MyLot friends

@Canellita (12059)
United States
September 1, 2009 10:51am CST
Sorry folks, the time has come to do some house cleaning. I have been looking through the many pages and pages of myLot friends checking to see if I had the notification turned on for one friend and looking through so many names I have now forgotten the one I originally started looking for. In light of this, I am thinning out the herd. Nothing personal, but without a sortable list it takes way too long to find a friend you want to message or visit the profile of and so forth. i have noticed there are a number of people who have ceased to be active on the site for some time now and those folks are going first. I hope no one gets their feelings hurt but it is just too much to maintain virtual relationships with hundreds of people! It is also impossible to reciprocate daily to more than a few friends while keeping up with the comments on your own discussions so I am now scaling back. As I said, it's nothing personal though I do find myself only regularly interacting with a small group of faithful myLotters with shared interests. Good luck to all of you in your earnings whether we remain "friends" or not. I still plan to visit the "no responses" pages and respond to discussions in the myLot digest so periodically you will still hear from me.
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17 responses
• United States
2 Sep 09
no hard feelings we all clean house every once in awhile
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• United States
2 Sep 09
nor would I delete you lamb!
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@Canellita (12059)
• United States
6 Sep 09
It's good to see everyone is so receptive to the idea. I wish we could sort our friends list to find names faster when we need to.
@mommaj (22743)
• United States
1 Sep 09
You are just sooo organized. That is actually a great idea. I don't think anyone will get their feelings hurt especially if they don't converse. I have the same problem. I have a lot of friends that I am not keeping up with and I guess I really should. The problem is I just am not an organized person and haven't had the time to delete anyone. By the way, is it spring already? Weren't you doing some house cleaning at your place too?
@Canellita (12059)
• United States
4 Sep 09
Ha! I only wish I was. If I was truly organized I might get something done more often. If I were to wait for Spring to clean I would have to move!
@mommaj (22743)
• United States
4 Sep 09
HEHE. We are putting everything and boxes and leaving it in the boxes. LOL My daughter was looking for her toy this morning and I told her if she would put her toys away instead of me she would know where to find them. Now, why can't I find anything?
@Canellita (12059)
• United States
5 Sep 09
Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha! I'm not even gonna go there since I can never find anything when I want it!
@ElicBxn (60427)
• United States
1 Sep 09
well, whether or not we stay friends, good luck with your endeavors...
@Canellita (12059)
• United States
5 Sep 09
I thought about you the other day. They were showing this place on TV where this woman had taken in over 200 cats. It was pretty incredible.
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@Canellita (12059)
• United States
6 Sep 09
Wow, that's amazing. This woman doesn't personally have them in her home; she and some other people have built this sort of cat ranch with a building like a human dormitory and all the rooms are inhabited by cats. They don't live there permanently either, just until they can fin homes. She is also part of an organization that spays.
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@Canellita (12059)
• United States
9 Sep 09
Aw, that is so sad; poor kitties. There is a move at the moment to spay the strays and re-release them.
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@PeacefulWmn9 (10424)
• United States
1 Sep 09
Hello Canellita. I completely understand :)) Hugs, Karen
@Canellita (12059)
• United States
4 Sep 09
Hi there, how are you? Have you moved up from the size of a pea yet?
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• United States
6 Sep 09
LOL. Yes, I do believe I am a pea-and-a-half...working toward a grape?? LOL
@Canellita (12059)
• United States
9 Sep 09
What? Not grapefruit???
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@dpk262006 (55919)
• Delhi, India
2 Sep 09
Hi Cane! Nice to see you back on mylot. It appears that you were too busy to join us. You have a very valid point to make, it is not possible to keep track of so many friends here and respond to each discussion of our dear friends. I think, shorter the list, bette it is. However, we add few because we presume that they would prove to be good friends in future and they will participate in our discussions and vice versa. However, some of them become 'inactive' or get busy in other things, so we do not find them very often. I've not turned 'notification' on for each one here. I have done it selectively and sometimes, I keep rotating the notification 'on' or 'off' for a select few. However, for those whom I find are responsive and appreciate my responses/discussions/comments, I always keep my notification 'on' and whenever I get a notification regarding their discussions, I try my best to respond, subject to availability of time. I've kept the notification 'on' for your discussions. Have a great day! Deepak
@Canellita (12059)
• United States
5 Sep 09
I have not been on much this past month because of computer problems. I have notification on for your discussions as well. I have a lot of emails piled up at the moment because I have not been able to spend as much time online.
