oh my.. i am pregnant again!

@jazel_juan (15767)
Philippines
September 2, 2009 1:49am CST
i do not really know if i should be happy about this or not..ubt a part of me says i should be, its a blessing no matter what right? well.. its going to be my third child..and i am really planning on having my tubes tied. can i have it tied already? that i want to know. i am still young they say, i am still 25!!! oh well..i should be happy. its a baby and well it does bring us blessings.
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@sacmom (14315)
• United States
2 Sep 09
Hi jazel. I had this happen to me with my oldest. I had planned to get my tubes tied. Just about everyone, including the nurses and doctor tried to talk me out of it. I wasn't quite 22 at the time and with it being my first child they thought I didn't know what I wanted. I didn't go through with it, though not because of what they said, but rather what my husband said (and right after I had given birth to our son). Had it not been for that conversation I would have gone through with it. What can I say, I had made up my mind up until that point. I got pregnant again and again I planned on getting my tubes tied. However, no one really gave me a hard time about this time around. I figured it was because I was giving birth for the second time, though now that I look back on it maybe they remembered how determined I was the first time around that they decided to leave me alone. LOL I had just had my 25th birthday a few days before my youngest son's birth. I ended up not going through with it though. I chickened out. If you are certain that you don't want any more babies after this one then you should put your foot down and let whoever know that you're happy with the size of your family just the way it is. Good luck, congratulations, and happy mylotting!
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@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
2 Sep 09
yes i am also scared of getting my tubes tied but i do not want any more babies after this. i am also scared of its consequences.:( i still have a lot of thinking to do.
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@sacmom (14315)
• United States
2 Sep 09
There are other options besides a tubal. There's the pill, patch, shot, IUD, etc. And for the guy a vasectomy!
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
3 Sep 09
hehehe thank you sacmom, you always make me laugh. :)) yes the pills always gives me a headache..the patch i am thinking of using that after this, but its so expensive here..but its worth it than getting pregnant over again! hehe or maybe my husband should be the one getting a vasectomy???you gave me an idea. lol
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@maximax8 (28558)
• United Kingdom
2 Sep 09
Congratulations on your pregnancy. Your dear little baby is developing and growing in the first three months of your pregnancy. Then he or she will get bigger until he or she is born. I think you will soon feel happy and be used to having a third baby. Perhaps you will be able to have your tubes tied after he or she is born. I have three children and my third one was born this June. She is such a lovely little baby with a bright smile. I adore her and she has two wonderful older brothers.
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@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
thank you for max, yes maybe right now i am not that happy probably because due to the hormones hahahah but then its crazy.. i am thinking how the house would be like if the kids would playing together hahahaah it would get crazy but then it would bring us joy right?
@agrim94 (3811)
• India
2 Sep 09
hi jazel, I dont know what is your economic condition and how much this child would stretch your finances and are you ready for this child. About tubectomy well you can get it any time you want but i would advise you to get them done at the time of delivery.. At least that's the usual practice in India . This child can be a blessing if you really want it and i hope it turns out to be a blessing and would make name of your family famous.
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@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
3 Sep 09
lol i am not exactly wishing them to make our family famous..just as long as they get to achieve what they want to achieve would be enough. thank you for the wishes
@robert19ph (4584)
• Philippines
2 Sep 09
hello jazel_juan, Wow! Congratulations for you are having your third baby. You are indeed blessed unlike the others that they like to have even one but not lucky. We have also three children. Their age gap is only two years and one year. That's the very reason why we decided to have my wife be ligated after giving birth to our third child. Indeed they told us that my wife was still young for she was 29 that time but we're already set about it. At firts we're hesitant for we like to have four children but since their age gap is too near that's why. It's hard to take care of them.
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
3 Sep 09
i feel that way right now robert, i want to have ligation as well..but i am still too young,25.. so i have to just be very careful..and i guess their age gaps are near, my eldest is 5 years old and the second one 3 years old.
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@airakumar (1555)
• India
2 Sep 09
Hi jazel, First off, Congratulation!! Many people now use this term to mean a celebration of pregnancy and motherhood. Modern culture has become focused on the baby-to-be and has lost sight of the mother about to be born. I felt this way during my friend's own baby showers. The event was completely about her unborn baby, leaving her feeling like a vessel without a life of her own. She was present, but the party wasn’t for her. If only she could have removed her womb and sent it instead. Though, she would have missed out on all the yummy food. I would just like to wish you..All the best
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
3 Sep 09
i guess it happens that way sometimes, people are more focused on the unborn baby, the health of the child, and forgets how the mother feels.. thank you for the wishes aira.
