Dear Mom......I want to thank you!
By jillhill
@jillhill (37354)
United States
September 9, 2009 11:31am CST
It's been 14 long years since you have passed on to a higher place....but today like everyday I am thinking of you. Especially today as I am spending a very enjoyable day sewing. To most people that would be something that they would just do...but as I have been putting stitches to my lastest project my thought go right to you......I want to thank you mom for teaching me so very much that has enriched my life beyond belief. You taught me the basics...washing...ironing...baking....cooking....but you always took things a step beyond. You taught me the finer points of sewing...helped me through pattern when I got stuck crocheting and so many other skills I use....when I was married to "the jerk" and my sewing maching broke down....you got me a new one knowing how very important it was to me...always thinking of my needs until the day you died.
When my marriage broke down you were there.....when the kids and I needed something you stepped up to help. You taught me all the things I needed to know to survive....and everyday there is something I do that came from the things you took time to teach me!
I sat at my sewing machine and cried...for if I could I would love to have you back for one more day....to go out for lunch...to do a little sewing...to share all those moments when we laughed until we cried.....and those times when we held each other...hanging on for dear life!
I love you mom.....more today then yesterday.....and I'll go on loving you until the day I die.......so thanks mom....for making me one of the luckiest people in the world...I miss you more then words can say.
To make this a discussion I'll just ask you...
Is there anything you would like to say to your mother that has been left unsaid?
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@carolbee (16230)
• United States
9 Sep 09
What a great post. You brought tears to my eyes. You sure must have had an amazing mom. I envy this kind of relationship between a mom and daughter. As I sit here with a blank mind, can't think of anything I didn't say to my mom that I didn't say during her long life. I appreciated the early years when my parents adopted me. I appreciated her later years as she began to age. The years in between weren't good. Left me with scars on my heart but I've moved on with my life. My mother could do anything domestic. I can't. Just not talented in that department.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
9 Sep 09
Jill, u are very lucky to have had a mother like that, i didn't. Mine probably wouldn't want to hear what i'd say to her if she were still living. I know that must sound ugly to u but it's a very, very long story. I'm so glad u had a good one & that u have so many wonderful memories.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
9 Sep 09
Jo - you and I have experienced similar life styles and have so much in common. I treasure your friendship so much dear friend.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
9 Sep 09
HI CYNTHI, we sure have.u don't treasure my friendship abit more than i do yours. I hope u r not having to work too hard. U haven't got lost this week, have u? I loved your discussion.
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
9 Sep 09
Thanks for this post, Jill. You have certainly touched me with this discussion and suddenly I remember the days that I took my mom for granted. Like when she wanted to go out and have a shopping spree and I was too sleepy to accompany her, or when she cooked something a bit salty and I would ask her why was it salty. Me and my big mouth and I should have just kept quiet. I am going to appreciate my mom more from now on. You love your mom so much and you are such a filial and good daughter. I'm sure your children will feel the same compassion you have for your late mom too. Take care..
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
9 Sep 09
You certainlty lucked out Jill. I would have asked my mother why she did not love me in spite of my resembling my father. Why that was held against me. Why she never once visited my school - even not taking me to school on my first scary day.
Why she would not get a hearing aid because she was too vain and put her vanity first over hearing me speak. I was brought up in silence until my older sisters came home for school. I would ask her why, not even once, did we go anywhere as a family.
I would ask her why she would leave me alone in the house from as young as four years old while she went out dancing at night. Why she did not take me to Church - even once - as a family but insisted that we went to Church.
I look at my only baby photo (just one) and see a beautiful baby with large dark eyes and dark curly hair and wonder how she could not have loved this beautiful child.
I would ask her why she abused me and destroyed my self esteem so much that it is only now that I can see what a beautiful young person I was. I always thought that I was ugly.
Then I would tell her that this is why she never, not once, had my children on holiday without my presence. Not once as I was scared that she would abuse them the same way that I was horrifically abused. Treasure the memories of your mother Jill. She must have been one in a million.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
9 Sep 09
The older I get the more I know how lucky I was.....she and my dad loved all of us very much! I wish you could have had the same....but I want you to know in spite of it.....that you turned out to be one of the most wonderful people I have ever gotten to know!
@underdogy (700)
• Thailand
10 Sep 09
WOW! Very well put. It brought tears to my eyes. You said it all actually so i don't think of adding more to it. Your mother was like a superhero in her own right, I guess most of the mothers out there are the same in the manner of taking care of their children. Now i am missing my mom. Oh wait, perhaps you can add "GOD must have spent a little more time on you". Have a nice day!
@good2go2001 (915)
• United States
9 Sep 09
Oh how i can relate to this too my mother has been gone for 23 years now and it seems just like yesterday. What I would give to have her back, to be able to see her grandchildren. Miss Ya Mom i shoulda listened more when you was tryin to teach me but i was a young dumb teenager :(
@vandana7 (99009)
• India
10 Sep 09
And I too can relate to this. :( I lost mine almost 45 years ago. Funny, moments that seem insignificant to us when happening are the ones that remain in the frame. :( U made me cry. :) But I think it is good once in a way. That way we feel close to the ones who are no longer around to c us cry more often, isn't it?
@ElicBxn (63252)
• United States
10 Sep 09
I still have my mom, and I think I've pretty much said every thing to her, maybe not in words but also by being there. She used to help me in so many ways, and now she can't, but I try to be there for her.
She's now stricken by stroke related dementia, I know there are times when she knows what's going on, but can't respond correctly, and other times when she's not sure what's going on, but I'm there when I can be.
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
9 Sep 09
Other than "dang it mom, I wish you had taken better care of yourself"?
I have a lot of questions about family members that didn't come up until after she was gone. And lost of other things...
@onlydia (2808)
• United States
9 Sep 09
Hi there my friend. I'm so glad you had a Mom like that. My Mom didn't have the time to teach me much. As she worked 40 hours or more a week. And then there were times she didn't have the patince to teach me anything. My grandmother taught me how to crochet and my Mom did try to teach me how to sew I hated it. But I love my Mom I just wish now she would talk to me about her needs instead of that so called friend that wants to buy her house and land. Oh I'm sad about that as I did try to talk to her and she said why is everone having a fit about whom I sell my land to. So now I just don't try. My Father was alway's there for me always trying to help. He was a very loving Father and I miss him so much. You have a great day. Your friend onlydia
@dbutheking (2347)
• India
9 Sep 09
Sorry, i can say nothing more than you did..
I really appreciate about your thankfulness to your mother..
At this occasion, i thank my mother for everything she did your me for 20 years from my birth.
By the way,
Did you told all these to your mother???
Have a nice day..
@sanjayshyam (9)
• India
10 Sep 09
dat was very touching,jillhill.my mother is still alive and i just can't thank her enough.thanks for starting the discussion.it makes every person feel for his/her mother.
@jodylee_04530 (1097)
• United States
9 Sep 09
Wow, that is beautiful. My mother is still living but I call her randomly to thank her for all the things she has done for me over the years. The love a mother gives a child truely is amazing! I am sure your mother smiles down on you each and every day :)