@dpk262006 (55919)
• Delhi, India
6 Sep 09
Hi Dear! I've already mentioned that sometimes, time constraints prevents us from responding to our friends' discussions, even if we want to respond to those discussions. Does not matter, if you busy, you can join us as and when you are free. Have a nice day!
@Canellita (12059)
• United States
9 Sep 09
This is a great perspective! Some people are so disappointed when their "friends" don't participate at the same level that they do. Those people do not understand that every response or comment counts and that if they visit the no response and new member pages there will be opportunities to assist others with their discussions and continue to earn.
• Netherlands
8 Oct 09
Hi Canellita! I had the same problem as you with too many friends that I just did not know when I had my other account at the beginning of the year. I had people I had never heard of, well, I guess I had heard of them at one time or another as I approved their friendship requests, but never heard from them again, people on my list that had not logged in for up to 2 years etc.. So the beginning of the year I started the same discussion that you have done here and would you believe that it took me almost 3 days to delete many friends for different reasons? Right from that time I said, on the account that I had before and on this account that I would never allow it to happen to me again, and I haven't. I have a nice, controable amount of friends that I enjoy very much, they also seem to enjoy me and I don't have to be irritated every time I look at my profile that there are so many people on there that I don't know from Adam! I only accept friends that I have seen around a couple of times and that I feel I have something in common with and you know what? My "new" plan from the beginning of the year has not let me down yet! I personally enjoy having a few friends that I know somewhat and have contact with more than just the one time that they ask for my friendship. I do know though that some people love to have lots of friends on their profiles and I suppose that to them it makes them look very popular and desirable but as you mentioned, with so many friends there is no way in the World that you could possibly respond to everyone's discussions much less know their likes, dislikes, feelings and just what makes them tick in general!
@Canellita (12059)
• United States
9 Oct 09
Most of the requests I get now are from newbies. I am still thinning out the herd because as you said it can take days to go trough them all. I have a few actual "friends" with whom I communicate regularly and that is it. I haven't has as much time for myLot as I did when I first signed up and I have turned off the new discussion alert for a lot of people so I am not overwhelmed with emails.
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@Canellita (12059)
• United States
9 Oct 09
My weekend started early! The coaches called an athletic dept meeting at a nearby bar so I didn't get in until almost 8. There's no school tomorrow or Monday so I have a lonnnng weekend. I've just gone through the friends list and deleted a dozen or so more names. It got really easy when I started seeing that many had been inactive for over 60 days. Hope your weekend is a blast!
@mysdianait (64068)
• Italy
1 Sep 09
I too go through the list of 'friends' at the beginning of each month. It takes a few days because there are pages and pages of them but I prefer it like that. I remove those that no longer have a page showing since the previous month, contact a few who are MIA and just leave the others there. They will show up sooner or later I hope and many do. Each one of us deals with their list as best they think fit and certainly the longer we are here the longer it gets. I can't bring myself to wipe out anyone who is still logging in even though they are not posting though. They will have their reasons but most are more than just a name on a list so they stay. If you have to remove me *sob* I will quite understand
@Canellita (12059)
• United States
4 Sep 09
You post more than enough, lol! I am just starting to clear out clutter. I try to accept all requests but I just can not keep up to visit the discussions of so many people.
@mysdianait (64068)
• Italy
4 Sep 09
We all do the best we can and that is more than enough. Don't worry if you don't get to mine. I don't get to everyone elses either but friendshiip is not about keeping up with responses, it goes further than that
@Canellita (12059)
• United States
5 Sep 09
Thanks! I actually have notifications set for yours so eventually I will get to them as I go through email.
@krajibg (11942)
• Guwahati, India
1 Sep 09
Hi enellita, Am I in the list of faithful friends? You are missed for sometime and I think you would not be the one as you before. Ys the virtual friends have hardly anything to do. But we are living in a virtual world itself. Have not you realized?
@Canellita (12059)
• United States
4 Sep 09
Hi Rajib! Now that school is back in session I do not have as much time for myLot. I have a long weekend ahead because of the holiday though so maybe I will get a chance to participate in some discussions.
@krajibg (11942)
• Guwahati, India
4 Sep 09
Hey, or else you will be missed badly....
@Canellita (12059)
• United States
9 Sep 09
Well, it turned out I didn't spend much time on myLot after all.
