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no hard feelings we all clean house every once in awhile

You are just sooo organized. That is actually a great idea. I don't think anyone will get their feelings hurt especially if they don't converse. I have the same problem. I have a lot of friends that I am not keeping up with and I guess I really should. The problem is I just am not an organized person and haven't had the time to delete anyone. By the way, is it spring already? Weren't you doing some house cleaning at your place too?

Hi Cane! Nice to see you back on mylot. It appears that you were too busy to join us. You have a very valid point to make, it is not possible to keep track of so many friends here and respond to each discussion of our dear friends. I think, shorter the list, bette it is. However, we add few because we presume that they would prove to be good friends in future and they will participate in our discussions and vice versa. However, some of them become 'inactive' or get busy in other things, so we do not find them very often. I've not turned 'notification' on for each one here. I have done it selectively and sometimes, I keep rotating the notification 'on' or 'off' for a select few. However, for those whom I find are responsive and appreciate my responses/discussions/comments, I always keep my notification 'on' and whenever I get a notification regarding their discussions, I try my best to respond, subject to availability of time. I've kept the notification 'on' for your discussions. Have a great day! Deepak

well, whether or not we stay friends, good luck with your endeavors...

Hi Canellita! I had the same problem as you with too many friends that I just did not know when I had my other account at the beginning of the year. I had people I had never heard of, well, I guess I had heard of them at one time or another as I approved their friendship requests, but never heard from them again, people on my list that had not logged in for up to 2 years etc.. So the beginning of the year I started the same discussion that you have done here and would you believe that it took me almost 3 days to delete many friends for different reasons? Right from that time I said, on the account that I had before and on this account that I would never allow it to happen to me again, and I haven't. I have a nice, controable amount of friends that I enjoy very much, they also seem to enjoy me and I don't have to be irritated every time I look at my profile that there are so many people on there that I don't know from Adam! I only accept friends that I have seen around a couple of times and that I feel I have something in common with and you know what? My "new" plan from the beginning of the year has not let me down yet! I personally enjoy having a few friends that I know somewhat and have contact with more than just the one time that they ask for my friendship. I do know though that some people love to have lots of friends on their profiles and I suppose that to them it makes them look very popular and desirable but as you mentioned, with so many friends there is no way in the World that you could possibly respond to everyone's discussions much less know their likes, dislikes, feelings and just what makes them tick in general!

Hello Canellita. I completely understand :)) Hugs, Karen

I too go through the list of 'friends' at the beginning of each month. It takes a few days because there are pages and pages of them but I prefer it like that. I remove those that no longer have a page showing since the previous month, contact a few who are MIA and just leave the others there. They will show up sooner or later I hope and many do. Each one of us deals with their list as best they think fit and certainly the longer we are here the longer it gets. I can't bring myself to wipe out anyone who is still logging in even though they are not posting though. They will have their reasons but most are more than just a name on a list so they stay. If you have to remove me *sob* I will quite understand

without a sortable list it takes way too long to find a friend you want to message or visit the profile of and so forth Reasonable statement !!!.This is a design defect here.We must have a classification of our friend,if not,it'a hard to manage your friend list.Another deficiency is we cannot make a bulk send,we only can send message one by one.But I believe with the time going,myLot here will increase lots of feature just like tasks & quizzes in the coming future Trim your friends who is not active regularly,I never do this,but I think I will try it.It's good for everyone to build a friend making policy to help us manage friends better

Hi enellita, Am I in the list of faithful friends? You are missed for sometime and I think you would not be the one as you before. Ys the virtual friends have hardly anything to do. But we are living in a virtual world itself. Have not you realized?

haha Canellita, I think you can write about "recession and friendship", "how to lay off cyber friends during recession" I have several pages of "friends" in mylot too. I dont really bother to check who is there or not, otherwise have to do housecleaning every month.

thanks for sharing with us friend, that was very sweet of you. I wouldn't take it hard if someone dropped me as a friend if I hadn't been responding to their discussions so nobody should take it very hard. I may just have to wind up doing the same thing in a couple days. Whether I'm one that you decide to drop or keep I still want to wish you all the best. I usually go to friends started quite a lot to participate in discussions. So long as you keep posting I'm sure I will run over your discussions sooner or later...... Anyways do what you feel you must do lady friend, it's to each their own. God bless you! e.

Hi Canellita, Well you certainly aren't about to offend me as we're not on each others lists. I have what I refer to as one of my regular culls as I do like to know who people actually are on my list so if they sit there and we don't interact or bump into one another I remove them and stick with my favourites and add new ones who could become so. Pending friends requests amaze me when I've never actually met them. So how did I see this, my home page of course.

I try to sort out my friends once a month. If people haven't been that active, or if I haven't visited any of theirs, it makes sense to trim the list. That way, you can keep up with the really good friends. It's not rejection, just common sense.

Am i one of those that you're going to remove. i hope you do inform me so that i can bring a tissue. but not to worry i can still response to your discussions if i see them.I am fine with my friends list..

I think everyone does this every once in a while. Sometimes ppl leave MyLot permanantly and there's no reason to leave them on the list for years and years if their not around. Sometimes accounts get deleted or banned and need to be removed. Good luck with sorting them out. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]

I can understand what you're doing. I have had to thin out the list of friends before myself, and I am still way over my head with discussions, but am trying to resist from thinning out the herd as you yourself said... Good Luck to you as well if you do decide to delete me, and have a wonderful time mylotting! Don't spend too long on that list and forget to respond! That'll getcha over ya head to!

I do that once in a while, when I´m too tired to post, and I don´t feel quilty at all. I have my very special friends here and some people I do some business with through PMs. If I see a person that has 10 posts after 4 months, I assume he/she left the place. I need the chair in my virtual living room so i delete. Good luck