Should I kiss my girl friend on our first date?

@suchi60 (912)
India
August 19, 2009 9:59am CST
I have a peculiar problem. I'm going out on my first date and don't know if its appropriate to kiss my girlfriend goodnight. Do you think its alright to kiss her on our first date?
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• United States
19 Aug 09
I think you should go on the date and see. I mean if things go wonderful and you have real chemistry then it is okay otherwise wait a little. Good luck, have fun.
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@rajupaul (973)
• India
19 Aug 09
bluehibiscus Yes you are right go and have fun in first date. Don't expect more or try to spoil first date. What do you say.
@suchi60 (912)
• India
19 Aug 09
I'll keep that in mind bluehibiscus. Thanks for the wishes and I truly hope we have a great time.
@Sonadora (356)
• United States
19 Aug 09
I don't think it's alright to expect a kiss on the first date. You can ask. Maybe something like, Would it be alright if I kissed you? My current boyfriend didn't ask to kiss me until the third date. And at that point I panicked so much just from the thought of it that it didn't happen. Luckily he asked me again on the fourth date and I got over my nerves long enough to say yes. And believe me, it was worth the wait. Also, at that point I was sure that he was into me and not just trying to get laid. It was nice.
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@suchi60 (912)
• India
19 Aug 09
I guess you're right. It might offend her and get her thinking. I think I'll ask her and if she accepts, I'll send you a note. Thanks for the advice.
@soulist (2985)
• United States
19 Aug 09
I think asking her if it is okay to kiss her is a great idea. I mean it shows you respect her enough to ask permission before kissing her and shows that you are interested enough that you want to kiss her. Some girls hope to have a guy ask her if it was alright to kiss her.
19 Aug 09
Of course it is! I would be slightly dissapointed if our date went well and I didn't get a goodnight kiss. I think if you think you want to see her again and things go well you should definatly give her a goodnight kiss, nothing more though. That way she will know that you like her and want to see her again.
@suchi60 (912)
• India
20 Aug 09
Spoken like a true lover. I think you know it better than most, and I appreciate your view. I'll give it a try and see how she responds.Thanks.
• Philippines
19 Aug 09
Hi suchi60! I was a little bit confused with what you've said. You said that you are going out on a first date, and it will be with your girlfriend? So does it mean that this would be the first time that you will be going on date with your girlfriend? If you answer is yes, then my answer to your question should be YES. Yes, you can kiss your girlfriend goodnight after you had dropped in their house. But the most appropriate site that you can kiss her on that day is only the cheeks. No other parts of the body is allowed.
@suchi60 (912)
• India
20 Aug 09
OK, I'll take that, thanks.
@rajupaul (973)
• India
19 Aug 09
dear suchi Kissing your girl friend is not a achieving some thing. But wait and watch. Make good relation with her then you need not to ask question. Time to say what to do and what not.
@suchi60 (912)
• India
19 Aug 09
This is not about achieving anything. Giving a kiss ia a way to express your gratitude for the good time you had. I don't think a kiss is an offence if its ok with your partner.
• Nigeria
19 Aug 09
Pls forget about all this trash about not kissing on first date. Pls trust your instinct enough to push you right. The first date i had with my wife, i felt like eating her up. Prior to this i seek every avenues and opportunity to chat with her. Then she was falling for someone who just wanted to have a fling with her. When i finally approach her and arrange for a date, it was like both us had just seen the real solution. We just let the thing flow freely. We are married now with 3 lovely boys of age 6, 3 and 7 month old danny. Cheers!
@suchi60 (912)
• India
20 Aug 09
Right! If there's an instict to go for it, do it, right? Suppose this is the first time, you're going to have a serious interaction and get to know each other, then? I think you need to play your cards carefully, otherwise you might walk out a sad and dejected man at the end of it all.
• Nigeria
20 Aug 09
Suchi, I think the first date shouldnt be handle as if you in for a job interview. Truth about individual is often exhibited in a relax and flexible conversation. Both of you should allow yourself to flow freely. Later when reflecting back you will know if she/he is your type that you can fall for
@trickiwoo (2702)
• United States
19 Aug 09
Play it by ear! Who knows, she might even kiss you! But at the end of the night, if it seems like you guys really hit it off and she had a good time, then give her a nice respectful peck at the end of the date. You may want to give her a peck on the cheek or a peck on the lips, depending on what you feel more comfortable doing. But pay attention to her and her body language and attitude. If you can tell that she is very uncomfortable, then a kiss is probably not a good idea!
@suchi60 (912)
• India
19 Aug 09
OK, I'll keep that in mind. Thanks.
• Philippines
19 Aug 09
I don't think that there's anything wrong to give a kiss to a person on a first date. I think it's other way of saying "thank you" for a good time and at the same time, it's also giving respect to a person. So I'd say it's okay and yes, you should..
@suchi60 (912)
• India
19 Aug 09
That was what I thought too. Thanks for the advice and I'll give it a try.
@bird123 (10632)
• United States
21 Aug 09
This is an easy one!!! After the date, as you are walking to her door, ask her out on another date. If she says yesKISS HER!!
@oindy54 (3445)
• India
21 Aug 09
Hi, I guess it would be inappropriate to do that right on your first date.It is the just the beginning of a relationship so give it some time so that she does not feel that you are in a hurry to get physical.Of course,some girls might like your approach if you kissed her on your first date but in most cases,she might not feel comfortable about it and might end up having a bad impression about you.So go slow and enjoy your date.Get to know her,have fun on your date and then there is so much time ahead to kiss your girlfriend.What say?