@aprces (1083)
• China
2 Sep 09
without a sortable list it takes way too long to find a friend you want to message or visit the profile of and so forth Reasonable statement !!!.This is a design defect here.We must have a classification of our friend,if not,it'a hard to manage your friend list.Another deficiency is we cannot make a bulk send,we only can send message one by one.But I believe with the time going,myLot here will increase lots of feature just like tasks & quizzes in the coming future Trim your friends who is not active regularly,I never do this,but I think I will try it.It's good for everyone to build a friend making policy to help us manage friends better
@Canellita (12059)
• United States
6 Sep 09
It really would be nice to sort names alphabetically and by activity level. I don't think myLot will go for the bulk message idea, that kind of defeats the purpose of starting a discussion, but I had considered starting a discussion about the sorting or making a suggestion directly.
@thea09 (18326)
• Greece
2 Sep 09
Hi Canellita, Well you certainly aren't about to offend me as we're not on each others lists. I have what I refer to as one of my regular culls as I do like to know who people actually are on my list so if they sit there and we don't interact or bump into one another I remove them and stick with my favourites and add new ones who could become so. Pending friends requests amaze me when I've never actually met them. So how did I see this, my home page of course.
@Canellita (12059)
• United States
5 Sep 09
I used to wonder why I would get friend requests from people I didn't know when I first signed up but then I decided they must have seen something I posted to a discussion. After a while I started accepting all requests but sometimes people are just trying to get you to be their referral on some site.
@scheng1 (24850)
• Singapore
2 Sep 09
haha Canellita, I think you can write about "recession and friendship", "how to lay off cyber friends during recession" I have several pages of "friends" in mylot too. I dont really bother to check who is there or not, otherwise have to do housecleaning every month.
@Canellita (12059)
• United States
5 Sep 09
I know other people are more stringent about their friends list and I usually don't bother with it much until I want to look for someone to send a message. Unfortunately we can't sort the names or it would be easier.
@Sandra1952 (6052)
• Spain
1 Sep 09
I try to sort out my friends once a month. If people haven't been that active, or if I haven't visited any of theirs, it makes sense to trim the list. That way, you can keep up with the really good friends. It's not rejection, just common sense.
@Canellita (12059)
• United States
5 Sep 09
I like the idea of checking once per month, it's time consuming to go through over a dozen pages. I made it through half and I guess I will get around to the other half at some point.
@Citychic (4078)
• United States
1 Sep 09
thanks for sharing with us friend, that was very sweet of you. I wouldn't take it hard if someone dropped me as a friend if I hadn't been responding to their discussions so nobody should take it very hard. I may just have to wind up doing the same thing in a couple days. Whether I'm one that you decide to drop or keep I still want to wish you all the best. I usually go to friends started quite a lot to participate in discussions. So long as you keep posting I'm sure I will run over your discussions sooner or later...... Anyways do what you feel you must do lady friend, it's to each their own. God bless you! e.
@Canellita (12059)
• United States
5 Sep 09
I have been choosing a few discussions from the "friends posted" ones of late myself because I do not have email alerts set up for each person in my friends list.
• Philippines
1 Sep 09
Am i one of those that you're going to remove. i hope you do inform me so that i can bring a tissue. but not to worry i can still response to your discussions if i see them.I am fine with my friends list..
@Canellita (12059)
• United States
4 Sep 09
Nope you are safe. You can save your tissue and a few trees too!
@marguicha (83921)
• Chile
1 Sep 09
I do that once in a while, when I´m too tired to post, and I don´t feel quilty at all. I have my very special friends here and some people I do some business with through PMs. If I see a person that has 10 posts after 4 months, I assume he/she left the place. I need the chair in my virtual living room so i delete. Good luck
@Canellita (12059)
• United States
4 Sep 09
Hi, I went through about half of the pages and deleted the ones from months and months ago where their numbers had not grown any. I am just keeping it at inactive people for now.
@twoey68 (13662)
• United States
1 Sep 09
I think everyone does this every once in a while. Sometimes ppl leave MyLot permanantly and there's no reason to leave them on the list for years and years if their not around. Sometimes accounts get deleted or banned and need to be removed. Good luck with sorting them out. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]
@Canellita (12059)
• United States
4 Sep 09
Thanks! I think it is something that is going to take me a while to do.
@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
1 Sep 09
I can understand what you're doing. I have had to thin out the list of friends before myself, and I am still way over my head with discussions, but am trying to resist from thinning out the herd as you yourself said... Good Luck to you as well if you do decide to delete me, and have a wonderful time mylotting! Don't spend too long on that list and forget to respond! That'll getcha over ya head to!
@Canellita (12059)
• United States
2 Sep 09
Now why would I have to delete you? For now it is just those who are inactive and have not participated in any discussions for months.