Is this considered cutting in line?

I never would have treated my mom like that when I was 18! EVER. The whole reason I took him with me to begin with was because HE needed a newspaper and dividers for his notebook at school. Since I had to go out to the stores because HE needed something, I figured why not interrupt his everlasting xbox 360 and make him come along? I think it did more harm than good, I just don't know what is even UP with the attitude - there I was taking him to get something HE needed and he acted like I was asking him to juggle burning knives in the desert.... He ASKED me too... he goes - hey, are you gonna get me the dividers and newspaper I need? Because I HAVE to have these things for school tomorrow... Hmm okay. Isn't part of that saying 'sure mom, I'll stand in line' and 'hey, thanks for doing that'?

I have been doing this, I hope that it is making a difference and teaching him how to become self sufficient. Apparently he told my best friend that he thinks I hate him because I just 'yell all the time'. Well, I would NEVER yell except for the fact that he NEVER does what he's supposed to ALL THE TIME lol. The problem is that sometimes he just goes without whatever instead of putting in the effort if I refuse to help. It's CRAZY. It's totally the opposite of me. It's like he has no drive.

I can completely understand why you are upset. Maybe the next time he needs you, just make him do it himself so that he understands and appreciates your presence.

I've already decided that next time he needs something, he can ask his dad, as I am not willing to do anything for a whiny kid with an attitude who insists on not acting his age while rubbing it in my face that he thinks he knows everything lol. Of course that means he'll have to wait for whatever it is because my husband doesn't get home till almost 5 in the evening, and on top of that, he doesn't usually want to go anywhere once he gets home. I think he (my son) deserves a taste of that independence he wants so bad - adults do everything on their own. Including trying to figure out how to buy whatever they need when they don't have any money - or not enough.... getting to the store without a car, and making sure they complete things for college or a job before the deadlines so they don't fail or get fired. Just a few things I am mentioning right here which he would totally flip out about if I told him he'd have to figure them out himself.

he is 18 so he needs to start to figure things out on his own, he has to understand that you can't carry him all his life its time he grows up and does things on his own there are a lot of people out there that do things on there own without a car,

Even though he was with me? Would you consider a wife or hubby who went to stand with his or her other half in line also cutting? Regardless of my son's age, he IS a kid, he was acting like a tantrumming toddler, and although I did find out he actually had the money to pay for the drink, he was acting like he didn't and if I had left him at the store it would have taken him a good hour to walk home lol.

Nobody complained. HE was the one who started drawing attention to himself by saying 'now I have to get out of line yadda yadda' and I said no you don't, you're with me, just stand right here and pay for your drink. He was mad at me because I was using a card and wanted me to just pay for it with the promise that he'd give me the money for it. He has a horrible track record of ever paying me back for things, so I am now to the point where I really don't want to let him 'borrow' anything because it's like he doesn't understand the term. Borrow means that he'll pay it back as SOON as he has money. Not never pay it back because he has no intention, or pay it back when he has money he didn't already spend before he got it....

Also very familiar. Not that I have any kids but my girlfriend does. Her teenagers and even the older ones did the same thing to her. I think you're doing the right thing. Teach him early your bank is closed because he took advantage of you.

Oh, he glared at me too from that other line while I was waiting for my daughter in the bathroom. More or less he was super snippy about me insisting he paid for his own energy drink. He seems to think for some reason that if I FORCE him to go somewhere with me (the only time he is happy about going somewhere with me OR dad is when one of us is buying him something) that I owe him something - like an energy drink or that I'll stop at a fast food joint if he says he's hungry. Of course, he does that to himself, he tries to claim there is 'nothing to eat' at home when he's frigging lazy and doesn't go make himself a snack or lunch. I always tell him that if he has his own money, I will stop, but he usually grumbles and complains that he doesn't and that it's NOT FAIR. What's not fair about it? Adults buy their own food - or if they don't have the money for it, they don't buy it. Right? If my daughter asks for something, it is usually reasonable, like fruit or a fruit roll, and if she wants 'junk', she will usually remember to bring her own change from one of her piggy banks. Unlike her brother, if she 'borrows' money from me for something, she goes right home and pays me back.... and she says THANK YOU!

