to arrive ahead of the scheduled times as you may never feel worry of being late or to gives an alibi or have to make up stories just to save your face from disgraces of being late..It is good things that your father teach you at a young age the values of punctuality. it greatly helps in forming a great personality making you more trusted and credible person which being punctual is a good habit to maintain as it detrimental to a person's success in life..
• United States
14 Aug 09
I have a few friends that are exactly like this, where we actually tell them a different time to be at the place, just so that they ARE there on time LOL! We normally tell them to be at the party/event at so and so time, when in actuality the event didn't start for another 30-60 minutes lol. My husband is pretty horrible too, he is almost always late, at least 95% of the time and it drives me WILD! If someone asks you to be somewhere by a certain time you should honestly be there 5 minutes early or on time, that's how I feel, because that shows them that you really want to be there and you care about them and what's going on... right? lol
• Philippines
17 Aug 09
yeah, very true and you think of strategy to make the latecomers comes to your scheduled appointment ahead of the times which is better, because if you never do that this person will also be affected and maybe hesitate to come if the places is already filled with people and their is no more vacant seats which is very embarrassing situation..and in cases yo could not make it or show being late..It is a must to call your contact ahead of the times so that he will not be worry about your failed show up or for being late..Also, being sensitive to the person who initiated the invitation should be always keep on mind as not to annoy him..
@sagnik42 (3599)
• India
14 Aug 09
I am very punctual.If I am meet someone, I reach there at the very precise time. When I am off to work or college I reach there atleast 5 minutes early. Of course, sometimes I do get late.But that is on the rarest occasions. I do feel a bit irritated when people get late.Its alright if they do it once in a while but there are some who just cannot do anything in time.
• Philippines
17 Aug 09
Yes, habitual tardiness is a signs that a person have no self discipline and never have one word or could not really makes a promises to plan ahead and arrive at the scheduled time. The worse scenarios happen when the one waiting is highly respected person and you are just a representatives who have to deal with this VIP man to deal with a projects which a company represent and this clients walk out, causing to lost opportunity and fail transactions which have bad effects to the business..
• India
14 Aug 09
hii...i am very strict about timing and punctuality and time boundness ...my all of my friend know that hoy punctual i am and for this i get a good attention in the onlookers.....i don't tolerate any late coming....and if any body comes i give him a good slaps in his face.......
• Philippines
17 Aug 09
Oh, really... you are getting mad maybe because this person are constantly late and never ever try to changes his attitudes which really hampers productivity. especially if the business is involves in meeting a VIP client it is embarrassing to keep him waiting which will result in lost opportunity and failed transactions affecting the whole image of the company which this person represents..Therefore it is a must to come to the place of meeting at least more than 30 minutes ahead of the scheduled times and in cases the places is very far, their is a need to wake up early and do the travel for more than an hours to avoid being late
@erikmama (12935)
• United States
14 Aug 09
I HATE to be late. I think it makes a bad impression on your part. But with my luck it seems everytime im trying to be on time and look good, something happens and i end up late. this is not a reflection of my regular behavior though. It doesnt really bother me when people are late, though i do get a bit annoyed if they;re really late or dont call to let me knoe. But i cant say anything to anyone about being late!
• Philippines
17 Aug 09
Habitual lateness is really annoying but being late rarely is not really a big problems, especially if the cases of being late have accompanied with valid reasons which are excusable. Repetition of being late is bad to the person as it will affect his credibility and the person whom he is dealing with may not treat him seriously.