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@seanbryan (351)
• United Arab Emirates
2 Sep 09
Hi Jazel! Yes it is a blessing, you should be thankful...your lucky to have three kids in a normal way of pregnancy. Me, I have to undergo treatments just to have one. With God's grace I am now 7 months on way with a baby boy after five long years. By the way, I conceived through an IVF treatment popularly known as "test tube baby". I can't wait seeing my baby as if I want to shorten the days left. Congratulations to both of us!
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@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
3 Sep 09
oh really? was it hard?i mean going though IVF treatment? god bless you and have a healthy pregnancy.. and yes i am very much thankful now.
@misisbau (317)
• Philippines
2 Sep 09
Congratulations! A baby is a blessing no matter what. They always provide joy and laughter in any home. Take care.
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@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
3 Sep 09
oh yes, they provide laughter...joy..shouting..fighting..arguing..mess! hahaha but you still love them no matter what.
@rsa101 (15496)
• Quezon City, Philippines
2 Sep 09
Well it is indeed a blessing since there are many like you are that wants to have a child but is not able to get one. you are the prime of your life that is why you are very much fertile and is capable to having child. But, since you said that you have two already, I guess it is practical that you have your tied already fro practical reasons that having to manage the three of them is an effort as a mother. Adding one more to the ones you have would mean an additional exertion from your part. Well you could have it tied when you give birth I think you just need to tell your doctor about it and she could do it after giving birth. There is no need to have done right now since you are still pregnant and there is no possibility for you to become pregnant.
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
3 Sep 09
yes, i am already setting my mind now, 3 is enough, hahaha more than that will be too much. i cannot imagine the house full of kids running around. i would go crazy! hahahaha. but it is a joy.
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@jlamela (4909)
• Philippines
2 Sep 09
Hi Hazel! You know it is a great blessing from God, having children is a wonderful and unconditional gift that should be cherished and appreciated. Lots of women who really longed to have children and yet most of them are always unsuccessful, so you are very lucky. Every time I hear pregnant women I feel very emotional and a little bit envious because I really wanted to have kids of my own, I wanted four children but the problem is I am still single and already 35 years old. I don't know if I still get married and be able to have four children. I am really depressed right now because of this unrealized dreams that's why when I read your discussion I am so happy that you are having a baby again. That's good and hope you will have a healthy pregnancy. Take care of yourself and the baby, eat healthy foods and God bless you.
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
3 Sep 09
i am lucky they say since there are women like you who wanted so bad to have children on their own..sometimes i tend to ignore how lucky i am and thank you for making me realize that. do not be depressed jlamela, i have an officemate and she is also 35 years old and she just gave birth last may! pray for it..that is all she ever did..i am wishing you will have kids on your own too. take care.
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@agv0419 (3029)
• Philippines
2 Sep 09
Every child is a blessing wow at your age you have 3 kids now. I'm 26 but I don't have a kid. I'm afraid for responsibility and now that life is very difficult I think 3 kids are enough. I think you should think about it carefully there are many contraceptives in the market why don't you try injectables it is safe.
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@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
3 Sep 09
well yes, before i wanted to try injectables but you see i am so afraid of syringes hahahahaah!! so that is not an option for me..pills disrupts my blood pressure, theres one recommended by my ob, its a patch thing..but its so expensive..but then maybe after this i will try that now no matter how expensive it is. lol
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@janebeth (2034)
• Philippines
2 Sep 09
hi jazel, congratulations first of all. yes you have said it already that it is a blessing no matter what.. love it because it's a gift from GOD.. don't think too much about that tying thing, you are still young so if i were you, i will talk to my husband and plan for everything next time you will do it again.. janebeth.
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@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
3 Sep 09
thanks jane, i have that in mind now. yes it is a blessing and i am thankful for it..its another joy in my life.
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@veejay19 (3592)
• India
2 Sep 09
Congrats jazel.It does not matter that you are having a third child as long as you and your husband can bring up your children comfortably. but as a word of caution sit down and talk over with him whether you want another child or call it quits. In these uncertain times it is better to restrict the family to a manageable size otherwise both of you will have a difficult time.Good luck.