I'm still trying to figure out how to get him to understand. My (step) daughter is 20 and she was nowhere NEAR this bad most of the time when she was 18. She had moments but after awhile I think she figured out that ranting that she was 18 while acting like she was FOUR made me and hubby really WANT to just treat her as if she was four. What other choice did we have? LOL! I don't get how he doesn't see he was acting more immature than his sister. I think it would be embarrassing to be caught acting more childish than a five year old in a grocery store if you're actually 18.

He frustrates me so much sometimes. Honestly if he treats other people remotely as bad as he treats me sometimes, one of these days someone is going to clock him in the face lol. I don't want him to be a jerk to other people and I want him to understand that parents (and other adults) have boundaries and/or guidelines that he might NOT LIKE but that doesn't mean he can just disregard them, get an attitude, etc. I think the biggest problem I am experiencing right now is very weird. It's like he EXPECTS me to do things for him, like what I do for his sister. His sister is FIVE. Of course I drive her to school. Of course I get her all the school things her teacher asks for. However, she also brings home ALL THE PAPERS from school with the requests on them so I know BEFORE she is supposed to have things. Of course I make sure she has a sweatshirt and a jacket and a backpack. Of course I send her a snack and make her lunch. When you're five, that is what parents do. When you're EIGHTEEN, you can do some of that stuff YOURSELF! And not COMPLAIN because I didn't do it. And not COMPLAIN because I'm not home and you needed me to do something for you but you didn't ask nor mention it in advance. Gosh. But if I try to tell him there are boundaries or rules or consequences... omg, 'I'm 18, I don't have to listen to you'. Hmph. Which way do you want it? Do you want me to do things for you and will you THANK me because I sure don't HAVE to. Or do you want me to step back and you do everything yourself? Because we know he doesn't even keep track of his assignments for school or tell me AHEAD of time what his teachers asked him to get 2 weeks ago! Then he gets all bent at ME because I won't go out at 10 pm and get it for him!! Like I said... soooooo frustrating. I love him but I sure don't LIKE him right now.

Ha. Well, it literally only took me one minute to grab what I needed. The prime reason I went to the grocery store was to get the newspaper, since the paper box was empty. He did have his little fit and yell at me and act like there was something wrong with me telling him to KNOCK IT OFF. He then proceeded to complain that I didn't talk to his dad like that and I said well - your dad doesn't have a gigantic toddler type melt down in the grocery store because I asked him to stand in a line while I grabbed something that took one minute. There were 3 people in the line, it hadn't even moved when I got back. I also told him that his dad would never get pissy at me if I said 'buy your own energy drink' and then storm off into another line instead of just staying with me to buy it lol. Of course at that point he was SO MAD at me he was looking everywhere except at me, so who knows how much of that he actually got through his head. Of course, his dad (my husband) also ACTS like he's a reasonable adult and not an 18 year old who acts like he's 12. I happen to believe that if you're chronologically 18 but you ACT younger, then you should be treated younger, by EVERYBODY until you grow up. If you never grow up... well then it's your fault and it will continue until you do.

Sometimes he is highly embarrassing, and for parents of toddlers and preschoolers who think it gets better when they are teenagers, sorry but it doesn't. He's the sort of kid (yes I still call him a kid because he chooses to act like one) who asks for stuff and then whines when I say no, but if I threaten him with consequences because of the whining, he will puff himself up and go 'I'm 18, I can do what I want'. Well, which is it?? Do you get to ask for stuff and EXPECT me to buy it for you because you're being a whiny baby or are you actually 18 and you can pick it out, buy it yourself, and not cause the whole store to look and see who the big grouchy whiner is? LOL!

Even my daughter thought he was acting like a baby. When he was having his fit she said 'that's because DADDY doesn't talk to her like that' when he was griping at me. lol. Well gee, no kidding! I don't think all teenagers are like this, but he has certainly been a pain lately.