Why are unplanned visits so often disastrous?

The only visit Isa a planned visit.I don't answer the door when I am not expecting anyone. I hate surprises. A surprise visit would be a nightmare.I am usually a kind person but I can go from nice to b!tch if my alone time is spoiled.I need time alone soI can be kind to people,You know me ,I don't think you need to loosen up.Be the newCarland make sure all you family and friends ring you before they knock you up.

I think one factor is definitely that our friends and family aren't perfect nonjudgmental people. We might have aspects of our life that we'd prefer to keep hidden from them which an unplanned visit might reveal. Personally, I'm a bit of a slob. I don't go around announcing it to everyone or trying to covert others to the cult of slobbiness, but someone paying an unannounced visit might well be confronted with this aspect of my personality. I'm not ashamed, but I don't want to offend anyone either...so I'll certainly tidy up before a planned visitor shows up. Another factor is that the unplanned visit has somewhat gone out of style in modern times. I think this is mainly because distance communication has evolved to the point that you really don't need to see someone in person to convey an immediate message. When unplanned visits do happen, we don't necessarily know how to react because it is an unusual occurrence. Finally, it is natural for people to want privacy and alone time. It's just as vital as socializing, in my view...they're just different aspects of our personalities that both need to be expressed.

I hate it when people stop by without planning it ahead of time. I like to be prepared for it. It is not always good timing when someone drops by without making sure it is alright first. It is a disaster for everyone.