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@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
3 Sep 09
yes, that is why after this i have to be very very careful. lol. thank you veejay.
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@daliaj (5689)
• India
2 Sep 09
You should be happy about it. God has given you a present to take care of. You are going to have so many specail and memorable moments presented by this kid. Be happy. All the best for you.
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@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
2 Sep 09
thank you daliaj. yes it is a surprise and a blessing at the same time. thank you very much..:D
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@smart44 (511)
• Philippines
2 Sep 09
yes its a blessing having again a life that is in your womb its a blessing from our Creator you need to thank God for that. And congratulations you will be a mother again. I hope you are alright, always take care.
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
2 Sep 09
thank you smart44, i am alright and healthy,thank you
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@nakula2009 (2325)
• Indonesia
2 Sep 09
pray to god and live life with a patient face the life that will come due....
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@gr8life (6253)
• Malaysia
4 Sep 09
Hello jazel_juan, Congratulations to you! I think you should be happy though this is something that you don't expect at this time. Babies are lovely and cute but I do agree, it is not easy to take care of them. I have a three years old son and taking care of him alone is like taking care of more than a child at home. Everything makes me upside down. But he is still the apple of my eyes and I love him so, so much. How I wish I can get pregnant again but alas, I am not as lucky as you!
@maryihla (104)
• United States
3 Sep 09
I just found out my oldest daughter is expecting her seventh child. I had mixed feelings because she's 40 and had problems with her last four pregnancies. Of course I'm will be happy to welcome my 10th grandchild, but I worry about both my daughter and the child. I underwent a tubal ligation the day after my third child was born, and it was quite a relief not to have to worry about birth control. Even back in those days, this postpartum surgery was done laparoscopically, so I only have a small scar below my belly button. As with any surgery, there are risks. However, a general anesthetic might be avoided with a mini-laparotomy done with an epidural. You might also consider the newer tubal implant procedure, which doesn't require surgery. Because tubal ligation is considered a permanent sterilization solution, you should be absolutely sure you don't want any more children. Any woman over the age of 18 in the U.S. may choose to have this procedure, but I suggest you discuss this at length with your obstetrician early in your pregnancy. Just keep in mind that it's your decision in the end.
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
4 Sep 09
yes indeed i have no plans of having another child after this.. though children brings us joy and they are a blessing, with the financial crisis going on, i am scared i might not give them what they need and what they want.
@eno222 (93)
• Nigeria
2 Sep 09
what do you mean you are pregnant again were you not taking any precaution.are you that low in thinking.pls pardon me i cant help but be pissed.what ever just find a way and work it out.
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
28 Mar 11
it happens eno. and wow this post is like over a year!! but yes i worked it out and all are happy:)
• Canada
2 Sep 09
I wish you all the best with your pregnancy, jazel_juan. To answer your question, yes you can have your tubes tied at 25 because, ultimately, it's your body. I had mine tied at 30. I, too, was reminded by my doctor that I was considered very young for the procedure. She ran me through a long series of questions such as what if I did not stay with the father of my children. Would I be happy with my two daughters or would I maybe want to have another child with someone else in the future...etc, etc. I considered all of her questions but I really did not want more children. Ironically, I did divorce my girls' father and remarried but having another baby was discussed far in advance and it was never an issue. He knew about my tubal right from the beginning and, although he never had a child of his own, he definitely became a father to my two. I do know of one woman on the in-laws side of the family that had her tubal reversed because, when she married, her new husband insisted on a child of his own (even though she already had two from a common-law relationship). There is the possibility for reversal (particularly if the tubes are clamped, which is what I had done) but it *should* be considered a permanent procedure, as I was advised. Whatever you decide, I wish you much luck. I have never regretted my decision for even a minute. I was blessed with the two children I had always wanted and never felt compelled to push the envelope.
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
yes that was helpful..but then i am already decided not to have more kids after this..so might do it permanently.. it would be hard when it comes to financial aspect. thank you for the wishes.
• India
2 Sep 09
Hey .. Are you Feeling Happy .. Well Why Shouldn't You .. Enjoy Yourself With your Third Lil One .. May you Have a Blissful Birth .. God Bless You Both ..
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
28 Mar 11
i am now and i am sorry it took me so long to reply on this post! it resurfaced! lol and i am so happy :) my baby boy is now 1 year old!